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Discussion Boards => Off-Topic => Topic started by: cateyes1 on November 05, 2011, 11:10:01 am
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Last year I loaned a friend of mine money, they have since been paying me back a fair amount each month. we recently got into an argument and when I got the check this month it was for a 1 dollar with a smiley face on the envelope....how would you take that?...Mind you over the years I have bent over backwards for this person....thank you :BangHead:
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It sounds like your friend has unresolved issues with you and is being a jerk. Whether you realize it or not it was probably a mistake to do too much for your friend...including...loaning them money. I would probably contact the person to find out how to resolve the negative feelings to salvage the friendship. Then you might be able to find out what their intentions are...where paying you back...is concerned.
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It sounds like your friend has unresolved issues with you and is being a jerk. Whether you realize it or not it was probably a mistake to do too much for your friend...including...loaning them money. I would probably contact the person to find out how to resolve the negative feelings to salvage the friendship. Then you might be able to find out what their intentions are...where paying you back...is concerned.
Thank you Sherry, i'd like to leave it as they are a jerk!!
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At least the dollar shows they still obligate the debt and are not dismissing it completely, although they are being petty about it and revealing that the argument influenced their honor.
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Not only a jerk, but your friend also is a very childish person in my opinion. ::)
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If you really want to save this friendship, then just forgive the rest of the loan. Mixing relationships/money weather it be family/friend is just not a good idea. It's almost better to just give them the money and forget it. The borrower is always slave to the lender.
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If you really want to save this friendship, then just forgive the rest of the loan. Mixing relationships/money weather it be family/friend is just not a good idea. It's almost better to just give them the money and forget it. The borrower is always slave to the lender.
I agree, IF you want to save the friendship. If the loan is for a large amount, the friend's behavior is completely unacceptable to you, or you simply don't want to be friends anymore, then go after the money. Be very civil at first, but make sure you are documenting everything in the case that this ends up in court (again I don't know how much $ we are talking about) Really it's up to you. Is this a friend worth keeping?
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I would give the advice about loaning money to family and friends is never a good idea becasue it never ends well especailly if its for a large amount. $10 bucks here or there is one thing but when it starts going into hundred or more it can become ugly. If this friend has been paying for over a year it was a large amount I would say. But money can always comes between freinds. It also sound like he or she is being sarcatic, if you have been friends for a while you might want to work it out. I am sorry this is happening to you but try to talk to your friend and they realize they still owe you so thats good.
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Last year I loaned a friend of mine money, they have since been paying me back a fair amount each month. we recently got into an argument and when I got the check this month it was for a 1 dollar with a smiley face on the envelope....how would you take that?...Mind you over the years I have bent over backwards for this person....thank you :BangHead:
It's either a harmless joke or bitter malice or something in between.
There's not much I can say otherwise without sufficient details.
How deep are you guys?
How bad is the argument relative to your entire friendship and past arguments, if any?
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your friend is trying to let you know that she thinks she's right about whatever your aRGUMENT WAS ABOUT....wait until next month to see what happens, and if it's a dollar again, talk to them about it.
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I hope you have the loan agreement in writing and have clearly laid out terms of the agreement. If they stop paying I'd take them to court. And you should never loan them money or do any favors for them again if they are going to act like that. They have to learn it's not good to bite the hand that feeds them.
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I'd follow up & find out what is the deal with your friend. Don't let it hang in the air too long. Try to make up w/your friend so you leave this negative issue behind you. :thumbsup:
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Frame it hang it on the wall then forget about the whole thing.
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It's just their way of having the last word in the argument. I have to agree with what someone else said. Money should be given away without any thought of return. Never co-sign for anybody, especially family and friends. If someone comes to me for financial help and I have it, then I give it in that spirit, without expecting anything back. Sometimes it comes back and sometimes it doesn't. I have a saying about money that I've always tried to live by: Money only has 2 redeemable qualities, either to further the work of God, or to help someone who needs help (charity). Otherwise, money is just a means to an end....it's necessary to live.
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Sounds like your friend is just being obnoxious. It's not a good idea to loan friends money unless you don't have a problem with not getting back.