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i do my step brother and his wife are both hoarders i had the unfortunate experiance of helping them move many many years ago up til then i had no idea that they were like this i have to say it is beyond gross
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yes unfortunately, my aunt and uncle are, and have been for 40 some years, I can no longer count the times that we (family) have tried to help them by cleaning their house, only to have them clutter it up again within weeks. Its sad really, but you cant talk reasoning to them they just dont see that there is a problem.
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I hoard aluminum cans and scrap metal for a year at a time but it is in it's own spot in the garage out of sight of my family members and if it gets to be too much I take it in and cash it in. The family understands that every single cent is important to me. I was on the board of a non-profit that rebuilt houses for the handicapped. One handicapped lady had had pert of her roof cave in so her family asked if we could help. In order to access the entire roof we had to go through her house and she had horded so much junk that we had to follow pathways through junk piled to the ceiling that were only about two feet in width. She had filled her non-functioning bathroom so that you couldn't even go in. Apparently she was going into her back yard at night in order to do her business.
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omg Tresbn00, that is horrible! But I don't think your aluminum and scrap metal interest is considered hoarding. My father in law was a big time hoarder and when he passed away (almost 3 yrs ago), my husband and my mother in law who was 68 at the time and was separated from the man for more than 8 yrs had to go into his smelly, rodent infested, dirty house and clean it out. It was the worst feeling in the world and we NEVER knew he lived like that because he lived in the next state over (1.5 hr away) he never wanted us to visit him and always drove to us which I thought was better for us because all we did was commute any way. But it was so so sad to see my husband go through cleaning all his fathers crap up and not even have time to grieve properly. It was over a year before we cleaned it out. Very exhausting to say the least and the man had NO life insurance and left my husband nothing. We didn't even have money to bury him. Thank God he had a burial plot paid for and was mysteriously right on the kitchen table for us to find, otherwise we would have never found it and never known about it. The worse part about this is that he had a Saint Bernard dog that was his whole life and it was 2 days before we discovered he was dead in his house, a lone with his dog. Poor dog! I can't even imagine. Thankfully we found a very good home for her. I could not care for her because my son and I have allergies. Hoarders need help! It's all about TOUGH LOVE! If we knew, we would have helped him. I think he died due to inhaling feces of rodents and black mold that we found. Very sad!
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My cousin is. His house is full of memorabilia (which is nice and organized), but he also saves everything else. The kitchen is riddled with boxes of food among other things and everything else is also littered all over the floor, tables, chairs, etc. The garage is also a pile of stacked goods and empty boxes. I want to clean, but I'm afraid of offending him. I really should say something, but I don't think he will change.
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No I do not. That is not a good lifestyle.
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I have to admit that I have a problem with throwing things away. It's amazing how things can accumulate in no time! I tell my daughter I'm saving it all for her to inherit. I can tell she's over thrilled with the prospect of having to go through everything one day....
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My father-in-law was definitely but kind of on a different scale than you see on tv. His house looked ok inside but he had shelf upon shelf in the garage that was packed with tons of stuff - unused christmas presents, plastic jugs and bags, closets throughout the house I mean it took us forever to empty his house after he died but you wouldn't have known how much stuff was in there because he was I guess an "organized" hoarder. My deceased husband was the same. Saved tons of stuff because he thought he would need it one day.
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I don't think I'm a hoarder but there's a lot of things I hate to throw away because the next day I will need them.
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I'm not a hoarder as far as what the term hoarder means. I'm like some others here, I have a problem throwing things away or getting rid of them. I am trying my best to get better. Each week I try to get rid of something, donate, throw away, sell on ebay, just eliminate. I'm trying to start a more minimal lifestyle. Anyone have any suggestions I would love to hear them.
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I guessmy girlfriend's mother is a hoarder. When my GF was younger, her and her friend tried to "help" her mom clean her house, and her mom spazzed out when they tried to throw out some of the stuff. After that they swore not to help her mom clean anymore (until after she passes away and the kids have to go through it all). We had a Christmas dinner there this year, and even though her mom had spent weeks cleaning for the dinner, the kitchen (the only room we really went into) still had junk on top of the cabinets, cluttering the China hutch (you couldn't really tell what piece of furniture it was except for guessing based on size and the room it was in), etc. And after that dinner, I understood what my girlfriend was talking about.
I also know another person whose daughter-in-law is a hoarder too. From what my friend reports, her grand-daughter doesn't have her own bedroom because it is completely filled with stuff to the point that you can barely walk into that room. The little girl ends up having to sleep on the sofa instead, and even then usually has to push junk off of it just so she can lie down. She's been reported on and they had to have some group that specializes in cleaning a hoarder's home come and clean it out so that their house wouldn't be condemned. But then after the court hearing, I guess she went back to her hoarding habits.
I sometimes joke that I'm a techno-hoarder -- that I just keep any old electronic gadget or computer part -- but it's more that I tend to hold onto stuff just in case I need it in the future, and usually when i could use it to fix an issue I'm having, it's already obsolete. I just have to remind myself that technology changes so quickly that it really isn't worth it to hold onto, say memory cards.
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My late aunt was a semi hoarder. She never kept her house like really filthy or anything, but when she asked us to help her move out, there was a lot of junk she didn't want to throw away.
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Until I met and married my hubby, I had never known a hoarder. But his Aunt was so bad you could not even get in her house and it smelt really bad. The first 12 years we were married I had never been in her house, and then when she let us in, I thought oh my God how can anyone live like this. Any way we lived about 6 hours away and she at 93 decided that she wanted to sell her house and move down where we lived. We said ok, we will move you. We packed for 3 days and I had to keep going out side to breath. We packed up all the good stuff and then called in professional cleaners to finish. The crew refused to work with out haz. mat suits it was that bad. We had them yank everything out and go to the wooden floor and clean out it all. cost us $2100.00. But once it was done the house sold the next day for what she was asking. Never again I thought. Well when she had to go into assisted living and I had to clean out her apartment it was getting the same way. Never threw anything away. including foam plates from home delivery. Then she went into a nursing home and every time we went up we had to carry out newspapers and other trash and we were there a couple times a month. She lacked 12 days being 99.
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I tend to keep things but I am not what you would call a hoarder. The things I saw on that tv show were ridiculous. I always thought that was a lot made up to make the tv show.
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My mother was like this, when she pasted away we had to rent a big dumpster to throw away the entire house. We found her dead cat in the house. It was gross.
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yes unfortunately, my aunt and uncle are, and have been for 40 some years, I can no longer count the times that we (family) have tried to help them by cleaning their house, only to have them clutter it up again within weeks. Its sad really, but you cant talk reasoning to them they just dont see that there is a problem.
Hoarding is a sickness and requires proper psychological treatment. It's an extreme form of empty nest syndrome in some cases. You can't just clean out someone's house and expect it to stay that way - it won't. They have to be treated and do it themselves, little by little. The hoarding is just a symptom.
My mom always had stacks of newspapers, etc to read at a later date. She'd also buy grocery items on sale, or with coupons, because they were something we used, even if we didn't need them. The basement had a grocery bag farm of all the bags of extra items. When my dad died she stopped throwing things out on a bigger scale.
When I was a caregiver I filled in for someone on vacation and took care of their client who was a hoarder. She was not being treated for it that I could tell. I tried to talk to my boss about her, but was told they could not tell her how to live. It was scary working in her home since she had stacks of newspapers along the walls with extension cords reaching through them to power many fans. On top of that fire hazard she was a smoker and her home was an apartment, connected to other people's homes.
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yeah we had 1 who lived up the street...terrible sickness.....he died and his places went to family and now they have to be the ones to clean it..
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i do my step brother and his wife are both hoarders i had the unfortunate experiance of helping them move many many years ago up til then i had no idea that they were like this i have to say it is beyond gross
I wouldn't call her a hoarder. She is definitely a packrat. Too much stuff that will never be used. She is not as bad as those people on TV who can't walk through their house. There is not a bunch of filth. I have to cut her a break, since she was raised during the Depression. Love her lots. BMaston12
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Do i know any hoarders? If you ask me my grandmother to me was considered a hoarder... My aunt says she was just shy of a hoarder.. But anyways.. My grandma loved pretty things.. she was always picking up nicknaks, teasets, cakeplates, servicesets, and christmas.... My god.. the christmas... We have more christmas than carter has got pills... I'm telling you... When my grandmother passed in september of last year that is one thing i was dreading the christmas... She has so much of it.....Needless to say.... We have enough christmas decorations to fill all of the grandchildren's houses for christmas.. and more... Which there is 6 grandchildren... and 1 great great grandchild.. O_O I don't think that is just shy of a hoarder do you :p
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my mom lives with us, she's a total hoarder! while i manage to keep the rest of the house from stacking up, her bedroom is a total death trap. i clean it out, it wont be a month she's got it full again.
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they were so bad they had three refidgerators and they said when one got full no one wanted to clean it out so they went and just bought another and then another. all of them was check full of molded food and just so nasty
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I never was a hoarder until my parents passed and I ended up with an overwhelming house of things and furniture I didn't need. I gave much away but I still have too much and if anyone needs what I have I give it to them for free. I really like a lot of space in my home and right now it is crowded. This summer I may have a garage sale just to rid myself of all these extras.
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I have a friend of a friend who is a hoarder. Recently, she got a flat tire and was unable to get the spare tire out because her car was so packed with junk. Her house is barely livable. I feel sorry for her.
There are specially trained counselors out now who try to help these people. They get rid of one thing at a time, because it is supposed to be too traumatic and stressful to clear out everything at once. Many times, they have a relapse, and within months the house is back where it started.
From what I understand, hoarders have had some kind of trauma in their lives that cause them to behave that way.
There is a program and books about hoarding out now. Interesting subject.
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Yes, I do. They aren't nearly as bad as the people that have been on the television show, but it's bad enough. I think in some way the majority of people are hoarders, it just may not be with objects. I know I am guilty of hanging on to things that I really just don't need to keep around, but I'm not bad about it at all and I am continuously working at letting go of more of it as I have already let go of quite a bit over the past 10 years at least.
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Unfortunately for me, I'm a hoardet. I keep everything. My house isn't a trash pile or anything, but I can definitely lose some things.Since the new year, I've been decluttering.
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My mom is a hoarder. I remember I could never have friends over as a child b/c the house was always such a mess and packed. We had a spare bedroom filled with so much stuff that you could barley open the door and had to climb on bags and boxes to get through. It was nuts. Everyday my sister and I would try to help clean but she would not let us get rid of stuff so it would never get done. I have to say that over the years she has gotton a little better but still has a ways to come.
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I used to have a neighbor who had her apartment filled with stuff, that there was hardly any place to move.
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I used to sadly enough it was a family member but thank god they changed ther eways because it was getting pretty bad to. There garage and almost all the room in the house was filled with stuff from top to bottom almost
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Yes, I know hoarders. Some of them won't allow people into their living space because they're embarrassed about how they live. I understand that hoarding is pretty common among certain people who are mentally ill.
I also learned, that if I loan something to a hoarder, I shouldn't expect them to return it because they don't offer to give it back.
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its not ok if the stuff blocks doorways and piled to ceiling or a fire hazard. Just gotta stack them properly-boxes and shelves. can have collectibles or things but shd be shelved or organized
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no I do not now a hoarder and hope I never do
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not like they show on tv i dont.....
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I`ve been in a house that was hard to believe it exist. The big house was so full of trash and everything that in the garage, we didn't know there was a car buried there with all the trash.
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My dad keeps a bit more stuff than I would like, but he's not on the extreme end. I had a sister-in-law that was an animal hoarder, though, and that was hard to deal with. She just couldn't see that she was an animal hoarder or that it was a problem.
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one of my co-workers in a hoarder. She has piles of stuff in her cubicle. God forbid, one day the piles fall. There's only enough room for her to sit down and turn her chair to her computer...no desk space.