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Title: Do you believe once a cheat ALWAYS a cheat?
Post by: cateyes1 on November 15, 2011, 08:22:23 am
I think if someone has it in them to cheat in the first place they will continue to do so, what do you think?  :dontknow:
Title: Re: Do you believe once a cheat ALWAYS a cheat?
Post by: mc1962 on November 15, 2011, 09:01:25 am
It has been said that a zebra cannot change the color of their stipes but I think that everyone is worth a second chance.  But that is only my opinion. ::)
Title: Re: Do you believe once a cheat ALWAYS a cheat?
Post by: geraldp1953 on November 15, 2011, 09:30:38 am
In most cases if someone cheat once they will do it again.
Title: Re: Do you believe once a cheat ALWAYS a cheat?
Post by: samrhett2 on November 15, 2011, 09:42:17 am
I believe once a cheat, much more likely to be a cheat.  And unfortunately today it seems most people must be cause that is all we hear about.
Title: Re: Do you believe once a cheat ALWAYS a cheat?
Post by: angsilva2000 on November 15, 2011, 10:34:15 am
I soo believe once a cheat always a cheat. :thumbsup: they never straighten up.
Title: Re: Do you believe once a cheat ALWAYS a cheat?
Post by: webmasterdn on November 15, 2011, 10:39:58 am
If you cheat hand have a conscience you did something wrong, you won't do it. But if you don't care the first time you did and you didn't get caught obviously you will keep on doing it again.
Title: Re: Do you believe once a cheat ALWAYS a cheat?
Post by: trucktina on November 15, 2011, 10:44:55 am
But if you don't care the first time you did and you didn't get caught obviously you will keep on doing it again.

That's possible. But what about the people who cheat, get caught, then do it again?
Title: Re: Do you believe once a cheat ALWAYS a cheat?
Post by: dreamyxo on November 15, 2011, 09:03:59 pm
No I don't and I can say this from personal experience.  Some people can learn from their mistakes.
Title: Re: Do you believe once a cheat ALWAYS a cheat?
Post by: cloudsoup on November 15, 2011, 09:28:08 pm
the person has to truly want to change themselves,
which only comes from making a conscious decision
to not be a scumbag.


some actually can, the rest never will...
Title: Re: Do you believe once a cheat ALWAYS a cheat?
Post by: Abrupt on November 15, 2011, 09:51:40 pm
Even if they don't again, can one truly develop the trust in the person again or is one just tormenting themselves with the hope of fidelity?  Also one must be able to guarantee that they will not hold resentments or hostilities regarding the matter to even begin to consider the question or otherwise it will be a worthless endeavor. 
Title: Re: Do you believe once a cheat ALWAYS a cheat?
Post by: marciaenglish on November 15, 2011, 11:28:08 pm
Of course!  Especially if they get by with it!!   :o
Title: Re: Do you believe once a cheat ALWAYS a cheat?
Post by: raven1114 on November 16, 2011, 12:00:59 am
I think it depends on the reasons why the person cheated.
Title: Re: Do you believe once a cheat ALWAYS a cheat?
Post by: articx on November 16, 2011, 06:04:26 am
No. If a person has cheated once, it does not mean they will continue to do it. They may do it again, or they may stop.
Title: Re: Do you believe once a cheat ALWAYS a cheat?
Post by: kqa on November 16, 2011, 08:20:07 am
I believe that in most cases, once a cheater, always a cheater.
Title: Re: Do you believe once a cheat ALWAYS a cheat?
Post by: queenofnines on November 16, 2011, 09:18:23 am
No, that would be ridiculous to assume that because a person does something once, they are destined to continue down a similar path for the rest of their lives.  Not all people and situations are the same.
Title: Re: Do you believe once a cheat ALWAYS a cheat?
Post by: ghunter on November 16, 2011, 09:40:11 am
Yes, I believe once a cheat always a cheat.  Some try to change, but if they don't ask God to change them than they won't change.  I believe if you ask God to change you and you really beleive he can then anything is possible with God.
Title: Re: Do you believe once a cheat ALWAYS a cheat?
Post by: loriecampbell on November 16, 2011, 10:08:34 am
People make mistakes. Now, if someone cheated on me more than once that's a different story.  :fish:
Title: Re: Do you believe once a cheat ALWAYS a cheat?
Post by: annettefayeroach on November 16, 2011, 10:19:12 am
I so believe once a cheat always a cheat. :crybaby2:
Title: Re: Do you believe once a cheat ALWAYS a cheat?
Post by: sgluckadoo on November 16, 2011, 11:52:33 am
I dont in all cases. I think sometimes there are situations where a person cheats (not okay!) but it is limited to that time only.
Title: Re: Do you believe once a cheat ALWAYS a cheat?
Post by: derrick12480 on November 16, 2011, 12:04:39 pm
Once a cheat always a cheat? For the most part yes. In very slim circumstances if it was just a mistake than maybe the person isn't. But nobody should put themselves in those situations where it could happen in the first place.
Title: Re: Do you believe once a cheat ALWAYS a cheat?
Post by: eaparicio on November 16, 2011, 01:12:03 pm
yes
Title: Re: Do you believe once a cheat ALWAYS a cheat?
Post by: AFree360 on November 16, 2011, 02:42:00 pm
Come on, I mean there's something called "benefit of the doubt" and its pricetag is free so would it hrt to give it?..    :icon_rr:
Title: Re: Do you believe once a cheat ALWAYS a cheat?
Post by: cateyes1 on November 17, 2011, 04:26:19 am
No. If a person has cheated once, it does not mean they will continue to do it. They may do it again, or they may stop.

My bet is on...they do it AGAIN!!!!!!
Title: Re: Do you believe once a cheat ALWAYS a cheat?
Post by: tantricia44 on November 17, 2011, 05:21:29 am
I agree with the majority of the responses. Once a cheat, always a cheat! I tried to forgive once but I couldn't get the negative thoughts in my mind & the fear that he'd do it again. So, in the end I broke up with him. The funny thing is after I did that I felt light & free. The only thing that I was going to miss was his dog. LoL..... I'd never forget that look on his face as hugged & kissed his dog good bye for the last time! Just like a spouse beater, they promise they won't do it again but they do. So, my motto is, there is no 3 strikes in trying to fix a relationship. Once you cheat on me, you're out the door & it's  over forever! >:(
Title: Re: Do you believe once a cheat ALWAYS a cheat?
Post by: SweetVengenz on November 17, 2011, 05:35:39 am
So far, that's the experience I've had with cheaters...once a cheat always a cheat! There may be some people who find the "right" one and settle down, but the majority never change.
Title: Re: Do you believe once a cheat ALWAYS a cheat?
Post by: acarswell on November 17, 2011, 06:29:17 am
In a lot of cases yes once a cheat always a cheat. But I believe you shouldnt group everyone together like that. Circumstances play a big role a lot of times. I think that some people who cheat once wont do it again. It all depends on the person and the reason.  Besides who are we to judge
Title: Re: Do you believe once a cheat ALWAYS a cheat?
Post by: amstewart on November 17, 2011, 06:42:36 am
As Dr. Phil likes to say, "The best predictor of future behaviors is past behaviors."  (or something like that)
I think ALWAYS is the wrong word, more like usually or typically.  Some people do learn from mistakes and grow.
If Christ took the same stance with us we would all be forever condemned and not saved.  There is always room for repentance and grace.
It really depends on the person and their character.
It is disturbing that all you hear about is infidelity.  What message does that send to the regular people when celebrities are never satisfied, even when they are with what seem to be the most beautiful/desirable people.
Why can't we be committed and happy with the ones we have chosen to spend our lives with.  There's more to life than sex!
Title: Re: Do you believe once a cheat ALWAYS a cheat?
Post by: cateyes1 on February 16, 2012, 05:17:38 am
If you cheat hand have a conscience you did something wrong, you won't do it. But if you don't care the first time you did and you didn't get caught obviously you will keep on doing it again.


But how can one even have a conscience if they cheat in the first place  ???
Title: Re: Do you believe once a cheat ALWAYS a cheat?
Post by: annettefayeroach on February 16, 2012, 05:37:03 am
I think once a cheater always a cheater.
Title: Re: Do you believe once a cheat ALWAYS a cheat?
Post by: plennis on February 16, 2012, 07:36:19 am
I think some people will cheat, then their conscious will eat them up and they will not cheat again. 
Title: Re: Do you believe once a cheat ALWAYS a cheat?
Post by: maxinmotion on February 16, 2012, 07:46:00 am
Once a cheat always a cheat, in my opinion if someone cheat once and guilt sets in when they get back home they may never do it again. On the other hand, if they are  having problems at home and just need an out, they may never stop cheating.
Title: Re: Do you believe once a cheat ALWAYS a cheat?
Post by: marcee30 on February 16, 2012, 07:58:26 am
I kind of have conflicting feelings about cheaters...I do feel if they cheat they will always cheat but maybe that's just with a person they don't really care about. When they get with someone they actually do care about they might not continue to do that. I do believe in giving seconds chances but definitely not after that second time
Title: Re: Do you believe once a cheat ALWAYS a cheat?
Post by: ghunter on February 16, 2012, 07:59:20 am
Yes, I do but I agree everyone deserves a second change also, but if you cheat again then no.  They will have to earn my trust again and that will take some time.
Title: Re: Do you believe once a cheat ALWAYS a cheat?
Post by: spaingrape on February 16, 2012, 09:41:00 am
Slippery slope, lying, cheating, and stealing. Do it once and you're bound to start doing repeating it as it benefits you. You will get caught.
Title: Re: Do you believe once a cheat ALWAYS a cheat?
Post by: rrflem4 on February 16, 2012, 09:49:45 am
I would have to say yes, once someone cheats, it's more likely they'll do it again. However,  I'm sure there are rare cases in which a person can will change their ways. It's possible anyway.

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Title: Re: Do you believe once a cheat ALWAYS a cheat?
Post by: scook3 on February 16, 2012, 10:12:29 am
Some people are always a cheat then their are those that seen it was a big mistake and do not want a repeat. Guess it falls back on the old saying did you learn anything from it? And if they seen how it hurt everyone then they will not want to make that mistake again. :-
Title: Re: Do you believe once a cheat ALWAYS a cheat?
Post by: devideddi on February 16, 2012, 12:30:04 pm
yes pretty much
Title: Re: Do you believe once a cheat ALWAYS a cheat?
Post by: donnitab on February 16, 2012, 01:31:13 pm
Once a cheat always a cheat holds true for most people but I believe people sometimes just make a mistake.