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Title: Friends
Post by: WaulML6 on October 21, 2012, 07:55:04 am
If you have a least one good friend in  your lifetime, you are blessed.  I have had friends who were only there when they needed something.  They will use you if you let them.  I just removed a so called friend who said they would be there for me anytime, but never has.  I have been there for that person at least 10 years to encourage, listen, give, help financially and otherwise.  The person has not been there at all for me at any time, so I made a decision to stop all communication.  You have to be a friend to have a friend and this person has lost me as a friend.  I no longer need to waste my time, effort and finances on someone who cannot reciprocate.  Cherish your friends who are there, even if you have only one.
Title: Re: Friends
Post by: madeara on October 21, 2012, 07:58:07 am
I am so blessed.  I have many wonderful friends.  Real friends are always there for you and love you just the way you are.
Title: Re: Friends
Post by: raven1114 on October 21, 2012, 11:51:28 am
I agree I would rather have one or two real friends verses having a dozen fake ones.
Title: Re: Friends
Post by: plennis on October 21, 2012, 12:00:58 pm
I have several really good friends, and I also have a lot of family members who are friends not just related!     You are right they are a blessing.
Title: Re: Friends
Post by: ceevstee on October 21, 2012, 12:05:25 pm
If you have a least one good friend in  your lifetime, you are blessed.  I have had friends who were only there when they needed something.  They will use you if you let them.  I just removed a so called friend who said they would be there for me anytime, but never has.  I have been there for that person at least 10 years to encourage, listen, give, help financially and otherwise.  The person has not been there at all for me at any time, so I made a decision to stop all communication.  You have to be a friend to have a friend and this person has lost me as a friend.  I no longer need to waste my time, effort and finances on someone who cannot reciprocate.  Cherish your friends who are there, even if you have only one.

It's a shame when people like your former friend takes advantage of your kindness. Don't let that friend selfish ways let you misjudge others. There are some friends out there who are not financially able to reciprocate the favor and if you and the person have a good communication level then of course you know that they are not able to help out financial wise when you need it but there are other ways that they can still be a loyal friend. You can eventually tell the real friends from the fake ones. Sorry it took you ten years plus to realized that this person was using you, this is to show how real and true a friend you are/was to this person and your other real friends. Cheer up and don't worry I believe in do unto others as you'll have others do unto you....good things will come your way...and thanks for sharing your feelings with us here on FC :heart:
Title: Re: Friends
Post by: jwallbank on October 21, 2012, 12:48:15 pm
You did the right thing!! don't ever feel quilty about it!! I have done similiar in the past. I have had great friends that would give their shirt off their back for me, and then I have had the others that have just had friends to see what they could get. Remember, friends will be there through thick or thin, other's are just there for themselves!!
Title: Re: Friends
Post by: momoney555 on October 21, 2012, 01:45:02 pm
I have had some really good friends in the past but have lost contact with them due to physical moves, etc.  I currently have few friends that I can really depend on and they are all relatives.  However, I would rather have no friends as opposed to having many so called friends I could not count on.  I would never be a false friend to anyone for any reason.
Title: Re: Friends
Post by: pattersondebra on October 21, 2012, 01:47:34 pm
Sorry, friends need to be givers more then takers. I spent last night consoling a friend who is losing her father to cancer.
Title: Re: Friends
Post by: WaulML6 on October 22, 2012, 02:41:00 pm
thank you everyone.  I'm glad to be making friends on here also.  I feel blessed to have many friends. 
Title: Re: Friends
Post by: LaKecias on October 22, 2012, 04:38:54 pm
Friend is a strong word that a lot of people use to casually. Everybody you know is not your friend no matter how long you have known them. Sometimes it's hard to know but the ones who are not true will show themselves eventually.