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Title: roomates and lies
Post by: ironamazon26 on August 27, 2018, 07:46:37 am
Welcome back
so as the titile  says  this is going to be quite the topic so let me ask why is it that when we live in the same space as other people why there is always so many problems whether it be your parents,siblings,or even roommates when were adults .

even if we like the idea of living with someone at first and the person is actually cool and yet we all eventually find ourselfs fighting why ?
i feel like i hear these problems everyday and usually the problems are someone is too messy or their all of sudden rude or a buzz kill or ya know in the case of a man and woman being roommate same old thing they start out freinds and than they sleep together and than before you know it someone is actually getting screwed over and kicked out at 5 am  .

they say that humans are not meant to be alone that were just naturally group mamals  and that if were alone and like constant alone time there must be somthing wrong with us but if everyone keeps leaving the group to where you cant help but be alone than what ?

 so  do you think we  as humans are meant to be  alone or should we have a family or group to bond with ?

let me know  in comments
 
Title: Re: roomates and lies
Post by: natashaspy on August 27, 2018, 09:02:17 am
I've always heart the saying that you never truly know someone until you live with them. I think that is pretty much true. People may not do it intentionally but they usually try to put their best self forward until they are reasonably comfortable with others.  Then their true colors come out.
Title: Re: roomates and lies
Post by: vickysue on August 27, 2018, 03:09:12 pm
Sometimes I think I have seen and heard it all, from roommates to spouses. My room mate was also my niece. She wanted me to move in with her after her room mate left. I was already going to get an apartment. But she had signed a lease and it would have cost her to break it. so I said why not but for a short time and then  she would have to  find someone else.  She would go into my room and paw through stuff or leave the door open and her cats would get in and make themselves at home on my bed.  After the year was up and she could break the lease I was gone.  Ex spouses were even worse with all of their lies.
Title: Re: roomates and lies
Post by: pstovall on August 27, 2018, 03:42:43 pm
There's a new show on TV called "Castaways.,"  The contestants are dropped to fend for themselves on remote islands, and so far, they are totally alone unless they run into one of the other contestants that is in the vicinity.  Their mission is to survive until they are rescued or quit.  Several of the contestants who are alone have made comments about craving the company of another human being.  According to these folks, it is extremely difficult to be totally void of human companionship.
Title: Re: roomates and lies
Post by: clickers on August 27, 2018, 07:10:30 pm
As for me, I find that I can be alone, it doesn't bother me. People are not easy to deal with. They do betray, disrespect, and full of deceit. Taking advantage of other people has become common place. People use each other for a means to an end. In order to keep drama down, I prefer to stay by myself mostly.
I read people quickly and know who to avoid for my own good. You should always "keep  your heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life." Proverbs 4:23
Title: Re: roomates and lies
Post by: Sawman214 on August 28, 2018, 07:21:58 am
When it comes to roommates, the one that has their name as the owner or renter, always gets screwed.  for some reason the renter tries to renegotiate rent after they move in and when it doesn't work they stop paying.  I live alone now. Thank God
Title: Re: roomates and lies
Post by: dsawan on August 28, 2018, 08:10:13 am
i thrive beign alone, hence no roomates
Title: Re: roomates and lies
Post by: sdenimandlace1 on August 28, 2018, 09:12:09 am
I like living alone, I like company also it is hard,
Title: Re: roomates and lies
Post by: linderlizzie on August 28, 2018, 11:50:04 am
I think other people are necessary. I get so tired of talking to myself. I never learn anything new!

Did you ever notice that you can learn things from absolutely everyone?


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Title: Re: roomates and lies
Post by: countrygirl12 on August 29, 2018, 11:05:16 am
People tend to like things a certain way. Unless you are close to the person you live with you can have problems. If you are talking family and you love each other you will find a way to work things out and work with each other to ensure that things go smoothly when living together.
Title: Re: roomates and lies
Post by: brian8713 on August 29, 2018, 03:57:45 pm
We're meant to be around people, but regardless of who you're near, there's always going to be some sort of conflict. My ex-husband and I fought so much, I eventually kicked him out. I now live with a roommate who I for the most part get along with, but even he annoys me with the messes he makes in the kitchen and the fact that he's always behind on his rent payments. I think I'm a bit on the antisocial side, and if that makes me a sociopath, so be it. LOL. I like quiet times with my cats and peaceful naps alone.
Title: Re: roomates and lies
Post by: surveygrabber on August 29, 2018, 04:14:24 pm
I would only allow someone to be your roommate unless you really trust someone.
Title: Re: roomates and lies
Post by: heypeg on August 29, 2018, 04:36:59 pm
It is clear to me that there needs to be interaction between all humans.
Title: Re: roomates and lies
Post by: singletonb on August 29, 2018, 05:43:02 pm
I am all for the family and other relationships no matter how difficult it can be.  That makes it more interesting.
Title: Re: roomates and lies
Post by: fillfran82 on August 30, 2018, 10:13:19 am
Welcome back
so as the titile  says  this is going to be quite the topic so let me ask why is it that when we live in the same space as other people why there is always so many problems whether it be your parents,siblings,or even roommates when were adults .

even if we like the idea of living with someone at first and the person is actually cool and yet we all eventually find ourselfs fighting why ?
i feel like i hear these problems everyday and usually the problems are someone is too messy or their all of sudden rude or a buzz kill or ya know in the case of a man and woman being roommate same old thing they start out freinds and than they sleep together and than before you know it someone is actually getting screwed over and kicked out at 5 am  .

they say that humans are not meant to be alone that were just naturally group mamals  and that if were alone and like constant alone time there must be somthing wrong with us but if everyone keeps leaving the group to where you cant help but be alone than what ?

 so  do you think we  as humans are meant to be  alone or should we have a family or group to bond with ?

let me know  in comments
 

Hello! :D :)

I think we do need human companionship at some sort of level. If not by having roommates and living with someone else then by other means such as social media, paying companion sites, and even pen pal. It's no surprise that having roommates can be difficult. People lie, cheat, and are un-loyal that is part of life unfortunately nonetheless like everything else we have to do the best that we can. :heart: :rose: :heart: :rose: :heart: :rose: :heart: :rose: :heart: :rose: :heart: :rose: :heart: :rose: :heart: :rose: :heart: :rose: :heart: :rose: :heart: :rose: :heart: :rose: :heart: :rose: :heart: :rose: :heart: :rose: :heart: :rose: :heart: :rose:


Fillfran82
Title: Re: roomates and lies
Post by: countrygirl12 on August 30, 2018, 02:22:02 pm
Welcome back
so as the titile  says  this is going to be quite the topic so let me ask why is it that when we live in the same space as other people why there is always so many problems whether it be your parents,siblings,or even roommates when were adults .

even if we like the idea of living with someone at first and the person is actually cool and yet we all eventually find ourselfs fighting why ?
i feel like i hear these problems everyday and usually the problems are someone is too messy or their all of sudden rude or a buzz kill or ya know in the case of a man and woman being roommate same old thing they start out freinds and than they sleep together and than before you know it someone is actually getting screwed over and kicked out at 5 am  .

they say that humans are not meant to be alone that were just naturally group mamals  and that if were alone and like constant alone time there must be somthing wrong with us but if everyone keeps leaving the group to where you cant help but be alone than what ?

 so  do you think we  as humans are meant to be  alone or should we have a family or group to bond with ?

let me know  in comments
 

Hello! :D :)

I think we do need human companionship at some sort of level. If not by having roommates and living with someone else then by other means such as social media, paying companion sites, and even pen pal. It's no surprise that having roommates can be difficult. People lie, cheat, and are un-loyal that is part of life unfortunately nonetheless like everything else we have to do the best that we can. :heart: :rose: :heart: :rose: :heart: :rose: :heart: :rose: :heart: :rose: :heart: :rose: :heart: :rose: :heart: :rose: :heart: :rose: :heart: :rose: :heart: :rose: :heart: :rose: :heart: :rose: :heart: :rose: :heart: :rose: :heart: :rose: :heart: :rose:


Fillfran82

That is all well and good if the person is honest. But if you are being played and lied to and you don't know it then you hit an even lower low when you finally figure it out.
Title: Re: roomates and lies
Post by: tantricia44 on August 30, 2018, 07:50:22 pm
I prefer to live alone but if I must have a roomie,  he/she must pay the rent on time, no getting involved romantically, no bringing your dates in for a quicky & know when to give each other space when needed.
Title: Re: roomates and lies
Post by: shawnix on August 31, 2018, 11:56:17 pm
I'm good with living alone. I had roommates before I did not enjoy it at all.
Title: Re: roomates and lies
Post by: mrisha on September 04, 2018, 02:39:11 pm
Welcome back
so as the titile  says  this is going to be quite the topic so let me ask why is it that when we live in the same space as other people why there is always so many problems whether it be your parents,siblings,or even roommates when were adults .

even if we like the idea of living with someone at first and the person is actually cool and yet we all eventually find ourselfs fighting why ?
i feel like i hear these problems everyday and usually the problems are someone is too messy or their all of sudden rude or a buzz kill or ya know in the case of a man and woman being roommate same old thing they start out freinds and than they sleep together and than before you know it someone is actually getting screwed over and kicked out at 5 am  .

they say that humans are not meant to be alone that were just naturally group mamals  and that if were alone and like constant alone time there must be somthing wrong with us but if everyone keeps leaving the group to where you cant help but be alone than what ?

 so  do you think we  as humans are meant to be  alone or should we have a family or group to bond with ?

let me know  in comments
 

This post was so confusing and all over the place.  Did you not learn how to capitalize the start of a sentence when you were in school?  Stop running sentences together.  Stop using words that sound good in your head, but is wrong.  This is just a soft suggestion.
Title: Re: roomates and lies
Post by: ancmetro on September 04, 2018, 03:37:26 pm

   No roommates, please!
   When I was a student I had many roommates at my dormitory/apartment.
   Some were nice...very nice.
   Others were rude, lazy...just impossible to live with!
   Few did not want to pay rent. Leaving the rest of us to pay the rent.
Title: Re: roomates and lies
Post by: JaniceSW on September 05, 2018, 10:45:23 am
At this point in my life, I live alone.  I really rather like it that way.  If you were to have a roommate, it is best to write a contract between the two of you and both sign it.  Everything needs to be spelled out, from finances to cleaning to having company/pets.  That way, people can be held accountable if it gets to that.
I think we do need human companionship.  It is not natural to be entirely alone.  However, why do you think so many marriages fail.  Unrealistic expectations in some instances.  The thing about being alone is that some people are more tolerant of it than others.  I've known people that say they never want to live alone.  Couldn't stand it!  Actually, I enjoy my alone time, but only for 4-5 days at a time.  Then I seek out companionship.
Title: Re: roomates and lies
Post by: debidoo on September 05, 2018, 12:51:52 pm
Well the bible says "it is not good for man to be alone" but I see your point - even with marriage I was married 34 years until my husband died and I loved him but it was kind of a lot of trauma and drama.  Now one of my grown sons lives with me and whew don't get me started on that LOL. I am alone a lot of the time and I am lonely sometimes but I think its better than the alternatives most of the time.  I have a spare room and could use the extra money but I am not up for putting up with someone's difficulties.
Title: Re: roomates and lies
Post by: santa7 on September 05, 2018, 05:35:18 pm
Have had good and bad.
Title: Re: roomates and lies
Post by: santa7 on September 05, 2018, 05:40:50 pm
The latest worked out well. 
Title: Re: roomates and lies
Post by: mardukblood2009 on September 05, 2018, 06:07:36 pm
I think people like to be with other people because they don't feel weird. Anytime someone lives alone or does something alone they are always looked down upon. I think that is why people often do things or live with someone so they can fit in in more ways than one.
Title: Re: roomates and lies
Post by: bremer51 on September 05, 2018, 06:50:02 pm
 I've had roommates who became lifelong friends and I've had roommates I couldn't wait to get away from.  And I've lived alone, which I actually enjoyed.  I still think that human companionship is necessary to live a happy life.
Title: Re: roomates and lies
Post by: braggin on September 06, 2018, 09:46:24 am
I think having people to live with is just great provided you don't have to stay in the same room together. Better to get a house, apt. or dorm where each person gets their own room if you can.
Title: Re: roomates and lies
Post by: snuggleycutejc on September 06, 2018, 10:13:25 am
well we shouldn't go crazy being alone or if you have a total group always there.
Title: Re: roomates and lies
Post by: santa7 on September 06, 2018, 11:13:57 am
The latest one turned out pretty good.

Have had bad and good ones.  Forrest Gump said "Like opening a box of Chocolates.  Never know what you're going to get.
Title: Re: roomates and lies
Post by: countrygirl12 on September 06, 2018, 12:48:30 pm
I'm good with living alone. I had roommates before I did not enjoy it at all.

I have never had a "room mate".  I do not think that would ever work out for me.