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Title: Friend Zoned
Post by: rwahdan on April 24, 2019, 08:34:06 am
Can you still be friends with a friend that has friend zoned you to the point of no return?
Title: Re: Friend Zoned
Post by: countrygirl12 on April 24, 2019, 08:54:01 am
What does friend zoned mean?
Title: Re: Friend Zoned
Post by: bremer51 on April 24, 2019, 10:37:50 am
I don't know the term "friend zoned" either.  Enlighten us, please.
Title: Re: Friend Zoned
Post by: countrygirl12 on April 25, 2019, 06:04:29 am
I don't know the term "friend zoned" either.  Enlighten us, please.

The only way I know it means is like if a girl and a guy are friends and say the guy is falling for the girl and wants a girlfriend but she just wants a friend then he is in the friend zone.  You cannot change a person's feelings or make them like you in ways that they don't.

But people use terms in so many different ways it is hard to know what people are meaning. 
Title: Re: Friend Zoned
Post by: pectacon on April 25, 2019, 11:29:44 am
CAN you, yes, if you actually ever valued the friendship. The type of person who complains about being friend zoned often did not truly want to be your friend in the first place, what they really wanted was sex. In my book, if it becomes clear that you view our friendship as a worthless consolation prize, you are not even desirable as a friend anymore, much less whatever else you had in mind.
Title: Re: Friend Zoned
Post by: paints on April 25, 2019, 01:39:52 pm
According to Wikipedia: "In popular culture, the friend zone is a situation in which one member of a friendship wishes to enter into a romantic or sexual relationship, while the other does not. It is generally considered to be an undesirable situation for the rejected person.

The sense of zone is one of being stuck in an unwanted and distant relationship. The rejected person is said to have been put "in" the object of their affection's "friend zone". The concept of the friend zone has been criticized as misogynistic, because of a belief that the concept implies an expectation that women should have sex with men in whom they have no interest, simply because the men were nice to them. This is closely associated with so-called "nice guy syndrome"."

If you can respect their boundaries, you can stay friends.  If you can't, and keep trying to change their mind, then no, it's best for both of you to move along.
Title: Re: Friend Zoned
Post by: countrygirl12 on April 26, 2019, 07:52:32 am
According to Wikipedia: "In popular culture, the friend zone is a situation in which one member of a friendship wishes to enter into a romantic or sexual relationship, while the other does not. It is generally considered to be an undesirable situation for the rejected person.

The sense of zone is one of being stuck in an unwanted and distant relationship. The rejected person is said to have been put "in" the object of their affection's "friend zone". The concept of the friend zone has been criticized as misogynistic, because of a belief that the concept implies an expectation that women should have sex with men in whom they have no interest, simply because the men were nice to them. This is closely associated with so-called "nice guy syndrome"."

If you can respect their boundaries, you can stay friends.  If you can't, and keep trying to change their mind, then no, it's best for both of you to move along.

The "rejected person" is not rejected.  I just want to be friends. I am not interested in dating you.  So the issue seems to lie with the OP.  It is in your court.  You can respect that the other person doesn't want to date you but wants to be friends.  That is all.  If you can't deal with that then you need to just move on and let the whole thing go.

I understand you may be hurt especially if the other person may have done things to lead you to believe that there could or would be more.  Even so, things can happen and they realize they don't want to be in a relationship but they do still want to remain friends. But then again, it is still up to you at this point.
Title: Re: Friend Zoned
Post by: nmbrown863 on April 26, 2019, 07:54:48 am
I guess if that is all you will ever be. You can still be friends as long as the person falling for the other person is okay with that.
Title: Re: Friend Zoned
Post by: paints on April 26, 2019, 04:34:07 pm
According to Wikipedia: "In popular culture, the friend zone is a situation in which one member of a friendship wishes to enter into a romantic or sexual relationship, while the other does not. It is generally considered to be an undesirable situation for the rejected person.

The sense of zone is one of being stuck in an unwanted and distant relationship. The rejected person is said to have been put "in" the object of their affection's "friend zone". The concept of the friend zone has been criticized as misogynistic, because of a belief that the concept implies an expectation that women should have sex with men in whom they have no interest, simply because the men were nice to them. This is closely associated with so-called "nice guy syndrome"."

If you can respect their boundaries, you can stay friends.  If you can't, and keep trying to change their mind, then no, it's best for both of you to move along.

The "rejected person" is not rejected.  I just want to be friends. I am not interested in dating you.  So the issue seems to lie with the OP.  It is in your court.  You can respect that the other person doesn't want to date you but wants to be friends.  That is all.  If you can't deal with that then you need to just move on and let the whole thing go.

I understand you may be hurt especially if the other person may have done things to lead you to believe that there could or would be more.  Even so, things can happen and they realize they don't want to be in a relationship but they do still want to remain friends. But then again, it is still up to you at this point.

Their sexual overture is rejected.  Which is what 'friend-zoned' means.
Title: Re: Friend Zoned
Post by: heypeg on April 26, 2019, 04:50:55 pm
What is friend zoned. Never heard that expression.
Title: Re: Friend Zoned
Post by: dreamyxo on April 26, 2019, 08:15:01 pm
Maybe but I'd lean more towards no especially if I wasn't totally over them.
Title: Re: Friend Zoned
Post by: alina6 on April 26, 2019, 08:17:31 pm
I think this forum topic confused me more than I have ever been on fusion cash. Sounds like once you are in the friend zone you can never get out.
Title: Re: Friend Zoned
Post by: Mizzkizz7 on April 26, 2019, 08:19:34 pm
Yes, I would just know the boundaries and change the way I feel for them.
Title: Re: Friend Zoned
Post by: mamatygress on April 28, 2019, 11:34:27 am
If you can accept the fact that you will not be together, then yes.
Title: Re: Friend Zoned
Post by: tantricia44 on April 30, 2019, 07:09:42 pm
It's hard to have a just friend of the opposite sex. If the attraction surfaces on both sides I say, that great they were meant to be. If the attraction is only one sided than that's not a good thing & continuing the friends only Zone is too difficult for both parties. From personal experience the one in love has less power over the friend that doesn't have the same feelings. You can't really switch back to the friends only zone once the line has been crossed cuz one will always feel guilty for not returning the feelings & one will always feel rejected & powerless for not having his/her feelings returned!
Title: Re: Friend Zoned
Post by: countrygirl12 on May 01, 2019, 04:57:08 am
According to Wikipedia: "In popular culture, the friend zone is a situation in which one member of a friendship wishes to enter into a romantic or sexual relationship, while the other does not. It is generally considered to be an undesirable situation for the rejected person.

The sense of zone is one of being stuck in an unwanted and distant relationship. The rejected person is said to have been put "in" the object of their affection's "friend zone". The concept of the friend zone has been criticized as misogynistic, because of a belief that the concept implies an expectation that women should have sex with men in whom they have no interest, simply because the men were nice to them. This is closely associated with so-called "nice guy syndrome"."

If you can respect their boundaries, you can stay friends.  If you can't, and keep trying to change their mind, then no, it's best for both of you to move along.

The "rejected person" is not rejected.  I just want to be friends. I am not interested in dating you.  So the issue seems to lie with the OP.  It is in your court.  You can respect that the other person doesn't want to date you but wants to be friends.  That is all.  If you can't deal with that then you need to just move on and let the whole thing go.

I understand you may be hurt especially if the other person may have done things to lead you to believe that there could or would be more.  Even so, things can happen and they realize they don't want to be in a relationship but they do still want to remain friends. But then again, it is still up to you at this point.

Their sexual overture is rejected.  Which is what 'friend-zoned' means.

I see that.  But then it goes back on the other person. You can be friends or you can get out of my life.  Your choice. But you do not have the right to talk bad about me or act like I am a bad person because I do not want a romantic relationship.

I was friends with a guy in HS that was so in love with me - lol - it was sickening.  He kept trying but he seemed to understand I was not interested in anything other than friends.  And we were friends until he moved away from the area.  If he came around today and we saw each other we would still talk as friends.

At the same time I have had guys like me that I was not interested in them and they got mad and didn't want to be friends if I did not want to act like a married couple.  smh
Title: Re: Friend Zoned
Post by: countrygirl12 on May 01, 2019, 04:57:30 am
What is friend zoned. Never heard that expression.

Read the other comments.
Title: Re: Friend Zoned
Post by: beatsdrop on May 01, 2019, 07:31:44 am
It really depends, but I think that friendship will always be awkward, no matter what.