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Title: How Do You Handle Your Temper?
Post by: Cbsteffen on July 10, 2018, 10:42:37 am: Are you extremely irritable, or do you easily get a grip when something doesn't seem right at all? I've had the same temper my whole life. I just manage to resist taking it out on others nowadays.
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Post by: catchow on July 10, 2018, 10:53:12 am: I take a happy pill, and it helps me tremendously, it took me over 30 years to accept that I needed to take something, so happy I did
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Post by: Mizzkizz7 on July 10, 2018, 11:05:02 am: Quote from: catchow on July 10, 2018, 10:53:12 am
I take a happy pill, and it helps me tremendously, it took me over 30 years to accept that I needed to take something, so happy I did
I take happy pills too but normally when I get stressed I cry and stay to myself not wanting to speak to anyone.
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Post by: autumnsparklemom on July 10, 2018, 01:26:31 pm: I usually ball my eyes out when I am mad.
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Post by: Tresbn00 on July 10, 2018, 06:53:50 pm: I internalize, add other violations, let them fester and vent inappropriately long after the initial infraction. If there are no other violations (which is rare) the anger dissipates and dissolves. I have gotten better over the years and started realizing that getting angry never really solves the problem. My wife and I are not seeing eye to eye at this time because she brought something up from over two years ago as a reason for her behavior over the last several months. This came to a head last Wednesday via e-mail. I have kept the e-mail but I also have taken some long walks with my dogs, tried to see it from her side, and have also analyzed where she is coming from. I realize that we are two different individuals and that she will probably never get over this by virtue of her upbringing. Which means she will continue to bring it up till the day I die. My getting angry will not solve this nor will trying to talk it out...somewhat of an impasse at this time.
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Post by: hkckk5 on July 10, 2018, 07:23:29 pm: I really do not have a bad temper. However, I have felt like my temper flared a time or many times. I tend to take a deep breath and tell myself life is to short to have ill feelings. Try to remain a happy person. Not an easy task at times. But I will always try.
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Post by: aflyingmonkey on July 10, 2018, 07:42:23 pm: My coping skill is to exercise... I embraced that way when I first started college. I can tell when I haven't exercised in a while because I start being bothered by things that I just need to let go... like ruminate the thoughts over & over. At those points I go out & walk or run or something.

I don't have a temper & rarely get angry... Exercise as a coping skill works wonders.
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Post by: hitch0403 on July 10, 2018, 08:32:08 pm: An excellent proverb for this topic.....

Prov 15:1 New International Version
A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.
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Post by: clickers on July 10, 2018, 08:51:56 pm: I keep it under control. I speak to it internally.
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Post by: bshee58 on July 11, 2018, 05:01:48 am: I try not to get to the point where I need to handle my temper, I don't let things get out of control, I walk away or don't say anything that will add fuel to the fire.
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Post by: sak4kat on July 11, 2018, 06:34:48 am: I'm not generally stressed. I consider my self a fairly patient and rational person. In fact at one time my attorney and a judge voiced the same. When given a reason to be angry I may spat back - I may try and defend my point of view. I may just completely disagree with someone and avoid them as I know we don't see eye to eye and will just get defensive again. It's not worth it. If I'm ever stressed at work - my bosses say it's not worth it. Just stay later or come in earlier or ..... So really stress is handled in a non stressful matter to balance itself out.
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Post by: adriarobi on July 11, 2018, 06:40:57 am: I came from a very angry and hostile family. I could get angry easily (though not like the others), but I hated temper tantrums of my family.

In my 30's I became a Christian, and realized God would help me be an even-tempered person. I learned to express myself firmly if needed, and when to walk away.

Instead of being angry, pray for calm, and pray for the other person. I am not perfect at this, but as I try to walk the walk, the Lord makes it part of my new nature.

I am now 75, and it has been worth the faith and trust in the Lord for sure.

:rose:
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Post by: bremer51 on July 11, 2018, 07:28:05 am: When I get upset, I just pray that I can keep my mouth shut. Not every thought is worth speaking. I like hitch0403's answer. I have to commit that to memory.
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Post by: vickysue on July 12, 2018, 06:58:33 pm: I don't have much of a temper. But once in awhile it will make itself known. Then watch out. Mostly it is when I see someone hurting a child or an older person. Then I can give it out with the best of them. Without cursing too. I hate to see a child hurt or an old person.
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Post by: nmbrown863 on July 12, 2018, 09:10:50 pm: I keep my temper under control for the most part. I may vent about it a little later after I have calmed down.
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Post by: ccandpam on July 13, 2018, 03:14:38 am: Sometimes, I will lash out at my Husband or Kids, but The Lord said to hold your tongue and Love one another and that is what I am working on. I Love My Father in Heaven unconditionally. :angel11:
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Post by: sbenkoski on July 13, 2018, 03:23:11 am: I'm not around people that much, so i'm lucky .. i other wise spend my time if i'm mad playing with my dog, and that calms me down.
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Post by: teresa3200 on July 13, 2018, 03:47:21 am: I usually don't say a thing to the person or at least very little and then vent to my husband for hours. LOL I feel bad he has to listen sometimes but it works for me.
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Post by: lhz123 on July 13, 2018, 02:00:51 pm: I just bit my lips and inhale after that i good.
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Post by: linderlizzie on July 13, 2018, 02:15:32 pm: I like James 1:20. "The wrath of man does not produce the righteousness of God."

I and my sig o have terrible tempers, mostly with each other. We're workin' on it.

:fish:
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Post by: ricdsm on July 14, 2018, 12:33:28 pm: I try never to say or do anything when I am angry but to think first before I act or speak.
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Post by: mardukblood2009 on July 14, 2018, 01:49:58 pm: I always try and take walks or talk things out. It is never easy. Right now I am mad about something so I decided to write some posts to keep my mind off of it. :-X
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Post by: bigfoot951 on July 27, 2018, 07:38:18 pm: Pills are certainly not the answer for this sort of thing. People just have to realize that we are in control of our mind. Someone can't upset us, but we can let them upset us. I'm not saying it's easy to keep control of your emotions all of the time, but once you start believing what I am saying here, life will become so much easier.
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Post by: gwilson31 on July 28, 2018, 09:22:10 am: I usually go into another room by myself .... I don't want to say anything I might regret later :)
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Post by: judylucas on July 28, 2018, 10:47:18 am: I'm very lucky to not have a temper
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Post by: didiinvent on July 28, 2018, 12:31:43 pm: Quote from: aflyingmonkey on July 10, 2018, 07:42:23 pm
My coping skill is to exercise... I embraced that way when I first started college. I can tell when I haven't exercised in a while because I start being bothered by things that I just need to let go... like ruminate the thoughts over & over. At those points I go out & walk or run or something.

I don't have a temper & rarely get angry... Exercise as a coping skill works wonders.

Smart ... and meditation helps too .... :)
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Post by: rghvac69 on July 28, 2018, 03:37:03 pm: Prayer, meditation, and St. John's wort.
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Post by: minioncookies on July 28, 2018, 04:01:31 pm: When people go on and on about useless stuff that i don't care about then it annoys me i try to walk away if i can and listen to music if i cant only way id go off on someone if they just kept doing it constantly
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Post by: tnshpalmer85 on July 29, 2018, 06:39:22 pm: I think I handle my temper really well for the most part, but when I get stressed out and feel like I am losing control of how I want things to go, I just pray and pray until I feel calm or I exercise to burn off some energy.
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Post by: lhz123 on July 30, 2018, 09:22:08 am: Just breathe and closed my eyes for a while.
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Post by: beatsdrop on August 01, 2018, 10:14:31 am: I just take a few breaths and tell myself to try not to blow up. It's hard because I can have a pretty bad temper.
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Post by: shasha2210 on August 03, 2018, 01:17:03 am: I tried too :P
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Post by: bretay on August 03, 2018, 06:55:41 am: i have one...lol..but do pretty good at keeping it in check...unless you mess with my grandbabies or daughters...all bets are off then...
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Post by: nannycoe1 on August 03, 2018, 08:06:17 am: zanax
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Post by: autumnsparklemom on August 03, 2018, 08:33:58 am: I need to handle my temper better. One of my weaknesses.
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Post by: gaby_ro_2004 on August 03, 2018, 10:57:47 am: I used to be mad all the time but now....getting "younger" i am better.
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Post by: santa7 on August 03, 2018, 11:14:37 am: It takes a lot to get me angry. When I do though, I try to think first or speak without cursing.
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Post by: mrsmere on August 03, 2018, 11:19:10 am: I don't have a temper but I pray and think of something positive when others get out of control because of a situation.
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Post by: patti4me on August 03, 2018, 02:59:42 pm: A whole lot better than I used to lol! I've been known to throw lamps, rip blinds off a window and closet bi-fold doors off in fits of rage rather than physically hurt someone. Once I was so mad I wanted to hit a certain person but I just ripped my clothes off and threw them at them instead of hitting. Much calmer these days and I have God to thank for that.
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Post by: makeblessed on August 03, 2018, 03:08:00 pm: I usually just try to walk away from the situation and not frustrate myself, I can't control what people do or say but I can control how I choose to react to it.
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Post by: kathleenkleinhans on August 03, 2018, 03:48:10 pm: I yoga Breathe!
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Post by: mrisha on August 03, 2018, 04:34:37 pm: I seldom allow another person make me lose my temper. Too much energy and they aren't worth it.
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Post by: vg7405 on August 05, 2018, 06:20:51 pm: I have an impatient streak, which usually graduates to me losing my temper sometimes. In those instances, I usually count to 10 or I write my thoughts in my journal. The latter works best for me.
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Post by: dsosnowski06 on August 08, 2018, 06:48:25 pm: I think as I have gotten older my temper has mellowed. I haven't gotten to the point if they don't care neither should I. Now I just walk or ignore the person for a while until I cool off