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Title: How do you select what they watch?
Post by: florezitta10 on December 30, 2009, 10:49:46 am
I have a problem with movie ratings. Some movies say they are pg13 but I would not let my 13 yr old watch that. How can it be ok for a 13 yr old to watch people having sex. I don't care if they are not nude. I think to me the sounds are more offensive the the actual "nudity". Like the movie that movie "WANTED" WITH Angelina Jolie It is a good movie but right the beginning there is sex and you can see the guys butt lol. I don't think that is appropriate for my kids to watch with me no matter ow old they are. I think the rating for that movie is R tho so it probably is not the best example. But what do you think? Do you agree with the ratings for your kids?
Title: Re: How do you select what they watch?
Post by: jwalker9316 on December 30, 2009, 10:56:26 am
I agree movie ratings are not that helpful. I try to check out a family website that does movie reviews such as Focus on the Family that will tell you how "family friendly" it is and why they rated it that way. They are an ultra conservative organization, so probably won't review many movies you are interested in, but there are probably others that can help.
Title: Re: How do you select what they watch?
Post by: florezitta10 on December 30, 2009, 10:57:55 am
I agree movie ratings are not that helpful. I try to check out a family website that does movie reviews such as Focus on the Family that will tell you how "family friendly" it is and why they rated it that way. They are an ultra conservative organization, so probably won't review many movies you are interested in, but there are probably others that can help.

Thanks for the tip. I am getting tired of my kids having to look away and me making noise when a "bad" part comes up so they wont hear all the moaning lol
Title: Re: How do you select what they watch?
Post by: clcflash on December 30, 2009, 12:40:00 pm
I wouldn't be so worried. If they arn't exposed to sexuality when they're watching it with you, they will or most likely already have been exposed in many places, kids talk about sex at school all the time. sex jokes are the most common. I'd just stop worrying about it if I were you. But of course its your choice.
Title: Re: How do you select what they watch?
Post by: florezitta10 on December 30, 2009, 01:23:19 pm
I wouldn't be so worried. If they arn't exposed to sexuality when they're watching it with you, they will or most likely already have been exposed in many places, kids talk about sex at school all the time. sex jokes are the most common. I'd just stop worrying about it if I were you. But of course its your choice.

I am not worried about them knowing about sex it's just uncomfortable to sit there looking at these scenes with them you know. I can answer any questions they may have about sex no problem. But some movies are just so raw I feel like I am watching *bleep* with my teen girls and that just ain't right lol :bootyshake:
Title: Re: How do you select what they watch?
Post by: mcrap85 on December 30, 2009, 04:03:56 pm
i have a 4 year old, and of course i do NOT let her watch anything with sex in it...evn if there kissing i still dont let her watch cuz she doesnt need to learn all that now lol. she watches disney movies mostly or noggin the t.v show...thats about it.... :wave:
Title: Re: How do you select what they watch?
Post by: bucksmakingmama on December 30, 2009, 06:23:06 pm
I don't use the ratings because they don't seem to make sense, like in your example. A pg13 movie with nudity. I haven't checked out the movie, so I'm taking your word for it. Most of my kids are under 10, so if it isn't educational then they don't watch it. My 19 year old, however, she didn't watch it unless I saw it first, or one of my friends had seen it and told me about the content.
Title: Re: How do you select what they watch?
Post by: florezitta10 on December 30, 2009, 07:06:20 pm
I don't use the ratings because they don't seem to make sense, like in your example. A pg13 movie with nudity. I haven't checked out the movie, so I'm taking your word for it. Most of my kids are under 10, so if it isn't educational then they don't watch it. My 19 year old, however, she didn't watch it unless I saw it first, or one of my friends had seen it and told me about the content.

Haha!! I do the same I always ask my friends If there was any dirty scenes lol.. Btw the Movie rating was actually "r" so it might have been appropriately rated but it didn't say R for what lol... Anywho i watched it alone and it is a very good movie.
Title: Re: How do you select what they watch?
Post by: vlsm23 on December 30, 2009, 08:18:07 pm
It sounds like you can only let your kids watch PG.  I understand the ratings and censoring, but I think it should be up to the parents to watch a movie and decide if their kids can handle the content.  I am tired of parents complaining about the ratings and content of a movie they havent watched but let their kids watch.  I realize time is precious, but maybe, as a parent, you should know what your child is watching before you get mad and assume the rating is legite enough to judge what your kid can watch.  Its my policy on everything, do not judge something unless you have experience on that subject.
Title: Re: How do you select what they watch?
Post by: florezitta10 on December 31, 2009, 09:05:33 am
It sounds like you can only let your kids watch PG.  I understand the ratings and censoring, but I think it should be up to the parents to watch a movie and decide if their kids can handle the content.  I am tired of parents complaining about the ratings and content of a movie they havent watched but let their kids watch.  I realize time is precious, but maybe, as a parent, you should know what your child is watching before you get mad and assume the rating is legite enough to judge what your kid can watch.  Its my policy on everything, do not judge something unless you have experience on that subject.

Which is why I watched this movie "WANTED" by my self  :bootyshake:
Title: Re: How do you select what they watch?
Post by: anguyen21 on December 31, 2009, 10:06:28 pm
If they can't handle those kinds of scenes at an early age what makes you think they can handle it later on? :dontknow:  You can't censor "life."  Although "it doesn't seem right", what is so wrong with it?  I think you're doing your kid a disservice by keeping them from watching movies that could put their lives in a different perspective just because they are immodest scenes that society has portrayed as something that is impure.
Title: Re: How do you select what they watch?
Post by: bucksmakingmama on December 31, 2009, 10:17:17 pm
If they can't handle those kinds of scenes at an early age what makes you think they can handle it later on? :dontknow:  You can't censor "life."  Although "it doesn't seem right", what is so wrong with it?  I think you're doing your kid a disservice by keeping them from watching movies that could put their lives in a different perspective just because they are immodest scenes that society has portrayed as something that is impure.

What do you consider "an early age"? I mean, seriously, would you really think that because a 16 or 17 year old could handle a sex scene, does that mean that they could have or should have been exposed to it when they were 5? You don't need to censor life. It's just that there are certain things that are appropriate for older children that just aren't appropriate for younger children, no matter what.
Title: Re: How do you select what they watch?
Post by: anguyen21 on December 31, 2009, 10:48:20 pm
If they can't handle those kinds of scenes at an early age what makes you think they can handle it later on? :dontknow:  You can't censor "life."  Although "it doesn't seem right", what is so wrong with it?  I think you're doing your kid a disservice by keeping them from watching movies that could put their lives in a different perspective just because they are immodest scenes that society has portrayed as something that is impure.

What do you consider "an early age"? I mean, seriously, would you really think that because a 16 or 17 year old could handle a sex scene, does that mean that they could have or should have been exposed to it when they were 5? You don't need to censor life. It's just that there are certain things that are appropriate for older children that just aren't appropriate for younger children, no matter what.

I'm not saying you should throw your kids in front of *bleep*.  But, by the time they decide to watch movies or change the channel I think they can figure out what to watch.  I saw plenty when I was a kid and it didn't screw me over as it supposedly should.  Sure I've seen a few things that I regret like Chucky, It, etc. but they didn't do more than scare me and teach me that I'm not interested in Scary movies.  As for actual movies that had sex scenes in them, which I saw, didn't do much because I can't remember anything specific.  As for being inappropriate my question is why is it inappropriate for say... a 10 year old to not see a little bit of intimacy and not a 16 year old.  Age?  Maturity?  I think by now we can say that age doesn't always bring wisdom and maturity doesn't come unless they're world has been expanded.
Title: Re: How do you select what they watch?
Post by: ivyruefthaler1 on January 01, 2010, 10:47:04 am
grab the remote and put it on a good channel
Title: Re: How do you select what they watch?
Post by: Rastov on January 02, 2010, 03:54:25 pm
I think 13 year olds are the ones that need *bleep* the most.
18 is about the minimum age where you really don't need it any more.
Title: Re: How do you select what they watch?
Post by: florezitta10 on January 02, 2010, 06:41:42 pm
If they can't handle those kinds of scenes at an early age what makes you think they can handle it later on? :dontknow:  You can't censor "life."  Although "it doesn't seem right", what is so wrong with it?  I think you're doing your kid a disservice by keeping them from watching movies that could put their lives in a different perspective just because they are immodest scenes that society has portrayed as something that is impure.

Just wondering do you have kids?
Title: Re: How do you select what they watch?
Post by: aliciaanthonyownz on January 02, 2010, 06:52:02 pm
If they can't handle those kinds of scenes at an early age what makes you think they can handle it later on? :dontknow:  You can't censor "life."  Although "it doesn't seem right", what is so wrong with it?  I think you're doing your kid a disservice by keeping them from watching movies that could put their lives in a different perspective just because they are immodest scenes that society has portrayed as something that is impure.

Just wondering do you have kids?
Its a different Feeling when they are YOUR kids. Not everyone elses. Its seems so different from someone else point of veiw but when its your children viewing those images. Its a bit disturbing. Keeping there innocence for as long as possible is WHAT we as parents try to do
Title: Re: How do you select what they watch?
Post by: bucksmakingmama on January 06, 2010, 04:49:05 pm
If they can't handle those kinds of scenes at an early age what makes you think they can handle it later on? :dontknow:  You can't censor "life."  Although "it doesn't seem right", what is so wrong with it?  I think you're doing your kid a disservice by keeping them from watching movies that could put their lives in a different perspective just because they are immodest scenes that society has portrayed as something that is impure.

What do you consider "an early age"? I mean, seriously, would you really think that because a 16 or 17 year old could handle a sex scene, does that mean that they could have or should have been exposed to it when they were 5? You don't need to censor life. It's just that there are certain things that are appropriate for older children that just aren't appropriate for younger children, no matter what.

I'm not saying you should throw your kids in front of *bleep*.  But, by the time they decide to watch movies or change the channel I think they can figure out what to watch.  I saw plenty when I was a kid and it didn't screw me over as it supposedly should.  Sure I've seen a few things that I regret like Chucky, It, etc. but they didn't do more than scare me and teach me that I'm not interested in Scary movies.  As for actual movies that had sex scenes in them, which I saw, didn't do much because I can't remember anything specific.  As for being inappropriate my question is why is it inappropriate for say... a 10 year old to not see a little bit of intimacy and not a 16 year old.  Age?  Maturity?  I think by now we can say that age doesn't always bring wisdom and maturity doesn't come unless they're world has been expanded.

First off, my 6 year old "knows" what she "wants" to watch, but that doesn't mean she will be allowed to watch it. Secondly, she is old enough to know how to work a remote and to change the channel by hand, but that doesn't mean that she should be able to "figure out" what to watch. She is not old enough to make those types of decisions for herself yet. That's why children have parents. It is our job and up to us as responsible parents and adults to pay attention to the types of trash that our children are being exposed to on tv and in the world.

Also, you ask why a 10 year old shouldn't see intimacy but a 16 year old can. Why can an 18 year old vote and not a 16 year old? Why be 21 to drink alcohol, but not 10? I guess age does bring a little maturity into the picture somewhat.