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Has anyone every tried online dating and if you did, How was your experience? I am thinking of trying it but I feel kind of weird about setting up a profile and all that. I 'm just not sure about online dating and I would feel kind of embarrassed if I found someone I knew on there.
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I've tried online dating, and in my experience, people can fake their identity to the hilt. Not a good idea!
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I tried POF but I had no luck. I got a lot of response for a while but no one I felt was right -some were too far away and a few were downright weird although not many. I just deleted my profiles on POF and a christian dating site. Had no luck on there at all. I personally have just decided that either I will find someone on my own or I guess be alone. I was married for 34 years and I don't know I struggle with even wanting someone else. Well either way best of luck to you.
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A friend of mine does it. She actually just met someone who so far seems like a great guy.
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I've tried it too, no luck. Everyone is just playing games and never wants to actually go out on a date.
The ones that do want to get together only want one thing.
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I prefer doing the dating game, the old fashion way...
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I've tried this. Sometimes people lie in their profiles. That's the bad thing about online dating. It's hard to tell if someone is being honest. That's why I prefer face to face dating. No lies about height, weight, whether they're in another relationship, etc... If you do meet someone, please be sure to do it in a public place and don't give them your personal info, like where you live or work. Good luck.
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It appears to be a pretty cool way to meet people. I have been married for twenty three years and met my wife the old fashioned way: introduce by a family member, several phone calls, cocktails, dinner, picnics in the park, etc. I have more of a problem with people not respecting my wedding ring and wanting to form a relationship than I do meeting new people. This is kind of weird since I am locked to a desk for sixteen to eighteen hours a day with very little human interaction. Friends and clients, these days, update their profiles weekly and meet strangers for coffee breaks. This appears to work, for more outgoing people, because the coffee breaks often lead to second and third dates. I am not sure how this would work for more introverted people.
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Actually I met my husband online and we are together now for 6 years. Happy and contented. We are just lucky that we found each other, because there so many fake accounts and dishonest people.
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Then I would not do it. If it has to be a secret and you do not want anybody to know you are doing it then you should not do it. If you are SINGLE then I don't see it as wrong. But people can be whomever they want to online.
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Ive tried it. First contact I thought was legit ended up asking for money within the first week. LOL. I did date someone for awhile but the distance was a problem so it didn't work out.
Just be careful.
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I think it can be a good idea if you know how to filter through the phonies! :) I just think it's kind of crappy you have to pay for some of them. My cousin found his wife on POF, I believe, so it can be worth it. :thumbsup:
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I kinda love something happening naturally, meeting someone out on the streets and at least having a story to tell about the reaction we both felt when we saw each other the very first time means a lot to me. It's not about the story anyway, that is just what I love best.
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I do not think that I would ever try that. However I do know someone who did and has now been married to the person she met online for the past 12 years.
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Nothing but a ripoff especially for men 8) Both men and women post phony profiles so you really take a risk :bad: 8)
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Do not try it. Too risky!
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I have engaged in online dating in the past. Some experiences went well (that was how I met my ex- and current-boyfriends) while others were truly disastrous.
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I've tried this. Sometimes people lie in their profiles. That's the bad thing about online dating. It's hard to tell if someone is being honest. That's why I prefer face to face dating. No lies about height, weight, whether they're in another relationship, etc... If you do meet someone, please be sure to do it in a public place and don't give them your personal info, like where you live or work. Good luck.
You are right that there are many people who can be dishonest online. Physical appearance cannot be hidden or lied about in a face to face relationship. But lying about whether a person is in another relationship is just as easily done whether online or face to face.
I never did the online dating, but I have had some friends who met their spouses online and all have been great matches. I met my wife through church activities, which remains my pick for the best way to make a match (not just because it worked for me).
Not so funny story though when I had to explain to my wife the match.com profile tied to my spam email account! Thankfully she believed my [100% true - I swear on the graves of all departed that I hold dear] explanation. I don't remember if it was FusionCash or some other site that offers cash for signup offers, but at some point I signed up to get the offer bonus and never used or posted a full profile or sought out any other profiles. I got my bonus, moved on, and forgot all about the account..
Until the day my wife asked me about it. :-[ :o
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I'd be too scared to try! Too many ppl thinking they're all that!
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I always considered that kinda a joke and laughable online dating is kinda funny to me
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If you are sincere then by all means it should be useful to you. I don't trust any of them unless they are for reals and legit. Do not trust anyone who wants to get married right away!
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Nope..never tried online dating. Not sure if it's really worth it or if a scam. But that's how my friend met her hubby.
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I don't see anything wrong with online dating provided you are very careful about meeting new people in person. It is best to do that in a place where there are a lot of other people or when you bring a friend along to accompany you too. (You may be meeting up with an ax murderer for all you know!). I hear eHarmony.com makes the best matches - I have heard of a lot of couples (including my own daughter) who found great relationships on that site.
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I tried it about 10 years ago and also know people that have had good and bad experiences with it. I guess you just have to realize that some people are dishonest and many people are sensitive about the physical image they have. You have to be most careful and "vet" people.
This means talking to them a while over the computer and writing down meaningful questions with their responses. Moving to the second vetting, talk to them on the phone and casually bring up some of the questions and/or responses they gave you. Answers and information they gave should match, not entirely something different. Ask them about previous relationships and work history. Casually and lightly, ask if they have ever done something to get back at an ex. If you don't like the response, take them off your list to meet and date.
Thirdly, meet them in a very public place at a busy time of day. Have people around. Don't provide your address. Don't get in their car and let them drive you anyplace. And this means for more then one meeting. Don't go to their home or invite to yours until you have been meeting and talking for at least 5-6 times. If there is anything that sets off your "personal alarm," don't continue the relationship.
This advice is for males and females alike! I have a male friend who had females inviting him to their home on the first date! How stupid can some people be? He didn't go because he was anxious that such a woman might have a friend there to rob him or something even worse. Use your common sense. Most people will be okay, but there are definitely some crazies out there!!!
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I have used Tinder and OkCupid, nothing for anything serious just to meet people and have some fun. Online dating sites that are free are full of people that don't have the best intentions so if it is something you are considering seriously I would say it is worth paying, from my experience at least.
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I did and it didn't end well. I met a guy on Christian Mingle. Funny thing about it was he had a paid subscription. I was on a trial or had just registered and hadn't paid for a subscription... any how people could reach out to me... start up conversations...I couldn't although I could respond and follow up. This led to 2 2nd marriage... which led to bankruptcy. Apparently the guy I fell for had a history of going from one woman to another. In the end he was wanted in the state I and my children lived in. We had started a business.... he took it on the road with him...running up more debt in my name. I woke up when his rent was being paid for while I was in the process of moving myself and 3 kids into my Mom's basement. Oiy - expensive lesson.
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I kind of wanna try it, but I watch too much Investigation Discovery and that makes me paranoid.
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Don't feel embarrassed. Plenty of people go online dating. I find the main thing that people lack including myself is having patience. You can't expect to be in a relationship soon after having a profile.
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Yes, I do it all the time, fun be care.
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I tried it over 12 years ago and was only on for 2 weeks when I met an amazing man! We celebrated our 10th anniversary on January 20th. Best thing I ever did, even though I was very reluctant because I was afraid of who I could meet. But it worked out wonderful.
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Never tried but i don't think it is a good idea.
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After my divorce in 2004, I did online dating. It was fun for the most part. But, I had some bad experiences as well lol I have to tell you about this one guy.
Darin and I met online and set up a date to meet at Applebee's. We met in the parking lot, went in and were shown to our table. As we were being seated, Darin looked at the hostess and said "Aren't these the most beautiful blue eyes you've ever seen?" I blushed and said thank you. He looked at me and said "I meant me". Strike one. We ordered dinner. I ordered a salad as I usually do on the first date. He ordered a sandwich. When we finished eating, the server brought our bill. Darin dug in his pockets and threw a pile of change on the table and began counting it to pay the bill. I was mortified! Strike two. We then exit the restaurant and he walks me to my car. He then looks at me and says, "So, now we go to your place?" I said NO! Strike three. Darin was done! ;D
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I tried it once but it ended after few months of dating not much to say about it just regular dating, Just that the first date is the getting to know you part and to see if you connect with the individual or not.
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NO, I have never ever tried Online dating. I think is't dangerous.
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As you get older it is harder to met people,online dating is fine but be prepared to deal with some duds,but there are good people on there as well. I had a relationship with a guy for many years whom I met online. The best thing I find is to chat for a bit enough to see if there is enough in common but dont drag it out too long and then meet for a coffee somplace public.Its just a meeting at first and if it goes well then you can arrange to go on a date.
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nope ,,,not my sort of thing........
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I agree with the majority; people make themselves out to be people they aren't in their profiles. However, I do believe it can work if you get lucky and come across a like minded person.
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I'm happy for you, I still believe it can work but at this point in my life if I see 2 red flags/conflicting actions that don't support the words I'm out.
Actually I met my husband online and we are together now for 6 years. Happy and contented. We are just lucky that we found each other, because there so many fake accounts and dishonest people.
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Great advice!
I tried it about 10 years ago and also know people that have had good and bad experiences with it. I guess you just have to realize that some people are dishonest and many people are sensitive about the physical image they have. You have to be most careful and "vet" people.
This means talking to them a while over the computer and writing down meaningful questions with their responses. Moving to the second vetting, talk to them on the phone and casually bring up some of the questions and/or responses they gave you. Answers and information they gave should match, not entirely something different. Ask them about previous relationships and work history. Casually and lightly, ask if they have ever done something to get back at an ex. If you don't like the response, take them off your list to meet and date.
Thirdly, meet them in a very public place at a busy time of day. Have people around. Don't provide your address. Don't get in their car and let them drive you anyplace. And this means for more then one meeting. Don't go to their home or invite to yours until you have been meeting and talking for at least 5-6 times. If there is anything that sets off your "personal alarm," don't continue the relationship.
This advice is for males and females alike! I have a male friend who had females inviting him to their home on the first date! How stupid can some people be? He didn't go because he was anxious that such a woman might have a friend there to rob him or something even worse. Use your common sense. Most people will be okay, but there are definitely some crazies out there!!!
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I'm married so I had to quit dating. But I think you can meet some interesting people that way. But be careful.
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I have one friend who used online dating. It worked for her. She's married to him and they have a growing family.
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I literally laughed out loud when I read "I meant me" lol! I was hoping that was a joke but it says a lot that it wasn't smh
After my divorce in 2004, I did online dating. It was fun for the most part. But, I had some bad experiences as well lol I have to tell you about this one guy.
Darin and I met online and set up a date to meet at Applebee's. We met in the parking lot, went in and were shown to our table. As we were being seated, Darin looked at the hostess and said "Aren't these the most beautiful blue eyes you've ever seen?" I blushed and said thank you. He looked at me and said "I meant me". Strike one. We ordered dinner. I ordered a salad as I usually do on the first date. He ordered a sandwich. When we finished eating, the server brought our bill. Darin dug in his pockets and threw a pile of change on the table and began counting it to pay the bill. I was mortified! Strike two. We then exit the restaurant and he walks me to my car. He then looks at me and says, "So, now we go to your place?" I said NO! Strike three. Darin was done! ;D
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I know 2 people that did the on-line dating and got married. One has been married over 20 years now, and the other has been married for 2 years...they are so happy & seem totally meant for each other.
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Honestly I understand it isn't for everyone. Not everyone gets "out of the house" or in places that they meet someone they can date often enough. So I'm glad "online dating" exist. For people who don't go out to places that they can meet someone, they can't just expect someone to fall out of they sky! Just my two cents, no offense to anyone. I'm kind of a homebody.
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never try that before >:(
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I currently have a profile on POF and have had a couple of dates within the past month. I've met 3 guys. One of them lives in a different state so I don't know whether or not I'll ever meet him in person. Dating; in general, can be a chaotic experience so I've put a lot of detail into my profile.
Some guys on the dating web site are just looking to "hook-up" and I won't play that game. It's a mistake to be too easy.
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I've never, I met my husband the old fashioned way...drinking in a club until he started looking good. Just kidding, I noticed him before I had a drink and approached him mid first drink been together ever since, 16 years ago.
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I don't use it, pretty sure my husband wouldn't approve lol. I have a few friends that met their so's online though. Don't think you should be embarrassed about seeing someone you know, they're on there for the same reason after all. :) Just be extra careful meeting people. Lots of crazies out there these days!
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I have dated online, but it never came to anything. Men lie all the time. I have had conversations via chat and you soon find out that they are con artists or scammers. So you really can't believe anything online is true. Playing games is still live and being used. SMDH
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Every boyfriend, since the internet was introduced in 1995, I have had and only one made it and I have been with him since 2000. Took me 5 years to snag one, the right one? Maybe! lol ... but he is mine none the less. One boyfriend died I recently found out and I was so sad to learn this thru googling his name and finding his obituary. But life happens and everything is meant to happen for a reason.
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I watch too much Investigation Discovery to turn me off it, but I do consider it. Mehhhh.
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im married thank got i dont have to worry bout that.....
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I don't think he'd approve either lol
I don't use it, pretty sure my husband wouldn't approve lol. I have a few friends that met their so's online though. Don't think you should be embarrassed about seeing someone you know, they're on there for the same reason after all. :) Just be extra careful meeting people. Lots of crazies out there these days!
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I haven't did online dating since 09 and I was thinking about trying it again but this show I watched called Fatal Attraction makes me not want to date anyone lol
I watch too much Investigation Discovery to turn me off it, but I do consider it. Mehhhh.
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I've never tried online dating but I don't think it's a real good idea. After all anyone can "fake" their look, their intentions, their family or even their working. Too scary for me!!!
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I met my girlfriend on Facebook. We have been together now for 2 years. It is tuff though because we live 4 hours apart but we make it work the best we can.
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I'm tempted to try it, since I'm pretty shy and haven't had the best of luck meeting people in "real life".
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Online dating isn't my style. My mom and stepfather met through online dating. They have been happily married for ten years.
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I think it's worth a try if you're interested in it. Just be careful, especially when you arrange to meet in person.
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I put a lot of time and effort into creating a profile on POF (Plentyoffish.com). My experience with dating sites is that a lot of people use them to "hook up". I'm not interested in casual sex with anyone and I'm especially not interested in casual sex with a stranger that I meet online.
I recently hid my profile because I no longer want to deal with mind games, dating chaos or anything like that.
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I'm not really into that online dating thing. There are too many weirdos out in this world today. :bad: