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Discussion Boards => Off-Topic => Topic started by: kew004 on January 25, 2010, 12:23:08 pm
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I am currently a full time student and have been in a relationship with this guy for a year, and I have known since the day we met that I wanted to marry him. Last night he was hinting around the subject for quite some time, however, it will be two years before we are out of college. WOuld entering an engagement be a bad idea at this point in time?
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I think its a mistake to wait until college is over. Having a degree doesnt make life "perfect". So if you are waiting for something to happen in your lives to make things "the right time" then stop. If you want to grow old with that man then get married now!!!
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my wife and i was dating for 7 years and went through high school and college together. we got married after we had our son. i dont think its a bad idea that you got engaged after college. its a new chapter in your life!!
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I agree that waiting till the "time is right" is never the way to live your life. My girlfriend and I have been doing that for over ten years now, lulz. Seriously though, whatever pace the two of you are most comfortable with should direct your path. Remember though that no matter how long you guys wait, hardships will inevitably arise, so don't trick yourself into thinking that these setbacks are a result of some piece of paper saying you're married.
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Thanks for all the advice. We're very happy together, and I think that if he pops the question soon, my answer will be a definite yes. I may be young, however, I have never wanted anything more in my life.
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give it more time then see what happens
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Getting engaged now doesn't mean you are stuck with the guy forever if you decide later on that hes not the one for you. You can have a long engagement, and once you both are secure financially and emotionally then maybe a walk down the aisle is in order. Follow your heart, if he is the one for you there is nothing to fear. If it's meant to be, it will be. :)
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Thanks for all the advice. We're very happy together, and I think that if he pops the question soon, my answer will be a definite yes. I may be young, however, I have never wanted anything more in my life.
Get married -- but give it a lot of thought. It should be something you both want forever no matter what else life brings you.
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give it more time then see what happens
If they have been together for a year and don't know each other by now then they never will. There is no sense in waiting longer if they don't want to.
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Engagement, no.
Actually going through with it; don't.
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The best advice I can give, is not to give advice. Listen to your heart and follow your dreams.
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If it feels right,trust and communicate your thoughts and the rest will take care of itself! hope you both love each other and hope things work out! congrads bride to be!
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If you love each other get married.... Life is short.
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If You Both Really love each other, and you both are committed enough to want to spend the rest of your life together, then I would go for it, but I think that I would finish college first and make sure that your relationship is going to work. before getting married, and have a career built for yourself before getting married, and that way you know that you will be successful in life no matter what.
I have been with my boyfriend for over a year and we have lived together 10months and I still don't completely really know him, and we spend everyday together.
It takes a long time before you really and truly know somebody.
But Follow your heart, it won't lead you wrong!
Good Luck!!! :thumbsup:
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The best advice I can give, is not to give advice. Listen to your heart and follow your dreams.
Well said!
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Yeah happiness just aint handed out like dolla bills at a strip club.
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If you have to ask, then No. You shouldn't have to ask for advice on this one. Either you do or you don't.
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Just get engaged, Its not a promise, its the potential prospect of the idea of marriage, if it doesnt work, then what doesnt kill you only makes you stronger..........
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A 3-year-old boy examined his testicles while taking a bath.
"Mom", he asked, "Are these my brains?"
"Not yet," she replied.
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A 3-year-old boy examined his testicles while taking a bath.
"Mom", he asked, "Are these my brains?"
"Not yet," she replied.
lol, my boy was about 2 and a half years old and he noticed them. He asked what they were and then swore "but they weren't there yesterday"
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A 3-year-old boy examined his testicles while taking a bath.
"Mom", he asked, "Are these my brains?"
"Not yet," she replied.
lol, my boy was about 2 and a half years old and he noticed them. He asked what they were and then swore "but they weren't there yesterday"
That is too funny!!
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My opinion on this is simple. First you must ask yourself why you want to get married and what marriage means to you. Many people say not to get married (if you're under the age of 25), and that you have a lot of things to live through.
I believe one gets married to make life better. You as a couple work together to achieve great and beautiful things. So if you want to make that commitment, go for it. :) I have no oppositions.
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Thanks for all the great advice. I'm thinking a semi-long engagement may be what we need. However, I am completely excited about our future together. We've been crazy about each other since the day we met, fights and all. There is nothing the both of us want more than to be together forever. Personally, I can not wait to start a family with this wonderful guy.
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It is such a wonderful feeling to know that you have found that one person that you want to spend the rest of your life with, that is so great.
Just take your time, decide instead of slide.
That means...make sure it's everything that both of you want and decide on it together.
If you slide into it really fast without deciding first, it usually don't turn out good.
I wish you both the best and hope everything works out just the way you want it.
Good Luck And God Bless
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I got some advise from someone that made PERFECT SENSE. "You should get married when you know you don't have too." I didn't take her advise but that's beside the point. Here is my point. It seems you are very happy with him. You will NEVER get to know him 100%. Let me tell ya why. When you get married things change, when you have kids things change, when you turn 30 things change, when your kids move out things change, when you're retired things change. Life is always changing and you are always growing and you will change too. You don't know how you will react to these life events and neither will he. You have to trust that the person you are with is someone whom you can talk to about anything (he may not see eye to eye with you but...), and someone who is passionate about the same things you are and you to him. That is the only way that you will make sure you are on the same page. It's not a guarantee that things will be perfect (NO MARRIAGE IS PERFECT) but you can come close. I have been married for 5yrs and still struggling but we do love each other and I am very happy that I have a good father for my little girls. CONGRATS ON YOUR FUTURE ENGAGEMENT.
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stay true!!!
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get married when you feel like the time is right for both you and your prospective spouse, have a plan going in and most of all have fun life is too short to always be a drama queen/king! ENJOY YOUR TIME TOGETHER!