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Have you ever had your son or daughter to stop talking to you? well my daughter hasn't spoken to me in what seems like a year.....i'm getting to the point where I don't care anymore....am I wrong?...Thank you everyone. by the way my daughter is 35 with 3 kids of her own.
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im guessing that she is a teenager don't give up try to keep talking to her she may be very depressed. on the flip side when my son was in second grade my wife went to work and didn't get home til after five being left with me more often he stated talking a whole lot more and said that mom and sissy talked so much he couldn't get a word in.
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im guessing that she is a teenager don't give up try to keep talking to her she may be very depressed. on the flip side when my son was in second grade my wife went to work and didn't get home til after five being left with me more often he stated talking a whole lot more and said that mom and sissy talked so much he couldn't get a word in.
I am guess that she is NOT a teenager...
Some people are just like that. You have to decide for yourself if they are worth the effort.
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I have had my daughter to do that but she started back........it hurts a lot....I hope you two can mend your relationship soon......
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Have you ever had your son or daughter to stop talking to you? well my daughter hasn't spoken to me in what seems like a year.....i'm getting to the point where I don't care anymore....am I wrong?
I am not sure, but mothers always love there children no matter what, but sometimes you have to stop worring and stop being hurt by what children do to us because they know we will always be there for them.
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You know, each child is different. You know your child best. I've got one child that is very attention seeking and one child that isn't. The one that is attention seeking will back chat me a lot. Then he will go silent and moody. I think you should decide if the best way to deal with it is to not pander to the child or whether further investigation is necessary. I would hate for your child to feel that no further investigation on your part were taken as they are not worth it, but likewise if they are always pushing your buttons then perhaps "least said, soonest mended" is the best approach. You know your child best.
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That can really be a sad situation. I have a very close friend who hasn't talked to her daughter in almost 1 year. The daughter us in her early 20's, thinks she knows everything there is to know about everything, but it's still sad and I know my friend is hurting and misses her daughter. Thank God my two girls and I have a good relationship. That doesn't mean we haven't fought, but we have never stopped talking. There is something about a mother's love that is so special. I hope you and your daughter can reconcile again.
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It depends on what all as happened. Lots of times a kid and parent have a fallout. Not knowing the situation it's hard to give an opinion. What happened to cause her to stop talking to you? I know of situations like this. Was a son and father. They didn't speak for over 2 years. The son finally made the first move. They talk some now. Have you made an efforts to talk to her? If you all had a fall out then somebody has to make the first move. Either somebody has to apologize even if they feel they are not wrong or you just have to move past it. It will take effort from both of you. But if she keeps rejecting you and wants nothing to do with you then there is nothing you can do and no you aren't wrong for moving on with your life.
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I don't know the circumstances but if that's her choice I would try not to worry about it.
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Have you ever had your son or daughter to stop talking to you? well my daughter hasn't spoken to me in what seems like a year.....i'm getting to the point where I don't care anymore....am I wrong?...Thank you everyone. by the way my daughter is 35 with 3 kids of her own.
I personally would drive her crazy and talk to her anyway.
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My mom is going through the same thing. Only it's with her own mother. My grandma is not a nice person and has never been with my mom. We moved out to Colorado to help her, which she complained a lot over the phone before about not having anyone, and then it became hell on Earth. She even called the cops on us. Some people, family included, you just have take a step back from.
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We can not make our adult children do as we want, we have raised them and they don't always do as we thought we were teaching, so I say you are not wrong. We are only human, I suggest you make an occasional effort to reach out and show your love ( a card works) but you can not chase others around your whole life. Good luck.
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Life is way too short for that. Lost time can never be made up. I don't know what happened to cause this situation but for the grandbabies sake, I would do everything I could to patch things up even if it means swallowing my pride to do so.
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Have you ever had your son or daughter to stop talking to you? well my daughter hasn't spoken to me in what seems like a year.....i'm getting to the point where I don't care anymore....am I wrong?...Thank you everyone. by the way my daughter is 35 with 3 kids of her own.
I personally would drive her crazy and talk to her anyway.
I have tried to email her, call her and she wont answer either...I apologized to her for something that SHE did NOT me but it all falls on deaf ears... :BangHead:
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I am 43 and I have become estranged from my father. I haven't spoken to him in a couple years. I have two small children. I say it is his loss for missing out on seeing his grandchildren grow up. I have done my part in trying to make an effort in communicating with him but he won't return the favor.
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mothers and daughters should always talk....ALWAYS
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Have you ever had your son or daughter to stop talking to you? well my daughter hasn't spoken to me in what seems like a year.....i'm getting to the point where I don't care anymore....am I wrong?...Thank you everyone. by the way my daughter is 35 with 3 kids of her own.
I personally would drive her crazy and talk to her anyway.
I have tried to email her, call her and she wont answer either...I apologized to her for something that SHE did NOT me but it all falls on deaf ears... :BangHead:
I am sorry for your misfortunes with your daughter. There probably is not any thing you can do about it right now except to keep the door open to her. Perhaps in the future she will come around.
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Have you ever had your son or daughter to stop talking to you? well my daughter hasn't spoken to me in what seems like a year.....i'm getting to the point where I don't care anymore....am I wrong?...Thank you everyone. by the way my daughter is 35 with 3 kids of her own.
I personally would drive her crazy and talk to her anyway.
I have tried to email her, call her and she wont answer either...I apologized to her for something that SHE did NOT me but it all falls on deaf ears... :BangHead:
I am sorry for your misfortunes with your daughter. There probably is not any thing you can do about it right now except to keep the door open to her. Perhaps in the future she will come around.
I hope so hun thank you.
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Do what you can to have a relationship with your grandchildren. Maybe that will soften your daughter's heart.
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Do what you can to have a relationship with your grandchildren. Maybe that will soften your daughter's heart.
Hi Barb, my Grandkids are 11 & 8, my 11 year old Grandson told me he heard what was going on and so he is staying loyal to his Mom which I don't blame them....I will leave the door open, I email her once and awhile only to tell her I love her so she knows i'm here for her no matter what!!...maybe some day!!
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It sounds like you have done just about all you can do, the decision is now up to her. I probably would make one last effort and send her a card. Write something like you hope you can put things behind you and be like you were before, you love her and always will, and know you will always be there for her. Then I guess it's up to her whether she wants to resume talking to you. I pray she can see that no one should ignore their mom, and she as a mom should be able to see that. What would she do if one of her children stopped talking to her? Good luck and I'm hoping she comes around.
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If you feel like you've done your best in raising her then let her have her space. There come a time when were think we have to have a hand in our grown children's affairs. Know that you raised her right and that the choices she make now are all her own.
Love her as a mother should and be there for her if and when she reaches out to you. If you have something to say to your daughter, write her a nice letter reminding her of a few happy times that you two shared. Don't say anything upsetting. Just give her some really true love in letter form, you may be happily surprised sooner than you think.
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It sounds like you have done just about all you can do, the decision is now up to her. I probably would make one last effort and send her a card. Write something like you hope you can put things behind you and be like you were before, you love her and always will, and know you will always be there for her. Then I guess it's up to her whether she wants to resume talking to you. I pray she can see that no one should ignore their mom, and she as a mom should be able to see that. What would she do if one of her children stopped talking to her? Good luck and I'm hoping she comes around.
I wonder the same thing sometimes. She just had my 3rd Grandchild by her 3 months ago and I haven't even met him yet :(....I hope before i'm gone this will get resolved...thank you Nancy!!
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If you feel like you've done your best in raising her then let her have her space. There come a time when were think we have to have a hand in our grown children's affairs. Know that you raised her right and that the choices she make now are all her own.
Love her as a mother should and be there for her if and when she reaches out to you. If you have something to say to your daughter, write her a nice letter reminding her of a few happy times that you two shared. Don't say anything upsetting. Just give her some really true love in letter form, you may be happily surprised sooner than you think.
Thank you maxinmotion, I tried that as well and still nothing :(.....maybe some day, she and I were ALWAYS so close!
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whoops my bad I guess I had a brain cloud when I posted my answer
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Have you ever had your son or daughter to stop talking to you? well my daughter hasn't spoken to me in what seems like a year.....i'm getting to the point where I don't care anymore....am I wrong?...Thank you everyone. by the way my daughter is 35 with 3 kids of her own.
I stopped talking to my father for about 2-3 years, but fortunantely he became one of my closest and most respected friends the last 15 years he lived
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Have you ever had your son or daughter to stop talking to you? well my daughter hasn't spoken to me in what seems like a year.....i'm getting to the point where I don't care anymore....am I wrong?...Thank you everyone. by the way my daughter is 35 with 3 kids of her own.
I stopped talking to my father for about 2-3 years, but fortunantely he became one of my closest and most respected friends the last 15 years he lived
I'm glad it turned out good for you :)
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Maybe she has issues that she is dealing with and doesn't want to worry you. You may just want to call her or go to her house. But i've heard of people not talking to their parents because they are too busy.
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Me and dad go through this ever so often. Sometimes people grow tired of each other but when it is all said and done you are still family. I am here to say that my dad is best buddy in the world. Even though we do not see eye to eye 100% of the time but who does?
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Maybe she has issues that she is dealing with and doesn't want to worry you. You may just want to call her or go to her house. But i've heard of people not talking to their parents because they are too busy.
We use to talk every day. She does have a 3 month old and an 11 & 8 year old, maybe that is it but I highly doubt it :'(...thank you!!
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I hope one day you will be able to talk with your daughter, because you are missing time you could be spending with your grandchildren.
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I hope one day you will be able to talk with your daughter, because you are missing time you could be spending with your grandchildren.
Thank you, that is the part that breaks my heart is not spending time with grandkids. I so want to meet my new grandbaby too before he gets to old. I want to bond with him so he will know that I am his Nana :(
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The only reason I can't talk to my mother is she passed away 17 years ago. If you have done everything you could and she still is not speaking to you, don't wait until it is too late. My mother felt I should have done more for her while she was alive, although she didn't want me when she had me. "When you get rich, don't forget your mother" was her favorite term to say to me. I heard she said that I should send her money and forget my responsibilities to my family. My family came first. Anyway, my grandmother raised me, and she passed away 24 years ago. If there was anyone I would stick my neck out for, it would be her. But rather than dwell on the past, I will say to you that I wish you luck in reconnecting with your daughter. Don't wait until it is too late. Death has a strange bedfellow in bringing people together who think that the dearly departed left them something. I have seen what happens when a loved one dies, and it is not pretty. :o :o :o :wave: :wave:
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kids can be relly hard to deal with at times,,,smh :peace:
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I am guilty of just that. I'm 38 and I choose to avoid my own Mother as much as I can. Anytime I'm around her she say's things that are rude, hurtful and pointless. Even worse now she goes through my kids to get her digs in towards me. I've moved away - and she and her boyfriend just show up to visit. Usually her trips are to bring the kids a present or treat. But from day one she has come uninvited expects us to drop everything. The day before Halloween she and her boyfriend showed up - It was raining, and I was on a business call - trying to to wrap things up to get the Dr and they just expected me to stop so I could chat with them. A simple phone call could have avoided the annoyance.
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I am guilty of just that. I'm 38 and I choose to avoid my own Mother as much as I can. Anytime I'm around her she say's things that are rude, hurtful and pointless. Even worse now she goes through my kids to get her digs in towards me. I've moved away - and she and her boyfriend just show up to visit. Usually her trips are to bring the kids a present or treat. But from day one she has come uninvited expects us to drop everything. The day before Halloween she and her boyfriend showed up - It was raining, and I was on a business call - trying to to wrap things up to get the Dr and they just expected me to stop so I could chat with them. A simple phone call could have avoided the annoyance.
I am the total opposite with my daughter. I do nothing but praise her and tell her what a good mother/daughter she is. She however did something that I didn't agree with and I voiced my opinion and thoughts and now she wont talk to me....many have told me to just show up at her door but I don't want my Grandkids to go through any reactions my daughter may have with us just showing up.....thanks!!
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Don't give up on her. Try and talk not fuss.
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Don't give up on her. Try and talk not fuss.
Nannycoe1, I have tried so hard to talk with her every way that I can but she wont budge :( I am getting to the point that I don't even care anymore. I love her with all my heart and i'll be there if/when she decides to contact me but I can not stress over this anymore. what will be will be!!...thank you!!
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My daughter stopped talking to me almost 5 years ago. I still do not why. Sounds bizarre, but true. She even stopped her 2 sons from talking to me. This is a woman who never went without anything while growing up. But as she grew older I could see the personality of a person whose world only revolved around her and didn't care about others or what she said to them-to
include me-that was a shocker.
I prayed about it to get the stress off me, because it was making me a wreck and now I have accepted that they are people that I never knew and to go ahead and live my life.
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I am guilty of just that. I'm 38 and I choose to avoid my own Mother as much as I can. Anytime I'm around her she say's things that are rude, hurtful and pointless. Even worse now she goes through my kids to get her digs in towards me. I've moved away - and she and her boyfriend just show up to visit. Usually her trips are to bring the kids a present or treat. But from day one she has come uninvited expects us to drop everything. The day before Halloween she and her boyfriend showed up - It was raining, and I was on a business call - trying to to wrap things up to get the Dr and they just expected me to stop so I could chat with them. A simple phone call could have avoided the annoyance.
. I can't imagine what ONE thing she could do that you could disagree with that would be enough for her to shut you out forever. Well, I can think of one thing. But you can not agree with something someone does or how the live and still love them and be friends. I have family that we don't agree on things but we are there for each other. I hope she can get over what ever it is she is mad about and let you back into her life. But if the kids know what the problem is they may already be poisoned against you. It's hard to undo words. :(. So sorry for what you are going thru.
I am the total opposite with my daughter. I do nothing but praise her and tell her what a good mother/daughter she is. She however did something that I didn't agree with and I voiced my opinion and thoughts and now she wont talk to me....many have told me to just show up at her door but I don't want my Grandkids to go through any reactions my daughter may have with us just showing up.....thanks!!
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Don't give up on her. Try and talk not fuss.
Nannycoe1, I have tried so hard to talk with her every way that I can but she wont budge :( I am getting to the point that I don't even care anymore. I love her with all my heart and i'll be there if/when she decides to contact me but I can not stress over this anymore. what will be will be!!...thank you!!
Do you have any other kids? Could they help you? Or get her to budge?
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My daughter stopped talking to me almost 5 years ago. I still do not why. Sounds bizarre, but true. She even stopped her 2 sons from talking to me. This is a woman who never went without anything while growing up. But as she grew older I could see the personality of a person whose world only revolved around her and didn't care about others or what she said to them-to
include me-that was a shocker.
I prayed about it to get the stress off me, because it was making me a wreck and now I have accepted that they are people that I never knew and to go ahead and live my life.
Wow. Are you my aunt? lol. This sounds like my cousin. She got everything she ever wanted and then some. Got to do everything she wanted. Be in everything. Never heard the word no. And the one who made it happen she treats them like crap. She speaks to her but her mother would be better off if she didn't in my opinion.
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Don't give up on her. Try and talk not fuss.
Nannycoe1, I have tried so hard to talk with her every way that I can but she wont budge :( I am getting to the point that I don't even care anymore. I love her with all my heart and i'll be there if/when she decides to contact me but I can not stress over this anymore. what will be will be!!...thank you!!
Do you have any other kids? Could they help you? Or get her to budge?
Yes I have a son who is 31 but right now he is in the Academy for 7 more weeks. He can not understand his sisters actions either. I don't want to involve him much in anything because I just want him to focus on the Police Academy and graduate!!..maybe if I give her space she will think things over and call me one day, i'm not going to hold my breath though.
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Blah...blah...blah. I know what your mean! I felt the same way about schools and teachers. Now I go to my computer and use the Internet. And have a better chat!
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She is your daughter and she has your grandchildren. I would keep trying in a gentle manner. You don't want to look back in a few years and say, "I should have tried harder."
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She is your daughter and she has your grandchildren. I would keep trying in a gentle manner. You don't want to look back in a few years and say, "I should have tried harder."
I don't know how much harder I can try. I have sent numerous emails, I have called her many times with no answer, I don't know what more to do. :dontknow:
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No I don't think you are wrong. I have a brother and sister that I have never done anything to that came against me when I was caring for our mom with no help and they have not spoken to me since she died 3 years ago. I don't care its their thing. You can't make people love you or act right.
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No I don't think you are wrong. I have a brother and sister that I have never done anything to that came against me when I was caring for our mom with no help and they have not spoken to me since she died 3 years ago. I don't care its their thing. You can't make people love you or act right.
Aww well that is sad on your part deb. I'm just going to give her space and see what happens. I don't like to throw myself at anyone even if it is my daughter...thank you!!
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I'm not married or anything nor do I have a child, But dont give up if she does not talk to you talk to her keep on doing so until she knows that you care for her deeply. If ya think you did something wrong amend for it don't just let it go thinking (whatever if you don't care why should I). Try your best to be part of her life and her kids Good Luck hope it ends well.
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I'm not married or anything nor do I have a child, But dont give up if she does not talk to you talk to her keep on doing so until she knows that you care for her deeply. If ya think you did something wrong amend for it don't just let it go thinking (whatever if you don't care why should I). Try your best to be part of her life and her kids Good Luck hope it ends well.
Thank you so much for your advice. Oh I will NEVER give up on my daughter. I will always be there for her, but it needs to work both ways for it to work. I tried calling/emailing many many times with no response so I think I will give it a brake and just see what happens.