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Discussion Boards => Off-Topic => Topic started by: OmgZomb13 on January 20, 2012, 07:33:20 pm
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I know this is off topic but ugh I'm tired of feeling so depressed. My girlfriend asked out a guy but she said it was an accident. Okay. Then today I read her text and she told him she missed him and that he doesn't have to be shy that he can be a little touchy. I don't know what to believe from her.
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She's seems to be getting into the cheating phase. I'd stay leave her. But that's just me. Girls who play around with their Boyfriend's feeling is not a girl I'd like to have. From experience a girl cheated on me and I gave her another chance, but it didn't end well. If she already show signs of flirty-ness then it's going to be a no deal. If your in a relationship shouldn't you feel happy instead of depressed? I'd leave her man. :thumbsup:
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i know what i would do if it was me i would tell her to leave you alone anyone who cheats weather you be gay or straight he or she does it once they don't stop i am not gay but i have alot of gay and bi friends it is no different then if they abuse you you don't have to put up with it
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The thing is that I coldnt leave her or tell her to leave. We live together. I moved in with her when I was 16 because I got pregnant. Now my son is 8 months going on 9 and she really loves him. Plus her dad is fixing a room for my son to stay in instead of the 3 of us sharing one. I can't leave because I don't know anyone out here. And I can't ask her to leave because well it's her house. She says she'll break up with him after a while because she feels bad for asking him out "accidentally." Ugh my son really loves her. He calls her mama. And to just separate them would be like separating me and him. I feel like I should just wait for them to break up. But them again I don't really know how long that would take. He's coming over this weekend to play xbox with her and it's going to be really awkward. I told her I'd be in the backyard hanging out with my son but she insisted I watch her play. So I said yes. It's not even the weekend and I already distanced my self from her. I'm afraid to touch her or kiss her because my mind tells me she's not my girlfriend anymore. I don't know. I think I'll just go outside like I planned. I'd rather give her her space with her boyfriend.
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Cut your loses and move on. She seems to be a cheater and therefore will never be faithful. Break up, go out and don't get involved for a while, enjoy yourself first.
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He's coming over this weekend to play xbox with her
HE'S coming over...to YOUR house...where YOU live, WITH HER.....? WTF?? This is either being done intentionally to hurt you, or to fulfill HER needs, because she's a drama queen.
and it's going to be really awkward.
Well YA, it is......and it would be awkward for her, too if she was NORMAL. If she cared about you at ALL, inviting him over would never have crossed her mind. (He must be a dumb :bootyshake:, too, or he wouldn't want to be in that situation either.
she insisted I watch her play.
WHAT?? :bs: OK there is something SERIOUSLY wrong with this person. She WANTS to stomp on your feelings and your heart, and make you feel miserable, for whatever reason....I can't imagine what kind of person does this to another.
So I said yes.
:o WHAT?? :angry7: You can't be serious...?
my mind tells me she's not my girlfriend anymore.
YES your mind is telling you the truth!! Listen to your mind!!
I'd rather give her her space with her boyfriend.
You should give her her space - never mind the boyfriend. RUN! Run as far as you can from this miserable excuse of a human being, put as much space between this cold heartless witch and you as possible.
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He's coming over today. And she told me to clean the room and shower. I asked her if she's embarrassed of the way I look she said "well no it's just that you and the room look nasty right now." It's raining today and my plans to go outside are ruined. I'll just stay in a separate room. Thanks guys. I didnt really expect so many replies. I guess I'll have to clean up so she can look good for the guy. So much for not having feelings for him ans asking him out "accidentally."
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How do you ask someone out accidentally? I'm assuming you are about 17 correct? Do you go to school or work? What about moving in with family, where are your parents? Do you have any other friends or family that can help you out? If that's not an option you need to start planning. If you are working you need to start saving up money for your own place. Are you getting any kind of government assistance like WIC, foodstamps, section 8?
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It is easy to dispense advice based on a cursory view of what you have going on but some of these people haven't taken into consideration how long the two of you have been together, what you have shared, what you currently share, and whether your relationship can grow to be stronger as a result of her discretions. I don't think that letting the bloggers of fusioncash be the jurors or supporters of your break-up(or not) is the route to go if you still have feelings for your partner. Communication has probably been attempted...have you tried seeing a relationship counselor to get some direction?
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Well the whole story is that my parents kicked me out of my house when I was 16 because I had gotten pregnant. Im 18 now and I barely aahave any contact with any family member. To ask them if I could come aback home is an extremely hard task. Ugh well we did go to counseling for a couple of weeks because she was insecure of me cheating. We stopped going a after a while and we were doing fine. Until she got a boyfriend. We've been together for 2 years. I admitted to her today that every fight we have brings us closer. And it really does. And it gets us even closer because it has to do with our son. We both apologize to him when we fight because we know that he senses the tension and ehe starts crying too. I went out of topic im sorry. Wehave shared alot and gone through so much together. Her family loves me and my son and they treat us like one of their own. I want to keep going strong. She told me today after her boyfriend left that she'll break up with him in a couple of days because she had a great friendship with him. So I told her okay. I was a total b***ch to her and him today. And I apologized. She said as long as my son and I are with her, she'll be happy. I highly doubt I make her happy. It's only my son.
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I know this is off topic but ugh I'm tired of feeling so depressed. My girlfriend asked out a guy but she said it was an accident. Okay. Then today I read her text and she told him she missed him and that he doesn't have to be shy that he can be a little touchy. I don't know what to believe from her.
It sounds like you have a different understanding of what the rules of the relationship are than she does. I would say that you deserve to openly and honestly communicate with her and hope she'll be completely honest with you. One of the most important things to have in a significant other relationship is trust. Sit down and talk with her and express how you feel about what she's doing. Then...you can decide what's best for you and your child. Good luck!
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Sounds to me like she was surprised the guy took an interest in her and she's kind of excited about his attention. Doesn't seem like she is as close to you as you feel to her. Best friend kind of relationship from her maybe, and you are more serious emotionally than she is about the relationship. Good luck but don't leave yourself open to emotional destruction. Things evolve, and sometimes just move on. It's part of growing.
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I told her she can go do whatever she wants. Date whoever she's interested in and whenever she's done I'll still be here for her. I opened up myself to her last night. I told her I was attached to her and everytime she dated someone I looked up informatioon on them. I told her if she finds someone that she can trust and love that she can stay with them. But me and my son would have to leave. I couldn't be able to stand it. If she started dating someone else and I'd just be on the sidelines just watching her be with someone else. I told her she could come back to me anytime..
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i dont think you can believe anything from her. how can you ask somebody out by accident ? and even if you do why not just say im sorry i misunderstood you, i really appreciate the friendship but i am seeing someone.
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sounds like a soap opera to me
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sounds like a soap opera to me
Agreed and a bad one at that. It sounds to me as if neither one of you is actually gay. Lots of [immature] girls at your age play around and call themselves 'gay'. Either you are or you are not, there is NO in-between gray area here. You said you have a child, so YOU obviously slept with a male and now your girlfriend wants to do the same. Let her go or beg her to stay and put up with it because the whole situation sounds like BS to me! ::)
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I'm not sure how long you have been dating but you might want to make it really clear you want a monogamous relationship and to get her side of the story. If she doesn't respect your feelings and keeps at this then you are better off without her. Who knows maybe just telling her how you feel will resolve the issue. At least it is worth a try because it is much better to find out sooner while you still have options and self respect. Good luck.
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sounds like a soap opera to me
Agreed and a bad one at that. It sounds to me as if neither one of you is actually gay. Lots of [immature] girls at your age play around and call themselves 'gay'. Either you are or you are not, there is NO in-between gray area here. You said you have a child, so YOU obviously slept with a male and now your girlfriend wants to do the same. Let her go or beg her to stay and put up with it because the whole situation sounds like BS to me! ::)
:thumbsup: Yep, have to agree....:bs: situation. :thumbsup:
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you need to really find out where you stand. Let her know how this makes you feel. If she thinks its cool she will just walk all over you. But if you express your true emotions she will either have to respect you or she doesnt deserve you.think about your child right now your baby is still young but as children gets older they understand things. You need someone in your childs life who is a good role model seriously she needs to figure out what she wants and stop being selfish
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It's not easy, but she seems to be a terrible gf. The fact that she actually told you that you looked bad and asked you to hang out with that guy, it's just a messed up situation. You'd be better off alone.
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Just go with your gut and explain to her how you feel about everything.
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sounds like a soap opera to me
I shouldn't be laughing but I agree! My opinion is move on, worry about your son and yourself. You don't need somene making you feel this way. Try and remember babies can feel distress. My boy is 4 and still knows when I'm sad or upset.
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time to move on...if she's not by your side, then she's using you.
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If she started dating someone else and I'd just be on the sidelines just watching her be with someone else. I told her she could come back to me anytime..
OmgZomb13~ you don't seem to understand, from what you've written about you're relationship w/her, YOU ARE ALREADY ON THE SIDELINES OUTSIDE LOOKING IN!
By saying you'll wait for her to come back, tells me that you've givin her all the power & that you're not a couple anymore. Love is respect,mutual feelings for each other where both are connected equally. I don't see her respecting you when she accidently dated some1 else. If she had any respect for you, she should have ended the relationship in the first place. There is no such thing as people accidently cheating on their mate. Your cheating sort of kind of girlfriend doesn't want you anymore why she lied to you about the her boyfriend. I can't tell you what to do but if it was me, she would be out of my life forever! I'd pick up my pride & self respect take my kid out of her life. If nothing else think about your kid, he's a clean slate. Do you want to soil his life forever by being in that kind of relationship? This is not just about you anymore, whatever happens he's going to be in the middle of all your drama living w/this *bleep*! Picture the future, will your child be a successful productive citizen as a grown up or will you be visiting him in prison; on death row for murdering his spouse? This time right now, you are in a turning point in which you need to choose your path! FC members have givin you advice, so get off the sidelines & make that choice!
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He's coming over this weekend to play xbox
OMG!!!!!!! i would kick his a$$........
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As soon as she cheated on you (dating other people, whether sexual or not, is cheating) it should have made it clear to you that she's not loyal. Period. And that in part is the key to a healthy longstanding relationsihp. If she's not loyal to you and can't honor what you've been through together then anything she says to you to make amends is all lies. Yes, the idea of leaving her is probably a very uncomfortable and terrifying thought, considering the roots of your relationship, but ANY kind of break up is difficult and uncomfortable. If you stay with her, then in time the reasons you thought of to justify staying with her eventually will just make you sad. All that put aside, no matter what you do your priority should be your son. I speak from experience with my parents when I say that you would rather raise your child as a single mother than to have her example polluting your household. For your son's sake, no matter how hard it seems, you need to find a way to become dependent on yourself rather than on her and move on.