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Title: Parents valuing boys over girls.... what do you think?
Post by: leung1245 on January 01, 2012, 07:59:17 pm
My mother has a favorite child, and it is NOT me (I'm the eldest)... it's my brother and everyone KNOWS it but we don't talk about it to my mom because she would deny it. Let's face it... many cultures in the world values boys more than girls... which is so wrong!!!
Title: Re: Parents valuing boys over girls.... what do you think?
Post by: cloudsoup on January 01, 2012, 08:48:29 pm
maybe he's her favorite for other reasons, not just
because he's the boy. what is your relationship like
with her? if it's strained, maybe she finds him easier
to get along with :dontknow: not necessarily that
she favors him over you...

basing favoritism solely on gender is silly, in my opinion.
are you american?? i've never known american culture
to favor one over the other, which is why i ask.
Title: Re: Parents valuing boys over girls.... what do you think?
Post by: candyterrius on January 01, 2012, 08:53:32 pm
That's because boys are expected to carry on with the family lineage.
Title: Re: Parents valuing boys over girls.... what do you think?
Post by: tvcrawford on January 01, 2012, 09:11:48 pm
Of course. I think this is in most parenting situations; however the same can be said for parents which give leeway and have lesser expectations for there daughters.
Title: Re: Parents valuing boys over girls.... what do you think?
Post by: vicogden on January 02, 2012, 05:21:20 am
I don't think any child should be "valued" over another... I think they should all be "loved", and equally at that.  I have one girl and two boys and love them each for their individual qualities...
Title: Re: Parents valuing boys over girls.... what do you think?
Post by: yosav on January 02, 2012, 05:48:53 am
i think parents want both, if they have a son, then they would want a daughter, but i agree it seems that if they dont have kids yet they tend to want a boy
Title: Re: Parents valuing boys over girls.... what do you think?
Post by: mrisha on January 02, 2012, 06:22:32 am
I didn't think intelligent people still did that sort of thing.  They send the wrong type of messages to their female offspring that they aren't worthy.  That is really sad and hurtful to the receiver of such treatment.
Title: Re: Parents valuing boys over girls.... what do you think?
Post by: bigfoot951 on January 02, 2012, 07:42:48 am
I don't know what country you are living in, but I have never seen such a thing.  Any parent that values one child over another is just crazy and that falls into it's own category.  I highly doubt that it has anything to do with the sex of the kids.  Besides I bet you aren't seeing this clearly and your mother doesn't really value your brother over you.
Title: Re: Parents valuing boys over girls.... what do you think?
Post by: sarabtrayior on January 02, 2012, 12:54:13 pm
I think that's nuts, I prayed for a girl, and thank God, I got a girl and I am/was thrilled. She just got married, so I now have a son too...
Title: Re: Parents valuing boys over girls.... what do you think?
Post by: dreamyxo on January 02, 2012, 06:09:00 pm
In India and China there is a clear preference for boys.
Title: Re: Parents valuing boys over girls.... what do you think?
Post by: kawmeenar on January 02, 2012, 09:51:40 pm
I've never really seen that where I'm from. I think it may depend solely on the specific circumstances. In my personal experience, the parents seem to favor the younger one though, but that's just me ahah
Title: Re: Parents valuing boys over girls.... what do you think?
Post by: 35klye on January 02, 2012, 09:53:31 pm
hes not the favorite because hes a boy, but because hes the youngest. my mom does the same and everyone sees it, even my dad. whenever i tell her she does that she yells at me, its total bs
Title: Re: Parents valuing boys over girls.... what do you think?
Post by: leung1245 on January 06, 2012, 07:18:23 pm
I'm Chinese... does that answer all of your questions about my culture??
Plain and simple... Chinese people value boys over girls... PERIOD!!
Title: Re: Parents valuing boys over girls.... what do you think?
Post by: mardukblood2009 on January 06, 2012, 08:04:10 pm
It depends on the parent and the child. Did you ever hear the sayings " Daddy's little girl " or " Mama's boy, " well these saying reign true. It's just something you have to deal with.
Title: Re: Parents valuing boys over girls.... what do you think?
Post by: dodgers16 on January 07, 2012, 12:05:23 am
    I don't think parents should value there children by female or male...your children should be valued equally!!!  :bootyshake:
Title: Re: Parents valuing boys over girls.... what do you think?
Post by: mcbrg626 on January 07, 2012, 06:12:00 am
Well, i don't know about parents valuing boys over girls, because my parents had two boys. However, I do notice that my mom can't be happy and get along with both of her sons at the same times. She either hates my brother and loves me or hates me and loves my brother. I don't know if anybody elses parents are like mine.
Title: Re: Parents valuing boys over girls.... what do you think?
Post by: lorettahknox on January 07, 2012, 10:30:52 am
Each child is precious beyond what I can communicate. I cannot say how much my heart goes out to people who experience what is to me horrible and abusive. People do not know what it does to a child who is in effect negated, practically made a non-entity by these archaic practices. It effects everything about the person's self worth. A child must be valued and loved and nurtured to thrive. To live without the most basic affections from a parent is horrible and painful. Cultural or not this is child abuse and must be stamped out. All children must be valued because all children are valuable. :'( :'( :'(