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Title: why do people have to be bullies
Post by: aggie49 on January 02, 2015, 09:55:23 pm
we was at the park today and these kids were bulling this younger kid  i told them what would they do if it was the way where they are getting bullied and this kid told me to shut the hell up so i told the girl that was getting bullied to stay close to us and told the other ones to go away and if they didn't i would call there parents which i know and yes i will say something to the parents it's so senseless to be like that they was calling her names and pushing her and i don't go for that
Title: Re: why do people have to be bullies
Post by: sherryinutah on January 03, 2015, 02:02:34 am
Whenever there is a situation with at least 3 people they could form a triangle that includes a bad guy, a victim and a rescuer.  Different people might play different roles at different times.

If you understand metaphysics you know that victims attract bullies.  It takes 2 to tango.  You see it in a litter of puppies.  The stronger puppies "pick on" the weaker puppy or the runt of the litter.  Then there are nurturing animals or people who might step in to save the day.  It's important that people NOT be stuck in "victim" mode.

If people don't want to be bullied they need to be empowered and confident in their lives.   :heart:
Title: Re: why do people have to be bullies
Post by: jenniferhoder on January 03, 2015, 05:56:02 am
I completely agree. I think it starts with the parents. When they don't do anything about their kids behaviors, they think it's acceptable.
Title: Re: why do people have to be bullies
Post by: mrrangerrick on January 03, 2015, 06:33:25 am
It's in nature, it's just how it is. There are always going to be bullies. It's sad, but it's the harsh reality.
Title: Re: why do people have to be bullies
Post by: bretay on January 03, 2015, 07:26:36 am
that is a sad thing...there was a girl at my granddaughters school in the 3rd grade..some boy was picking on her because she was on the heavy side..my granddaughter told him to stop,she threatened him..he said you're a girl what are you gonna do..she said don't let that stop you..he said something else and she popped him in the nose..she then went to the teacher and told her what she did..they said they were proud of her for sticking up for the girl,who then became her friend..by the end of the year the boy was friends with both of them and he apologized to the girl..my granddaughter has always been a protector..she doesn't like bullying and will try to stop it if she can..she is now 13 and in the 7th grade and still the same way..her parents have always taught them to take up for themselves,not start anything but don't take anything either..that one was a happy ending and most don't end up that way..
Title: Re: why do people have to be bullies
Post by: countrygirl12 on January 03, 2015, 08:14:06 am
Kids learn from adults.  Go to any site where you post anonymous comments and there either is no moderator or there are millions of people commenting and they don't care or they like the fighting because it keeps people coming back.  Read the comments made to people they don't even know.  There is one and if you disagree with someone they call you (fat, a welfare bum, *bleep*, *bleep*, sleeping with a mexican - which is pathetic, on food stamps, don't have a job, and pretty much every other slam you can think of, including having 5 or more kids with different dads.)  It is a site that every city has it's own thread and so it is local people posting.  I like talking to people online but being called names and put down and accused of unreal crap because you disagree with someone's comment is unreal.  And people tend to make fun of others in Walmart or any other public place when they are with their friends.  Don't kid yourself.  Your kids pick up on that.  It's like the site "people of Walmart" that is for posting pictures of people you see in Walmart.  There was a guy in Walmart yesterday and he was acting like he was texting but it was obvious he was taking pictures.  If I catch somebody taking my picture I may get arrested because I will slap the phone out of their hand.  Yes, some people do things you don't agree with and dress trashy or poorly because that is all they have but think how embarrassed you would be if YOUR picture was put on the internet and everyone was laughing at you and making fun of you.  I don't understand and it seems to be getting worse. 
Title: Re: why do people have to be bullies
Post by: batmobile on January 03, 2015, 08:47:59 am
People are insecure and making fun of others makes them feel better
Title: Re: why do people have to be bullies
Post by: countrygirl12 on January 03, 2015, 08:52:44 am
People are insecure and making fun of others makes them feel better

I guess.  I have always heard this.  Or heard they are jealous.  But I don't believe that.  People have always made fun of me and I know they are not jealous of me.  I think it is more of people are just jerks.  They start making fun of someone or picking on someone and others laugh or join in.  I remember unreal things (things that most people would not believe because it is so unreal) that were done to me in grade school.  When the teacher would walk out of the room.  And everyone would laugh.  NOT ONE PERSON every stood up for me.  And in my opinion the ones who sit there and laughed are just as guilty as the ones who were actually doing it.  I try not to think about it because it can still upset me today.  And that is just giving them control over me now.
Title: Re: why do people have to be bullies
Post by: rdy2pl8 on January 03, 2015, 08:46:45 pm
People bully for many different reasons, but the main reason comes from insecurities.
Title: Re: why do people have to be bullies
Post by: acurtsinger2 on January 03, 2015, 09:40:02 pm
i'm glad you stood up for the girl, but i have a feeling that talking to the parents won't do any good, because children learn from their parents, so if a child is a bully, most likely the parents will be too
Title: Re: why do people have to be bullies
Post by: holmesch22 on January 04, 2015, 01:18:23 am
why do people bully other people is because they find it easy to pick at weak and scare and person with disability problem they have nothing better to do but make someone feel bad
Title: Re: why do people have to be bullies
Post by: melissajh44 on January 04, 2015, 08:16:04 am
It definitely starts at home. A lot of bullies are the result of poor or negligent parenting. These kids aren't taught common decency either by example or indirectly.
Title: Re: why do people have to be bullies
Post by: BATISTAGIRL663 on January 04, 2015, 11:11:33 am
we just had a young girl 12 end her life because of bullying at school --this is horrible that she felt there was no where to turn and that these kids didnt see how far they were pushing this young lady--what is wrong with kids that they have to be this cruel to others --
Title: Re: why do people have to be bullies
Post by: kimber62372 on January 04, 2015, 11:17:03 am
Bullies have their own demons and have very low self esteem! This is why they pick on others they know they won't fight back. Because they are COWARDS! It stems from their home life and parenting! I'm glad you said something to them and tried protecting the girl. Hopefully they will leave her alone knowing someone is there that will do or say something.
Title: Re: why do people have to be bullies
Post by: natashaspy on January 04, 2015, 12:37:36 pm
Good for you...it really bugs me that people have no problem with  bullying at times.  I think most times people bully others because they're so full of their own insecurities and only feel better when they hurt others.
Title: Re: why do people have to be bullies
Post by: mrisha on January 04, 2015, 12:54:27 pm
They are bullies because they are insecure and low self-esteem.  Also because they are plain mean and want what other people have.
Title: Re: why do people have to be bullies
Post by: mardukblood2009 on January 04, 2015, 01:37:32 pm
Usually bullies are a result of bad parenting or the failed education system in this country. >:(
Title: Re: why do people have to be bullies
Post by: dancer139 on January 06, 2015, 07:53:15 pm
bullies are people who usually were not brought up in good homes  or have nothing else to do but make other people miserable.
Title: Re: why do people have to be bullies
Post by: sgluckadoo on January 10, 2015, 08:27:16 pm
Too complex a question for an easy answer... it is a mix of genes and environment.
Title: Re: why do people have to be bullies
Post by: dauna on January 11, 2015, 01:03:46 pm
People don't have to be bullies.  They choose to be bullies.  They can also choose to stop being bullies.  I know that sounds too simple, but--the only way I know to change your behavior is to choose to do so, somehow, some way.
Title: Re: why do people have to be bullies
Post by: PGS28 on January 15, 2015, 06:27:32 am
Bullies feel empowered by picking on someone they deem weaker because they feel they have no control in an unfortunate situation that is most likely happening to them.
Title: Re: why do people have to be bullies
Post by: alice44 on January 15, 2015, 08:32:50 am
Bullying is a reflection on society today.  The breakdown of the family has a lot to do with it.  It is sad!
Title: Re: why do people have to be bullies
Post by: Penwoir on January 15, 2015, 10:13:31 am
I can't stand bullying in any form. If I saw bullying, I would have to step in and say something. If I'm honest, I was bullied a bit at school and I turned into a bit of a bully until my sister stopped me, I'm so glad she pointed me in the right direction. She threatened to tell my mum if I didn't stop! Now, I see all the wrong that is with bullying. I am opinionated now and will not tolerate bullying, even if I don't know any of the participants.
Title: Re: why do people have to be bullies
Post by: ghunter on January 15, 2015, 10:20:52 am
Some people are just plain mean and they think it makes them important.
Title: Re: why do people have to be bullies
Post by: BOSSLADYNELLY on January 15, 2015, 04:12:31 pm
I hate bullies i think they should be a shame of themselves.  Nobody should have to live like that
Title: Re: why do people have to be bullies
Post by: PGS28 on January 16, 2015, 06:24:44 am
I'm glad you said bullying of any form because often times adults are bullies too and don't even realize it. When we think bully we think the mean kid on the playground that pushes the smaller kid but bullying definitely comes in more forms.

I can't stand bullying in any form. If I saw bullying, I would have to step in and say something. If I'm honest, I was bullied a bit at school and I turned into a bit of a bully until my sister stopped me, I'm so glad she pointed me in the right direction. She threatened to tell my mum if I didn't stop! Now, I see all the wrong that is with bullying. I am opinionated now and will not tolerate bullying, even if I don't know any of the participants.
Title: Re: why do people have to be bullies
Post by: teenangel on January 16, 2015, 01:58:20 pm
it always been like that. I think who ever bullies someone else  is a very unhappy with themselves. And the bullies get this from someone that raised them and that they think that its okay to do the same thing to a weaker person and its not fair that the person that is being bullied. just remember that one day that they are going to have kids one day and they're kids would probably indoor the humiliation of being bullied