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Title: landlords(how do you approach them with a greivance they cause)without affending
Post by: hensleyll on May 31, 2013, 03:12:13 pm
well my landlord who is also married to my husbands mother goes and cuts grass every single time i buy and fill a pool and pops it or cuts it for the last 4 years every time i get a pool he goes out and cuts grass when i put clothes on line he goes and cuts grass right under the clothes line
Title: Re: landlords(how do you approach them with a greivance they cause)without affending
Post by: msmoneybags48 on June 01, 2013, 09:39:04 am
Maybe you should go to him and request that he let you know in advance before he cuts the grass so you can find something else to do to utilize that time.  My husband insists on me washing clothes and then rushes me to take them in because he has an electric lawnmower.  I cooked breakfast 2 weeks ago, and he was on his toy.  He told me to call him on his cellphone when breakfast is ready, but he can't hear a darned thing when he is on that lawnmower.  I finally just put it in the microwave.   :angry7: :angry7: :angry7: :BangHead:
Title: Re: landlords(how do you approach them with a greivance they cause)without affending
Post by: skrogman on June 01, 2013, 06:28:22 pm
I agree with the posters above who have said open communication is always your best bet.  Just talk about when he is going to cut it.  Or, is there a reason why you or your husband can't be the one to cut it?  Or is there a hidden message behind him not being happy with who his son married for some reason, maybe?  Just sit down and talk. The whole problem may be settled as easily as you opening up with something like "Oh, that grass cutting is a hot job.  Would you like a cold Coke?  And, oh, by the way, can we talk?"  You never know, but the effort is worth it.
Title: Re: landlords(how do you approach them with a greivance they cause)without affending
Post by: jmccaskill on June 01, 2013, 06:37:23 pm
yes, ask him when he going to cut the grass, he will probably want to know why you are asking, tell him politely that you don't want to remove grass from cleaned clothes again, and you would like to know so you can remove your pool as well.
Title: Re: landlords(how do you approach them with a greivance they cause)without affending
Post by: ajami on June 01, 2013, 06:51:35 pm
It is best to approach and discuss it with him.  Do no hold your feelings in or it will eat at you.
Title: Re: landlords(how do you approach them with a greivance they cause)without affending
Post by: Falconer02 on June 02, 2013, 04:01:14 pm
Yeah just be friendly about it! No need to be frightened of asking for a simple request-- especially since they're your Landlord. Most people are understanding of such simple things.
Title: Re: landlords(how do you approach them with a greivance they cause)without affending
Post by: Nancy5 on June 02, 2013, 04:19:32 pm
I agree with the above posting, just talk to your landlord.  Be kind and don't yell, he might not even realize what he was doing.  I'm sure you two can work it out.
Title: Re: landlords(how do you approach them with a greivance they cause)without affending
Post by: sarabtrayior on June 04, 2013, 06:48:30 am
I personally think that he is "yanking your chain" and it is working... If you don't want a confrontation wait until he's finished and then do what you want to do...
Title: Re: landlords(how do you approach them with a greivance they cause)without affending
Post by: hensleyll on June 17, 2013, 06:33:53 pm
well i went outside while he was cutting grass took clothes off line and started cleaning pool efore i could say anything he apologized for getting grass in pool said he tried not to ,so i just let it go.He says we dont cut it right!
Title: Re: landlords(how do you approach them with a greivance they cause)without affending
Post by: CharmedPhoenix on September 14, 2013, 12:10:57 am
Your landlord being your step-father-in-law complicates things.  If you're rent includes the yard then it's your right to cut your own grass whether you do it his way or not.  If he has to be the one to cut it he needs to schedule that chore with you.  Here in NM landlords are supposed to give 24 hours written notice of coming to the rental property.  They usually ignore this unfortunately.  Mine certainly does.  How about if you, or your husband cut the grass the day before laundry/pool day, then he won't have anything to cut.  Perhaps you could put the pool on a tarp that's a little bigger so he won't have grass to cut next to the pool.  Could your husband ask his mom to talk with him?  Good luck.
Title: Re: landlords(how do you approach them with a greivance they cause)without affending
Post by: kimmy29 on September 14, 2013, 08:34:15 pm
well my landlord who is also married to my husbands mother goes and cuts grass every single time i buy and fill a pool and pops it or cuts it for the last 4 years every time i get a pool he goes out and cuts grass when i put clothes on line he goes and cuts grass right under the clothes line
Title: Re: landlords(how do you approach them with a greivance they cause)without affending
Post by: bud1 on September 15, 2013, 10:59:21 am
Simply   confront   him  slowly  and  first.  If  the  does not work,  get  a little  more  bullheaded. Good  luck
Title: Re: landlords(how do you approach them with a greivance they cause)without affending
Post by: weased on September 17, 2013, 06:45:47 am
well my landlord who is also married to my husbands mother goes and cuts grass every single time i buy and fill a pool and pops it or cuts it for the last 4 years every time i get a pool he goes out and cuts grass when i put clothes on line he goes and cuts grass right under the clothes line
I`m pretty fortunate in my landlord/tenent relationship, I`ve been friends with mine for over 35 years and I always make sure he`s not attempting work on his many properties that would be dangerous for him at the age of 76, and he always appreciates it
Title: Re: landlords(how do you approach them with a greivance they cause)without affending
Post by: hensleyll on September 18, 2013, 01:28:35 pm
Well things are a little better he at least gives me a heads up now when he going to mow ,so i have time to get clothes in ,pool put up and dog bowls covered
Title: Re: landlords(how do you approach them with a greivance they cause)without affending
Post by: kerseycarol on September 19, 2013, 03:22:49 pm
oh he is being smart you need to tell him cause if  you don't he is going to keep doing it or send him your laundry bill.
Title: Re: landlords(how do you approach them with a greivance they cause)without affending
Post by: hensleyll on September 24, 2013, 06:35:18 am
i just use the dryer now so it hurts them more then me ,because i dont bpay the electric bill
Title: Re: landlords(how do you approach them with a greivance they cause)without affending
Post by: Cuppycake on September 24, 2013, 08:07:30 am
If he is that much of an obvious *bleep* I would not care about offending him. But that is just me.
Title: Re: landlords(how do you approach them with a greivance they cause)without affending
Post by: hensleyll on September 24, 2013, 12:13:05 pm
well turns out he is having cancer removed again so im glad i didnt go off on him
Title: Re: landlords(how do you approach them with a greivance they cause)without affending
Post by: sarabtrayior on October 01, 2013, 11:02:39 am
I still think he is yanking your chain so talk to him about what the issue is... it may help and should not hurt...
Title: Re: landlords(how do you approach them with a greivance they cause)without affending
Post by: batmobile on October 03, 2013, 11:26:18 pm
well my landlord who is also married to my husbands mother goes and cuts grass every single time i buy and fill a pool and pops it or cuts it for the last 4 years every time i get a pool he goes out and cuts grass when i put clothes on line he goes and cuts grass right under the clothes line
How rude! he needs to respect boundaries you let him cross that line several times already so he thinks its ok... not cool at all
Title: Re: landlords(how do you approach them with a greivance they cause)without affending
Post by: hensleyll on October 13, 2013, 11:06:00 am
well we had a blow up my husband had enough raised his voice said few choice words ,but things seem to be better,for now
Title: Re: landlords(how do you approach them with a greivance they cause)without affending
Post by: Barbara4321 on October 13, 2013, 03:11:00 pm
Offer to cut the grass yourself, since his behavior sounds like he's expressing his resentment at the task. Good luck.
Title: Re: landlords(how do you approach them with a greivance they cause)without affending
Post by: Sweetpea1228 on October 16, 2013, 11:42:21 am
Talk to him or your mother in law. Tell him you'll mow your own yard.
Title: Re: landlords(how do you approach them with a greivance they cause)without affending
Post by: vp44 on October 20, 2013, 09:26:39 am
Yards do not need mowing but once or twice a week. So how long are you leaving clothes out on line and how long are you leaving the pool out before most can attract mosquitos or other things that may come? If your saying every time you put out your clothes he mows or every time you put your pool out he mows. Maybe it is time for a agreement in written that you may need, just to have it on paper of what this situation can be resolved.
Title: Re: landlords(how do you approach them with a greivance they cause)without affending
Post by: hensleyll on October 20, 2013, 10:31:33 am
I thought about that
Title: Re: landlords(how do you approach them with a greivance they cause)without affending
Post by: sak4kat on October 20, 2013, 03:43:55 pm
We mow the lawn where we live.  Before we moved in we asked who does it and our landlord said he has someone do it it.  Our neighbors said someone does it once a month or so.  Well being in the landscaping business ourselves we weren't going to let it go week by week.  So, we choose to take control of the lawn ourselves.  We live in the back where the lawn is huge and there is a creek, lots of weed eating etc...  We only weed eat the front if the front tenants aren't home and the parking area is clear.  Wouldn't you know it when we were gone one day in my husbands truck we came home to find the back window of my SUV shot out.  The landlord had been there weed eating the front and we suspect a rock flung.  It happens.  When I confronted him he denied it.  Less than a month later he was at our place exchanging refrigerators and apologized.  He said he didn't know if he did it or not but he was willing to repair the window and take a look at some other problems the vehicle had (He's a mechanic) and wouldn't charge us for labor.  So the best thing to do is discuss it - even if it's uncomfortable.  You just never know what kind of results your going to get.
Title: Re: landlords(how do you approach them with a greivance they cause)without affending
Post by: vernaj77 on October 21, 2013, 12:31:32 am
I would my landlord about his schedule of mowing the lawn and tell him I would hate to be in your way with the clothing on the line.  Show him you are concern about what he has to with the lawn but you also will have you time in which your clothing will be ok free from lawn residue.
Title: Re: landlords(how do you approach them with a greivance they cause)without affending
Post by: ilovepatrick on October 21, 2013, 11:13:43 pm
my landlord asked me last month was there anything that i needed done to my apartment so i told her and as usual nothing was done
Title: Re: landlords(how do you approach them with a greivance they cause)without affending
Post by: hensleyll on October 22, 2013, 11:12:02 am
well he cut grass again the other day this time he stayed away from my clothes this time
Title: Re: landlords(how do you approach them with a greivance they cause)without affending
Post by: hensleyll on October 22, 2013, 11:13:23 am
which was only sleeping bags airing out to pack away,but its the thought