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My Son will email me and tell me that I'm the best Mom, and that he loves me, BUT, he tells me he would never tell me these things in person ???....is it a guy thing when one cant express their feelings?....I'm so sorry if I asked this before :confused1:
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Wow. I don't think it is a "guy" thing. Seems odd he says he would not tell you "in person". I would ask in an email, reply to the one he sent to you, and just ask WHY would you say you could never tell me this in person.
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Wow. I don't think it is a "guy" thing. Seems odd he says he would not tell you "in person". I would ask in an email, reply to the one he sent to you, and just ask WHY would you say you could never tell me this in person.
I have and no answer, something I will never know I guess. I know some guys who cant express compassion/feelings, and they have told me for some guys its just a guy thing hmmmm
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Eh, maybe he doesn't like to get mushy in person...at least he tells you some way.... :thumbsup:
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Eh, maybe he doesn't like to get mushy in person...at least he tells you some way.... :thumbsup:
This is true lol. When he was little it was different, I come from a family who we always tell one another we love each other coming and going and after a phone call. He's 37 and works in law enforcement I thought maybe it as a macho thing ha ha...I know of guys who hug their Moms in public....but you are so right :)
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He obviously wants you to know how much he loves you. Some people have a hard time verbalizing things from the heart.
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Eh, maybe he doesn't like to get mushy in person...at least he tells you some way.... :thumbsup:
Amen to this post. Be grateful he tells you at all. :angel11:
It also might depend on his age. Teenage boys tend to not want to do any public display of affection. My older son tells me all the time he loves me, but my youngest boy had a hard time doing it. However, I just keep telling him I love him all the time and he has started saying it back.
If you can be patient and wait, he might get up the courage to tell you in person. You don't sound as though it's hurting your feelings at this point and that's a good thing.
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I had a hard time showing affection to my mother as well. I regret it now since she has passed.
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Aww..I don't no...may be a guy thing. Some guys are not as comfortable showing affection.
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Eh, maybe he doesn't like to get mushy in person...at least he tells you some way.... :thumbsup:
Amen to this post. Be grateful he tells you at all. :angel11:
It also might depend on his age. Teenage boys tend to not want to do any public display of affection. My older son tells me all the time he loves me, but my youngest boy had a hard time doing it. However, I just keep telling him I love him all the time and he has started saying it back.
If you can be patient and wait, he might get up the courage to tell you in person. You don't sound as though it's hurting your feelings at this point and that's a good thing.
Hi, he is 37. Every time he walks out the door I tell him I love him, it hurts not to hear it back but then once in awhile I will get that email saying I love you Mom 😊
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Just one time when he leaves just say...okay, see ya later...see what he does....
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It's definitely a guy thing but not because guys can't express their feelings but I think it's indicative of repressing their emotions as being part of the whole toxic masculinity thing.
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Just one time when he leaves just say...okay, see ya later...see what he does....
My Son is a police officer and I ALWAYS want my last words to be "I love you" NRAJOE, every time he walks through that door I thank God he came home safe another day. I may sound weird but....maybe when he retires and if i'm still around I'll say "see you later" ...oh I must sound pathetic to you lol
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My Son lost his Dad when he was 12 years old. Someone once told me that maybe he doesn't want to show his feelings towards me so that when I'm gone it wont hurt so much. He and his Dad were very close and it did a number on him when he died. Does that make sense to anyone? thank you all for commenting ...HUGS
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It might be difficult for him to say in person
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Just one time when he leaves just say...okay, see ya later...see what he does....
My Son is a police officer and I ALWAYS want my last words to be "I love you" NRAJOE, every time he walks through that door I thank God he came home safe another day. I may sound weird but....maybe when he retires and if i'm still around I'll say "see you later" ...oh I must sound pathetic to you lol
Naw...I understand…. :thumbsup:
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I wouldnt say its a guy thing some people just dont say it much. If he sends you an email you are on his mind and hes thinking of you. I wonder if his job has something to do with it. Police officers lose people all the time. Maybe its just his way. Im sure he loves you
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I wouldnt say its a guy thing some people just dont say it much. If he sends you an email you are on his mind and hes thinking of you. I wonder if his job has something to do with it. Police officers lose people all the time. Maybe its just his way. Im sure he loves you
Thanks, I know he does, hey, he bought me a new stove for Mother’s Day last year . It would be nice to hear it sometimes, I’m getting use to his ways
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Just one time when he leaves just say...okay, see ya later...see what he does....
My Son is a police officer and I ALWAYS want my last words to be "I love you" NRAJOE, every time he walks through that door I thank God he came home safe another day. I may sound weird but....maybe when he retires and if i'm still around I'll say "see you later" ...oh I must sound pathetic to you lol
Naw...I understand…. :thumbsup:
Thanks
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I love my mom and tell her all the time
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I had a hard time showing affection to my mother as well. I regret it now since she has passed.
I am sorry for your loss :(
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I love my mom and tell her all the time
That is so sweet !!
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This fine young man I wish could sit down and talk to my son. Dont get me wrong, my Son is a good person whom I love dearly but I wish he would take some pointers from James here LOL......... https://youtu.be/HRHEGjPRWME
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Different strokes for different folks. I am a touchy, feely kind of person. No problems expressing what is on my mind and able to hug strangers. I hug my mother and step father for all they are worth because we only have so much time in this world. I love my kids to death, tell them everyday and try to spend as much time as possible with them. If I do not like someone, or their actions, I do not associate with them. I have not wasted any words on my father in twenty six years and my sister in two years. Both deserted their families and spend their lives in dark clouds of negativity as they search for significance. Knowing that they can not get under my skin they have started driving my wife nuts. I have told her to just block them but she feels she can solve the world's problems.
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Wow. I don't think it is a "guy" thing. Seems odd he says he would not tell you "in person". I would ask in an email, reply to the one he sent to you, and just ask WHY would you say you could never tell me this in person.
I have and no answer, something I will never know I guess. I know some guys who cant express compassion/feelings, and they have told me for some guys its just a guy thing hmmmm
Not really. Some women are the same way I guess. I know a guy like that. He will not express feelings at all. It is like something inside of him is shut down. But I know he feels things.My Son lost his Dad when he was 12 years old. Someone once told me that maybe he doesn't want to show his feelings towards me so that when I'm gone it wont hurt so much. He and his Dad were very close and it did a number on him when he died. Does that make sense to anyone? thank you all for commenting ...HUGS
It does make sense.
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Wow. I don't think it is a "guy" thing. Seems odd he says he would not tell you "in person". I would ask in an email, reply to the one he sent to you, and just ask WHY would you say you could never tell me this in person.
I have and no answer, something I will never know I guess. I know some guys who cant express compassion/feelings, and they have told me for some guys its just a guy thing hmmmm
Not really. Some women are the same way I guess. I know a guy like that. He will not express feelings at all. It is like something inside of him is shut down. But I know he feels things.My Son lost his Dad when he was 12 years old. Someone once told me that maybe he doesn't want to show his feelings towards me so that when I'm gone it wont hurt so much. He and his Dad were very close and it did a number on him when he died. Does that make sense to anyone? thank you all for commenting ...HUGS
It does make sense.
When I was told that it did make sense to me as well countrygirl12. It would be nice to hear but if that is how he copes with feelings then I can understand. He shows me in other ways how much he cares and loves me....thank you !!
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I don't see my son as often as I would like but he always tells me he loves me
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I have a way easier time saying emotional, serious, difficult things in writing than face to face. Then again I am better at communicating in writing than verbally overall. Of course you sometimes have to say things anyway even though it isn't the most comfortable way.
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Maybe you could turn the tables on him & stop saying the I love you words to him but express it only in email. See, if he takes notice. It's not fair for a son to just deny his mom face to face affection. What's he going to do when the day comes where his freedom to express his feelings to you will no longer be available! We're all human & we don't live forever. Just a suggestion, maybe he should see a psychologist.
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Did you ever ask him why? Did you ever tell him you loved him when he was a young child? Did you ever kiss him when he was a young child? If you did not, then something is wrong with him not you.
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Did you ever ask him why? Did you ever tell him you loved him when he was a young child? Did you ever kiss him when he was a young child? If you did not, then something is wrong with him not you.
Yes I did all that. I have an idea why...thanks
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You can look at it this way, at least he is able to express himself in some manner than not at all. You have to take the good and bad with everything and be grateful for any complement.
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I wonder if he tells his wife or girlfriend he loves them in person or he only send it in a text. If it's only you, that sounds strange to me.