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God, I hate moving. Have to move because house was sold. My daughter's father sold the house. We were never married. Got 30 day notice. Got on several waiting lists. So, looks like I'll be homeless if I don't find something by the 28th of this month. Looking for senior living. Will probably be sleeping and living out of my car.
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What area are you in? There should be a ministry or a church maybe they can help you find housing in your area hopefully I will keep you in my prayers
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Why did the man you had a daughter with sell the house?
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Cbsteffen: Why this man sold the house?
Men usually sell a house for only one reason:
They are hungry...very hungry for what?
The answer is simple: They are hungry for "money".
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Santa 7: Buy a house in "your name".
Buy title insurance.
Then, there is no problem:
Who is the owner of the house?
You are protected!
Happy house hunting/buying!
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Hope you find something you can afford. Happy house hunting!
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I hope that you find something!
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Cbsteffen: Why this man sold the house?
Men usually sell a house for only one reason:
They are hungry...very hungry for what?
The answer is simple: They are hungry for "money".
Those men sound greedy to me!
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^Why does ancmetro assume that only men sell houses for money and that money was the motivation in this case? I'm not saying that it isn't, but without more information from santa7 -how do we know?
@santa7, is there a friend, neighbor, or family member you could move in with temporarily while you look into other options? That would surely beat living in your car.
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Cbsteffen: Why this man sold the house?
Men usually sell a house for only one reason:
They are hungry...very hungry for what?
The answer is simple: They are hungry for "money".
Why are you condemning this man? It is his house. Maybe he doesn't want to pay taxes and upkeep on a house that he is not living in. Sounds like she was living in it for free. He has no obligation to provide a woman he use to have a relationship with a place to live. I don't know about any where else but there are tons of places to rent in the area I live in. Yes, rent is high and some of the places are not the highest class but it is shelter. We also have a motel that people rent by the week/month that is relatively cheap. But you get a room, cable tv, free internet, and somebody to clean up after you and wash your sheets, and free soap and toiletries.
When somebody says something like this I always wonder why NO family will allow them to stay with them for a while. Where is the daughter? Will she not allow her to stay with her for a while?
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Santa 7: Buy a house in "your name".
Buy title insurance.
Then, there is no problem:
Who is the owner of the house?
You are protected!
Happy house hunting/buying!
This is about too foolish to even respond to. Buying a house is not that easy. You can't just go buy a house. Not sure what TITLE INSURANCE is. If you are paying on a house you have to have insurance. You do not get the title until you have paid the mortgage off.
The OP has stated in the past she is older and she doesnt work so I doubt she just has the money to go buy a house. As for who is the owner of the house - obviously the man who is selling it. The man she has had a relationship with.
^Why does ancmetro assume that only men sell houses for money and that money was the motivation in this case? I'm not saying that it isn't, but without more information from santa7 -how do we know?
@santa7, is there a friend, neighbor, or family member you could move in with temporarily while you look into other options? That would surely beat living in your car.
Because people are judgmental. People hear one side of a story and jump the bandwagon and trash the other person and when you find out the whole story you see there was a lot more to it. He is the owner of the home and he doesn't owe anyone any explanations as to why he is selling it. Even if it IS just because he needs the money it is nothing to her or anyone else. IT IS HIS HOUSE!
A lot of times people cry oh I will be homeless and I will be living in my car to get sympathy. This person still has internet. I am guessing also still has other extras. If I were fixing to not have any where to live I would cut off all the extras. But that is just me.
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maybe room with someone;roomates.com. the 28th isnt enough time and cold weather approaching. I know it sucks to room with a stranger but to avoid homelesness even temporary.
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also, put your belongigns in publix storage if you can affors it as well or leave them with a relative. I got a 90 day noitce but moved to a relative and could not get my own apartment in that time. Had to put stuff in public storgae and pay mthly. Luckily, I work but moving is a hardship.
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I'm selling my house and am on a waiting list for an apartment. I have lived in my house for 21 years and I too hate moving. You collect so much stuff and then you have to downsize. I was told that it would be the end of the year before an apartment would be available so in the meantime I have rented a storage unit and living at my daughter's house.
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My situation was asked landlord for repairs to leaking roof. He came to look saw a bunch of empty coke bottles in some trash bags which I cash at the local supermarket for money. He tells me it is trash and I told him its not. Later that day i asked him to reconsider as it is illegal in MA to evict someone requesting repairs. Then he shoots a text saying he wants his daughter to take my unit. I researched that and you cannot win in court over that. Most a judge could do is give you more time to move out or if in bad mood he or she can order eviction. I had no choice but to move. But landlord doing this is shady. You cant even trust them.
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I guess my advice to all renters is to keep one foot in the street nd one on your couch because you never know when landlords do this to you. You cannot get too comfy living in rent.
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I guess my advice to all renters is to keep one foot in the street nd one on your couch because you never know when landlords do this to you. You cannot get too comfy living in rent.
That does not even make sense at all. Most times you are not going to be kicked out for no reason. They will if they have someone else they want to give the place to. And if they don't like you then you are a target to be asked to move. But as far as the OP the owner of the home wanted to sell it. He has the right. In this day and age if I owned more than one property and it came up I could see the one I did not live in I most likely would do so. Doesn't sound like the OP got along with her ex. She should be grateful he let her live in his property as long as he did.
It doesn't sound like the OP was renting. And they cannot just evict you if you have a lease. I do not think something like this is common. I know someone recently that ended up being evicted and she tried to act like it was this and this but in reality it was because she was causing trouble and complaining about other tenants. So in the end it backfired on her.
Kind of like the neighbor I use to have who tried to get a guy she worked with fired. In the end she was the one who was let go.
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What area are you in? There should be a ministry or a church maybe they can help you find housing in your area hopefully I will keep you in my prayers
BATISTAGIRL663
I live in Orlando, Fl. I have gotten on some senior citizen waiting lists.
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We weren't married. We had a child together and he asked me to move in. Soon after he left me for someone else, married and divorced her. He asked me not to file for child support because he was buying the house for our daughter. I believed him. I was sanctioned by the government all those years because I didn't file for child support. I was denied medicaid and food stamps all those years. She was held back three years in school. So yes, I was foolish because everyone told me to file for child support because he wasn't paying child support. He was buying himself a house. So, yes country girl I was living there "for free" because he wasn't paying child support, he was buying himself a house. My daughter is now pregnant and she is going to live with her father and his girl friend. She is not getting a house. My advice to her is to file for child support if this guy leaves her. Also, I am still supporting her because she only works part time. I found storage and putting my stuff in there and looking for a place to live. Still helping her because she is mentally slow. I am exhausted.
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Country Girl: I believed him. He tricked me. He has other houses and so does his girlfriend that he is now living with. Do you have children? This is difficult. I wish I had filed for child support. It's water under the bridge now. They have laws and tell you to file for child support for a reason. Yes, his girlfriend and him have houses here and she has houses in Puerto Rico that she is renting out. Yes. This is greed.
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Country Girl: I didn't file for child support because I believed he was buying the house for our daughter. I thought at least one of us would give her something. I was paying him rent the past several months too.
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Sorry to see your housing situation.
Cheer up...it is not the end of the world.
Keep your chin up...and look for a better
place to live. These types of housing
problems happened all the time.
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That's sad, but I hope you can find something!
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Been there done that in years past. My husband and I lived in a tent for over a year because in Orlando FL you could stay free for two weeks in any county park and there were several so every two weeks we packed up and moved to the next one until we circled around there was no limit to how many times you could stay in a park just had to leave for a certain length of time and not be there beyond two weeks. We also lived in a tiny travel trailer at one point. Well best of luck to u finding a new home that works for you.
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"That does not even make sense at all. Most times you are not going to be kicked out for no reason. They will if they have someone else they want to give the place to"
He had his daughter take it;Its a private landlord so yeah they can do what they want and tenant gets screwed.
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Country Girl: I believed him. He tricked me. He has other houses and so does his girlfriend that he is now living with. Do you have children? This is difficult. I wish I had filed for child support. It's water under the bridge now. They have laws and tell you to file for child support for a reason. Yes, his girlfriend and him have houses here and she has houses in Puerto Rico that she is renting out. Yes. This is greed.
What difference does it make? If you had filed for child support you would not have gotten any more money than living in that house for free all these years. You actually got a better deal. You could get a couple hundred in child support (if that much) or you do not have to pay $500 a month for a place to live.
Her being slow is not a factor in the equation. And NO it is not greed to own houses and rent them. It is called good business. That would be like saying if you want a raise after a year on your job you are just greedy. Work for the agreed on starting pay. I understand you are upset because you have to find somewhere else to live. And you are not use to having to pay rent or a mortgage payment. But him owning property and renting it or selling property he owns is a way to make a living.
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Country Girl: I didn't file for child support because I believed he was buying the house for our daughter. I thought at least one of us would give her something. I was paying him rent the past several months too.
Buying a house for the daughter does not have anything to do with it. That doesn't help you with expenses you had as she grew up. But like you said that is water under the bridge. Too late to do anything now. We have all been lied to or taken at some point in life.
Either way when you live on somebody else's property you are at their mercy. They make the rules. Can you have a pet, how many cars you can park in the drive way, can you have over night guests... I did rent before I bought my own home.
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Been there done that in years past. My husband and I lived in a tent for over a year because in Orlando FL you could stay free for two weeks in any county park and there were several so every two weeks we packed up and moved to the next one until we circled around there was no limit to how many times you could stay in a park just had to leave for a certain length of time and not be there beyond two weeks. We also lived in a tiny travel trailer at one point. Well best of luck to u finding a new home that works for you.
I have heard a lot of people live in tents in Florida and California. I don't see what it would hurt to let people just stay beyond 2 weeks. As long as they were clean. I have seen pics from California that are disgusting. Trash every where, clothing littering the lawns, it is horrible. If I did not have a regular home and could get one of the little camper things like you mentioned if it was a regular one and not a pop up I don't think that would be too bad.
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"That does not even make sense at all. Most times you are not going to be kicked out for no reason. They will if they have someone else they want to give the place to"
He had his daughter take it;Its a private landlord so yeah they can do what they want and tenant gets screwed.
Did you even read the first comment? HE owns the property and HE is selling it. He gave her notice to move out. It is not screwing the tenant. If I own a piece of property and I am renting it if I decide to sell it then you the tenant can either purchase it or you can move out so I can sell it. That is not "screwing" you.
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Well, if it does come to that, there are videos on how to live in your car. There are people that do it because they want to. You can move whenever you want and you don't have to pay rent. When we do things our way and not God's way, it almost always causes problems. Trying to tell my kids that who are having problems because they are doing things their way. God's ways are ALWAYS, 100% of the time, best.
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Try zillow or craigslist. Those are the couple of places I would look at when looking for a place to stay.
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Well, if it does come to that, there are videos on how to live in your car. There are people that do it because they want to. You can move whenever you want and you don't have to pay rent. When we do things our way and not God's way, it almost always causes problems. Trying to tell my kids that who are having problems because they are doing things their way. God's ways are ALWAYS, 100% of the time, best.
Just because you have a hard time or hit hard times doesn't mean you are doing things YOUR way and not God's way. smh And living in your care is not something anyone would want to do. Unless you have nothing and want nothing but to sit in an upright position all the time. And you can't get a job or even social security without an address. A real physical address. PO Box does not count.
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So sad! :( Isn't there a government program available to you or a church that can help you out?
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So sad! :( Isn't there a government program available to you or a church that can help you out?
Every one does not qualify for government programs. And most churches do not do what she is asking. And no that does not make them bad people either.
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I would have gotten child support, Medicaid, and food stamps and had my own place. He asked me not to file for child support because the government takes money from the man and he obviously intended to let me live there rent free in lieu of child support because he intended to turn around and sell the house for cash profit. He could have fixed up that house to since we were living there. Yes, he did trick me and lie to me, country girl. What goes around, comes around.
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Sorry to hear that, going through something simular. land lady passed, her daughters dont want to deal with the renting, so selling, cant afford anything else :(
Wishing us both luck!
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I would have gotten child support, Medicaid, and food stamps and had my own place. He asked me not to file for child support because the government takes money from the man and he obviously intended to let me live there rent free in lieu of child support because he intended to turn around and sell the house for cash profit. He could have fixed up that house to since we were living there. Yes, he did trick me and lie to me, country girl. What goes around, comes around.
Wait, so he was living there also? You would not be able to get child support if he was living there. You act like he had this malicious plan the whole time. What you are saying doesn't add up.
*If he lived there then he paid expenses so you would not get child support. You were living together.
*You have said you are in your 60's so were you in your mid 40's when you got pregnant? Because before you made it sound like she had just turned 18. If she is quite a few years older then he is a really nice man to let a woman he is no longer with live in his house rent free.
No matter what he doesn't owe you anything as far as letting you live in the house. Can you not get a loan and just buy the house? Then you can stay where you are. Surely with no expenses all these years you were able to save at least a little money? Yeah it is a bad situation that you don't have any where to go. I actually was thinking about this the other day and wondered if you had found any where. Had not seen you in here lately.
But the fact is HE owns the house and he can sell it and most likely it has nothing to do with you. He doesn't want to have the headache of a house he doesn't live in. I am sure you have the option of purchasing it. I don't agree that he tricked you. I know how child support works. He pays based on how much money he makes. You would not be able to buy a home of your own on child support payments. And if you did then you would be doing just as wrong because that money is suppose to go to the child. But that is something else entirely.
You keep saying he is selling it for a cash profit. ::) It is HIS house. He can sell it. He is not evil for doing this. I am assuming the house is paid for now. Was it paid for when you lived there for free? Was HE making payments on it when YOU lived there for FREE? Either way you are all about the free stuff. If he had not made the offer and you got child support you were going to sit on your butt at home and not work and collect free medical insurance and food stamps. Because IF you worked and also got child support you would not qualify for free medical insurance and food stamps. Then again people who play this game know how many hours they can work and still get everything for free.
We have had people come in and apply for a job and either ask to be paid in cash so they don't lose their unemployment or don't mess up their crazy check. OR they tell us I can only work 15 hours a week because I also draw a check and if I work over that they take part of that money.
How did he lie to you? Did he tell you that you could live there until you die? If he asked you not to file for child support and told you that you can live in the house rent free then he did not trick you nor lie to you. You are not any worse off than if you have found somewhere to rent a long time ago. Sounds like you got a good deal. Not what you want to hear but it is the truth. You are just upset because now you will have to pay rent and you are not use to doing that.
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Sorry to hear that, going through something simular. land lady passed, her daughters dont want to deal with the renting, so selling, cant afford anything else :(
Wishing us both luck!
IF my parents had rental property, which they do not, if something happened to them, I would do the same thing. I would tell the tenant they had to move and I would sell the property. Why anybody would want to deal with renters is beyond me. Some are good tenants but more are not. They don't pay the rent. They destroy the place they live in that isn't theirs, constantly complain yelling about their rights. smh Not saying you are like that.
I guess if you are going to rent you need to find a place in an apartment complex where they aren't going to come up and want to sell it. But I don't think the daughters in this case are bad people either for selling a house they do not want.
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I would have gotten child support, Medicaid, and food stamps and had my own place. He asked me not to file for child support because the government takes money from the man and he obviously intended to let me live there rent free in lieu of child support because he intended to turn around and sell the house for cash profit. He could have fixed up that house to since we were living there. Yes, he did trick me and lie to me, country girl. What goes around, comes around.
Oh and btw what goes around doesn't come around. First he is not doing anything wrong but second the karma thing is not real. I see people do evil all the time and nothing bad ever happens to them. I would look at the housing projects in my area. If you have to be out by the 31st you are kind of out of time. People keep suggesting churches. Churches don't just give you a place to live. I don't know of any that have places people can live. And as far as handing out cash most don't do that either.
We don't. We will buy somebody something to eat or a tank of gas but won't just give them cash. The last one that came to the church wanting money a deacon told him he would take him up to the store right up the road and buy him a tank of gas and something to eat and the guy said ok. They start down the road and the deacon pulls in to the store and the bum went on down the road. We have helped with electric bills but we go to the electric company and pay the bill. We don't give people cash. And most churches are the same way.
I would like to think if you have to be out in 6 days that you have your things packed and have made some sort of arrangements but I kind of doubt you have. I would have things packed and ready to move to a storage unit if I did not have a place to go yet. And depending on where you live if it is cold I would look at a cheap motel I could rent by the week until I could figure out what I was going to do. I also realize most people wait til the last minute to do things. At least a motel you would have a place to stay, free cable, free internet, free toiletries, clean sheets, and whatever else they offer. Some offer free breakfast. There are place in my area you can rent for around $100 a week and most rental houses are more than $400 and you don't get electric, cable, internet, and all that other stuff included.
If you stayed in a motel and had transportation and are really desperate you could also drive to a soup kitchen and get a free meal there.
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goo to a place with low taxes
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So terrible. But glad that you got out of there.
My situation was asked landlord for repairs to leaking roof. He came to look saw a bunch of empty coke bottles in some trash bags which I cash at the local supermarket for money. He tells me it is trash and I told him its not. Later that day i asked him to reconsider as it is illegal in MA to evict someone requesting repairs. Then he shoots a text saying he wants his daughter to take my unit. I researched that and you cannot win in court over that. Most a judge could do is give you more time to move out or if in bad mood he or she can order eviction. I had no choice but to move. But landlord doing this is shady. You cant even trust them.
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Been there done that in years past. My husband and I lived in a tent for over a year because in Orlando FL you could stay free for two weeks in any county park and there were several so every two weeks we packed up and moved to the next one until we circled around there was no limit to how many times you could stay in a park just had to leave for a certain length of time and not be there beyond two weeks. We also lived in a tiny travel trailer at one point. Well best of luck to u finding a new home that works for you.
You look familiar to me. I'll bet you may even be my neighbor. Could swear that I've seen yu around here in Orlando.
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also, put your belongigns in publix storage if you can affors it as well or leave them with a relative. I got a 90 day noitce but moved to a relative and could not get my own apartment in that time. Had to put stuff in public storgae and pay mthly. Luckily, I work but moving is a hardship.
I put my stuff in storage but have so much stuff that in going through everything, sorting out for donations, trash, or to keep is so much, kiinda of feel like just walking away from the boxes stored in closets and porch and just go somewhere else. Too much stuff. Will never want to hoard again!
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Wow! I hope you get better luck in the home arena in the next few months.
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The first mistake you made is not having your name on the house. Wrong time of the year looking for somewhere to live. Hope you have some luck finding a place to live.
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I was just thinking about you this past week and hoping you had found somewhere awesome and affordable to live. Please let us know will you when you find somewhere?
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Moving is never easy but maybe you can find a friend to stay with until you can find something reasonable. Sometimes there are seniors looking for roommates but whatever you decide make sure you be careful out there and choose wisely.
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Good luck finding something.
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You are right about not having my name on it. I trusted him that he was buying the house for our daughter who is now pregnant and she knows not to trust her baby's father if he decides that he is buying the house for their child and not file for child support. I didn't get food stamps or medicaid all those years too because the government sanctioned me for not filing for child support. Looks like he's getting some karma back for his bad deeds.
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Haven't had a chance to get on here with all the moving. CountryGirl wrote me book volumes I see here. I didn't sit on my butt and do nothing. I worked during that time and also had an older child that I was still supporting. I worked over 17 years for the state of Florida and don't know if CG ever worked that long anywhere. You don't make a lot of money working for the state of Florida ans still qualify for help if you get child support. Sounds like you never had children county girl. It is very expensive to raise kids.
He tricked me because he didn't want me to file for child support so he could buy himself a house. When I asked him to give me more than 30 days notice because I am supposed to get surgery on my feet, right knee replacement, and physical therapy on back and right hip several times a week he said that's your problem not mine.
You ar so opinionated on anything anyone has to say here just to be contrary. I won't nbe reading your posts anymore.
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Moving is never easy but maybe you can find a friend to stay with until you can find something reasonable. Sometimes there are seniors looking for roommates but whatever you decide make sure you be careful out there and choose wisely.
Trying to get into Senior living and on waiting lists. Thank you.
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I was just thinking about you this past week and hoping you had found somewhere awesome and affordable to live. Please let us know will you when you find somewhere?
Hi: Staying at my granddaughter's apartment. Is in a nice area of Orlando. Nice here. Not in the ghetto like I was. Still looking for senior living. Only problem is it is on 3rd floor so I don't like to leave unless I have too. Hard to walk the stairs. Thanks for your concern.
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Wait, so he was living there also? You would not be able to get child support if he was living there. You act like he had this malicious plan the whole time. What you are saying doesn't add up.
Just noticed this on Country girl post. Where does she get that he was living there too? She really makes up her own stories just to hear herself talk, this woman. I can see why another member called her contrary girl.
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I hope you can figure it out. That's horrible to be put in a situation like that. Good Luck to you. God Bless you.
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Is there any way you can sue this jerk for back child support payments?
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I realize this post was from October....any luck on the situation?
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I really hope things turn around for you or have by now. Let us know when you are settled until then prayers and fingers crossed.
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I haven't been on for awhile. I don't know if you found a permanent living situation yet. I would definitely get on a list for senior housing ASAP. I know in my area there can be a wait of 1 year at some places. Have you tried contacting a senior agency for help? Check your local phone book and try that route. I know for a fact agencies where I live get seniors in the apartments if they are living in a bad situation quicker than the wait list I would think being homeless and living in a car would be a hardship living. Good luck and please keep us posted
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I hope you find something soon! It is not fun.
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Have you posted this before? It sounds familiar. What part of the country are you in?
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I hope you have found a place for your self now
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Hi santa7
I hope you had a great Christmas, and I also hope that you have found a place to live...
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Praying you will find a place to live and not have to live in your car. Tough time of year for getting a notice. God bless you and hope you find somewhere soon.
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Haven't had a chance to get on here with all the moving. CountryGirl wrote me book volumes I see here. I didn't sit on my butt and do nothing. I worked during that time and also had an older child that I was still supporting. I worked over 17 years for the state of Florida and don't know if CG ever worked that long anywhere. You don't make a lot of money working for the state of Florida ans still qualify for help if you get child support. Sounds like you never had children county girl. It is very expensive to raise kids.
He tricked me because he didn't want me to file for child support so he could buy himself a house. When I asked him to give me more than 30 days notice because I am supposed to get surgery on my feet, right knee replacement, and physical therapy on back and right hip several times a week he said that's your problem not mine.
You ar so opinionated on anything anyone has to say here just to be contrary. I won't nbe reading your posts anymore.
I didn't write you book volumes. You are a cry baby and just mad because I didn't get on board with feeling sorry for you. You lived there for FREE. He doesn't owe you anything.
He did not trick you. If you do not file for child support I will let you live here in MY house for free! You pay no rent, no house payment, no property taxes, no upkeep on the house. Sounds like a pretty sweet deal.
No I am not opinionated just to be contrary. Too bad if you do not agree with me. Sounds like you raised your daughter to be just like you. Maybe if you had gotten married instead of just having kids with random men you would not be in said mess. You just wanted to have a pity party and then have everybody jump on board telling you how you are right and he is wrong.
Also sounds like you got some pretty good insurance to have all these surgeries lines up. So I don't see where you have too much to complain about.
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Wait, so he was living there also? You would not be able to get child support if he was living there. You act like he had this malicious plan the whole time. What you are saying doesn't add up.
Just noticed this on Country girl post. Where does she get that he was living there too? She really makes up her own stories just to hear herself talk, this woman. I can see why another member called her contrary girl.
lol Thought you were not going to read or respond to my posts any more. That lasted a long time. You typing something in italics and saying I said it doesn't mean I did. You weren't tricked. You sound like the typical free loader. It is his house and he has the right to sell it. You could have bought it and stayed there.
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Haven't had a chance to get on here with all the moving. CountryGirl wrote me book volumes I see here. I didn't sit on my butt and do nothing. I worked during that time and also had an older child that I was still supporting. I worked over 17 years for the state of Florida and don't know if CG ever worked that long anywhere. You don't make a lot of money working for the state of Florida ans still qualify for help if you get child support. Sounds like you never had children county girl. It is very expensive to raise kids.
He tricked me because he didn't want me to file for child support so he could buy himself a house. When I asked him to give me more than 30 days notice because I am supposed to get surgery on my feet, right knee replacement, and physical therapy on back and right hip several times a week he said that's your problem not mine.
You ar so opinionated on anything anyone has to say here just to be contrary. I won't nbe reading your posts anymore.
Yes,we have been telling the forum that for awhile.
And there is a scripture,God is not 1 to be mocked.Whatever a person is sowing they will reap.Gal 6:7
Another way of saying what goes around comes around.
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How long have you been living in the house? If he is the Father of your child, why didn't he give you much more time to move? Can you afford to live in the house or better yet, how much is he asking for the sale of the house? He doesn't sound like a big fan of yours, by kicking you out of your home.
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That's a great suggestion; churches are suppose to help in situations like this. So is DHS.
What area are you in? There should be a ministry or a church maybe they can help you find housing in your area hopefully I will keep you in my prayers
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True; buying a home is a process.
Santa 7: Buy a house in "your name".
Buy title insurance.
Then, there is no problem:
Who is the owner of the house?
You are protected!
Happy house hunting/buying!
This is about too foolish to even respond to. Buying a house is not that easy. You can't just go buy a house. Not sure what TITLE INSURANCE is. If you are paying on a house you have to have insurance. You do not get the title until you have paid the mortgage off.
The OP has stated in the past she is older and she doesnt work so I doubt she just has the money to go buy a house. As for who is the owner of the house - obviously the man who is selling it. The man she has had a relationship with.
^Why does ancmetro assume that only men sell houses for money and that money was the motivation in this case? I'm not saying that it isn't, but without more information from santa7 -how do we know?
@santa7, is there a friend, neighbor, or family member you could move in with temporarily while you look into other options? That would surely beat living in your car.
Because people are judgmental. People hear one side of a story and jump the bandwagon and trash the other person and when you find out the whole story you see there was a lot more to it. He is the owner of the home and he doesn't owe anyone any explanations as to why he is selling it. Even if it IS just because he needs the money it is nothing to her or anyone else. IT IS HIS HOUSE!
A lot of times people cry oh I will be homeless and I will be living in my car to get sympathy. This person still has internet. I am guessing also still has other extras. If I were fixing to not have any where to live I would cut off all the extras. But that is just me.
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I hope the situation is better now. If you are living out of your car search car living on YouTube for tips to make it sustainable.
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I sincerely wish you would do a new post and let us know how this housing thing is going for you. People for the most part on this forum really care about the things they hear people are going through.
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How long have you been living in the house? If he is the Father of your child, why didn't he give you much more time to move? Can you afford to live in the house or better yet, how much is he asking for the sale of the house? He doesn't sound like a big fan of yours, by kicking you out of your home.
[/quot my granddaughter, her fiance and I are all paying for me to stay in this nice apartment. Expensive but I'm not homeless for now I have to find a place by April though. Trying to give get veterans benefits so far I have been denied but I am appealing it. I've gotten to a couple senior housing living waiting lists. I was in the army reserves when I was young I never applied for benefits because I was never deployed however I need help with medical bills.
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Moving is never easy but maybe you can find a friend to stay with until you can find something reasonable. Sometimes there are seniors looking for roommates but whatever you decide make sure you be careful out there and choose wisely.. One day at a Time
[/color]. One day I'll get the hang of how to quote cut and paste and color so that I can respond to these replies. Haha.
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Wow, that was a douchy thing to do to you.
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Yes I'm sure if you are a mom you understand. Only someone who doesn't have children wouldn't understand. My younger daughter was supposed to move in with him and his girlfriend and all of his girlfriend's family that didn't last not even 3 days she came back to me so now I have to look for a place for her and myself.
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Moving is never easy but maybe you can find a friend to stay with until you can find something reasonable. Sometimes there are seniors looking for roommates but whatever you decide make sure you be careful out there and choose wisely.. One day at a Time
[/color]. One day I'll get the hang of how to quote cut and paste and color so that I can respond to these replies. Haha.
It is not hard. Just hit quote. The cursor will be at the end of the quoted comment. Don't move it to inside of the other comment. Just hit return a couple times and it will skip down. Type your reply. Oh wait, you don't want to know things from me. LOL
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Wow, that was a douchy thing to do to you.
It is his house. She was living there for free. I am sure he also paid for the land taxes as well as the house payment. He has a right to sell it. I am also sure she could have purchased it. I had a house up for sale once and the real estate agent was like oh we can rent it until it sells. I refused to entertain that thought because for one I did not want to deal with renters. And two, I knew the house could sell at any time. All beside the point. Letting someone else live in your property is a pain. I would have to hear his side of this before I could say he is a horrible bad person. If there was an agreement she could live there until she died (which I doubt there was) then it is a bad situation. If it is I will provide you a rent free place to live until child is 18 then he kept his end of the bargain.
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Yes I'm sure if you are a mom you understand. Only someone who doesn't have children wouldn't understand. My younger daughter was supposed to move in with him and his girlfriend and all of his girlfriend's family that didn't last not even 3 days she came back to me so now I have to look for a place for her and myself.
Being a mom has nothing to do with it. It was his house. He has a right to sell it and to tell you to either purchase it or vacate it. It is not yours. It is the same with any rental property. If I am renting property and I decide for whatever reason I need or want to sell it then I can. I owe the renter nothing. Unless they have a lease and I would have to wait until the end of the lease. But then I can tell them to get out. I do not have to give any explanation as to why I am selling. This is what happens when you do not own your own property.
I have been responsible since a young age. As soon as I turned 18 I opened a checking account/savings account in my name. I already had a job that I had for quite some time. I applied for my first credit card and started to build credit. I charged and paid in full every month. I rented for a while. I always paid in full and on time. Again, building credit. I had electric and phone in my name. Always paid on time. Again building credit. I bought a new car. I had excellent credit. I paid all payments on time. Same when I wanted to buy a house. I had excellent credit history. The house payment was no more than renting. I live within my means. Nobody handed me anything and I have worked for all that I have.
Also kept excellent records of payments so I did not need to depend on a landlord or someone else to say oh she paid late. I could prove I paid on time.
And btw, I still have excellent credit.
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This is an old thread but I sure hope you found a place to live.