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Discussion Boards => Off-Topic => Debate & Discuss => Topic started by: o2bnocn on November 10, 2016, 11:38:10 am
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I focus so much on my career that sometimes I feel as though that is my life now. I enjoy my career, love the field I'm in, and I'm glad I have my career. I'm very proud of myself for graduating college (although could have done without the student loans).
I see posts on Facebook all the time from women who have children, pregnant, getting married, and I'm genuinely happy for them. I know it's huge news for them, and everyone should be happy for them. However, sometimes it feels as though as "career women" are left behind or forgotten about. Enough about Facebook, because you can appear to have a life you don't really have. I understand on a social media page that life changing events are more important than just something going on with work with me.
I know a few women who completely are financially supported by men. They don't work at all. I don't really want to look down or frown upon them, that is not what I'm saying. Yet, I don't appreciate and can't stand when these women want to offer me advice on financial suggestions or life when it pertains to things they know nothing about. These women don't have kids, either. I guess I'm just tired of them trying to "put me down" or "make me look bad" when they have had tons of help I haven't.
On a more personal note, I'm tired of not dating and feeling as though my career just took over my life. I'm tired of struggling to support myself after hearing about women who don't understand how I feel, yet want to think they are better than me because they don't struggle yet they don't work at all. I'm tired of seeing the baby pictures and wedding photos.
I'm tired of these women making me feel as though I shouldn't be single, and should just get married and have children already. And yes, they have made comments to me about it or asked me when or why I haven't yet.
OK, rant over. Just had to say this somewhere. Not sure if anyone else can understand where I am coming from. I'm having difficulty trying to say what I really want to say. Not trying to offend anyone, especially housewives.
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It's okay to be dissatisfied with some portion of your life and Facebook augments that in many ways. I've found that if I don't participate on Facebook in some way, like posting photos of my ancestors, I feel kind of bereft of interesting experiences.
Life is definitely not perfect. And you have to be strong to be alone and support yourself. I was married young and I know there is a certain part of you that loses a little control over your own self. You should be proud of your success and your satisfaction in the work you do. Certainly not everyone has to be married, or have children, if they are not so inclined, and there should be no stigma to that.
If you, however, want to be dating, be sure to get yourself out there and meet people. A nice person will probably not come knocking on your door or come to your office and ask you out. You probably need to mix some fun in life along with your diligence at work. :glasses-nerdy:
Next time someone asks about your singleness or your childlessness, ask them, "Why do you ask?" It's a really good show stopper. :o
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I will ask them "why do you ask" from now. Good advice!
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Maybe you could do both.
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the way i feel about it is --- its your life to do with as you feel --as long as you arent killing people or such --be happy with who you are and what you do --we are only here for a while enjoy it and make the most of it --
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Career women could really afford a nice house or apartment
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Women have brains. They have skills. Its a shame to under-utilize those things. Raising children is a worthy enterprise. Getting married and staying home all day with no career and no children seems to be a waste of a person, unless you're spending your days doing volunteer work. That is a worthy cause, too. When you're ready to find a mate, you'll do it. I didn't getting married until I was 39. Always had a career. Every individual is unique. Follow your own path and be happy.
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Do what works for you.
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If your friends try to put you down for having a career vs family at this time, what is wrong with their life that they have to try to drag you down? Furthermore I don't mean to come off as such a BIT** but who in their right mind as a woman decides to be a stay at home spouse if they have no children to look after? I can see if they are older are unable to work. To me that just sounds ignorant! (Yes, I am a stay at home mom but I have two children & before I got pregnant I worked two jobs then went to teaching until my oldest daughter was old enough for kindergarten then I decided to stay at home with my youngest) I am no way better then anyone but I wouldn't take anyone's words to heart or get upset if they just live off their husband. That is still so strange to even think. I guess if they are rich but still most woman want a name for themselves before having children or I would think so.
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well have you go with friends , try to meet new people. try getting on a dating site . to find that special someone , that might be the right one . I can understand how you feel , i was single , sometime i feel like i am still single . Yes i felt the same way , wanting to have that guy that would take me out and make me feel special. but right now however i did meet a guy , i did meet him through a dating site , even though i really did not want to go on a dating site .. but then i found him on facebook , we have been together every since ... I have faith that you'll meet someone special , you just need to get yourself out there and meet people ... think good thoughts..
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Just live your life the way that you would love to...and not for others to judge you. Be yourself...
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I am pretty much in the same situation. No offense to the true housewives, but I despise how they frown upon those women that are completely independent and like to flaunt their marriages and children in their faces. As far as I am concerned, hard-working women can lead the same lives of the housewives (some of whom are extremely lazy). The only difference is she has a career and she does not have to depend on a man for everything.
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I can completely relate to this. Do you, don't worry about it. When it comes to relationships, it's better to happy single, than in a relationship, miserable.
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Wow, thanks everyone for the understand chat. I really appreciate it. Hardly anyone in my life would truly understand this! I feel understood and can relate to everyone of you!
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There are many paths to a successful life. Don't let anyone ever make you feel small.