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I regret saying some hurtful things to ones I am the closest to. unfortunately once out of the mouth one cant take back :(
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But one can always apologize. If something is still upsetting you that you said to someone, chances are they may remember it also. Take a chance and offer an apology or send them a note with a compliment. Random acts of kindness and appreciation go a long way
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I feel like this: if you are strong enough to take the wrongdoings done to you by your own relatives, as I have, I forgave them, but I have less to do with them. My youngest sister did dirt to me, but the one time she spoke to me, she had the mitigated gall to tell me not to hang up on her because she is my sister. While listening to her, I wanted to ask her why now I am supposed to acknowledge the fact that she is my sister but, when she was doing dirt to me, I was just somebody she didn't like. I learned a long time ago that, unless you are bending over backwards to kiss her behind, she will use you. Right now, she is as messy as can be. My sister next to me is her victim of choice because I will not kiss her rear end. :bad: :bad: :bad: :BangHead: :BangHead:
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I don't have any regrets on anything I ever said but I DO have regrets on my choice of professions and kick myself for leaving good jobs for bad jobs.
Back in the 80s, I had a great job in inventory control for a company that really, really appreciated their employees. They gave everyone a Christmas gift and held a Christmas party where the choice of food was surf (lobster) OR turf (filet mignon). I loved my job, had great bennies with profit sharing. I was offered a scheduling position which was good pay (since I did that when the regular guy was out sick or on vacation) but had the itch to go on my own and opened a secretarial service part time (home computers were still too expensive for people to buy). Anyway, I stayed on until I felt the person I was training could go it on their own and then I left. How stupid was that!!!??? :(
For 2 years after I left, they would call me in to help do the yearly inventory and help set up a new inventory control system. The person they hired for my position didn't give diddly squat if the numbers were correct and boy, did I feel bad! They then asked me if I would come back FT in the accounting dept., which I did, but they just kept piling different jobs on me. i wound up doing Acct's Payable, Receivable, Billing, truck federal highway use taxes, figuring out truck expenses/mileage, etc., etc., and all state and federal sales and use taxes, all while the head of the dept. would crunch numbers for cost savings. When the girl who worked with my buddy in computer systems operations quit, I filled in until they hired someone else. After another 4 years, couldn't take the stress anymore and quit again. How stupid was that???? My buddy is still there at the old place and the company was bought out by a large, well known international company with a very familiar name and he got a $10K raise! >:(
Longer story short, my business did take off after a couple years and I also took a medical transcription course because I was typing up x-rays as a sub-contractor for an x-ray technician. She had stated I should get into MT'g 'cause I was good for not having a background in it. (This was still before the internet and even before laser printers, just jot matrix.) Wound up working FT for local hospital, then home to take care of mom who was sick, and started MT'g from home, which I did for another 15 years with 4 doctors privately, 1 attorney, and the local hospital, plus a FT national service. Gave everyone up except 1 doc and the attorney for 4 years, then MT'g came crashing down because of Obam's EMR requirements and voice recognition software. >:( How stupid was that????!!!!!
Well, so here I am today and I do talk a lot, don't I? ;D
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I think we all at one time another have had some regrest, But we have to live with them and try harder not to have more. When we harm some one with thoughtless words or manner it will always be there then. I know my sister is one that will say whatever to make herself out to be the best. And all it does is hurt with her lies and halftruths. And then she can't understand why i blow at times. Afterall she did not mean any harm ( so she says but she meant it). Oh well i guess i will have to learn to live with it because she will never change.
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Everyone has regrets I would assume - its human nature for us to do and say stuff wrong because we are human. Now here is the thing - my husband of 34 years died in January and there are things I wish I had said to him and apologized for before he died. Because now its too late and I have to live with that - so if I gave advice to people it would be don't take the chance - apologize even if the person doesn't accept your apology at least you tried to make things right.
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I would venture to say that everyone who has any sort of interaction with other people has some regrets about things that in hindsight they should have done differently.
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I have a lot of regrets, but I don't share them with the public.
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Yes I have a few. Most of them don't bother me because I can apologize but one does because I can't find the person to apologize and thank him. Hopefully one day I will be able to see him so I can talk, apologize, thank, and catch up with him.
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My biggest regret is breaking up with my first/only love.
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For a minute there i thought i was gonna be speaking to Frank Sinatra!!
For those that dont understand...regrets ive had a few......comes from Sinatras classic "MY Way"
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I think just about everyone has at least one regret even if it's small like maybe I should have ordered something else off the food menu. As for my self to many to count however the nice thing about verbal regret especially if you didn't mean it is you can apologize for it. If it's one skill I've learned this last year or two is the second I realized what I've said wrong or done it's best to apologize right away to that person.
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There are some that I regret and some I dont really regret much, You say what you say right ? its either Regret it or don't ;)
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oh yes I have a few regrets :snowman:
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I have some regrets, mostly missed opportunities or things that I said or didn't say. I try to fix what I can and learn from it.
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Yeah, I do have some regrets. I think my biggest regret is that when I was in my late teens and early twenties I was very shy. I used to work in a bank and occasionally we would get the odd customer in that was really rude about a part of the banking service. But when they spoke to me they spoke in such a way that it was me who made the rules and it was me who was personally at fault. Ultimately I would end up in the back office crying and I always hated myself for not being stronger. My mum used to say don't worry, when you are older you will have more confidence and oh boy, now I'm 45 and I cannot keep my mouth shut if I see something going on that's not right, even if it's none of my business! I wish when I was younger that my confidence had come earlier.
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I've thought of another regret. When I was younger (again in my twenties) I was very submissive to my boyfriends and way too forgiving. I remember one boyfriend who I was very fond of saying he would come round and see me on Thursday. Well he didn't visit and he didn't call until Saturday by which time I was very upset. But I really liked him so I forgave him and invited him round. He never showed. 25 years later I am married (to someone else) with two beautiful sons. I'm not the same person I was in my twenties. Now, I say if someone CAN pull my husband away,... he can go!
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Yes, I try to learn from them and move on; sometimes regrets can make you stronger. Unfortunately, however when things come out of your mouth, they are hard to take back even if you apologize; so zipping the tongue is sometimes best.!
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I think we all do and say stupid things that we regret later on but we just have to learn from them and try not to let it happen again.
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i dont think there's such a thing as living without regrets. we all have them...its just how we live with them that matters :)
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I think we all have regret, things we've said and done. It's part of being human! We just need to learn to think before speaking and doing. ;)