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Discussion Boards => Off-Topic => Topic started by: tashamjoy on February 07, 2013, 08:43:38 pm
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I do not have kids but I have seen some crazy things which I am sure everybody has the parents that beat there children very hard in a grocery store, or the parents who could care less leaving a two year old to roam around the mall far away. How do you discipline your kids? I just feel some people really shouldnt be parents.
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I have a 14 y/o son and he is a great kid. He has always been pretty easy to raise. Whenever there was a discipline issue all I had to do was give him one of my "looks" and he would crumble. I make my expectations clear and my corrections fair and certain. I also pray for him all the time and do my best to let him know how much his Dad loves him.
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To be honest the child matters as much as the discipline. I have a grandson who you could beat all day long and he would not feal it. But put him in the corner for timeout and he is the most miserable child in the world. Another child it is simple enough to scold her and she is quickly back on track. Another grandson it is a combination of corner time and running his legs off.
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I take away the Wii, nook, mp3 players, cell phones, and desserts. I also give them quiet time, take them off the weekly behavior prize pull, don't allow them to go outside and move their bedtime up 30 minutes. It helps greatly to talk to get to the root of the behavior issue- the bigger the issue the deeper the problem. If all else fails I pull out the belt. I have 6 and I have to keep them in line. I can't stand a disobedient, disrespectful child or a noisy, disorganized home. I deserve respect. I sacrifice for myself but exceed in providing for their needs. Respect is the minimum expectation for me as a parent.
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I have 3 kids and my husband and I have had to give very few spankings to our kids.....I have and still do give "the looks" to our kids....The thing is that we started with the (knowing right from wrong) with our kids at a very young age! Too many parents today start that when they have 8, 9, 10 year olds...Its doesnt work that way! You have to start when they are young!
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I have a 2 and 3 yr old and we are spending a lot of time in the corner for time outs.
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i dont have any kids, but i see how they act different now compared to when i was young. and the only thing that changed was the paddle...... :thumbsup:
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my kids are grown but i have grandkids and with a swat on the butt lol
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I don't have any children now, but when mine were little it was a lot of hard love and taking a few things away from them. If they got into it at home i made them (boys) sit on the couch and hold hands. They hated it. So not much trouble there.
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It depends on the age of the child. When my child was little I did gently pop her on the hands when she got around 2 or 3 if she did something wrong. This would let her know that this behavior is acceptable. As she got older in her teens I now would just take away priviledges she likes such as no computer time, no book reading, no tv time, stuff like this. Taking away activities like this(which she really loves) hurts way more than a hit or two.
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I take away the Wii, nook, mp3 players, cell phones, and desserts. I also give them quiet time, take them off the weekly behavior prize pull, don't allow them to go outside and move their bedtime up 30 minutes. It helps greatly to talk to get to the root of the behavior issue- the bigger the issue the deeper the problem. If all else fails I pull out the belt. I have 6 and I have to keep them in line. I can't stand a disobedient, disrespectful child or a noisy, disorganized home. I deserve respect. I sacrifice for myself but exceed in providing for their needs. Respect is the minimum expectation for me as a parent.
I could not have said it better. I tell anyone who will listen, the biggest problem with children is their parents never taught them to respect them. I have a daycare and I never lay a hand to any child, but they all respect me more than their own parents. Why? Because I am there for them but they are taught manner and to respect everyone including themselfs.
O and praying works wonders!!!!!
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What you said about how some people should not be parents. I worked as an adminsterer of welfare benefits in California. I saw so much neglect and abuse of children it made me sick. More than once, the authorities were called and child services took control of the children and kicked the parents out of the building under threat of arrest then and there.
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You are so on the money! As soon as my kids are able to talk I teach them to say yes ma'am, no ma'am, and so on. People let stuff slide when their kids are young b/c they deem their actions cute but there's nothing cute about disrespect.
I have 3 kids and my husband and I have had to give very few spankings to our kids.....I have and still do give "the looks" to our kids....The thing is that we started with the (knowing right from wrong) with our kids at a very young age! Too many parents today start that when they have 8, 9, 10 year olds...Its doesnt work that way! You have to start when they are young!
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Thanks! I've also had that experience where other people's kids mind me better than their own parents. In addition to being there for them you are also providing structure in your daycare that many kids don't have and crave. Kids actually want rules and will end up resenting their parents for trying to be their friend later.
I take away the Wii, nook, mp3 players, cell phones, and desserts. I also give them quiet time, take them off the weekly behavior prize pull, don't allow them to go outside and move their bedtime up 30 minutes. It helps greatly to talk to get to the root of the behavior issue- the bigger the issue the deeper the problem. If all else fails I pull out the belt. I have 6 and I have to keep them in line. I can't stand a disobedient, disrespectful child or a noisy, disorganized home. I deserve respect. I sacrifice for myself but exceed in providing for their needs. Respect is the minimum expectation for me as a parent.
I could not have said it better. I tell anyone who will listen, the biggest problem with children is their parents never taught them to respect them. I have a daycare and I never lay a hand to any child, but they all respect me more than their own parents. Why? Because I am there for them but they are taught manner and to respect everyone including themselfs.
O and praying works wonders!!!!!
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My kids are 11 and 10. When they were younger I would use timeouts. Now I take away things or assign extra chores. For my son, nothing works better than barring him from the xbox for a few days.
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<y kids are very good - when I need to discipline I usually put them in their room with nothing to do.
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I agree with just about everything people are saying here, but what I have noticed nowadays is that kids are WAY too into their cell phones and gadgets. This is a huge problem for parents and their kids, but also is where a lot of discipline can be enforced, ie: taking away their electronics or reducing their functionality.