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I really can't remember my parents hugging me as a chid but I knew they loved me very much and still do. But I sure thy did I just don't remember.
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Wow, I find that strange. Not to be insulting though. If you know your parents love you that's the important thing. But then again I come from a very affectionate family, my mom and dad hugged and kissed us all the time and I hug and kiss my babies constantly. Sometimes against their will LOL. My son will be trying to play his video games and he isn't much in the mood for mommy kisses but he humors me.
It's hard for me to imagine not having that??? But I was shocked that my husband never hugs his dad. He always shakes his hand....I asked him what the hell was wrong with him when we first started dating and I noticed this lol. Also, he says he can't really remember his parents being affectionate with him when he was younger.
I guess I just come from a different world where that's concerned. :dontknow:
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Yes they hugged me. My family has no problem showing affection. Even as a adult I hugged my parents. When we greet other family members we always hug.
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nope...i didnt very many hugs from my parents...but all of the others in my family did
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nope not a hug not a love you not a great job... Maybe that is why I tell my kids DAILY even though they are adults how much i love and appreciate them and dole out hugs and kisses every chance i get!
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Nope. My parents never hugged me when I was a little or once I grew up either until I moved to the states. It's not because they don't love me, it's just kind of culture (Japanese). I've never heard them saying "I love you" to me either. In English I don't feel it's awkward to say or being told "I love you" but in Japanese I feel very weird to be told "I love you" especially if my parents do. Just a cultural difference. But I'm raising my girl in the American way. I give her hugs & kisses constantly and she gives me them too and I love it! :heart:
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Only my mother did. My father was one of those people that would rather do something more productive than that :-
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I just don't get that. Parents not hugging their kids. I know I already posted that but reading more and more posts of people saying they didn't get hugs. I find that shocking. I just don't get it :confused1:
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No, no hugs as a child. mother and father divorced. mainly i served as a servant for my mother. Did all the housework, was not allowed much of a social life. i thought i was in some kind of hell.
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No, my mother did not hug me as a child. My mother have six kids. I do think she thought it matters, but I know it does. I need to hug my kids and tell them I love them everyday. If you do not tell them or show them how much you love them, your kids will do the same to their kids. I know that my grandmother did not hug my mother and my mother did not hug us, but that where it stops. There is nothing wrong with hugs. I love them so much. :heart:
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There were some hugs and kisses, but the majority of my hugs came from other relatives likes aunts, uncles, and grandparents.
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Yes. But I think I get more hugs now that we are older....
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I got hugs from my mom all the time. Not so much from dad. My dad was raised without affection so that is just the way he was with his kids. I always felt the love lacking between him and I when I was a kid but I know now that he loved me very much he just didn't know how to show it. shernajwine? You were a very luck little girl. You had all the love and affection a child needs but it is a little closed minded of you to assume everyone gets the same.
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No, I did not get hugs from my mother or father. I got hugs from my aunt, but those stopped when I grew up.
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Yes, got hugs and kisses from pretty much my whole family. I don't know why those displays of affection would ever be a bad thing; it was a sign of the love we had for each other, and still do.
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No. My mother was a very cold person. I think she tried, but didn't succeed. I made sure my kids got lots of hugs and kisses and were told they were loved as they were growing up.
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my parents gave me to many hugs and kisses, thats why i am spoiled now and think everything goes my way ;D
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my parents gave me to many hugs and kisses, thats why i am spoiled now and think everything goes my way ;D
Lol, well that's a on the other extreme but it's nice to see another post about children being loved on :)
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Yes, my parents hugged us all the time, but they never said the words, I Love You, but they did show it my taking care of our every need. Yes we were hugged.
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My parents were the greatest parents ever. They still are. They gave tons of hugs and praise, and a good swift kick in the butt when I needed it :) ;D
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Yes my parents hugged me all the time.
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My parents hugged me all the time.
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I got quite a few. Mostly when i was sad or when I had been away for a while.
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Yes and they still do! :wave:
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I really can't remember my parents hugging me as a chid but I knew they loved me very much and still do. But I sure thy did I just don't remember.
I don’t recall it either. I think I had while I was a baby. I remember seeing old photos of my mother holding me high and close to her on many occasions. Growing up my parents never showed any physical affection other than to feed, bathe me, and provide basic necessities. I didn’t mind at all because I knew my parents loved me very much without being physically demonstrative; it’s just not part of their cultural practice. :)
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hell no closes i got to something warm was a slap across mah face.... nah im kidding they love me
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Yes they did.
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Didnt get hugged too many times as a child, but its more of a cultural thing. I'm from Bangladesh. Never doubted that my parents love me with all their hearts, though.
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Hugging was never part of the family. It was done just about as much as saying 'I love you'. These things just didn't exist.
We were just suppose to know it was there. Honestly, I don't think my siblings looked for it either, and why would they? They were too busy living their lives - the life of friends, that is. We weren't together much, everyone did their own thing. I am the last child of six. I never had a social life and again, since my parents weren't about the affection, I never received anything personally. I sure did try, though!
Because of such upbringings, I was one with depression. I didn't know how to go about life. It was awful, almost as horrible as my attempts for attention that failed. Miserably.
Anyway, depressing as it sounds, it's all in the past. I'm 23 years old now. I'm much better now and actually, my mother and I say 'I love you' a million times. Our relationship is better, closer. Even my dad may blurt it out every now and far-away then. But still, it counts. I suppose someone just needed to break the 'routine'. The basic way that we were raised on. Grow up a bit and start expressing before it's too late.
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No I really dont remember too many hugs.didnt have a good childhood.But changed that with my daughters and granddaughters.I want them to remember being hugged.
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I didn't receive very many hugs from my parents growing up. My dad was not a very nice man and used verbal and physical abuse to me and to my mom, as well as a couple of other things that are too personal to list. I was very withdrawn and extroverted at school (school was actually my escape because I loved to learn and read.) My grandparents, however, on both sides were wonderful huggers and so were my aunts and uncles. I've since found out that they went out of their way to show me I was loved and was really worried about me.
I've determined that my children, and now my granddaughters, were never going to experience what I did. My kids have been hugged and kissed and loved on - they know that my hubby and I love them so much. We played games on the floor, board games, read books, rooted for them at sports, concerts, etc. Now my granddaughters are getting the special treatment. All of that was not given to me growing up and it is so important that our children, grandchildren, and beyond, know how much they are loved and appreciated.
Thank you for your thought-provoking question. It brought back some not-so-good memories, but at the same time it helps me to see how far I have come from as a child and how much I love all my own family and that they love me!! :)
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well yea i got alot of hugs as a child and what kind of topic is this but its ok i was spoiled as a child i got everything i wanted now life is hard
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Yes my parents did hug me as a child. I remember them quite well. I feel that hugs are very important. I make sure to give my fiancee a hug each and every day.