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I recently connect with an old friend from high school that I have not spoken to for over 10 years, and our conversation went great. Now they want to meet in person and I was excited at first, but now I kind of feel ashamed of my situation and scared to meet with them. I am a single mom, I m in school and I drive a 17 year old car. Does anyone else feel uneasy when they connect with former classmates?
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Yes
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I have never been in this situation
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I am just so anti social anymore. I hate that I am like that but I am. I don't like running into anyone I used to know.
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sometime i do feel uneasy about meeting with former classmates because i wonder if they would approve of who i married or if they might talk about were i live or hoe i live.
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No worries. Maybe you two can reconnect. If they are a true friend then they should be a true friend now and not be judgemental of your situation.
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I went out of my way to find some of my old classmates on FB and was very excited to find a friend that still lives in the state!! Her and I were very close friends in H.S. and we are still! We picked right back up where we left off.
I highly doubt the friend cares about your living situation. They just want to catch up. Who knows what will happen!!
You should go for it!! Never know what the future holds.
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Nope, when i meet up with old classmates it is hugs and kisses all around, we were a very close knit group of kids. all of us were just the fun, loving family. Maybe because there was only 23 of us. and we all ran around in the same events. Like i said close knit. When one of us is sick all know and when one passes we allmourn.
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Well, to tell you the truth, I feel sad whenever an old friend of mine I haven't been in touch with for a while doesn't remember me anymore when I try to contact him or her, and it wouldn't necessarily be a former classmate.
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I understand your uneasiness but I say go for it. If they were your friend before there is no reason they should be judging you for what you are going through now. Who knows, maybe they're in the same situation or worse. You're obviously trying to better your life since you're going to school. Never know, they may have some connections to help you out.
The only time I've felt uneasy is when an classmate from HS found me on facebook, we live quite a distance away so our only contact is via facebook. Our political views could not be farther apart. She constantly is posting, what I consider really ugly comments on FB, I just ignore those and move on. It has gotten so bad at times I have considered unfriending her but I just ignore the comments. I'm hoping it'll ease up some after the election.
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It's not as easy to connect with someone you have not seen in a long time. Sure you can talk about old times but that gets boring and old quick and if you both are completely on the other spectrum when it comes to life thing's that can get awkward quick
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I try to avoid any of the people I graduated with, they all seem to be doing and looking a lot better than myself.
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I dont bother trying to seek old friends or even old co-workers unless I was close to them.
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The contact never turns out how you want
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It really depends on the person. Some people have made some poor choices. (Myself included) And it's hard for me to not get wrapped up in there ongoing poor choices. I'm in touch with people via FB (a great tool for social networking) But I've become incredibly selective whom I do things with. Particularly because I now have children and I want them to learn from my actions.
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I dont use social media so it isnt an issue, but overall that is sort of why I dont use it to begin with. I dont want some people to reach out to me nor do I want to reach out to them.
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No, I'm thrilled to connect with old classmates. We have so much to catch up on and so many memories to share once again.
The only thing I don't like is sharing recent photos. If we fell over each other, we'd never know them. There's only 2 that look the same.
Just 2 weeks ago, I reconnected with 3 old friends. Two years ago, I reconnected with another 2 friends and 10 years ago, I connected with my "bestest buddy" next door neighbor and his wife, whose wife was also a friend of my hubby. Such a small world.
We now have friends and relatives (mostly friends) in KY, TN, GA, FL, TX, CA, NM, and NV. Hubby also had a friend in AZ (passed away now) and relatives in NY. We could have a ball traveling, making the rounds all year round, which is something we always planned to do when retired, but with the crash, we could no longer afford an RV so we are stuck at home. :(
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I do with most any of them because it was years ago and most never talked to me anyway.
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I have the same feeling. When ever I talk to someone that I haven't contact in years I have nothing to say to them beside say "hi" "how you been?" :)
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I don't have much time to connect with old classmates on social media.
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You should be proud of yourself.And happy that somebody want to see you.Not too many people are lucky to have friends like you.Go on and meet them! :)
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I really don't meet up with old classmates, just something I never had interest really. But if I did no I wouldn't feel uneasy.
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One of the most awkward situations ever. Hate it.
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It can be especially if you haven't seen your classmates for a number of years. I think once you relax and get back into a smooth grove, it gets better.
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yes its kind of ackward,,,,,,,,,,,,, :bunny:
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I run into people occasionally...sometime I forget where I knew them from....lol...with regards to classmates, no, I don't feel uncomfortable, in fact, I look forward to it, because even though people respected me, I feel much more social and willing to talk to them then I used to....in fact, I'm hoping to meet up with a former classmate sometime next week...
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Sometimes I think about them. Are they OK?
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Can you believe it 'cause I can't, but I am having my 50th reunion this coming September. I recently met with some of my former classmates for some planning and it turned out to be fun and reminiscent. I really enjoyed it and after so many years people have matured and no longer hold the values and opinions they seemed to have as teens Thank God! I'm looking forward to seeing everybody again.
It is particularly sad that about 35 out of 190 in my class are already deceased! Makes you think and value each and every day. Live in the moment and take a chance. It may turn out to be a wonderful time!
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No, we still go on about what happen and such and just hang out.
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I feel you, but you should go.
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Sometimes it is hard to do that especially if they have a different agenda as to why they want to meet. I would say if you are married and have kids, then it would be good to take your whole family to meet them or if you are still single but have children, then take your children to meet them. After all, they shouldn't be judgemental if they are your real friends from school.
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Depends on who the person is.
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I guess I could maybe....I just think people are where they are and WHO CARES! I just ENJOY hearing about them and their life! I guess as long as they don't just want to sit there and complain about it all....I don't care what they drive! Have fun and enjoy yourself! None of that stuff matters!!!
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I have been out of HS for nearly 50 years and find that the people that were "out of my league" back in 1972 are more like me than I would have ever imagined. The labels from school have disappeared and we are just friends now. Facebook has really helped foster those relationships.
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June 1, 2016
Hello to everyone out there in Fusion Cash World:
I was inside the "grocery store" one day doing my "banking" and I was just "standing there" minding my own business, when all of a sudden,..........this ===s woman who was standing "in line." spoke up and said, "Don't I know you from somewhere?" And, I looked at her, and said, "No, I don't think we know each other!"
"Who are you?" and then she got really excited and her face lit up and she said, "I know who you are!"
"You're Susan and we went to high school together!" And, I responded, "Oh really?" "Well, what's your name?" Because the lady that I was looking at did not resemble anyone I had every known in high school
and she replied, "Rosie Garcia."
And, quite frankly< I was shocked to see this woman in front of me at the supermarket while we both took care of our "banking business" because, unfortunately, Rosie had gained a "lot of weight" over the years!
And, I thought, "Wow! how did you get so fat!" "This is awful!" "You used to be so skinny in high school what happened?"
And, anyways, she just kept right on talking and we engaged in a short conversation and she talked about her marriage and her job, and even about her daughter graduating from college who was studying to become a teacher.
So, I congratulated her and told her to tell her daughter "Congratulations on graduating from college and becoming a teacher, that's great!"
And, anyways,..........the part that made me feel "uncomfortable" with talking with "Rosie" is that I never really "cared about her" only because in high school, she always came across to me as "bragging" or "trying to sound more important than she was!"
It was more her "attitude" that caused me to feel the way that I did about her.
I just do not like ones who "brag on themselves" or "other people."
And, the other part that made me feel like I was back in "high school" with Rosie and whatever is that she kept on "bragging about her life.......and how she works for the school district, and how her daughter was graduating from college and oh Susan what is it that you do?"
In other words, she was not only "bragging" as she did in high school, but she was also being "nosy" with me when she tried getting information out of me and asking me all kinds of questions.
The bottom line is that we did not hand out in high school. We belonged to a club in high school, but we were not friends!
So, for me, as far as this "Rosie" is concerned, I would not want to "hang out" with her because, as far as, I am concerned, we really do not have anything in common!
And, as for driving cars, my car got stolen from off of our property and with God's help I got it back, but I have not driven my car as much as I could. Because my car no longer has a radio, or air conditioning, or even a horn to honk anymore. And, my passenger's window does not roll down anymore, Because the thieves who stole my car took all of those accessories out of my car.
So, what I am trying to say is, "If you drive a seventeen year old car, that is nothing to get embarrassed about or even feel bad about." I mean, as long as, you are able to drive it,......and it gets you from point A to point B" and it's safe to drive and, of course, you have insurance on it along with your driver's license (and I'm not saying you don't( then, yeah, enjoy your car and enjoy driving it.
And,if you have things in common with this person in high school and this person treats you well, then yeah go for it and (if you have the time) then yeah go and get together with him or her.
It might be fun! Ok, well I hope this has helped you out.
Have a nice evening. Bye for now!
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Don't allow yourself to feel obligated to connect with that person if you're not excited about doing so. When you're older (like me) you learn that it doesn't matter what other people think.
You also learn not to "take on" activities unless it all feels right. Good luck with whatever you decide. :heart:
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I loved facebook for 3 months and connected with nearly everyone I've ever known..I deactivate now...I want to live in the present...here and now.
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Mo more so than if I meet a total stranger and since I graduated in 1957 that's what they would be. I love meeting new people, so I would be all for it.
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Instead of being ashamed of what you don't have, focus on what you do have. You have a car. You're an active mother. You're a mother- which bears repeating bc it is truly a blessing that some people don't realize until they connect with those who can't have children.
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People tend to put on a façade online, how do you know that the former classmate has it all together? How do you know there's not something in your life they wish they had?