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Discussion Boards => Off-Topic => Debate & Discuss => Topic started by: Eugenia06 on August 04, 2012, 08:18:15 pm
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Children are so disrespectful now. When I was a kid growing up, respect was the first thing I learned. Respect myself as well as others. Kids use profanity so much to where they don't even know when they are using profanity. Kids are being introduced to the adult life before their time. Drugs, Sex and Money. That is what the young generation is surrounding their life with. I would have to say the it's coming from the rap music they are listening to. Today's rap music is just corrupting their minds as well as the videos and movies. These kids need a different approach about life, they are confused. :angry7:
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I agree although I spent a few days with my grandaughters and the 12 year old has proved to me that good kids are still out there.
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I'm 25yrs old and I rather hang out with the older crowd. people around my age seems to just wanna party and use drugs. I don't want nothing to do with it and I wanna continue to do my best to live a healthy lifestyle.
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I agree.
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Oh, yes....and the kids now think they make the rules and they do. I know because a child can tell you to go to .... or .... off and don't dare smack their mouth or spank a butt. Trust me...juvenile court will back them all the way and they can walk out of the courtroom and laugh and tell you to .... off again.
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yes, but the grown ups are at fault for it
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I'm not a fan of rap and never have been, but saying rap music is the root of problems with kids is pretty silly. Rap music has been around for decades now. All kids act like punks at some point in their lives. Most people grow-up and put on the suit and tie or blue collar shirt eventually, so I'm not to worried about it.
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I would say it has nothing to do with music or media. The way our children are acting now has to do with social/physical environment. We respected our elders when we were kids because we feared them (at least a small amount). As well, other adults would demand respect and verbally disipline us. It used to be a village environment but it no longer is. Most parents would freck out if a strange told their kids to behave and with everyone demanding we be PC and not spank our kids we parents are stuck with positive reinforcement parenting (which doesn't work for all kids). Our expectations are the same as our parents, however, our ability to raise children in that manner has changed.
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Blame the parents, not the children. At 33, it's your generation that is raising them, so I wouldn't be so sure that things back when you were a kid were as rosy as you claim.
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Well these days it seems that people now consider adults in their 20's to be children. When I was younger you were generally no longer considered as a 'child' at around 13 or so (although technically not an adult then it was the view of responsibility one possessed) and you could expect to be treated as an adult if you got out of line.
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If you lived in the area that I live in, you would think totally different and see things different. The kids over here vocabulary is rap an street slang. You just have to see it and hear It to believe it. It's really sad. :o. Im from Alabama, so yes being disciplined was enforced, down there discipline had no age, if you was wrong you wrong and there wasnt anything you could say about it and you did suffer consequences and repercussions.... :wave:
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They should have to live by rules and regulations. But there is no any it seems. There are many very good children out in the world. but it does't take many wild . nasty talking, trouble makers to put all of them in a bad light. My kids at a very young age learned the switch dance just as i did. Didn't hut them and it didn't hurt me. Knew if we did something wrong, we and they were punsihed.. Yu can punsih without beating or harming them. But they must learn to behave.
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I have 3 children of my own. They are 15 14 & 10. I do have good children. Thank God....I don't allow my kids to affiliate with those kind of kids. I TELL them the outcome of those kind of kids, and eventually they SEE the outcome from those kind of kids. And they really learn from them.
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Kids these days are being influenced by media, music, society, friends, and adults as well. We as parents have to make sure we are active in our kids lives. Know what they are doing, where they are going, who they hang out with, be NOISY!!! Kids ar going to do what they want, they will find a way. But if we make sure we raise them with values, morals and respect, then hopefully we the parents will be their biggest influence and they will be alright.
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I agree. Being in our childrens lives is very important. We are their role models. :wave:
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I totally agree with u!
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Its hard now a days to raise children because most households have only one parent and the ones that have both parents in the house, usually both parents are working. Even though you have to work you should take an active role in your children's lives.
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It is so hard to raise children today. It is hard when both parents are working and the kid do not know how to talk to.
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What in the world are you talking about. Kids grew up way faster years ago then they do today. Sex, drugs and money is what every adult wants, let the kids have theirs too. :angry7:
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I agree. Children are not children anymore. And I agree again that the media/music are certain contributors to how children are influenced...however I believe it is parents responsibility to raise kids by allowing what is acceptable....here lies the problem...parents divorcing, both parents working and kids being left to raise themselves...YIKES - It's no wonder kids pick up what's available to them.
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I agree. Children are not children anymore. And I agree again that the media/music are certain contributors to how children are influenced...however I believe it is parents responsibility to raise kids by allowing what is acceptable....here lies the problem...parents divorcing, both parents working and kids being left to raise themselves...YIKES - It's no wonder kids pick up what's available to them.
Speaking from exp. I'm divorced, I am a single parent, I've been divorced for about 9 years now. I take full responsibility for my children, mentally, physically and financially. My kids are 15 14 & 10. So far I'm doing a good job far as raising them alone, all three of them makes very good grades in school, and they are also mannerable, and respectful. We are very close. So just speaking from exp. I cant say that having a divorce is the problem. I would have to say it's the parent (s) that dont make time for their kids, and the kids end up raising themselves. :thumbsup:
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I HAVE 2 KIDS 16 AND 14. AND THEY ARE AWESOME KIDS. I THINK THE WAY YOU RAISE YOUR KIDS IS THE WAY THEY WILL ACT. I DONT THINK ITS THE KIDS FAULT IF THEY GET AWAY WITH EVERYTHING. MAYBE THE PARENTS NEED A WAKE UP CALL AND THINK BACK WHEN THEY WERE A KID AND ASK THEMSELVES WHAT WOULD MY MOM AND DAD DO.
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I totally agree because I walked past a bunch of 6yr olds the other day and they just looked at me up and down and scoffed at me. I was brought up to smile at everyone that walked past me as a gesture of kindness! These kids are getting too old for themselves.
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Many kids are not kids anymore and it is the way they are being raised. Many do take responsibility and raise their kids right but these are not the kids that are running around without any parental supervision. These are the kids that people see and make a judgement on. The problem is there are more kids without proper guidance than there are good kids.
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I HAVE 2 KIDS 16 AND 14. AND THEY ARE AWESOME KIDS. I THINK THE WAY YOU RAISE YOUR KIDS IS THE WAY THEY WILL ACT. I DONT THINK ITS THE KIDS FAULT IF THEY GET AWAY WITH EVERYTHING. MAYBE THE PARENTS NEED A WAKE UP CALL AND THINK BACK WHEN THEY WERE A KID AND ASK THEMSELVES WHAT WOULD MY MOM AND DAD DO.
I completely agree with you.
It's not the kids its the parents!
I am 21 and I was raised with respect and I am courteous to others.
I have a two year old son and he will be the same way.
You have to have boundaries for your children, and not let them walk all over you or disrespect you.
I tell you one thing my son will not disrespect his mother! Or anyone else by that matter
I will teach him to stand up for what he believes in and stand up for himself but to always have manners
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I think we live in a world with much easier access to information. Although this in general is a good thing it also exposes children to information beyond their experience. Part of the problem is with parents monitoring their children and how they use these technologies, parents making an effort not to use profanity around their children, Parents teaching their children proper behavior with actions and words and the children being exposed to other kids whose parents don't teach and monitor their kids.
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Oh come on people, really? Its hard to raise children now a days? Do you people even realize what it could have been like 100, 200, or 500 years ago? When you slaved away all day long, making just enough money to pay for food, clothes, and school supplies? We are pampered, with things like the internet, and cellphones (aka toys) and basic comforts that we all take for granted allow us to live better than kings of the past.
I would think that the fact children are no longer repressed and are free express themselves is a good thing. No longer are children repressed into submission by their masters by way of the paddle. No longer are children told to keep their mouths shut when they have questions, and no longer is their curiosity suppressed. Its a good thing that children have a bit more freedom, so that they are allowed to grow and advance our civilization as a whole. Children of the past where trained to be obedient servants bent on fulfilling every desire instilled by their parents puritan work ethic because they where unable to see the potential of human achievement when it is allowed to grow freely (which with modern technology, what we have now is essentially slavery, except instead of a human owning you it becomes money.)
If you have problems with your children, you need to stop sheltering them and start teaching them the real consequences of their actions. When someone is free to express themselves or to take action then they learn the consequences of their actions.
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:heart:i agree ,children should stay children as they are growing up to learn responsibilitys .
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Children are so disrespectful now. When I was a kid growing up, respect was the first thing I learned. Respect myself as well as others. Kids use profanity so much to where they don't even know when they are using profanity. Kids are being introduced to the adult life before their time. Drugs, Sex and Money. That is what the young generation is surrounding their life with. I would have to say the it's coming from the rap music they are listening to. Today's rap music is just corrupting their minds as well as the videos and movies. These kids need a different approach about life, they are confused. :angry7:
It is hard for me to relate to all the social media. It seems like that their whole life is spent on the phone. It is no wonder that the children have weight problems. They don't fgo outside for any exercise and don't really know how to play with others. I think that it interferes with their learning processes. Every problem is solved by going online and venting. No face to face contact anymore. How do you learn to socialize through a screen? Feedback is not just a button to push, it requires talk. What a world!
BMaston12
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Children are so disrespectful now. When I was a kid growing up, respect was the first thing I learned. Respect myself as well as others. Kids use profanity so much to where they don't even know when they are using profanity. Kids are being introduced to the adult life before their time. Drugs, Sex and Money. That is what the young generation is surrounding their life with. I would have to say the it's coming from the rap music they are listening to. Today's rap music is just corrupting their minds as well as the videos and movies. These kids need a different approach about life, they are confused. :angry7:
agreed that they are not the same as when I was a kid but we listened to nothing but rap. And a lot of hardcore rap when Ice Cube, Ice T, and 2 Live Crew were just coming out and I turned out ok. And I played a ton of violent video games too!
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Children are our children and if they are disrepectful it is because you parents raised them that way. My kids have never been disrepectful because that is the way I raised them. Bring a child up in a way that you have them go.