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Discussion Boards => Off-Topic => Topic started by: mnichols4 on November 21, 2015, 03:56:05 pm
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Why is it that when we know where in a bad situation we stay ? Why must you fall in love with someone so wrong for you that you know an others around you do to?
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I believe that it's low self-esteem that keeps people in toxic relationships. Being around negative, mean people can take a toll on anyone.
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I agree. I think some people stay in relationships which are bad for them either because they feel it is the best they can do for themselves, which equals low self esteem, or they fear being single. I actually think being single for a period of time is like taking a vacation. It's quite rejuvenating and therapeutic! Don't get me wrong - I have stayed in relationships for too long before now because I wanted to give the relationship every opportunity to turn good, however in all honesty, I was flogging a dead horse!
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Not only low self-esteem but I believe people pleasing syndrome also contributes. There is usually an element to keeping everyone content and happy, even if that means misery upon oneself. Recognizing an unhealthy relationship for oneself is the first step. The next step is getting courageous in doing what's right for you....thing long term. Not just in the moment or next couple of months.
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They are addicted to LOVE!
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I actually recently attended a workshop regarding domestic abuse and why people stay in those kinds of relationships. A large portion of the reason (according to the speaker) is because the victims feel that the abuse is their own fault, or that they have the power to change the abusive person. They think that next time will be different, because they will do better and then the abusive person won't feel the need to hurt them. They think that they did something wrong and are therefore deserving of the abuse.
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You stay because you always think it will get better; the person will change. You have to get the inner strength to finally say enough is enough and find the RIGHT and BETTER person you belong with.
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I don't know but in some ways I was in that situation for 34 years but for all the wrong there was a lot of right. My husband is deceased now and I would give anything to have him back. I don't know love is a messed up deal in a lot of ways. :heart:
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I guess we just don't use our brains
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More incoherent drivel but that is par for you :peace: 8)
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I think that because there is a feeling that some do not want to be alone or a feeling they will not find another.