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i have a friend and her kids are terrible she tells them to do something and they tell her no i told her to punish them or take things away that they like to do the kids or should i say most of them have no respect for adults what are your thoughts
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i have a friend and her kids are terrible she tells them to do something and they tell her no i told her to punish them or take things away that they like to do the kids or should i say most of them have no respect for adults what are your thoughts
Their mother used to tell our kids that she 'brought them into this world and can take them right back out if needed.' Sometimes that worked when they were younger but, lost effectiveness as they got a little older and more belligerent. That's when their dad began telling stories of ancient times. Like back when parents would leave unruly kids out in the forest at night for the wolves. You know, bedtime stories?
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i have a friend and her kids are terrible she tells them to do something and they tell her no i told her to punish them or take things away that they like to do the kids or should i say most of them have no respect for adults what are your thoughts
Many kids don't show respect for adults these days, it is what they were taught. Parents have to start the "respect" part early. It's also a two way street, if the adult doesn't show any respect to a child and vise verse. What is your definition of respect? Common courtesy, consideration for others? Some considerations, or lack of, are age appropriate but should always be addressed.
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I totally agree, kids are ridiculous. They need to hit more then once the way some of these kids talk to their parent is scary. And then here it is they want to call the police on me for hitting my child but they don't know what he/she did to cause me to do that either, so I tell them to MIND THEIR BUSINESS UNLESS YOU WANT TO TAKE THEM WITH YOU. Don't get me wrong I am in know way saying beat the holly hell out of them. But enough is enough, my child is going to respect me and any other adult there is no matter what
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i think your friend doesn't know how to parent properly. Children can't learn respect if they aren't taught it.
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i agree with all that and have passed it on i guess i am lucky my kids are great i have never had to hit them all i had to do was raise my voice i don't beleive in hitting because icome from a family who always hit so i promised my self i would not do that to my kids but thats just me i have friends and they hit but i tell them just don't carry it to far
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It goes with what the parents allow them to do, teenagers are the worst of the bunch. The earlier you star the better it s. I have 2 teenage girls and they talk back to me up to a point and depending on the issue. I have never hit them, I have however grounded them and/or taking away privileges if the crime merits the punishment. Very recently I took the cell phone away to my 13 years old daughter for raising her voice at me and believe she will never do it again. But I have seen many kids disrespecting their parents and because of being afraid to be taken to social services many of the parents are afraid to hit them and/or doing something drastic to them.
If your friend allows her kids to talk that way there is nothing anybody can do. I saw a 5 years old once calling her mother an a..hole in the middle of a Walmart and the mother just laugh and told her to stop yelling, now if it was my kid, she would lost her teeth that same second, and the hell with social services, kids repeat and act what the see home
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ids should be seen and not heard
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ids should be seen and not heard
Duct tape?
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We were taught at an earl age to respect our elders, which meant no back talk and we didn't. Raised my kids the same way, Never had to beat them but they knew i meant business when they did do something and got into trouble. A swat on the bu##, never hurt them and they grew up into fine young men. But these kids now aday have no respect and you see it everywhere and they defy a grown up all the way and let you know there is nothing you can do about it. Sometmes i just want to shake the living daylights out of someof these teenagers. Oh no let them be ( my you know what).
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Things have changed in the day when I was younger..if i smarted off to an adult I got a licking..if my kids smarted off or disrespected and adult they got time out, toys taken away, television taken, or swatted on the behind. My boyfriends kids I do not get along with, they have never had to mind and can talk to anyone including their dad any way they want...I was living with his son and did all the cleaning, cooking, and was getting money orders for his bills to be paid ontime and one day he was mad cause I would not let his dad take the car to go get weed and told me to get out and if i did not get out he would throw me across the room his dad did nothing no correction nothing and I packed my clothes and left he lost his apartment due to not paying his rent and wanted to move in here I said no and me and his dad are always arguing about it but all in all i tell my bf if he would tell his son that he has to leave if he disrespects anyone but he won't do it pisses me off
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I personally think problems started when common sense had a funeral. Ever since common sense died, teachers cannot discipline kids, parents have no power, but the system that is broke as a joke is willing and ready to give them housing and food at our fine penal institutions. This is one of the many reasons I don't have kids.
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I agree, you must let the children know who is the parent and stop them NOW for talking back, if you don't they will be talking back until they are to old to correct and that's when the trouble beings.
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I have seen where my grandkids are smart mouths. Parents say they are going to do something but, don't. My grandkids know better in my house what happens, I can't say for what they do at their own house. My granddaughter the other day was picking up something off the ground and her father just looked at her, didn't say anything to her. She came out with " What are you looking at!" to her father. I don't know where these kids come up with some of this stuff, she is not even in school yet! She just turned 5.
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I've learned that the best punishment is to take things away from them that they love. This will make them think twice about what comes out of their mouth. It's best to teach them now because in the real world people are cruel and they won't tolerate attitudes from others.
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ids should be seen and not heard
Duct tape?
lol