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As children we all look up to our mothers 4 love, guidance, approval,understanding, protection, & over all care. This is why, we honor them on mother's day. But what about the days when ur mother was more ur enemy than ur protector? What a/o that baby that was thrown away in the thrash b/c the mom was 2 scare 2 tell her parents. What a/o the billionth time u've been called stupid, good for nothing, worthless, useless, brainless piece of trash repeating over & over that u actually believe it! Or the time when u don't feel the pain any more from the trashing u've received 4 spilling milk on ur white dress. I've forgiven my mom 4 most of the wrong she's done 2 me & my siblings but I will never forget. I don't see my mom as a mother, more like a distance friend. Because of the past, I still don't fully trust her & my security alarm kicks in. So, this mother's day I bought her gold ring w/all her kids names engraved on it. She's going to get it nx wk b/c I've ordered it on the net. So, Am I being a total hypocrite by getting her a Mother's day present? I do forgive her but i won't ever forget....&what really ticks me off is she act's like nothing like that happened at all. Like she erased those negative memories from her mind.
So, MOMS' (WORLDWIDE) my question is, DO YOU, DESERVE TO BE HONORED on MOTHER'S DAY?
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I can only say this much my mother certainly deserves to be honored since she raised 3 head strong boys into men through their teenage years without the benefit of a husband and father.
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Unlike you, i didnt get my mom anything. I havent been able to forgive enough to actually want to talk to my mother.
But i am a GREAT mother and had a great mothers day
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I am so sorry trantrici44 your mother was the way she was, but if you have truly forgiven her for treating you bad, she deserves to be honor, two wrong dont make it right. You did not state rather you had kids, but if you do treat your kids like you wanted to be treated and maybe your mother will see the errors of her ways and let you know how sorry she is for mistreating you. Love your mother, I know I wish I still had mind, she hit and yell at us a lot, but we knew she loved us. Forgive your mother and show her how much you love her and maybe you both can sit and talk about, why she did the things she did (she may not even remember), but God knows your heart and you will be blessed for it.
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yes i love my mom :heart:
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If my Mom had still been amongst the living, YES she definitely deserved to be honored on Mother's Day. My Mom sacrificed a lot for her children and grandchildren.
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Yes!...Because I am a mother too! Do not forget: "The mother is the mother"...She is wanted: Dead or alive. Tell her you love and honor her!
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The Bible says to honor your father and mother. It doesn't stipulate if they are bad or good. My mother gave me up when I was a little baby, but I still love her because I have no idea what her life was like at the time. My Dad died very young by his own doing. It doesn't matter....both of them gave me life, and I thank and love them for that. I had a step mother for 7 years of my young life that was a troubled soul, who took it out on the weak. How miserable she must have viewed her existence. I pity her today because she was a lost soul. How poor and wretched people like this become, and their days are full of sorrow. They are to be pitied and forgiven, as the hell they live in is perpetuated by themselves. The person that said their mother acts like she doesn't remember how she was to her children, is misinformed. Her/his mother does remember, but wants to forget. You can help her do that. She probably is so ashamed of the past, that she wants to forget it and try and do better. Give her that chance.
I have wonderful mothers, fathers, sisters, brothers, etc., in my spiritual family, and believe me when I say that I couldn't love them any more than if they were my own blood. You can find spiritual friends and family that are more dear to you than any family member. There is a lady right here on this forum that has become like a sister to me and we have never met yet......someday we will.
Being a single parent myself in the past and raising a child was not easy. Did I do everything correct? No. Times were hard, money was scarce, I did my best. Last night as I was talking to my son late into the night, laughing, crying, praying together, it seemed that whatever I lacked in raising him, God did the rest. He has turned out to be a fine man, father, husband, and provider for his family. Respected by everyone.
Forgiveness of strangers is pretty easy, but when it comes to those we love and look to for trust and acceptance.....that's difficult when they fail us. Especially family members. What we need to realize is that we are no picnic either with all of our shortcomings. Forgiveness actually heals yourself, not the other person. It releases your spirit and gives you peace and the victory in the situation. If you find yourself always remembering negative past situations to repeat it over and over again.....you have not forgiven. No, we can not forget, but we can learn to not let those thoughts "dwell" in our mind. I remember a saying: "You can't help the birds flying over your head, but you can keep them from building a nest in your hair". Get a list of wonderful times that you have experienced in your life, and then when the negative thoughts come, take out that list and read it over and over.
There are times when forgiveness is especially difficult for people. Victims of abuse come to mind. Asking God to help you forgive, can release you from that bitter bondage of memory. There is such a blessing in forgiveness that is healing to the soul. Easy? No. Necessary? Absolutely.
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my mother deserved to be honored this past weekend! She raised 7 kids and all well! I'm greatful for her and for her love, help and support even now.
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Yes my mother did deserve to be honored. She is so strong and has been such a amazing person in mine and others lives
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My Mother deserves more than Just one day to be honored....She is VERY special to my heart!!! :heart:
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My mom is definitely deserves to be honored. She was a very good mother but I can see that not all parents are good. You need to make a choice whether you overlook the bad or to focus on it your whole life. It is your choice but holding a grudge only hurts you not the person you have the grudge against.
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Yes all Mother's should be honored on Mother's Day. :)
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I think it up to your conscience if you desire it. But as for me and to my mom, whelther we will be recognized as great mom; we don't mind at all because what we know in our heart is full of love .
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As children we all look up to our mothers 4 love, guidance, approval,understanding, protection, & over all care. This is why, we honor them on mother's day. But what about the days when ur mother was more ur enemy than ur protector? What a/o that baby that was thrown away in the thrash b/c the mom was 2 scare 2 tell her parents. What a/o the billionth time u've been called stupid, good for nothing, worthless, useless, brainless piece of trash repeating over & over that u actually believe it! Or the time when u don't feel the pain any more from the trashing u've received 4 spilling milk on ur white dress. I've forgiven my mom 4 most of the wrong she's done 2 me & my siblings but I will never forget. I don't see my mom as a mother, more like a distance friend. Because of the past, I still don't fully trust her & my security alarm kicks in. So, this mother's day I bought her gold ring w/all her kids names engraved on it. She's going to get it nx wk b/c I've ordered it on the net. So, Am I being a total hypocrite by getting her a Mother's day present? I do forgive her but i won't ever forget....&what really ticks me off is she act's like nothing like that happened at all. Like she erased those negative memories from her mind.
So, MOMS' (WORLDWIDE) my question is, DO YOU, DESERVE TO BE HONORED on MOTHER'S DAY?
Sorry about KIDS experiencing emotional self-centeredness and traumatic emotional syndroms. Which as a result make them hate their Mothers forever. PUT your self in your mothers shoes for just a moment....Have you ever thought what was YOUR mother's mental condition during the time she gave birth to you....Who she was with or was she forced into a relationship by THE MAN called YOUR FATHER of CHOICE ....through love or maybe LUST...through rape or prostitution or drug related situations....Life isnt easy with being a parent or a mother ...KIDS DONT KNOW....SOME MOTHERS are forced to grow up faster than expected ....The person writing this question....Until you become a mother and your relationship flip upside down from good to terrible .....think back on this same question about why should mothers deserve to be honored....then repost your view point on why mothers should be always HONORED DAILY....
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Yes, my mother deserves more than I can ever give her. My mother could have easily aborted or given me up for adoption. She was only 15 when she got pregnant with me. It is something she has tried to hide from me all of my life in addition to the fact that my real father left us after much abuse when I was very young. I can barely remember him. That memory is of him leaving. I love my mother very much.
I feel like I have been a very good mother to my 25 yr. old daughter. I have been behind her pushing & encouraging all the way. She graduated valedictorian of her 380+ class, earned a 4 yr. scholarship & has just earned a Masters to go with the BA degree in Chemistry & BS degree in Biology. She just landed her first professional job on the first interview. To get a "thank you" note from your mother-in-law praising you on how you raised her only grandchild should say a lot. I love my mother-in-law, too!
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My mother has always been unhappy and ungrateful although she took us to church without fail and ran a "clean" household, and now she is in a nursing home with all of her problems compounded. I did take her a beautiful card and some things she needed, but she was in the midst of a meltdown over something she imagined that my brother had told her. She is 93 and doesn't want to be here any longer. Things are tough sometimes, but I did all I could do.
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My mother always deserves to be honored. She is the best mother ever and I love her so much.
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nope not at all my mother was never there for me made it clear she didnt want children and the only reason she didnt abort us was my Grandpa and grandma would of disowned her... But now I make sure i call or talk to my kids even if they are grown and tell them i love them and theyh KNOW they was wanted
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I understand the hurt you are feeling, I had problems with one parent. I also believe it is best to forgive and love because hate will eat you up. Some moms were not mean't to be moms i guess, but in the end she is still your mother. Glad you bought her a present.
As children we all look up to our mothers 4 love, guidance, approval,understanding, protection, & over all care. This is why, we honor them on mother's day. But what about the days when ur mother was more ur enemy than ur protector? What a/o that baby that was thrown away in the thrash b/c the mom was 2 scare 2 tell her parents. What a/o the billionth time u've been called stupid, good for nothing, worthless, useless, brainless piece of trash repeating over & over that u actually believe it! Or the time when u don't feel the pain any more from the trashing u've received 4 spilling milk on ur white dress. I've forgiven my mom 4 most of the wrong she's done 2 me & my siblings but I will never forget. I don't see my mom as a mother, more like a distance friend. Because of the past, I still don't fully trust her & my security alarm kicks in. So, this mother's day I bought her gold ring w/all her kids names engraved on it. She's going to get it nx wk b/c I've ordered it on the net. So, Am I being a total hypocrite by getting her a Mother's day present? I do forgive her but i won't ever forget....&what really ticks me off is she act's like nothing like that happened at all. Like she erased those negative memories from her mind.
So, MOMS' (WORLDWIDE) my question is, DO YOU, DESERVE TO BE HONORED on MOTHER'S DAY?
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Absolutely....she is my best friend!
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This was my first year without my mother. She died on August 1, 2010. I honored her always, her funeral was absolutely almost magical and such a wonderful tribute to her. I was the best mother to my children that I could be. My daughter who got into the drug scene and has little money, took the time to make an arrangement of my favorite flowers and other things she know that I love. On the other hand, my "perfect" son who spends lots of money on his grandparents who did absolutely nothing for him growing up and his wife's family all the time, gave me an empty card. I finally told him not to waste his money on any more empty cards because this has been going on for about the last 5 years. It hurts so bad every time he does that, I cry for a day or two afterwards. He is this big diehard Christian too, which to me means he's a total hypocrite. Honor your mother, you only have one. If you don't know who your birth mother was, honor the person you consider to be your "mother?" Do something that you have put some thought into that brings her joy. Anybody can go to Walmart and sign their name to a card. I threw my son's card in the trash because I couldn't bear to look at it.
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I didn't have a good mother that deserves all that myself.But she is my mother and for that I honor her. I don't see her that much as she lives out of town.She knows how she treated us as we were kids and she's paying for it.As for me I tried to right the wrong she did.I did not want my kids thinking about me like I think about her.I have made a difference with my kids and grandkids.We may not always get along at times,but they know how I feel about them and they were never treated like I was and never will be.I will never completely forgive her for some things,most I have.As we have to move on,some are just too bad to forgive.She knows she done wrong and has admitted it.She knows she is paying for the way she done us in her own way.I love my mother don't get me wrong,she is my mother.
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Well my mom totally deserves to be honored. She's my rock and my strength. Without her guidance and support I don't know where I would be today. She raised me, my sister, and my brother with her hard work and dedication. She had to fight with my dad and take him to court because he wouldn't pay child support on his own. He had it deducted every week from his paycheck. Something that he didn't like at all. At least she wasn't taking advantage of the system and sitting on her *bleep* getting welfare, which she could have done if she wanted to. I love my mom to death and if anyone would utter a word against her, they'd have me in their face in a heartbeat. That's the kind of person I am.
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I always honored my Mother. You was always there for me as well I was always there for her. She was by best friend. She always listen, never cristised me, but was always calm and supportive. I lost my mother in 1999 and I miss her so much. I have always tried to be the kind of mother she was. I have 3 wonderful children and have always tried to be to them what my mother to me. May God Bless each of you.
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Of course I think every mother should get a little bit of recognition for mothers day they were the ones who had the power to make the child in the first place.