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Title: what would you do in this situation?
Post by: march1971 on June 01, 2013, 12:28:24 am
what would you do in this situation? there is a Ghanaian lady wanting to marry me, however she doesn't communicate with me regularly. one day, I was extremely angry about her not communicating with me. I believe that if she wants to marry me, she needs to give me her love and communication without fail.

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Post by: rpse1927 on June 01, 2013, 07:01:16 am
in this situation i would be patient with here and if you love her enough. nothing would matter.
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Post by: msmoneybags48 on June 01, 2013, 07:31:47 am
Could be some type of scam.  However, if you love this lady, give her time and maybe things will change where she starts communicating with you. :heart: :heart: :heart:
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Post by: oldbuddy on June 01, 2013, 07:34:54 am
what would you do in this situation? there is a Ghanaian lady wanting to marry me, however she doesn't communicate with me regularly. one day, I was extremely angry about her not communicating with me. I believe that if she wants to marry me, she needs to give me her love and communication without fail.

Is this a long distance Internet relationship? I have an acquaintance that got into one of these with a Nigerian gal and it cost him over $30,000 before he realized she never was going to marry him, she just wanted to milk him for as much money as possible.
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Post by: march1971 on June 01, 2013, 08:05:26 am
what would you do in this situation? there is a Ghanaian lady wanting to marry me, however she doesn't communicate with me regularly. one day, I was extremely angry about her not communicating with me. I believe that if she wants to marry me, she needs to give me her love and communication without fail.

Is this a long distance Internet relationship? I have an acquaintance that got into one of these with a Nigerian gal and it cost him over $30,000 before he realized she never was going to marry him, she just wanted to milk him for as much money as possible.
well, he picked the wrong lady. there are decent Ghanaian and Naija ladies out there. stop believing the BS that people say about Africa. if you believe that they are scammers, then you are ignorant. Americans can scam you just as well.
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Post by: BlackSheepNY on June 01, 2013, 08:40:39 am
what would you do in this situation? there is a Ghanaian lady wanting to marry me, however she doesn't communicate with me regularly. one day, I was extremely angry about her not communicating with me. I believe that if she wants to marry me, she needs to give me her love and communication without fail.

Is this a long distance Internet relationship? I have an acquaintance that got into one of these with a Nigerian gal and it cost him over $30,000 before he realized she never was going to marry him, she just wanted to milk him for as much money as possible.

I agree with OldBuddy here, ESPECIALLY if it's an internet relationship.  If he's never met her, BUYER BEWARE!!!
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Post by: march1971 on June 01, 2013, 12:58:38 pm
what would you do in this situation? there is a Ghanaian lady wanting to marry me, however she doesn't communicate with me regularly. one day, I was extremely angry about her not communicating with me. I believe that if she wants to marry me, she needs to give me her love and communication without fail.

Is this a long distance Internet relationship? I have an acquaintance that got into one of these with a Nigerian gal and it cost him over $30,000 before he realized she never was going to marry him, she just wanted to milk him for as much money as possible.

I agree with OldBuddy here, ESPECIALLY if it's an internet relationship.  If he's never met her, BUYER BEWARE!!!
I am going to meet her eventually.
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Post by: sigmapi1501 on June 01, 2013, 01:10:56 pm
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Post by: nhendrickson on June 01, 2013, 01:53:14 pm
If you have an Internet relationship and you haven't met in person in a relatively short period of time, chances are it will never take off.  No matter how well the two of you seem to get on online, things are different when you meet face to face.  People are often not the way they represent themselves.  Also, you can't really tell if you have chemistry until you meet in person.  Finally, the two of seem to be having issues already and very different ideas about what this relationship should be about. 

As for the rest, it could be a scam and then again it might not be.  On the other hand, if you have never met in person, you have no idea whether she's really Ghanaian or really a woman even.
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Post by: march1971 on June 01, 2013, 06:26:11 pm
If you have an Internet relationship and you haven't met in person in a relatively short period of time, chances are it will never take off.  No matter how well the two of you seem to get on online, things are different when you meet face to face.  People are often not the way they represent themselves.  Also, you can't really tell if you have chemistry until you meet in person.  Finally, the two of seem to be having issues already and very different ideas about what this relationship should be about. 

As for the rest, it could be a scam and then again it might not be.  On the other hand, if you have never met in person, you have no idea whether she's really Ghanaian or really a woman even.
I have spoken to her over the phone. she is a lady.
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Post by: oldbuddy on June 02, 2013, 06:47:24 am
If you have an Internet relationship and you haven't met in person in a relatively short period of time, chances are it will never take off.  No matter how well the two of you seem to get on online, things are different when you meet face to face.  People are often not the way they represent themselves.  Also, you can't really tell if you have chemistry until you meet in person.  Finally, the two of seem to be having issues already and very different ideas about what this relationship should be about. 

As for the rest, it could be a scam and then again it might not be.  On the other hand, if you have never met in person, you have no idea whether she's really Ghanaian or really a woman even.
I have spoken to her over the phone. she is a lady.

The real question is have you sent her any MONEY?
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Post by: BlackSheepNY on June 02, 2013, 09:02:52 am
what would you do in this situation? there is a Ghanaian lady wanting to marry me, however she doesn't communicate with me regularly. one day, I was extremely angry about her not communicating with me. I believe that if she wants to marry me, she needs to give me her love and communication without fail.

Is this a long distance Internet relationship? I have an acquaintance that got into one of these with a Nigerian gal and it cost him over $30,000 before he realized she never was going to marry him, she just wanted to milk him for as much money as possible.

I agree with OldBuddy here, ESPECIALLY if it's an internet relationship.  If he's never met her, BUYER BEWARE!!!
I am going to meet her eventually.

"Eventually" could be a very long time.  From what I've read in your posts, you said you've spoken to her.  OldBuddy asked a really great question:  "Have you given her any money?"  If you've been sending this woman money and she doesn't even communicate with you the way you like or need, what makes you think she'll change that?  Go in to this thing with your eyes wide open.  There's no reason to send anyone money or gifts until you really know who you're dealing with.  Once you "eventually" meet her - in person - you'll be more able to judge whether this is even a relationship YOU want.  She may want to marry you, but do YOU want to marry HER?  Like others have said in their posts, she may not be anything she says she is.  You won't know that until you meet her with your own eyes and get to know her.
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Post by: swkstudent on June 02, 2013, 01:50:31 pm
This reminds me of that show catfish. I'd say go and met her. If she refuses to met you than she's not real. If you met her, ask a lot of questions and take your time to get to know her before marrying.
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Post by: vickysue on June 02, 2013, 02:04:23 pm
Looks like you ae geting set up for some heart break. If you have not met her and only talked a few times, she is looking to hook a fish. Find someone in the USA there a lot of nice women and girls here and yes a few crooks too. But you could at least have her investagated like i did my hubby before i would date him. And we have been married for 20 years.
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Post by: oldbuddy on June 02, 2013, 08:23:23 pm
Looks like you ae geting set up for some heart break. If you have not met her and only talked a few times, she is looking to hook a fish. Find someone in the USA there a lot of nice women and girls here and yes a few crooks too. But you could at least have her investagated like i did my hubby before i would date him. And we have been married for 20 years.

Now that's a new approach, but after hearing what happens lately not a bad one. I have lots of friends that wish they would have thought of that. Just not sure it guarantees a happy marriage though, people change.
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Post by: batmobile on June 02, 2013, 09:07:38 pm
r u smoking crack ??? :o
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Post by: davidf938 on June 03, 2013, 11:12:50 am
Have you even met this person? Doesn't sound like a good relationship to me.
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Post by: sarabtrayior on June 04, 2013, 06:57:15 am
Some of the folks are talking about cash... you should not send her cash and if she's not communicating, maybe she's having a bad day, week, ect... cut her some slack...
Title: Re: what would you do in this situation?
Post by: march1971 on June 19, 2013, 07:22:08 pm
If you have an Internet relationship and you haven't met in person in a relatively short period of time, chances are it will never take off.  No matter how well the two of you seem to get on online, things are different when you meet face to face.  People are often not the way they represent themselves.  Also, you can't really tell if you have chemistry until you meet in person.  Finally, the two of seem to be having issues already and very different ideas about what this relationship should be about. 

As for the rest, it could be a scam and then again it might not be.  On the other hand, if you have never met in person, you have no idea whether she's really Ghanaian or really a woman even.
I have spoken to her over the phone. she is a lady.

The real question is have you sent her any MONEY?
she has never asked me for money. evidently she has really high morals. I tested her one time over the phone and offered to give her my CC information and she got mad and hung up.
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Post by: march1971 on June 21, 2013, 02:37:24 pm
Looks like you ae geting set up for some heart break. If you have not met her and only talked a few times, she is looking to hook a fish. Find someone in the USA there a lot of nice women and girls here and yes a few crooks too. But you could at least have her investagated like i did my hubby before i would date him. And we have been married for 20 years.
actually, we talk alot, but she was angry a few times at me. we seem to have this behind us.
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Post by: jmccaskill on June 21, 2013, 02:52:37 pm
RUN like the wind, and hide! Change everything possible that is used to contact you.  ;D