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how can this be posible!! i going to court for child support and the court ordered a DNA test the results came last week and it says he is not the father of my son!! how can this be possible if i wasnt with no one else when i conceive my son!! are these DNA test 100% true?
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They are 99.9 %. You had to be with someone else. Maybe you need to widen the window of time you are counting. The baby could have been born a little early or a little late. DNA doesn't lie. Test anyone else you were with, condom or not, birth control or not, up to 10 months before you had the baby. Good Luck.
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Wow! I feel bad for you. Maybe there's someone that you don't remember being with. This reminds me of something I heard on the radio. This guy put the date rape drug in his female friend's drink. That night he slept with her and she didn't even know or remember it because she was so out of it. She then turned out to be pregnant without knowing the father was her best friend. Isn't that sick that this guy would do this to her? He's supposed to be her best friend. Mind you, he confessed this on the radio but of course with a disguised voice and without giving his name. That poor girl is wondering who the hell her baby's dad is. It's awful and reminds a woman never to trust any man unless you know him like the palm of your hand.
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I fee for you. Think about the person you were with before and after your ex. I wish you well with this problem.
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i know what you guys are telling me but i wasnt with no one else and i remember very well i dont use drugs i dont drink! my son looks white and we are hispanic so i dont want to think the worst because i love my son to the fullest
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Get another test if you truly believe the father could be no one else. It is very possible that the test was compromised in some way. :dontknow:
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i want to do a blood test is really expensive butmy ex dont want to pay! or help me pay for it :BangHead:
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is it possible that your ex DNA test person or the court, so they told lies. I don't know much about here. in my country, it happens
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very, very rarely a person can have 2 dna's however it's more likely that ither the test was done wrong or even more likely you sept wih someone else and got pregnant by them. was your son born early or late? are you certain you have the conception date correct?
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DNA TEST ARE TRUE AND YOY CAN TRUST THEM. NO MATTER HOW IT TURNS OUT YOU JUST LOVE YOUR SON .AND LET HIM BE YOUR FIRST CHOICE IN EVERYTHING YOU DO. GOOD LUCK
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thank u debra!! thats what im going to do!! i been thinking about that just leave it like that and i can take care of my son all by my self!! im a hard working woman!! and yes i went to the clinic got copy of my record and the week that me and him have sex thats when i got pregnant i conceive on may 30 2008 and my son was born on february 24 2009.. things happen for a reason!
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maybe the guy got someone else to take the test for him
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thats what peopke been telling me.. cuz we didnt take the test together he always wanted to be by him self
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There is also another disturbing thought, but it does happen. Babies have been known to get switched in the hospital. If you are absolutely sure there is nobody else in your past but the child's father, then by all means, find out how many other babies were born on the day your child was. You say you and the child's father is Hispanic, but the child is white? Unfortunately, baby's being switched in hospitals happen more than the public is aware.
The fact that he does not want to get tested with you being there....something isn't right, and he may be tricking you when he always wants to be by himself. Sounds like he doesn't want to pay child support. If he did have someone else take the test instead of himself, I don't know how you prove that.
My heart goes out to you. I sense that you are telling the truth and something else is afoot here. I will be praying for you that this gets straightened out. Keep us in the loop hon. I know you could probably raise your child a lot better anyway, but if this is his child, he must step up and take responsibility as the father.
Take care little one, and you are not alone in this. :heart:
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thank u so much your words touched my heart! thats why i been so scare thinking that my son was switch in the hospital.. he is a little angel a really good boy he is 2 years old.. my court day is the 24 of this month im scare the judge is going to tell us that the baby doesnt match us and an investigation is going to start and they are going to take him away from me!! i dont want that.. i can be a good mother plus he have a brother that is 6 years old i raise my other son by my self.. i can do it with 2.. im thinking maybe i shouldnt go to court and raise the baby by my self..
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being switched at birth is extremely rare and would only be possible if neither 'parent' was a dna match to the child. also it would be prety hard to fake a proffesional dna test. you don't just walk in to a clinc and say i'm Joe and i'm here to take a dna test you have to show id. so unless he got someone that looked just like him i doubt he had someone else take the test. she states that both 'parents' are hispanic and and the baby is 'white' hhmm perhaps because she slept with a white man.
There is also another disturbing thought, but it does happen. Babies have been known to get switched in the hospital.
If you are absolutely sure there is nobody else in your past but the child's father, then by all means, find out how many other babies were born on the day your child was. You say you and the child's father is Hispanic, but the child is white? Unfortunately, baby's being switched in hospitals happen more than the public is aware.
The fact that he does not want to get tested with you being there....something isn't right, and he may be tricking you when he always wants to be by himself. Sounds like he doesn't want to pay child support. If he did have someone else take the test instead of himself, I don't know how you prove that.
My heart goes out to you. I sense that you are telling the truth and something else is afoot here. I will be praying for you that this gets straightened out. Keep us in the loop hon. I know you could probably raise your child a lot better anyway, but if this is his child, he must step up and take responsibility as the father.
Take care little one, and you are not alone in this. :heart:
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sorry raven i been saying that i didnt slept with no one else! and im 100% sure about that i dont like to waste peoples time trying to show them i didnt when i did... but i didnt thats why im trying to get some help
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They can't take your baby from you unless they have a very strong reason. If the children were switched at birth, wouldn't you want your biological child? While I understand how you feel after 2 years, but maybe someone else has your child.
I'm not asking you to reveal your secrets, but something is amiss in this scenario, and the sooner you know for sure, the better off you will be. Take care.
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being switched at birth is extremely rare and would only be possible if neither 'parent' was a dna match to the child. also it would be prety hard to fake a proffesional dna test. you don't just walk in to a clinc and say i'm Joe and i'm here to take a dna test you have to show id. so unless he got someone that looked just like him i doubt he had someone else take the test. she states that both 'parents' are hispanic and and the baby is 'white' hhmm perhaps because she slept with a white man.
Being switched at birth happens more often than you think. Google it. Also, he could have a brother, cousin or whomever that does look enough like him to go take the test with his ID.
She has repeatedly said she did NOT sleep with anyone else, and she ought to know. It's insensitive to keep insinuating that she did.
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Don't drop the case if you feel the father may have gotten someone else to take the test then tell the judge and maybe they can make them do another test together. I saw on one of those Discovery shows that they said the mother wasn't the mother to her child because of some crazy genetic condition she had. She knows she gave birth to the child and her mother was even in the room with her but when they did DNA it turned out they couldn't even prove the baby belonged to her.
If you are 1000% sure there was no one else then you need to make sure the test proves it. Don't let him off the hook. If he had sex with you and helped create this child then he needs to be held responsible too.
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I would take this as a blessing in disguise and be grateful that I didn't have to deal with the father anymore. As sad as it is some people (both male and female) are just not meant to be parents and (although some people may not agree with this) the kids shouldn't have to be exposed to that.
But take what I'm saying with a grain of salt. I have to deal with my 3-year-old asking if his father hates him when he doesn't show up when he is supposed to. Having to tell my son that daddy loves him but is just sick this week (only excuse that I could really come up with...so he's the sickest person ever to live) is only going to work for so long. :( He is one of those people that is too selfish to be a parent and I'm sure that if his family wasn't constantly pressuring him to see my son that he would never come.
I hope that everything works out for you!!
And on a side note about the switched at birth thing, if you feel like it would be better to know then by all means BUT if it was me...my son is the child that I brought home from the hospital and have raised for the last 3 years. I would never want to trade him for another even if he did turn out not to be biologically mine and I'm sure the other family would feel the same way.
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Hey am srry to hear. :crybaby2: I wish you the best and i think that everyone that has responded back to you has given you great answer/ suggestion! Just keep your head up..! Also just remember that some ppl are not luck/ bless to have children :wave:
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annaeliss the same thing happen to me i know it so weird but my ex was a gang member of ms13 and guess what he had another child when my son was 3 and few months later he got kill with the new wife and kid!! those guys dont play i was bless anna! if i was you! i will get away from that guy GOD IS TRYING TO SAVE U AND UR KIDS!! thigs happen for a reason!!!