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Title: Marriage
Post by: KristieBum on September 18, 2011, 01:04:40 pm
What is everyones thoughts and views on marriage?
Title: Re: Marriage
Post by: AMBERTAYLOR31 on September 18, 2011, 01:34:03 pm
i am happily married.  i hated the idea of dating again,  if i ever became single again for any reason, i don't think i would ever date again.  i hate the idea of someone new having to learn me all over again.  i like the feeling of contentment that i have being married.  i like the commitment and i like having someone here with me everyday that i love and that is my best friend.
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Post by: KristieBum on September 18, 2011, 02:13:42 pm
I totally agree...But myself I am currently seperated. But I am one who takes marriage and there vows very seriously. I am against the word divorce. But when the other spouse cheats should divorce be an option?
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Post by: dreamyxo on September 18, 2011, 07:09:11 pm
I've never been married and don't plan on it.  I've never had the need or desire.
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Post by: jessbunny2317 on September 18, 2011, 09:16:08 pm
I feel that marriage is such a wonderful thing if used in the correct way. I feel that many people feel that marriage is something that can be taken lightly and keep doing it in their life. When you go up with you soul mate in front of the priest you swear to have to hold through sinkness and in health till death do us part. That is heavy and very serious. I have been with my husband and the father of my child for eleven years and i am only 26. We have been together since i was fifteen.
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Post by: cassandras08 on September 18, 2011, 10:42:05 pm
its and up and down road... but i love my husband...
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Post by: Kattieforbis on September 19, 2011, 07:20:21 am
I am planning my 2nd wedding this year. I'm soo excited to have my future with a man that truley loves me and appreciates me and takes care of me and loves my children as his own. He is an amazing man. But when I met him it was a fling and I told him I wouldn't ever get married again. WOW I was wrong! :heart:  We are gettting married 4/15/2012 I can't wait! :cat:
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Post by: articx on September 19, 2011, 08:55:45 am
I think marriage is unnecessary.
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Post by: geraldp1953 on September 19, 2011, 03:19:21 pm
I think marry is Great as long as you’re with the right person. I been married once and it don’t work out.
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Post by: mh874892 on September 20, 2011, 02:16:21 pm
I think marriage is taken way too lightly in today's society. People should not get married unless they fully intend to stay together forever. I married young, at 21, and I think I am an exception to most young people today. Lots tend to do it just to have fun, or to take care of a kid, among other reasons without really loving the person and wanting to be together for a lifetime. I fully intend to be with my best friend for the rest of our lives. The statistics are crazy high when referring to cheating and divorce, and it is so very scary to think that the world today does not take the institute of marriage seriously.

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I am against the word divorce. But when the other spouse cheats should divorce be an option?
I have a really hard time with this issue. Like you, I don't think divorce should be an option. But, what to do in extreme cases? I honestly do not know how I would handle cheating. But, I think that is one instance in which divorce should be considered. Once the trust is gone, it will be very difficult, if not impossible, for the marriage to succeed.
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Post by: thetop31 on September 20, 2011, 08:04:58 pm
marriage let us have a partner, creat another family
but also creat some problems,sometimes big problems.
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Post by: d1cheetah on September 20, 2011, 08:33:49 pm
I am planning my 2nd wedding this year. I'm soo excited to have my future with a man that truley loves me and appreciates me and takes care of me and loves my children as his own. He is an amazing man. But when I met him it was a fling and I told him I wouldn't ever get married again. WOW I was wrong! :heart:  We are gettting married 4/15/2012 I can't wait! :cat:

 Congratulations.  Look forward to your Special Day.   I have been married for 30 years as of last May.  We used to talk about growing old together and spending our later years rocking on the front porch looking out over the mountains.  Now we have done that, and she wants to move closer to our grandchildren before they grow up.  My only recommendation is to make sure you stay best friends with your spouse, no matter how pissed off you get at each other.  It will be a blessing down the road.
Title: Re: Marriage
Post by: AngelBaby234 on September 22, 2011, 06:05:32 pm
 :heart: my thoughts on marriage ? heres what I think I think marriage is a beautful thing that is shared by a man & a woman ! & is to be 50/50 & is enjoyed in many diff ways
Title: Re: Marriage
Post by: msbigbad17 on September 29, 2011, 05:57:16 pm
I have been married for 2 years now and find it to be a wonderful thing. My husband and I met 6 years ago for the first 2 years I was in a serious relationship with someone else. Then a few months after that relationship ended we began to date and did so for 7 months and then he asked me to marry him.  We were engaged and lived together for 2 years before we were married and I think that did us a world of good. Even though a lot of ppl where I'm from frown upon living together before you are married I think it should be a requirement before getting married! That is when you find out everything you loathe about someone! Leaving towels on the floor, folding clothes wrong, biting nails, all kinds of little habits that are usually excluded from a dating relationship. If you can survive each others faults and at the end of the day still truly love each other then you can get married!
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Post by: di1976 on September 29, 2011, 10:22:38 pm
Ok Ive been married for 4 months, I love it. Since I was a young girl I never wanted to get married. But I guess it's true what people say, " you will know when you meet the right one". And I have finally meet the right one.
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Post by: salomonpark on September 29, 2011, 10:46:33 pm
It's very important thing for men and women.........to show what is the life.... :dontknow: :dontknow: :dontknow: :dontknow:
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Post by: hammy12 on September 30, 2011, 02:55:44 pm
I feel marriage is unnecessary. Why do we need to have a piece of paper to say we are committed to another person. Maybe it's just another government scam to keep track of it servants.
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Post by: swv on September 30, 2011, 04:00:34 pm
I believe in marriage. Both people need to be committed to each other and know that it is not a fairy tale but work together through the ups and downs.
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Post by: bschumacher on September 30, 2011, 09:17:21 pm
I LOVE my husband!!!
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Post by: Pewbsicle on September 30, 2011, 11:00:53 pm
Love is weakness... nothing more -haha so cliche
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Post by: davidf938 on October 01, 2011, 01:17:32 pm
Marriage is the #1 cause of divorce in the entire world! That is my honest opinion. Just don't do it!
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Post by: BizELady on October 01, 2011, 07:39:13 pm
Marriage is the #1 cause of divorce in the entire world! That is my honest opinion. Just don't do it!

Actually FINANCE (MONEY ISSUES) is the #1 cause of divorce.
Title: Re: Marriage
Post by: FLWPWR1 on October 03, 2011, 07:43:07 am
Planning my wedding for May..I can't wait :thumbsup: :thumbsup: :heart: :heart: :heart: :heart: :heart:
Title: Re: Marriage
Post by: d1cheetah on October 03, 2011, 12:00:50 pm
Congratulations to you with your upcoming wedding.  I've been married for 30 years now, and yes, it's worth it.  You just have to learn how to train him.
Title: Re: Marriage
Post by: mttmrdrck on October 03, 2011, 12:04:26 pm
i think it is okay if with the right person, i found mine
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Post by: SmartyTru on October 13, 2011, 09:29:35 am
i am happily married.  i hated the idea of dating again,  if i ever became single again for any reason, i don't think i would ever date again.  i hate the idea of someone new having to learn me all over again.  i like the feeling of contentment that i have being married.  i like the commitment and i like having someone here with me everyday that i love and that is my best friend.
That is a GREAT reply!! ;D
Title: Re: Marriage
Post by: tzs on October 15, 2011, 06:40:55 pm
16 yrs, and I LOOOOVVVEEE IITTTT! It has its ups and downs(and its ups and downs, if you know what I mean Wink wink, nudge nudge? Say no more??:O) No, but seriously, all sex stops when you have a kid-just kidding, but really~It does slow to a freaking crawL! When you have so much more than sex, though, and you get creative, OMG.......LIFE IS SWEET!!! My husband and I have so much fun together, eventhough we don't get to do certain things we used to, its just pure joy to be around eachother(of course, not everyday. But thats the beauty of marriage! You ACCEPT the fact that good times and  bad times  come rolling along all of the time and you just go with it!) I have alot of empathy for my husband AND my daughter. I mean, do you know how hard it is to be a kid sometimes? It really sucks for her and my husband sometimes to have to deal with me and vice versa, but we love eachother so much, all angst and anger just dissapeares so fast, and is forgotten***, and how quickly joy ensues again!!!! Absolutely love my life, eventhough times get rough, we all look at eachother and say, "we will make it, It will be OK!" And thats it!!! :notworthy:


***Unless you need to pull out the "I told you so!!!" card~LOL!!!!!
Title: Re: Marriage
Post by: tigerlilly01 on October 17, 2011, 02:58:40 pm
I believe in marriage.  I LOVE being married to a faithful loving man.  I was married twice before to cheating, lying, abusive men and thought I would never get married again but I am a christian and I believe in marriage and think you should be committed and stay together however it does take 2 people working to keep it together. 
Title: Re: Marriage
Post by: Getinonthis on October 17, 2011, 08:04:49 pm
I'm happily married, and I wouldn't have it any other way. It has it's ups and downs.
But it also come with a lot of benefits as well as an opportunity to conserve more than
you would as a bachelor.
Title: Re: Marriage
Post by: SmartyTru on October 18, 2011, 06:01:42 am
I love being married can't wait to do it for the 4th time :BangHead:
Title: Re: Marriage
Post by: Graeth on October 19, 2011, 10:05:06 pm
If you feel it right for you, go for it.
And why try to control how other people do it?
The only way you should have a say in how marriage is conducted is if its your own marriage.
Other than that, people should just keep their bigoted thoughts to themselves.
Title: Re: Marriage
Post by: mardukblood2009 on October 19, 2011, 10:49:44 pm
Marriage works for some people but most it dosn't. I think if you are not a 100% sure you should not get married. GIRLS DON'T LET YOUR PARENTS TALK YOU INTO MARRIAGE BECAUSE THEY ARE NOT INTERESTED IN YOU GETTING MARRIED, THEY ARE JUST INTERESTED IN HOW IT LOOKS. :notworthy:
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Post by: dlanier7769 on October 20, 2011, 08:21:20 am
What is everyones thoughts and views on marriage?
i was married for 22 years when my husband passed away. it was a good marriage and wish he was still with us
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Post by: ghunter on October 20, 2011, 08:36:56 am
I have been marry for thirty-five years and I think marriage is great.  It is hard and you have to work at it and as long as you both be honest and talk to each other you will be find.  I love being marry.
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Post by: missbuckwild on November 24, 2011, 12:20:14 am
I was married for 13 years to a man that I loved very much.  I'm recently divorced and I never wanted my marriage to come to that point, but after years of being the only one willing to do anything to make it work and dealing with our issues, the only choice was to stay and live miserably or move on and be happy so that's what i did.  I couldn't be with someone who didn't love me or put effort into wanting to be my husband anymore!
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Post by: willisbruskie1985 on November 24, 2011, 12:50:31 am
I am engaged. We plan on getting married in about a year and a half. Cant wait, dont exactly know the details. We havent talked about the details too much, We havent told many people either. Boy will people be surprised or what! lol  ;D
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Post by: hustle_like_a_lady on November 25, 2011, 10:21:17 am
What is everyones thoughts and views on marriage?

Marriage has transformed into a beautiful thing! What once was about Monetary Benefit and Reproduction is finally about Connecting to others. I'm for marriages/civil unions, and hope one day I'll find my own personal Hubby!  ;)
Title: Re: Marriage
Post by: Graeth on November 25, 2011, 06:03:00 pm
Whatever makes you happy.
But if you don't want ot spend 50K on something thats going to shorten your life and offers no enjoyment, why bother filling someone elses pockets?

"If you feel it right for you, go for it.
And why try to control how other people do it?
The only way you should have a say in how marriage is conducted is if its your own marriage.
Other than that, people should just keep their bigoted thoughts to themselves."
Title: Re: Marriage
Post by: willisbruskie1985 on November 26, 2011, 07:01:04 pm
Im 20 and cant wait to get married. Im engaged right now, and i think its gonna be the best thing ever. I know most guys dont wanna get "tied down" but my fiance is the kind of person who wants to go to all the parties the drinkin parties and the bonfires. Could it be any stranger? a hick and a city girl.. she hates the city and thinks country people are neat. Goin muddin and goin in the snow and burying the truck just to get pulled out by a big truck and she loves it all. Shes perfect.
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Post by: astewart5 on November 26, 2011, 09:53:59 pm
I have been married. I will tell you this marriage is not easy. It takes two to make it and two to break it. It is really hard to find someone compatiable. People use divorce as an easy way out instead of fixing the problems. And it also seems people do not have many morals now a days. I give kuddos to those celebrating the big 25 and up in years of marriage.
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Post by: quietpal on November 26, 2011, 10:26:23 pm
I love being married, however I don't feel that everyone is supposed to be. So far, all the good in my relationship has outweighed all the bad, so I wouldn't trade it for anything.
Title: Re: Marriage
Post by: Graeth on November 27, 2011, 01:40:20 am
I think the ease of the marriage is more dependent on the compatibility of the two people.
There are a rare few that go together so well and never have any internal strife.
Very few people are lucky enough to find true love, even fewer are lucky enough to keep it.


Also---can't believe no one has done this yet: "MAHWAGE. MAHWAGE IS WOT BWINGS US TOGEDER TOODAY"



The question is: who gets the right to determine what marriage entails?
Title: Re: Marriage
Post by: d1cheetah on November 27, 2011, 02:05:14 pm
I get that right (with my wife's permission of course.  and if she doesn't agree, I ask my girlfriends...   just kidding) marriage is an agreement to try and make the rest of your life work together with the lucky spouse.  It takes commitment, patience, forgiveness, and most of all experience.  When the two of you can no longer see yourselves apart from each other, and have raised a family together, then and only then have you passed the first test...   the commitment to one another and your family.  Now comes the hardest part.  Can you still make each other laugh when you are growing older, dealing with wrinkles and grey hairs, rocking on the proverbial porch with one another.  If you look back and say we enjoyed the  ride together, the ups and downs, and the setbacks, then you might qualify to say what marriage entails.  I always heard my grandparents were the smartest people to ask questions to...   now I understand why.    
Title: Re: Marriage
Post by: gaylasue on November 29, 2011, 06:28:51 am
I've been married 32 years.  It's a lot of give and take.
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Post by: sarabtrayior on December 01, 2011, 06:57:16 am
Marriage is full of hills and valleys, people get divorced in the valley, never getting to the next FANTASTIC hill... I've been married 31 years and have seen lots and lots of valleys, but also, lots and lots of hills. :heart: :heart: :heart:
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Post by: MySavings4U on December 01, 2011, 08:11:51 am
If you feel it right for you, go for it.
And why try to control how other people do it?
The only way you should have a say in how marriage is conducted is if its your own marriage.
Other than that, people should just keep their bigoted thoughts to themselves.

So true, keep others out...... Married now for 23 years and loving it.
Title: Re: Marriage
Post by: Cuppycake on December 01, 2011, 08:17:55 am
i am happily married.  i hated the idea of dating again,  if i ever became single again for any reason, i don't think i would ever date again.  i hate the idea of someone new having to learn me all over again.  i like the feeling of contentment that i have being married.  i like the commitment and i like having someone here with me everyday that i love and that is my best friend.
I couldn't agree more! I don't know what I would do without my darling husband! No one could ever take his place !
Title: Re: Marriage
Post by: mall0271 on December 19, 2011, 08:36:44 pm
I was married for 8 years. I got married at 25. I thought I knew what I was doing. At the end, I was holding on by a string. I love the idea of marriage. It is a beautiful thing when you find the right person. I will get married again. But this time I will take my time and get to know the person.  :peace:
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Post by: mlhigby on December 21, 2011, 11:06:39 pm
What is everyones thoughts and views on marriage?

I have been married for two years now and i love it i was married once befor but it was a joke we were married for less then a month and he was already sleeping around but the man i am with now has been my best friend for years he was the best man at my first wedding he should for been the one i married the first time but i was young and stupid it took me ten years to realize the my best friend was my soule mate not his friend funny how things work out.