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Discussion Boards => Off-Topic => Topic started by: Stealth3si on February 07, 2011, 08:27:12 pm
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I would say because it makes one vulnerable, but I wonder whether this vulnerability is necessary.
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i know love sucks big time, i feel ya
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:crybaby2:That's why I love my 10 dogs so much!
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I'm not into dating anymore. I'm so tired of it. I would rather spend my limited time keeping myself happy.
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Because you invest your emotions and feelings for that person and when its not returned it makes for a bad and hurtful situation.
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Mehh i can care less about love nowadays who knows what it is by now today anyways , like Love been outdated and misused so much its sad , i kinda blame television and society
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get a horse...they offer unconditional love & support & they are beautiful animals with a lot more to offer than a dog or cat. you can interact with them & they'll bring you so much joy!
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because you allow yourself to be vulnerable and admit that you need love in you life
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Due to the emotions
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It hurts when it is not equal. If you love someone and they don't love you or someone loves you but you don't love them. You are more vulnerable if your love doesn't reciprocate your feelings.
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I have been hurt VERY badly so many times.... I think those that love deeply also the ones that experience such hurt when love doesn't work. I think that we give all we have and when that doesn't come back it can make your heart feel as though it has been ripped from your chest. Love should NOT hurt. I now have true LOVE in my life and of course he has "hurt" my feelings at times but only because I care so much. I am sure I have also hurt his feelings but true LOVE looks past those hurts .... I am thankful to God for allowing me to have a true love in my life after so many years of abuse and hurt.
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I agree with thetotalfool, however, I got married, and I meant my vows...so I just work through the good and the bad...for better or for worse. :) I don't think love should hurt unless it's a good hurt...like missing them or that something happened to them. Other than that, I think it should be fool of love, especially if you love and care about them. However, in reality, for some odd reason, that's not how it is. For some reason, we get under each others' skin and then make arguments out of nothing, rather than just communicating and making things better.
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If love is shared between the two people then it is awesome. But if love fades then that really is hurtful for the one still in love
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Well,
There is no simple answer to this Question.
When u love, u love unconditionally. U give ur all. U r U with tht person... let it be any kind of relationship. Love is a feeling so deep and emotional that it takes control of ur entire life.
When u love someone and unfortunately get hurt, its breaks ur heart into millions of pieces. Well tht shud hurt ryt? u can go love someone else in ur life and move on but ur heart will have those marks engraved!
It should hurt right?
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I deal with couples all the time, and it seems to me that the more things change....the more they stay the same.
1. Sometimes an individual is incapable of real love. Be it how they grew up as a child or how they perceive love. Love is being through the bad and good. That's real love. To go through something drastic together, and still truly love each other afterwards. Some people have no depth in their heart to "weather" storms in a relationship, or they think love is all rainbows and romance. These kind of people never learn to give it all in a relationship. They are incapable (flawed) in their ability to love.
2. Unless there is abuse in the picture, when someone falls out of love, or falls for someone else, that is nothing but selfishness on their part. The person left to pick up the pieces is left thinking they did something wrong, when in all probability, the person that left is only looking for the "rush" of love, and is not capable of loving deeply. It's surface.
3. It's easy to throw in the towel and write someone off, but each time that happens, the heart becomes more shallow. Then when they meet someone they actually want to love, it's usually someone very much like themselves. Very surface and shallow.
4. Roses, candy, cards, etc., are nice, but the real love is when daddy gets up in the middle of the night with a sick child, and lets mommy sleep, because she has been tending to the child all day. Or makes sure that his wife's car has enough gas in it, and it's in good running order. Or makes sure the garbage can is set out on garbage days, so she doesn't have to do it. Missing an anniversary, or birthday, because he forgot, doesn't mean he doesn't love you......men forget. Going to work everyday and coming home to you every night is love. Putting food on the table and making a living for the family is love. Cleaning the house, doing the laundry, cooking the meals, is love. What man or woman wouldn't like to have it different than the daily grind? They stay in it because of love. To stay in a relationship shows maturity in love, along with the bad and good.
5. Those who have loved and lost, and now have a wall up, and are no longer willing to take a chance on love.......avoid like the plague. Only an open heart, no matter how many times it's been broken will mature into someone who can truly love someone else.
6. Someone that has loved and lost many times are usually picking the same type of person over and over again. It's a proven fact that sometimes we will constantly pick a certain personality because we think it's what we want or what we deserve (subconcious). I've heard many couples tell me that when they met their spouses, it was someone they would have never picked for themselves. However, the relationship is strong and thriving between them.
While there are a lot of online dating sites that promise to help you find that one and only, I'd have to say....it's a long shot. The one sure way I have found for couples to find the right one, is to pray for them, and let God bring them to you. Since God knows all hearts, He's the best matchmaker around, and charges nothing. I've seen God bring someone from across the US to a little town in the middle of nowhere, to their intended spouse. It's one of life's decisions that everyone needs help.