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Title: single married or living together
Post by: aggie49 on January 06, 2012, 10:10:45 am
we live together and have no plans of getting married anytime soon we have a great relationship we've been together for 8 years now and never have a fight or disagreement so why change  it
Title: Re: single married or living together
Post by: mh874892 on January 06, 2012, 11:28:52 am
I have been married for almost a year and a half. We dated for about 3 years before that, and stayed together most of that time. We didn't technically live together (my parents would have freaked out), but I do consider it living together since I stayed with him every chance I could. I think it is important to take that step if you plan on being together for real. It is important to see if you can tolerate all the little habits and the way the other person lives.
Title: Re: single married or living together
Post by: LAkathi on January 06, 2012, 11:42:26 am
Married. The only way I would have it. If he loves me enough to live with me, he loves me enough to live with me with the blessings of marriage.
Title: Re: single married or living together
Post by: squirrelgirl44 on January 06, 2012, 01:43:05 pm
I am divorced. I was married for about 8 years, we only dated for about a month before living together and then maybe another 3 months before getting married.

I have been with my current boyfriend for 2.5 years. We dated over a year before moving in together. No plans of marriage at this time.
Title: Re: single married or living together
Post by: dmathiss on January 06, 2012, 01:49:48 pm
I have been happily married since May 28, 2010. Me and the love of my life were dating for about 3 months when we decided that marriage was a great idea. Next May will be our second anniversary and I don't regret it one bit. My husband is the greatest husband in the world. I guess it's up to the person what's right for them. As long as your happy doesn't matter if your married or living together.
Title: Re: single married or living together
Post by: queenofnines on January 06, 2012, 02:55:04 pm
Whatever works for you, more power to you.  However, there are numerous legal benefits with marriage.
Title: Re: single married or living together
Post by: torch71 on January 06, 2012, 05:35:13 pm
Whatever works for you, more power to you.  However, there are numerous legal benefits with marriage.

I agree, numerous legal benefits. 
Title: Re: single married or living together
Post by: gingerbug56 on January 06, 2012, 05:52:26 pm
im married and love it
Title: Re: single married or living together
Post by: mrsbluesmith on January 06, 2012, 06:42:33 pm
I'm married.  We dated for a yr 1/2 before we got married and have been together for 6 yrs now.
Title: Re: single married or living together
Post by: dreamyxo on January 06, 2012, 07:32:42 pm
I've "lived in sin" with two boyfriends before.  My bf lives in another state I don't plan on that changing and I never plan on getting married. 
Title: Re: single married or living together
Post by: ablueblood100 on January 06, 2012, 11:13:04 pm
I have been married 17 years.   I lived with my parents prior to marriage.  My husband and I dated for about 2.5 years before we got married.
Title: Re: single married or living together
Post by: tjung10 on January 07, 2012, 04:59:47 am
My wife and I, will be celebrating our 25th Ann. this April!
Title: Re: single married or living together
Post by: Cuppycake on January 07, 2012, 05:08:45 am
we live together and have no plans of getting married anytime soon we have a great relationship we've been together for 8 years now and never have a fight or disagreement so why change  it
Sure. Why would you want the tax breaks or other benefits any way.
Title: Re: single married or living together
Post by: dwggs on January 07, 2012, 05:18:22 am
Living Together --- Been together 9 years this March ... "If it aint broke - don't fix it"
Title: Re: single married or living together
Post by: mcbrg626 on January 07, 2012, 06:05:14 am
My girlfriend and I have been together for 5 years. Although we are engaged we really don't plan on having a wedding for a while yet. We basically live together, so marriage won't really change anything.
Title: Re: single married or living together
Post by: Cuppycake on January 07, 2012, 06:27:13 am
My girlfriend and I have been together for 5 years. Although we are engaged we really don't plan on having a wedding for a while yet. We basically live together, so marriage won't really change anything.
It does change things. Don't kid yourself. My husband and were together for 5 years living together for 4 of those years before getting married and things do change. But for us it changed for the better. There is just something about saying I chose you for all of my life and letting the whole world know it that really makes you both know and feel how much love you have for each other.
Title: Re: single married or living together
Post by: lorettahknox on January 07, 2012, 09:19:00 am
NEWSFLASH!!!!!!!!!! Depending on what state you are in you are married. I live in Pennsylvania and if you have lived together for eight years it is legally considered a common law marriage with all the rights of a legal union taking effect after seven years. Welcome to wedded bliss! Check your states laws. :) :) :)
Title: Re: single married or living together
Post by: ljrjess69 on January 07, 2012, 09:37:04 am
married for 25 years and 2 kids, and 3 indoor cats,,cant wait for the kids to permently be moved out
Title: Re: single married or living together
Post by: amstewart on January 07, 2012, 11:05:02 am
I've been married for 12 years.  We have been together for 18 years though, 5 years dating, 1 year engagement.
It get better with time as we learn, grow, and mature into better adults and parents.  Can't imagine my life without him!
Title: Re: single married or living together
Post by: ckaliszewski on January 07, 2012, 08:11:48 pm
I am living with my partner and we've been together almost three years. I never plan on getting married (both weddings and divorces are too expensive, so why risk it?)
Title: Re: single married or living together
Post by: PMZ908 on January 07, 2012, 08:16:24 pm
me and my girlfriend been together since high school but we have been living with each other 8 years.
Title: Re: single married or living together
Post by: letsearn on January 07, 2012, 08:25:13 pm
Have been dating since the last 10 yrs and now my BF has had enough of me as his girlfriend ;), I guess
He wants us to get married ASAP :heart:
Title: Re: single married or living together
Post by: jjhoney25 on January 07, 2012, 09:04:44 pm
LIVING TOGETHER ..BEEN TOGETHER FOR 7 YRS :thumbsup: :thumbsup: :thumbsup: :thumbsup:
Title: Re: single married or living together
Post by: springsgardner on January 07, 2012, 10:18:08 pm
Married. WE didn't move in together until we were married.
Title: Re: single married or living together
Post by: mrstina08 on January 09, 2012, 10:39:14 am
Im am married. I have been for 8yrs now. Today I can say that I am happily married. There was a lot of growing up and understanding that had to take place. Before I got married my boyfriend and I lived together for 10yrs. He is now my husband.If I could go back and change the time I would because. I wanted to get married ealier. We kept putting it off and putting it off. It ended up being 10yrs. Thats alot of time to give of yourself to anyone. I am much older now. I know who I am and what I want. I value my life and my time. By no means necessary Im not trying  to tell anyone how to live there lives but I will say this. If a man loves you and  you two desire and agree to live together without getting married. Kudos to you but dont wait for a man to marry you. If he says he loves you and you love him. If you desire to be married.Live life for today because tomorrow is not promised and tomorrow has its own problems and  worries. Just worry about today. Let him put a RING on it. REAL TALK.
Title: Re: single married or living together
Post by: lynnc35 on January 09, 2012, 10:44:23 am
All of my relationships end at 8 years. I got married in the last one, and woe be it, he pulled the biggest con on me ever. So make sure it is what you want if you are going to do it.
Title: Re: single married or living together
Post by: jkunert on January 09, 2012, 09:27:58 pm
I am single and it sucks. i have been looking 6 yrs and having a hard time.   :BangHead: :BangHead: :BangHead:



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Title: Re: single married or living together
Post by: torch71 on January 10, 2012, 11:20:44 pm
I am living with my partner and we've been together almost three years. I never plan on getting married (both weddings and divorces are too expensive, so why risk it?)

LOL, I agree!  Lived together for 2 1/2 years, married for 15 now divorced!
Title: Re: single married or living together
Post by: amstewart on January 11, 2012, 06:50:46 am
My husband and I dated for 5 years before getting engaged, then had a 1 year engagement before getting married.  We lived together for 3 years of that time.  I come from a divorced family and thought that "trying out" the relationship before saying I do was a good idea.  We wanted to make sure we were going to be able to live together before going through with a wedding and family.  We have been together for 18 years now, married for 12.
Title: Re: single married or living together
Post by: dlennie on January 11, 2012, 07:05:17 am
Been married, widowed, married, divorced and married. And I am only 40! lol Married my current husband twice. And so glad for it!
Title: Re: single married or living together
Post by: macash11 on January 11, 2012, 07:13:00 am
I am a single mother and am currently seeing a guy and my aunt loves him so she asked him to move in...now we constantly argue so Im starting to change my mind about this ???
Title: Re: single married or living together
Post by: diala84 on January 11, 2012, 09:57:58 am
Me and my boyfriend were together over 6 years (5 years living together) and a lot of people would ask us about getting married. To me weddings always sounded terrible. It was a day to spend tons of money to impress and entertain your guests rather than a actually spend it together as a couple. It looked very stressful and hectic and honestly I had no desire to get married but then we started talking about it and we decided to elope to Las Vegas a couple months ago. And I couldn't be happier about it.

It was much cheaper (about $1800) for the whole trip (wedding, dress, suit, wedding dvd, wedding photos, hotel, plane tickets, a Las Vegas show, spending money, food, out to eat at two very nice restaurants, car rental, rings,  etc..) for about three days. I'm really glad we decided to have that type of wedding. We were able to have a nice intimate ceremony and a honeymoon all in one. We surprised our families at Christmas time last year so we could tell both our families in person.

The main reason we waited probably was financial for the most part. I read somewhere that the average wedding costs $24,000. I couldn't imagine spending that much money for something like that. I'm really glad we went this route although I am not looking forward to questions about having kids, uggg. 
Title: Re: single married or living together
Post by: patycake56 on January 15, 2012, 06:03:25 am
MARRIED 38 yrs
Title: Re: single married or living together
Post by: plennis on January 15, 2012, 07:40:16 am
I'm married and have been for many many years..happily...and we do fight sometimes (that seemed wierd that one of the comments was that they lived together and never had a fight...).  I also have worked very closely with several hospitals and hospice's in my area.  One great reason I see for getting married besides tax advantages, if your significant other is in the hospital..very ill, possibly not going to make it...you are NOT considered family and very often are excluded from any visitation or any say in how or what way they are treated or not treated.  I have seen couples who have been together for years..one passes away and the family gets all the things they worked for instead of the significant other because the state does not recognize them as legally family.  The advantage of marriage comes in really handy when things get to the worst..the better is a piece of cake.