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If you love someone let them go, if they come back they are yours, if they dont they never were/was :dontknow:
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Love is a two way street. If you let them go they will come back if it is met to be and they love you more. :icon_rr:
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I think it has to do with loving someone so much that you want them to make the choice to be with you. Knowing it's a mutual feeling, etc. If you think about your kids, they do love you cuz your the parent. But you really see how they care as they get older and move out. Do they call, visit, get on things? It's about showing your feelings and being appreciative. Sometimes people have to lose to learn how to really show how they feel. We forget to say thank you to those closest to us, and we never say I love you enough.
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It's BS.
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If the person does not come back, then a long term relationship was not meant to be. it doesn't have to be sad. celebrate the time together.
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I've let go of a lot of people for that reason. 20% of the time they would come back but just to leave again. So I guess it's true in a way.
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When you let someone go and they come back to you it means that they need and love you
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There is no analyzing this saying, It's literal......
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If the person you let go never comes back then it wasn't meant to be...they didn't really love you in the first place.
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I don't know in a way this is a crazy saying, I don't think the letting them "go" is loving them, it is retaining some pride in yourself. Now, if someone I thought I loved wanted to go their own way, I'd let them go because I don't want anyone who doesn't want me or doesn't want to be with me now the coming back part is equally wacky to me, because once they were gone I don't think I'd want them back bu ???t who knows?
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I don't know in a way this is a crazy saying, I don't think the letting them "go" is loving them, it is retaining some pride in yourself. Now, if someone I thought I loved wanted to go their own way, I'd let them go because I don't want anyone who doesn't want me or doesn't want to be with me now the coming back part is equally wacky to me, because once they were gone I don't think I'd want them back bu ???t who knows?
LOL, I love your answer, in an odd way it makes soooooooooo much sense :wave: :wave:
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It's not really a general purpose saying, is it? It really depends on the situation - but if someone outside the relationship is saying it to you, they're probably trying to tell you you're doing something unhealthy for you or both. And if it's the other person, generally take it as their way of breaking up with you gently.
I did read an article once, that basically went the exact opposite route. A married couple with the husband going through a midlife crisis and wanting a divorce and the wife just refusing, because she recognized that it wasn't her or their family he was dissatisfied with but himself and not being able to do everything he once could. She just waited him out till he got over it.
Of course, I don't actually think anything is "meant to be" - you have to work at everything if you want success.
But you can't make someone love you, no matter how much you love them or what you do for them, they're never obligated to (unless they're a hooker, I guess lol). You'll just be stifling them, which generally leads to resentment.
So in that case, you can hope that "absence makes the heart grow fonder" and that they'll realize what they had with you can't be found with someone else and come back.
I mean, people getting divorced and then remarrying the same person happens (my high school science teacher was three times married, the first and third being the same person).
Also people change, so the last bit isn't something I'd tack on. Just because it isn't now, doesn't mean it wasn't or that it was any less real.
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It's not really a general purpose saying, is it? It really depends on the situation - but if someone outside the relationship is saying it to you, they're probably trying to tell you you're doing something unhealthy for you or both. And if it's the other person, generally take it as their way of breaking up with you gently.
I did read an article once, that basically went the exact opposite route. A married couple with the husband going through a midlife crisis and wanting a divorce and the wife just refusing, because she recognized that it wasn't her or their family he was dissatisfied with but himself and not being able to do everything he once could. She just waited him out till he got over it.
Of course, I don't actually think anything is "meant to be" - you have to work at everything if you want success.
But you can't make someone love you, no matter how much you love them or what you do for them, they're never obligated to (unless they're a hooker, I guess lol). You'll just be stifling them, which generally leads to resentment.
So in that case, you can hope that "absence makes the heart grow fonder" and that they'll realize what they had with you can't be found with someone else and come back.
I mean, people getting divorced and then remarrying the same person happens (my high school science teacher was three times married, the first and third being the same person).
Also people change, so the last bit isn't something I'd tack on. Just because it isn't now, doesn't mean it wasn't or that it was any less real.
Thank you for that, now this answer really really puts things into perspective..(spell check please lol)........it soooooo makes sense to me now :thumbsup: :wave:
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If two people are meant to be together long term it will happen. I speak from experience. My wife and i were apart for a year, while we were dating. We've been married for 23 years. :thumbsup:
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It's telling me not to smother or to be overly controlling. That drives people away. Let them breathe, be themselves. If you truly love them you have to let it be their decision to want to be with you. If they don't....deal with the heartache and move on.
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Honestly, I always thought it was about wild animals raised in captivity. Like "Free Willie"
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I think it has to do with loving someone so much that you want them to make the choice to be with you. Knowing it's a mutual feeling, etc. If you think about your kids, they do love you cuz your the parent. But you really see how they care as they get older and move out. Do they call, visit, get on things? It's about showing your feelings and being appreciative. Sometimes people have to lose to learn how to really show how they feel. We forget to say thank you to those closest to us, and we never say I love you enough.
i agree. sometimes its hard letting them go specially when they dont return
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This was actually my quote in my highschool yearbook. I love this saying, and to me it means that if it is to be it will be. It's kind of like for the other person the realize what they had. Because you don't know what you have until it's gone. If it's meant to be it will be otherwise move on. ::)
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This is hard to apply if two people love each other why would they let them ago in the first place. Now if to people where in love and one wanted to presue a college degree or advance there positon in the profesion and it requires them to be apart from each other for a while than I could understand the saying. If you truely love a person you would not want to hold them back and if the raltionship changes well you will either fall out of love or it will bring you even closer. When you love someone you will do just about anything to make sure they are happy. ( as long as it is legal and moral). I would do anything for my husband as long as it is reasonable and doesn't bother my consience.
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lol ive always thought it was just something that people tell u to make u feel better . . . wen ur sad ull take anything u can get and u never over analyze things hahaha maybe thats just me
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This goes for people and animals.
You need to allow the other person to exercise their freedom of choice. My mom tried to hold on and control me, expecting me to be just like her. It was damaging. It just made me want to get farther away. You cannot force someone to love you, trying to will just cause them to resent you. On the other hand, if you really love someone you'll want them to be happy, even if it's not with you. Be supportive of their decision, no matter what. It'll show them you truly care about them. Sometimes we have to get some distance on something / someone to realize how we really feel. When they realize that you love them enough to support them no matter what, they may just come back.
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I don't think the saying is a criteria on what is true love or not.If you love each other you wouldn't have to set anyone free.The feelings for each other are mutual & sacrifice is not needed.The having to set some1 free indicates that 1 is the less secure or needier than the 1 being set free.The version that I've heard growing up is....
If you love someone set them free,If they come back to you,he's yours,If they don't come back to you,Hunt him down & shot it dead!:thumbsup: LoL....
Seriously,this saying is not an example of love or proof that some1 loves you back.When you're in love the saying doesn't apply.When I first met my husband(RIP2009),I just knew he was the one.No matter how far away he was,I knew I could trust him because I could feel his love for me.In my mind & heart, I feel his essence & his love.When, he passed,I couldn't feel him any more.The familiar,tingling of warmth in my mind & heart was gone. :crybaby2:
Love between couples is equal the feelings mutual.When 1 party is force to set 1 free, only 1 is inlove in the relationship & from the beginning, he/she was never yours in the first place. :thumbsup: :wave: :wave: :wave: :wave:
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If you love someone let them go, if they come back they are yours, if they dont they never were/was :dontknow:
This to me mean. If someone really want to go, then let him go . Even if it hurts you. If he or she want to go and they stay just because you want then too. It would'nt be a happen relationship.If they want to leave they can't have a deep love for you.
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Dont cling to someone to tight. Give them freedom and choices.
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If you love someone let them go, if they come back they are yours, if they dont they never were/was :dontknow:
If you let your dog out,
he will come back because he loves his home, how you treat him and how you care for him.
If you let go someone you love,
he/she will come back if they love their home same as how you treat them, how you care for them.
If they don't come back, they found a BETTER HOME AND BETTER CARE SOME WHERE ELSE. :dontknow:
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If you love someone let them go, if they come back they are yours, if they dont they never were/was :dontknow:
If you let your dog out,
he will come back because he loves his home, how you treat him and how you care for him.
If you let go someone you love,
he/she will come back if they love their home same as how you treat them, how you care for them.
If they don't come back, they found a BETTER HOME AND BETTER CARE SOME WHERE ELSE. :dontknow:
I like your way of thinking
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Here's a good example, maybe? If you attempt a survey and you don't complete it. Let go of the frustration of not completing it. If you attempt a new survey, complete it, and get credited for it. Hold onto and attempt another completion of that same or similar survey in the future ;) ??? I hope this is a good example concerning the subject of love for someone else? i'm still trying to figure out letting go of someone else too.
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Here's a good example, maybe? If you attempt a survey and you don't complete it. Let go of the frustration of not completing it. If you attempt a new survey, complete it, and get credited for it. Hold onto and attempt another completion of that same or similar survey in the future ;) ??? I hope this is a good example concerning the subject of love for someone else? i'm still trying to figure out letting go of someone else too.
Hmmm I may have to read this a few times lol, I wish you luck on trying to let go, it's really hard :sad1:
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I think it's a way of someone letting someone go that they don't wanna be with anymore.. If u wanna be with someone and really do there's no reason to let them go u should be able to work it out... That don't mean they don't love u anymore though they just don't wanna be together and see no point in tryin to work it out
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I agree with "1goodputter", enjoy the time together and if/when it ends, be glad that you shared some part of another's life - who knows, it might start all over again - just this time a lot better?
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If you love someone let them go, if they come back they are yours, if they dont they never were/was :dontknow:
I despise this saying. If someone who "loves" me decides to leave me on a whim just to see if I'll come crawling back, they're too willing to toy with my emotions for me to waste another minute on them. If you truly love someone, you stay with them. Point blank.
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If you love someone, sometimes love means letting them go. If the person comes back to you in the future it was meant to be. This applies to a friend of mine. She and her high school sweetheart have reunited after eighteen years.
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Being Able to Spend time together over the long term ,like years,in my family the marriages lasted over 25 years eachfrom grandparents on down the line :heart: