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Title: you are responsible for your own life
Post by: alwaysinstyle on July 07, 2011, 07:58:53 pm
One of the biggest problems in society today is that people don"t want to take responsibiity for their lives.They want quick fixes.
society has trained them to believe that if they have problems,somebody else is responsible.Their parents.
Their spouses.The company that made the cigarettes or vehicleor junk food is responsible.
When we have a moment of privacy,we should take a breath,clear your head and just to repeat:
"i am responsible for my own life.If iam unhappy or unhealthy,i know i have the power to change that".
Just start becoming the person of excellence we have always known we could be.

agree or disagree???????????? :-
Title: Re: you are responsible for your own life
Post by: Kfickes on July 07, 2011, 09:35:26 pm
I 100% agree with you. Great statement by the way. I dont know if you have seen that television commerical where that lady has a hole in her throat, but she is talking about how she is addicted to cigarettes and its the tobacco companies fault for her addiction and the hole in her throat from smoking cigarettes. That is 100 percent bulls**t. Its her damn fault that she got addicted. Anyone with common sense knows that inhaling smoke is bad for you. Anyways if you dont like what is happening in your life change it. Only you yourself can make that change. No one else can do that for you. You cant change what has happened in the past, all you can do is learn from it but you can change your future.
Title: Re: you are responsible for your own life
Post by: L4v4 on July 07, 2011, 09:56:32 pm
I do agree with the statement, but hold on sir. It may be there fault for trying cigarettes, but addiction is powerful. It is hard to overcome, and since nicotine is in cigarettes, it is hard for the person to quit.

The company is out to make money, since it is a private company nothing can be done.

People who quit smoking can have relapse, due to the body being dependent on that nicotine. So don't call someone stupid because it's their fault for being addicts.

Don't discourage people.
Title: Re: you are responsible for your own life
Post by: Kfickes on July 07, 2011, 10:03:06 pm
I have smoked cigarettes before. I also quit cold turkey many years ago. Its mind over matter. I never called anyone stupid either.
Title: Re: you are responsible for your own life
Post by: alwaysinstyle on July 08, 2011, 04:42:50 am
so,when we really want something,change or something different in our life we definitely can get what we want!
 :dog:
Title: Re: you are responsible for your own life
Post by: tigerlilly01 on July 08, 2011, 05:28:22 am
You are very wise!  I agree completely.  People want to blame everyone else for their own mistakes in life ....
Title: Re: you are responsible for your own life
Post by: alwaysinstyle on July 08, 2011, 05:42:15 am
thank you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ;)
Title: Re: you are responsible for your own life
Post by: ButterflyWings on July 08, 2011, 07:45:30 am
I agree 100% people some in my family love to blame anything or anyone for their life it really makes me crazy..Especially when I am asked how are you so happy blah blah DUH cause I control my life and I take responsibility for all my action good ,bad and ugly!! thanks hun
Title: Re: you are responsible for your own life
Post by: alwaysinstyle on July 08, 2011, 07:57:33 am
 ;D
Title: Re: you are responsible for your own life
Post by: blackish0t on July 08, 2011, 08:17:43 am
I feel like every generation is becoming less and less self-sufficient and they don't actually want to be an adult and be responsible for anything. They rely on their parents who baby them and they rely on society as a whole to take care of their problems, but they never do anything about it. As for the smoking thing, I'm a smoker and it's my own damn fault. I know the risks, I know what's in them and I continue to smoke. There's enough information out there that ANYONE smoking, even young kids understand that cigarettes can kill them and/or cause other harmful, unpleasant effects. So the cigarette companies make cigarettes addictive, you can't blame them for trying to make money. You're trying to make money on this website aren't you? No one is forcing anyone to smoke cigarettes or become addicted and even when you are addicted, you can stop. It takes time, but you can. People can overcome drug addictions and alcohol addictions and no one ever says "That bar is at fault for so-and-so's alcoholism" or anything like that, so why is it the cigarette companies fault that people become addicted to cigarettes.
Title: Re: you are responsible for your own life
Post by: dsawan on July 08, 2011, 08:30:10 am
try paying rent by yourself with a medical condition and then get unemployed. you'll get an education there on survival.
Title: Re: you are responsible for your own life
Post by: smy0850 on July 08, 2011, 09:20:44 am
As far as society being lazy, I blame partly on the parents & partly on technology that allows us to sit on our butt all day and do nothing. Parents need to stop babying their kids & show them some tough love. Stop rescuing them & let them live w/consequences for their actions.  :binkybaby:
Title: Re: you are responsible for your own life
Post by: alwaysinstyle on July 08, 2011, 12:33:16 pm
i agree again!
Title: Re: you are responsible for your own life
Post by: madeara on July 09, 2011, 11:36:35 am
I completely agree.  So many children today think of themselves as being entitled.  Why parents enable children by handing them everything they want, I have no idea.
Title: Re: you are responsible for your own life
Post by: thomassina on July 11, 2011, 05:40:40 am
That's true in some sense but we are also our brother's keeper. We should lend a hand when it's needed and not just turn away when someone is in trouble :heart: We need to have a heart!
Title: Re: you are responsible for your own life
Post by: noirlupe on July 11, 2011, 06:20:02 am
Have you read the book The Secret.  We draw whatever happens to us by our thoughts,  what we think manifests itself in our lives.  I have found that to be true in my life.  So that makes us solely responsible for what happens we thought it and so it is.
Title: Re: you are responsible for your own life
Post by: thomassina on July 11, 2011, 06:30:43 am
Well I know the millions of kids who are abducted every year didn't think "Oh hey I think I'll be abducted today!" And the secret is there are situations we can't avoid and you maybe the only hero in someone's life. Did you watch the Diane Sawyer's interview with Jaycee Duggard? Maybe you should read her book.
Title: Re: you are responsible for your own life
Post by: workin4alivin on July 11, 2011, 09:59:16 am
i agree with mostly everything that has been said. 

i spent a lot of time on that little sentence, i was gona go into my life, my kids life, etc ... but the bottom line is we are all responsible for our own life.  tough love for the kids, at a certain point you have to kick 'em out like the mother bird does.  if they have to come home they have to PAY not live off the parents.  geeze, so many words ... i'm not gona bore ya'll with the details. 

Title: Re: you are responsible for your own life
Post by: lucky382001 on July 11, 2011, 11:20:21 am
That's true in some sense but we are also our brother's keeper. We should lend a hand when it's needed and not just turn away when someone is in trouble :heart: We need to have a heart!

Yes, but in the same sense we have to be careful that we don't become someone's crutch. The saying about giving a man a fish feeds him for one day but teach a man to fish feeds him forever (or something like that lol) comes to mind. Besides what happens to our loved ones when we die and they suddenly have to help themselves? I'd bet they won't think on us too kindly if we don't teach them how to live so they have more choices if nothing else.
Title: Re: you are responsible for your own life
Post by: thomassina on July 11, 2011, 02:34:55 pm
I know that in Proverbs 14:31 it says that "He who oppresses the poor shows contempt for their Maker, but he who is kind to the needy honors God." That's what I'm all about. You need to help the needy or you yourself will be needy. You always reap what you sow!  :wave: Can I get a witness?!
Title: Re: you are responsible for your own life
Post by: debranb on July 11, 2011, 02:48:41 pm
I agree that we have to help each other at times and I also think that when you help others you reap unexpected benefits.  Over the years, my husband and I have been foster parents to several children, we opened our doors and our hearts to those less fortunate.  We also helped many of our family members when they needed it, giving them a place to live or money when they were a little short.  In the past two years, circumstances have changed and it is my husband and I who need help now.   We have found that many of the same people who we helped years ago are now helping us out.  When we helped them ,we had no idea that one day we would be the ones who would need help, but we have found them to be generous and helpful.  You never know what life is going to "dish" out and sometimes we all need a little help.
Title: Re: you are responsible for your own life
Post by: jearen on July 11, 2011, 02:58:08 pm
I do agree with you that everyone is responsible for their life and can make their own choices healthy, or not. But some people are not as strong when it comes to addictions and this may be from how they were brought up in the world and the values they were taught. And you know now days younger people are influenced with drugs and alcohol earlier in life, and if the parents don't have open conversations with them, it will be harder for them to not become addicted later on in life. My parents both smoke and drank, so I started at a young age. But through life I have made better choices and was able to quit these habits. I will be the first to admit this was one of my hardest challenges. I cannot treat any one differently because of what they do ..because I have not walked in their shoes.
Title: Re: you are responsible for your own life
Post by: cubarican210 on July 11, 2011, 08:28:11 pm
alwaysinstyle I agree with what you said. Everyone is responsible for what goes on in their lives. Everyone has the power to make their life better. I'm tired of people blaming someone else for their misfortune. Where I'm from I hear that a lot. It's always because of you I wasn't able to finish college. Because of you I got fired from my job. Because because because. Those are all just excuses. People need to wake up and smell the coffee and basically grow up.
Title: Re: you are responsible for your own life
Post by: wittylance on July 11, 2011, 08:52:53 pm
I am just starting to get on my own I finished high school, moved out for about 8 months and decided to go back home it benefits me as well as my mother because I work full time and have a car she doesn't work because she is disabled and doesn't have a car and needs rides to the doctors and stuff.  I to believe we make our life what it is.  The desicions we make influence how things turn out later for instance if you get in trouble with the police well than it affects your life later down the road and than you regret it.  but you did it to your self, so even though I have not been out on my own very long my mother taught me to be responsible for my own actions and don't try to make excusses or blame others because you made the decision.
Title: Re: you are responsible for your own life
Post by: charmaine56 on July 16, 2011, 06:44:38 am
 :BangHead:
actually getting past the victim and blaming something for everything is a spiritual phase. an acknowledgement to get up and ove it.

and then you move to even more harder lesson.

getting over co dependancy, getting to unconditional love, learning unity, then finding out what that higher power really is and you find out Moses was right. I am or Yaweh is real.
Title: Re: you are responsible for your own life
Post by: thomassina on July 17, 2011, 03:39:17 pm
I help whoever I can when I can. In the lives we help, we may just be helping an angel. There's a true story about a girl who was contemplating suicide when she got home from school because she didn't think anyone cared. That morning when she got to school her teacher pat her on the shoulder and complemented her on her school work, she felt special and she didn't kill herself. That teacher unknowingly saved that girl's life. That teacher wasn' t going around saying " You are responsible for your own life!" I've heard of a pack of wolves huddling around a young boy who got lost in a snow storm, and by those wolves huddling together around that young boy, they kept him warm until help came. These wolves didn't care about whose life it was they saw a need and came to the rescue, don't tell me that these animals are now having more sense than humans who don't want to help their own. What has this world come to? I guess we need to give it to the wolves! 
Title: Re: you are responsible for your own life
Post by: chii2 on July 17, 2011, 05:46:44 pm
I agree with what this topic says because for me whose still in highschool, I know for a fact that what you do right now is your own fault and responsibility cuz seriously your the one making decisions in what you do so it pisses me fof when I hear people blame others when their the ones who caused it themselves. Its just stupid that they use someone else as their scapegoat so they wouldnt feel bad about themselves.
Title: Re: you are responsible for your own life
Post by: alwaysinstyle on July 22, 2011, 12:06:29 pm
see?
that easy and we talk about it a lot!
Title: Re: you are responsible for your own life
Post by: xavvier77 on July 22, 2011, 02:42:44 pm
i agree
Title: Re: you are responsible for your own life
Post by: superteacher on July 22, 2011, 03:16:56 pm
I have read that book as well and I agree a lot what the book says about the mirocals in life. Life is such a funny little game and everyone is trying to win. But for sure you are responsible for your own life.
Title: Re: you are responsible for your own life
Post by: shandana on July 22, 2011, 05:35:33 pm
You are totally right. People like to pass any bad issues or situations in their life off on someone else. I think its because it is easier to say "This is why my life sucks" , than to evaluate yourself ans make appropriate changes. You must remember that is is easier to do something to this effect than to look at the situation and realize that you had a hand in whatever happened or will happen. You can either sit back an have a woe is me party or see that you could have or can make the life you have as good or as bad as you like.YOU MUST PUT FORTH EFFORT OR NOTHING WILL EVER CHANGE!!!!!
Title: Re: you are responsible for your own life
Post by: thomassina on July 22, 2011, 08:28:30 pm
"Love your neighbor as yourself..." Who is your neighbor? Everybody!! During this heatwave all the local news is telling the viewers to check up on their elderly neighbors and the young. I hope everyone will heed this advice and not just be lovers of themselves. I watched Schindler's list in which one man was trying to save as many jews as he could from the death camps. I'm glad he wasn't a coward by saying "You are responsible for your own life."
Title: Re: you are responsible for your own life
Post by: rbudovec1947 on July 23, 2011, 07:52:35 am
I believe this:

We are only responsible for our own actions, but we are 100% responsible for those actions. So think before you act. Be proactive rather than reactive. Be mindful of your thoughts. Keep a tight reign on your emotions. Learn the lesson of right thinking and you will begin to get more control over your life. What is right thinking? To go with the flow. To live your life in accordance with Divine Law. To align your will with the Higher Will.

Then what is the best way to use our free will? To give it up to God. To surrender our will to God's Will. It is a paradox. Yet how many people that you know live their lives by the motto "not Thy will but My will be done". Maybe you know someone like that or maybe that describes you. How has that worked out for you or for them?

I also believe in the Serenity Prayer. You know the one:

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
Courage to change the things I can,
And wisdom to know the difference.

The keywords there are acceptance, courage and wisdom.

Another truth is live in present time. That's all you ever have. Let go of regrets. Forgive yourself for hurts you may have caused others and let go of grudges. Stop feeling sorry for yourself. The past cannot be changed. It is what it is. Learn from it and move on.

Don't waste your time with wishful thinking about the future either. The future has not yet arrived. There is only the now. Let go of expectations of the way you want things to be and turn them into preferences instead. That way you avoid disappointment if things don't work out the way you thought they would and you are pleasantly surprised if they do.

There is another thing. We must always look at motive. There is no act, in and of itself, that is either spiritual or non-spiritual. It is the motive of the person performing the act that makes the difference. To judge an action rightly, whether your own or someone else's, you must know the context of that action and the motive behind it. To do that, it is necessary to develop the power of discernment. There is the kiss of Judas and the kiss of Christ.

Do these things and the Law of Attraction will work in your favor. If you choose to do as you will, then you will learn through the school of hard knocks. Takes a little longer to achieve serenity that way but you'll gain some valuable experience along the way.   :peace:




Title: Re: you are responsible for your own life
Post by: charm2011 on July 24, 2011, 05:07:35 pm
I agreee some thrive on drama and other negative thoughs they honestly cant be happy but i do belive they can if they wanted to they can change that as well. :BangHead:i my self came from not a good life but i dont blame it on any one and i move on.  :thumbsup: 
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Post by: radlittlelady on July 25, 2011, 07:02:55 pm
amen!
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Post by: mjdoug03 on July 29, 2011, 09:53:23 am
Wow, way to get deep on the FC forum.  :)  I agree with you.