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i was raped 4 times over a 5 year period and it was my step father that did it but back then when i was a child they didn't do any thing but give him 5 years of therapy and 5 years of probation i still have nightmares about it and the last time my dad saw me i asked him why he did this too me and all he said was he didn't know i went for many years hating him and still to this day there is some hate inside me but i was just wondering if anyone else has gone threw this and why do people raped when there are so many people out there that are willing to give it up or they can get a prositute and pay for it
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I am so sorry for the horrible things that happened to you. I wish I had the answer to your question. I was a rape counselor while I attended college many years ago. There are cruel people in this world and you have every right to never speak to your step-father again. The scars may never heal.
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I am not sure why it happens, it makes them feel powerful and in control and that excites them as far as I can tell
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To answer this Question.. There is no Good Reason Or excuse. This world is a cold cruel place at times and people this day and age are not in the right state of mind. Some are not to blame because that is probably how they got treated and in turn they think it is ok to do.. Some Don't know at all while others say the person wanted it( which is in their mind of course).Rape is becoming more common now a days and its the sad reality that the world is not what it use to be.
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i was raped 4 times over a 5 year period and it was my step father that did it but back then when i was a child they didn't do any thing but give him 5 years of therapy and 5 years of probation i still have nightmares about it and the last time my dad saw me i asked him why he did this too me and all he said was he didn't know i went for many years hating him and still to this day there is some hate inside me but i was just wondering if anyone else has gone threw this and why do people raped when there are so many people out there that are willing to give it up or they can get a prositute and pay for it
Wow that takes courage to share sorry to hear... it is a control factor with rape
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I'm really sorry you had to experience this. Hopefully you sought some help and were able to move past it. I think people rape for power. It's all about power.
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I am very sorry to hear about your horrible experiences. I don't believe there is any "acceptable" answer as to WHY people rape ore than they have serious issues.
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I am sorry to hear about this...I hope that one day you will forgive him, and move on...I think sometimes, it is mental, and about power, although some men think that raping a virgin, will cure them of some disease that they might have caught...
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i was raped 4 times over a 5 year period and it was my step father that did it but back then when i was a child they didn't do any thing but give him 5 years of therapy and 5 years of probation i still have nightmares about it and the last time my dad saw me i asked him why he did this too me and all he said was he didn't know i went for many years hating him and still to this day there is some hate inside me but i was just wondering if anyone else has gone threw this and why do people raped when there are so many people out there that are willing to give it up or they can get a prositute and pay for it
First, I am sorry this happened to you. I have asked this same question myself and the response I received was it is a control thing. They don't want it from somebody who is willing to give it to them. They want to have control over somebody.
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I am sorry to hear about this...I hope that one day you will forgive him, and move on...I think sometimes, it is mental, and about power, although some men think that raping a virgin, will cure them of some disease that they might have caught...
This is true. It's hard to agree that it's a true statement and you have every right to hate him but as long as you hold hate in your heart you are still giving him control over you.
In response to "this" comment...raping a virgin will cure them of some disease they have caught? Wow. I had never heard that one. But nothing surprises me. And they can't really believe that. Although raping a "virgin" so THEY are the first I can see. And that goes back to the control thing. :(
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Wow that's really sad, I'm so sorry.
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thanks for all the responces that i got my only solace is that he will never be able to do this ever again because he passed away 10 years ago and even now i see a therapist but i no it may me a stronger person i dont no if i will ever forgive him for what he did and i won't ever get the answer
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Well that's a sad story but the answer for the question in general well, Pleasure, Anger, enjoyment and so on but there is no real excuse for it and it's wrong in my opinion.
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I totally agree with kingozzy answer.
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I don't know...
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i was raped 4 times over a 5 year period and it was my step father that did it but back then when i was a child they didn't do any thing but give him 5 years of therapy and 5 years of probation i still have nightmares about it and the last time my dad saw me i asked him why he did this too me and all he said was he didn't know i went for many years hating him and still to this day there is some hate inside me but i was just wondering if anyone else has gone threw this and why do people raped when there are so many people out there that are willing to give it up or they can get a prositute and pay for it
I think its really about a need for extreme control over another human
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Men rape women because it gives them power, it is a power thing and it makes them feel powerful. I hate men who rapes children, but God will handle them. I pray everyday that you made a ful recovery.
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My heart goes out to you for your problems. I was molested at age 9 by the husband of my cousin, but it did not last that long. He threatened to kill my cousin if I told her. I blamed myself for it for a long time. It turned out that my mother was raped at the age of 16 and conceived me. I have an aunt who was raped while in college and conceived a boy, who is my cousin. I have a nephew who was molested from the ages of 5 through 7 by a friend of my sister (he was killed in prison in 2008); my nephew struggled with his sexuality for a long time, got a girlfriend, bought her a necklace, and she chose to dump him. He is now full-blown gay. My niece struggles with her sexuality and wears men's clothes.
You didn't deserve what happened to you, nor did I. But I didn't allow my rape to control my life. I look at it as one of the cruel things in my life that has happened, and I finally realized a long time ago that there are some truly sick men and women in this world who gets their jollies from taking the innocence of children. I cannot believe that it is safer to rape a child than to rape a grown woman and vice versa. But there are men who would prefer to rape and go to prison for raping children. I hope you get over your situation, sad as it was. I am stronger because I took control of my life, not because I allowed that rape to affect my life. I know it is not easy to forget, but did you forgive him? It is in control of you, and until you take control, it will fester and take control of you. ??? ??? ??? :o :o :o :wave:
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low life stupid cowards
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I am sorry to hear that, I hope and pray that you will fully recovered from everything happened to you.
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Not a great subject! But who knows, maybe they can't have a relationship.