FC Community

Discussion Boards => Off-Topic => Topic started by: msmoneybags48 on February 18, 2014, 05:51:16 am

Title: Do you know who your father is?
Post by: msmoneybags48 on February 18, 2014, 05:51:16 am
I looked at The Trisha Goddard show yesterday, and she disclosed that her mother took the identity of her father with her to her grave.  My mother also took my father's identity with her to her grave.   I heard things about him but they came from a great aunt.  My mother and grandmother considered him to be no good.  He died 11 days after my 2nd birthday.  It makes me bring up a curious question.  Did you know who your father was?  If you were raised without a father in the home, did your mother ever tell you who your father was or did she take his identity with her to her grave?  ??? ??? ??? :heart: :rainbow:
Title: Re: Do you know who your father is?
Post by: Nancy5 on February 18, 2014, 06:43:17 am
My father was killed in an accident when I was 3.  I don't remember him, but I saw many pictures of him, and heard countless good stories about how much he loved my sister and me.  I look so much like my dad's side of the family.  So, no I don't remember my dad, but I know who he was.  I'm so sorry you don't have good memories of your father.
Title: Re: Do you know who your father is?
Post by: jenniferhoder on February 18, 2014, 07:00:28 am
I am very fortunate to have a loving and lasting relationship with my father. I am the youngest of 6 children. I am thankful every day I have such a wonderful family.  :angel11:
Title: Re: Do you know who your father is?
Post by: jmc1982 on February 18, 2014, 07:10:53 am
I know who my father is. Dont talk to him or want to do anything with him because once he divorced my mom he divorced me and my sisters as well
Title: Re: Do you know who your father is?
Post by: kqa on February 18, 2014, 07:20:19 am
My parents divorced when I was 3 back in the 1950s and he moved to the other side of the country. However, he did visit us. I look exactly like him and his family so there is no question of paternity.
Title: Re: Do you know who your father is?
Post by: potluck6 on February 18, 2014, 10:24:43 am
I know who my father is,but he died when i was 11.It was a heart attack.I often think of what has happened in the world since 1968 when he died,good and bad. He would of loved his grand kids.He died at 49 wow how young.
Title: Re: Do you know who your father is?
Post by: Penwoir on February 18, 2014, 12:06:43 pm
To answer your question, Yes I know who my father is, (was, before he died). He was a lovely man.  Which makes me even more strongly feel I cannot imagine you being denied the truth - even if it is questionable. Everyone has the right to learn their identity if they wish to receive it. If she didn't wish to tell you person to person, she should have written it down.  I would have thought she'd put your need to "know" before her wish not to discuss. After all, if the man was a mistake, that was her mistake, not yours. I feel for you!
Title: Re: Do you know who your father is?
Post by: Dynamite2013 on February 18, 2014, 12:34:22 pm
I really don't know but I know that the man that she said was my father respected me and was the greatest man in the world. I miss him dearly and I know if he wasn't my real father he sure acted like it. Love you Dad and miss you.
Title: Re: Do you know who your father is?
Post by: vp44 on February 18, 2014, 12:38:20 pm
Yes I know who my Father is. I grew up with him raising me. Love him to the day he died June 2011. Will always love him. :heart: :heart: :heart: :heart: :heart:
Title: Re: Do you know who your father is?
Post by: lywb2168 on February 18, 2014, 12:48:49 pm
I know who my father is. Dont talk to him or want to do anything with him because once he divorced my mom he divorced me and my sisters as well

Same here, I know who my father was, he died last year, he disconnected himself from my oldest brother and my life after the divorce, and little by little took away our child support since my mom moved back to her country and there was not way to fight it.  When my brother turned 18 decided to come back to US and live withe my dad and he moved back home with us 3 months later said that my stepmother was a pig.

When I married and came to the US dad found out send me a very nasty letter regarding MOM, and I disconnected myself totally from him then.  Seriously you do not see your children for 20 years and when you communicate with me you are blasting the 1 person the was there for me.  I know mom has many defects but she was there, he was not.  Over the next 20 years DAD would call me twice a year and say have, how much he loved me, etc.  He passed away last year but I did not go to his funeral.  The most sad part of it all is that we shared the same birthday and he never send me even a birthday card, he did send my bother 2 cards over 20 years with $$ on it; but not me.

So yest I know who he was, never met him and never missed him, I have an step-dad whom I love very much and who has earned the right to be called dad.  He supports me and even helps me and my family out when we need it, something I could honestly say that the person who provided the genes for me never did.  I do not like speak bad of the dead, may he rest in peace, but the truth is the truth.
Title: Re: Do you know who your father is?
Post by: ernica96 on February 21, 2014, 03:12:24 pm
I know who he is. Was raised mostly by him and still live under his roof but after reading these posts, realized I may taking this type of relationship for granted since were not that close.
Title: Re: Do you know who your father is?
Post by: cateyes1 on February 21, 2014, 04:36:26 pm
I was fortunate enough to have my Dad my whole life, till I lost him 4 years ago at the age of 90....I love you Daddy  :rose:
Title: Re: Do you know who your father is?
Post by: ro901 on February 21, 2014, 04:46:44 pm
I know his name and that's all. You can't miss what you never had.
Title: Re: Do you know who your father is?
Post by: hawkeye3210 on February 21, 2014, 04:56:48 pm
Yes, lived with both my parents growing up.
Title: Re: Do you know who your father is?
Post by: bigfoot951 on February 21, 2014, 06:34:44 pm
I was fortunate to grow up with my father and he remains in my life.  I can't imagine life without him and my heart goes out to people like the one you described.
Title: Re: Do you know who your father is?
Post by: lucky382001 on February 22, 2014, 03:40:33 pm
My Dad died when I was young but my mother didn't hide his identity. I don't think she would have considered doing such a thing really.
Title: Re: Do you know who your father is?
Post by: skrogman on February 23, 2014, 02:05:59 pm
Yes, I grew up with my mother and father and was the youngest of their 7 kids.  I do, however, still understand your situation as the father of my son vanished the minute I told him I was pregnant.  As harsh as it is to say, though, I still feel that it was no big loss.
Title: Re: Do you know who your father is?
Post by: oldbuddy on February 23, 2014, 02:13:59 pm
I know who he was, but he was killed racing cars when I was 3 years old so I never really know him. I lived with his mother and father when I went through high school and until I entered the Army, but they didn't talk about him. What little I did hear was he was not very nice, but I don't care now, he was still my Dad.
Title: Re: Do you know who your father is?
Post by: ancmetro on February 23, 2014, 05:33:09 pm

    Ask yourself- Where in the world is my Father?
Title: Re: Do you know who your father is?
Post by: camellia0 on February 23, 2014, 05:41:42 pm
I was blessed to be raised in a two parent home, but my child's dad and I split. At first, I thought that I'd keep my child's identity from the father, but after thinking that our child needs to know their dad and health issues that the dad's side of the family may have, I had to tell him, and I'm glad i did. He and I may not be together, but he has help our child go to college, buy a vehicle and other things I couldn't afford, plus our child talks to everyone in the family. I have no regets with telling him.
Title: Re: Do you know who your father is?
Post by: 12amos on February 23, 2014, 05:50:59 pm
Yes I know who my father is.  Unfortunately he passed away a number of years ago.  I miss him greatly. :(
Title: Re: Do you know who your father is?
Post by: ffwoodard on February 23, 2014, 10:57:25 pm
Yep. I know who my father was. I thank God for him because even though he did not live with us he had this way of always making me feel like I was very important to him. He was there when I went into labor with my first child he constantly checked on me to see how I was doing.  I love and miss my daddy he passed away at a young age. :rose: :heart:
Title: Re: Do you know who your father is?
Post by: dreamyxo on February 24, 2014, 12:02:45 am
Yes and he was a great father to me.  RIP.
Title: Re: Do you know who your father is?
Post by: bretay on February 24, 2014, 06:22:16 am
yes i know who my father was..he past away a few years back..we never were that close.my parents divorced when i was 8.and he wouldn't get us for the weekend unless he had someone there to watch us.he was the old fashioned type who consideded that a woman's job
Title: Re: Do you know who your father is?
Post by: kingozzy on February 24, 2014, 09:28:39 am
Yes I know who he was, and I miss him everyday
Title: Re: Do you know who your father is?
Post by: Tresbn00 on March 08, 2014, 05:37:10 pm
My Father lived with us until my mother kicked him out of the house when I was twelve years old. My blood father had a hatred for everything and everybody except himself and even that was questionable. I guess it was better that I knew this then not to have known and been under the illusion that he was anything more than a low life. His hatred for women has made my sister an emotional basket case that is dependent on prescription drugs. My mother. and step father, never spoke poorly of my blood father until a few years ago. Blood father has been trying to get in touch with my children and I finally started letting them speak to him last Thanksgiving because I feel they are strong enough to sort out right and wrong. They have already determined that he has issues.
Title: Re: Do you know who your father is?
Post by: reiddb on March 08, 2014, 07:17:43 pm
I grew up with both parents.  I can't imagine not knowing....do you wish you knew who he was? Would you go and meet him if wasn't dead??
Title: Re: Do you know who your father is?
Post by: msmoneybags48 on March 08, 2014, 07:32:52 pm
I would love to have a relationship with my father, but I was deprived of having one by my mother and grandmother.  When I told them I wanted a father, I was scolded and sent to bed.  I don't wish that kind of feeling on my worst enemy.  I cried myself to sleep because my feelings were hurt and, although my stepfather was the dad I never had, the feeling I have had for years is what if my father were still living.  I would have treasured any time I could have spent with him, but he died of brain cancer at the age of 31. ??? ??? ??? :( :rainbow:
Title: Re: Do you know who your father is?
Post by: Skyenkit on March 08, 2014, 08:39:50 pm
I know my father but I wasn't grow up with him.