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Discussion Boards => Off-Topic => Debate & Discuss => Topic started by: nisha1010 on June 24, 2011, 07:34:46 pm
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I was married to an egyptian but it didnt work out. But I see a lot of chinese girls/women going out with african/american men nowadays...I wonder what happens - do they stay together till the end
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I think we're at a point in our sophisticated society to rename this thread "Do marriages work?" 8)
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Do marriages work? Of course they do, depending on the maturity and manner in which the couple leads their lives. It's all about trust and honesty in a relationship. If the relationship works based on that, I would say the marriage would work. That being said, interracial marriages work. They just come with their own specific set of challenges that other marriages may not have.
I don't think marriage itself is irrelevant in our society. I think society and people have changed in such a way that it makes marriages more challenging and end in divorce far more often.
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I don't see any reason why a marriage between two interracial people couldn't work.
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Everyone is individualized. I, for one, am dating an African-American (who is also of a Hispanic descent). It works out for us, but it may not work out the same way for others. It's more about the clashing of the two cultures; it IS East meets West, you know...
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I agree with sdecaro558. There is definitely an additional set of challenges but there is no reason why an interracial marriage couldn't (and doesn't) work as well as any marriage between two people with a similar ethnic background.
With the sorry state of affairs of the divorce rate these days I highly doubt that if you pulled the statistics it would show that interracial couples have a higher than 50% divorce rate. Personally I believe that it is probably much lower than that given that you would have to be VERY sure of what you want if you are going to be dealing with judgmental people all the time and let's face it, it can be very difficult for interracial couples.
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I don't think race has anything to do with if the marriage is going to work or not. It's going to be about the individuals and their attitudes within the relationship. Anymore the only thing that is guaranteed to work 100% is not getting married at all! :wave:
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If both people are willing to compromise and work together to make the marriage work, then it should. Customs and traditions may not be able to be followed completely, but that's the case with any marriage.
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i think its the way people are raised - its different in different cultures and most of the time men dont want to make any changes its women who have to change - and thats when the problems start
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Yes they do. But, when they don't, it's society around the interacial marriage that doesn't work.
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I don't think race would be a determining factor in whether a marriage would succeed or fail. The character, beliefs of each individual more a factor in all marriages.
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:heart:I think it works out if you wont it to my sister and her husband have been married 16yrs shes black and his white they have 4 kids and there both loving life togther i think some people are just dumb when it comes to somethings but alot of people have learned to just ignore the dumb things in life.
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it works for us im asian and my husband is white i don't think there something to do of what race you came from
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i think it depends on the couple.
i am white -- married to an African man.... i was MADLY attracted to black men when I was dating and single.... didn't seem to go out with anyone else much or if I did I didn't seem to be as interested.
we have been married now nearly 5 years -- we have challenges-- JUST as ALL marriages!!!
We go get comments from some people outside our marriage, and at first even our families, but we didn't care about any of that and we have been just fine.
we have 1 child so far and I do like that he has the diversity in his family- but we also realize that in some parts of the country he may not be as well accepted as he is here.
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I think we're at a point in our sophisticated society to rename this thread "Do marriages work?" 8)
Thumbs Up!
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Yes, I believe interacial marriages work. I am married to a black man and we are very happy. His family is very supportive of our marriage, and my family are behind us all the way. My 4 kids and his daughter are the loves of our lives and the 6 grandbabies are spoiled by us both. We dont look at the racial looks or reactions to us, they dont matter. When we married we found out who our true friends were.
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For me, no marriage would work, but I think interracial marriages present more issues than non mixed marriages.
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I was married to an egyptian but it didnt work out. But I see a lot of chinese girls/women going out with african/american men nowadays...I wonder what happens - do they stay together till the end
I guess love should be what's in the inside it should'nt matter what color you are if your happy go for it. :)
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I think it works depending if you are willing to try.
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Yes, they do! 13 yrs and still going strong......... :wave: :heart: :o
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Of course. a marriage is a marriage, why classify it as anything else?
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I have a female friend who is white and never had a white boyfriend. She seems to enjoy dating black men and thats her business. I'm glad she is happy at least.
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I think interacial marriages work better.
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Of course. a marriage is a marriage, why classify it as anything else?
i agree with this
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this one girl from the uk she winked me on mingles so i wink her back she asked for my email so i gave it to her then i asked her why did you wink me know i live so far from you because if she wanted citizenship from me or whatever her motives were it just seem weird to me
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When 52% of marriages don't work out, people should not bring differences in sexuality or race into any discussion of the "sanctity of marriage"
When more than half of something fails, it's nothing to be sanctified.
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I think it depends on matuarity and willingness to compromise. I think it is harder for interacial couples
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As with any marriage it just depends. My husband is about as German as they come...all 4 sides of his family are German, we have traced the roots and have the Coat of Arms. I am Native American, Portuguese and Black. We are quite happily married. Even his family who despised anyone of color, after meeting me, have made me very welcome into the family. What it came down to is I would not have been excepted if I had turned out to be non educated, ignorant, as well as I am into a lot of what they are into as well. I hunt, I fish, and I know my way around firearms. So to them I am strong and not a hindrance. To some this may not seem right, but I don't care about what others think because it works for us. We love each other and that's all that matters. My family loves him too. :peace: :heart:
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people are people no matter what color they are!
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yes interacial marriage can work out.Just like anything other relationship.
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ALL Marriages are EXTREMELY difficult in today's INSANE WORLD. Divorce is rampant. In fact many people get married with the idea in their mind that IF it don't work out just like I want it to,,,,,,,We can ALWAYS GET DIVORCED!!
Interracial marriages just bring soooooo many other problems into the the already problem marriage. WHY stack the odds agaionst yourself, even more??
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Probably about as well as all other marriages work. Some good, Most bad. :dontknow:
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I was married to an egyptian but it didnt work out. But I see a lot of chinese girls/women going out with african/american men nowadays...I wonder what happens - do they stay together till the end
I have seen a few work out but I have seen more not make it. With the stigma the world puts on them, they have to be a really strong couple to make it last. I also think its just as hard on the kids and no one ever stops to think about how they feel about being biracial.
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they do work!!! i am white and i am happily married to a black man. going on 9 1/2 years now. we have 2 beautiful boys!! we don't ever seem to deal with too problems. life is great!! our families all love each other. we don't see color!! as long as you love each other and are good to each other, that's all that counts