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Discussion Boards => Off-Topic => Topic started by: batmobile on October 14, 2014, 10:46:37 pm
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So what would you do if you had a friend you had to stop speaking to because they chose to label the self and excuse their behavior? I said this, am I wrong or too harsh??? I'm sick of it!
I have no problems to solve, boundaries to uphold, or personalities to please.
Making too many pardons and allowances for others who don't want to be challenged; is not healthy or practical for anyone in the long-term! people don’t change if they are being rewarded for not changing.
Constant drama and negativity is ridiculous for someone over the age of 21 that can’t be a reasonable, reliable adult on a regular basis... And they desperately need a reality check and have to grow up sometime.... Instead of being enabled to continue the same cycle through codependency and excuses for " illness" Why waste your life like that ? and it is exhausting for others to deal with... It becomes toxic you know!
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The way I see it, there should not be a stigma attached to a person because they are mentally ill. BUT (and this is a big one) I've known a few people in my lifetime who capitalize on their illness in order to keep from accepting any kind of responsibility for anything they do, and to keep active an eternal case of the poor-poor-pitiful-mes. If you're ILL, the whole idea of getting treatment is to get as WELL as you can, regardless of that illness being a physical or mental sort.
Just my two cents.
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Sad to say but there are some people out there like that! And for one, I think my husband is one of them but is in denial! As the years went by he got worse and worse, I thought he would get better and I thought I could change him or the way he thinks but you can't change anyone but yourself! If I stay another year with him he is going to mentally ruin me and my son! Mentally he is not there and he may snap one day. I think he is Bi-polar but refuses to get help! :(
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That is sad, I hope if the person does have real problems they get the help they need.
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My dad is bipolar and some times, whether he's conscious of it or not, it's like he's the only one with problems. My nerves had been shot for a while because you never knew what little thing was going to set him off. And talking to him about your problems, forget it. Nothing compared to what he's going through. My mom and I aren't bipolar but we do have our fair share of problems. I will say this though, he finally found a doctor who understands what he has and he's on medication and he's doing a lot better. When he's good he's really good.
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well...let me put it this way, even I myself was diagnosed with a mental illness... and I got wise, mature and better...I catch myself and dont act like an idiot! if I can do it, why cant other people???? Thats what really ticks me off! I find it is common sense how to behave, and I dont have time to get angry and depressed all the time... it is easier on myself and on others to act right 24/7 No excuse for bad behavior, mentally ill or not, you know right from wrong! did you know some people have a problem because of an under developed frontal lobe in their brain too? some people never learn how to react in a healthy way, or know how to control their emotions like a normal adult... sad really