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Title: Best age to have your first child?
Post by: leung1245 on March 04, 2012, 09:30:05 am
I really don't agree with teen pregnancy, and arguably, college pregnancy, since you are still in school and you can't have a child to interfere with your education. I think a few years after you graduate from college is the earliest to have your first child, lets say 23 24 or 25, depending on your occupation and family situation. What do you guys think?
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Post by: awette26 on March 04, 2012, 10:39:53 am
i think your right. thats exactely what should be done. people like to jump from one step to another. the best age for me to have your first kid is around 25. when you finish college and start making good money so that you can support your family or even take good care of your child if you and your partner split up knock on wood.
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Post by: ckaliszewski on March 04, 2012, 10:55:24 am
It's hard to give an exact age, but if you are in high school or college you should wait. It's best to wait until you can actually afford to have a child and until you are set up with a steady career.
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Post by: yaayme on March 04, 2012, 10:58:09 am
I don't have any kids, but I'll say 25 (or 30).
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Post by: vgonzales1 on March 04, 2012, 11:14:41 am
I say 30 would be a good age.  You would be more willing to settle down.
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Post by: timandvicky1 on March 04, 2012, 01:29:09 pm
I absolutely dont think kids should have kids, everybody has plenty of time to grown up and raise a family.  With that being said, I don't feel there should be a certain age that is considered appropriate, I think everybody is different, you could have a 25 year old absolutely ready and does a great job, but then have a 33 year old that still wasn't ready?  So, I think it is an individual basis, and you should be ready not feel pressured.  Im 43 and never did feel ready so I don't have any kids. 
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Post by: natashaspy on March 04, 2012, 01:39:15 pm
23-30 would seem to be the perfect age.  that way you're settled down enough to raise a child properly, and not still be maturing yourself.
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Post by: tashamjoy on March 04, 2012, 01:58:00 pm
Id probably say 25 too not too young but not too old hard to say depends on the person i guess there are some great mothers who are 22 23 but then there are some that are 30 and still arent readyn
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Post by: deelow20 on March 04, 2012, 02:34:36 pm
I'm still wondering that answer myself. I'm 23 and have no idea when.
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Post by: monnee on March 04, 2012, 02:50:10 pm
As soon as you earn enough $$$$$ to support a child.
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Post by: cloudsoup on March 04, 2012, 03:51:26 pm
21, according to most of my friends  ::)

i'm 25 and refuse to tie myself down with children at this
point in my life. i take care of myself just fine, but i simply
do not want the responsibility. i like that i can do whatever
and go wherever, anytime i please!

so, i can't answer the question from experience, but i'll say 30.
i suppose most people are or should be stable enough by then.
Title: Re: Best age to have your first child?
Post by: meguk on March 04, 2012, 06:55:10 pm
It depends on the individual.  Most of my friends had kids between 25 and 30.  I still haven't had my first (I'm 33), because I don't have the cash right now.  My husband is a grad student, I'm the sole breadwinner, and I can't afford any time off.  It sucks cause I'd like to have a kid.
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Post by: donnitab on March 04, 2012, 07:08:35 pm
I have to agree with everyone, I think around 25 is the best age.
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Post by: shepherdchik on March 04, 2012, 08:13:06 pm
I don't know if any particular age is a good age to have a baby. I don't think you are ever really ready for it. If you have a good family and husband or partner that are very supportive then that's what you need and you have to be ready for it because it will change your life forever.
Title: Re: Best age to have your first child?
Post by: kpopg33k on March 04, 2012, 09:31:15 pm
whenever you are mature enough.  it really depends on who you are. you can be 20 but may not be mature, responsible, and financially stable enough to support a family, so it really just depends.
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Post by: solarflare7 on March 04, 2012, 09:42:54 pm
Depends on that person if they are ready or not.
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Post by: Crys720 on March 04, 2012, 09:48:12 pm
I'm 29 and still don't have one. I don't like teen pregnancy either and think you should at least be 21 or older. The main thing is to be financially and emotionally stable to have a child. Too many people who don't fit either category are having children. :angry7:
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Post by: articx on March 05, 2012, 07:40:40 am
I think the best age would be about 30. By then, many people should be done with college if they went, and had a some time to work in a certain place if they found a job/career.
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Post by: dmathiss on March 05, 2012, 08:09:27 am
I don't believe it should be based on age to determine when you are ready to have children. I believe when a person is emotionally stable and financially stable that's when a person should consider having children. A child needs stability and financial support and responsible parents. There are too many teen pregnancy and children without fathers and these children grow up without the emotional stability that they need let alone the financial part of it.
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Post by: devideddi on March 05, 2012, 08:31:53 am
Def not a teenager but other than that I believe it depends on the person.  Maturity level is important right next to are they married.   Its hard to actually be all the way prepared for a child, they change your world in a way a non parent cannot understand.  But you can try with things like being married and mentally and financially stable.
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Post by: lilsexi21 on March 05, 2012, 08:48:23 am
23,24,25..... :binkybaby:
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Post by: cody0608 on March 05, 2012, 08:52:16 am
I think about 30, but agree you should be able to take on the financial and emotional responsibility of having a child and that can happen at many different ages. 
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Post by: cateyes1 on March 05, 2012, 08:54:39 am
I think 27 would be a good age to start a family  :wave:
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Post by: ghunter on March 05, 2012, 09:01:11 am
I think the best time to have your first child is 25 years old.
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Post by: jasryn67 on March 05, 2012, 09:50:17 am
I think the best time is when a person is ready financially, emotionally, mentally , has settled in a home, and with a partner for a while.
Title: Re: Best age to have your first child?
Post by: ssmsurvey on March 05, 2012, 10:06:15 am
I believe it depends on the number of children you want to have and your life goals. I had my first right after turning 29 and my second right before turning 33. If I had wanted a lot of kids I may have needed to start earlier or space them closer. Though anyone considering having a child should be financially responsible, if you think you should wait until you can afford a child then you will never have one. I don't think anyone is absolutely ready, financially or otherwise, when a baby comes. That's part of the fun. Believe me, you need to have some fun in the midst of the stress of it.  ;)
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Post by: AParker03 on March 05, 2012, 10:16:38 am
Having a child is hard.Its not as easy as everyone says. In my opinion the person having the child should be at least in their 20's. In my opinion thats not too young nad not too old.
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Post by: dymondzncurlz810 on March 05, 2012, 10:51:43 am
I was always told that there is never a right time to have a child. Also, age has nothing to do with it. You could be 23 or 24 and well accomplished, stable, and married but maybe it still is not a good time to have a child because you are going to move within the next year or years. Or, maybe you won't be stable and accomplished until you're 30!!
I'm going to be having my first in June and I'm only 19, I'll be 20 shortly after I have him. But he was a surprise and I don't believe in abortions, I loved him when I seen him on my 6 week ultrasound. Although things are not stable, he motivates me and gives me a purpose in life. When I'm 30 and still very young and full of life he will be 10 and a handful. I can help him in sports and schooling may have not drastically changed, so it will be easier for me to help him with his homework. When he is 20 I will only be 40, and if he has kids by 24 I will only be 44 and STILL full of life for my grandchildren.

I believe every age has it advantages, and you should always do what is right or be responsible for what you've done wrong :)  :heart:
Title: Re: Best age to have your first child?
Post by: solarflare7 on March 05, 2012, 03:16:58 pm
Well unless you are mature enough to a  kid of your own

I'm 23 and i don't have a child  ;D
Title: Re: Best age to have your first child?
Post by: yess07 on March 05, 2012, 03:18:58 pm
after youre done with school.
Title: Re: Best age to have your first child?
Post by: LaTashaS28 on March 05, 2012, 04:25:09 pm
1. When you are financially stable and ready to care for a child,

2. When you have finish college,

3. You have set goals and you have dreams for yourself

4. And when you are married

so I think the best age to have your first child would be 28-34
Title: Re: Best age to have your first child?
Post by: ladavia89 on March 05, 2012, 06:07:12 pm
There is no right age. It's about maturity and situation. I have plenty of friends that have had children young (18-24) that were more emotionally and financially ready to have children than people that had them at 30. Age won't make you a better parent or more prepared
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Post by: squirrelgirl44 on March 05, 2012, 07:37:18 pm
I was 27 and I don't know if that was the right age or not. I got to live some of a single lifestyle and I won't be too old when she graduates...
Title: Re: Best age to have your first child?
Post by: Irmarie on March 06, 2012, 04:34:03 am
I would say 25