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hate is a feeling that is just as strong as love.
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LOL.. no alot of peopl dislike kids. like my friends she says the same thing but she has 2 of her own and she loves them dearly.
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I used to feel like that...sorta. It just seemed like they never behaved or were rude. Now not so much. Maybe I have softened but I think about how maybe they dont got somebody that cares enough to teach them manners and how to behave and what not to say and such. Or maybe they don't get enough attention at home or something like that and I end up feeling kinda sorry for them.
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I like other peoples kids, cuz they go home, haha. But I love my own.
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but love my own - is this horrible?
1. Why do you hate other people's kids?
2. I hate other people's kids esp. at movies, & eating out places. I want to enjoy a meal or a movie without noisy kids everywhere. This is why they invented the baby sitting services.
3. Possible main reason people end up in divorce. They never have any time alone since the kids were born.
4. I think we should petition for a KIDS FREE ZONEs/ESTABLISHMENTs. Wouldn't you enjoy your dinner out better without somebody else's kids screaming & fighting in the back ground? Worse the parent are doing nothing but talking on her cell phone as her brats scream *bleep* murder. This happened to me & my husband in Olive Garden. The 2 brats were fighting/screaming. Other dinners were trying to ignore the noise. I of course, happily gave the 2 women the evil eye look. Finally when they got up to leave, the fat one spits out, as they pass by our table; this is a family establishment. My husband yells out; not if you don't control your screaming brats while others are trying to enjoy their dinner in a public place.
5. I love all my nieces & nephews but whenever, they start acting up in public my brother/sister-in law take action & remove the kid out of the places. They don't just sit there & pretend there isn't a screaming brat in the room.
6. We decided against having kids a long time ago. So, please don't inflict your brats on me when I'm trying to enjoy a KIDS FREE dinner! :wave:
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I don't think it's horrible. I dislike most kids, but that's probably because I don't think a lot of parents do a good job of raising them. Some kids are such brats and just whine until they get their way. I always think that when I have kids, there are so many things I'll do differently than a lot of the parents I know. I know it's easier said than done, but a parent needs to be in control of their kids rather than the other way around.
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It is so funny that I just saw this thread and just the other day I was looking through another blog about this same thing.
I agree with you. I have three kids but I actually didn't ever want to have children. I'm not very patient and my kids probably drive me nuts a little faster than some other parents. But I LOVE my children LOVE LOVE LOVE them and I can't imagine nor want to imagine my life without them.
But when it comes to other people's kids. They seem more gross, more annoying, and less cute than my own. All my sisters have babies and I babysit constantly and I hate it. I love my nieces and nephews, it's not that I hate them I am just extremely less tolerant with them.
For example, I can change my own kids diapers, no problem. I nearly always gag and vomit when I have to change other children's poopy diapers. I can wipe my kids nose, don't even think twice about it. Wiping another kids nose....makes me gag.
As for kids that are not related at all? Forget it, I actually find some of them to be appalling. If they are good and calm and sweet, then I am okay with them. But a screaming rotten child that has no relation to me? :BangHead:
I COMPLETELY relate to you. And it's good to know I'm not the only one. I felt horrible for a long time that I felt this way. I'm just not a kid "person". Even though I have children of my own, kids are not my thang lol.
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i dont hate other peoples kids but i get rather irritated when u go out and someone has a screaming kid or one that runs around being rude and disrespectful... GEEE I read in a artical we are raising a generation of psychopaths... I spanked my kids and they turned out to be AWESOME members of our society, respectful, polite, and care deeply for others.... I say bring back the spanking !!! I live in that town where the 12 year old murdered his parents and tried to brutally kill his brother and sister... the parents was against spanking as a punishment.... Things that make u go HUMMMM
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I don't hate other people's kid's I just hate the mom or dad who don't take time out to show their kids wrong from right. I have two kid's of my own.
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Most kids today are rude and disrespectful and don't know how to behave at a restaurant. Or anywhere for that matter. When I was a kid I sat at the table and talked quietly with my family. I sat still in my chair and I ate what was in front of me with my mouth closed. If I didn't my mom would remove me from the establishment. My brothers and I were TAUGHT to behave in public. Now adays parents don't teach kids manners. And in a lot of cases when a parent tries to discipline a child in public by giving them a swat on the butt someone calls the authorities for child abuse. News flash for all you parents out there taking pictures of junior at 2 pouring spaghetti on his head, it isn't so funny when he does it at 5 in the middle of a busy restaurant.
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It must be normal. Everyone I know is like that. I do know you will get over it. At least I did. I think it because I know I don't have to be around them for to long. But some peoples kids are just brats esp when they are away from their own parents.
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Don't care for bratty kids. If they are well-behaved, I am okay with them.
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but love my own - is this horrible?
I think most people feel like that. I sometime feel that too when I see them not behave well. But other than that they are cute to me :)
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Yeah, like I've always been a crappy babysitter because the kids would behave rottenly for me - the other day my son's cousin came over and I'm pretty positive he told my son to tell me to "shut the h*** up mommy," because my 3 year old would never come up with something like that on his own. I thought of a good comeback the more I thought about it - "Darren, if you don't stop swearing Kayden needs to go home instead of spending the night" That would teach the little brat - but by the time I thought of that the moment had passed. I was proud of myself because I told his mom she needed to talk to him about it when usually I would just let the situation slide but I've realized that if I'm going to be a good Mom I need to stand up for my kids. Last time his cousin came over he made a huge mess that took me 2 hours to clean up and broke 2 of my sons toys, a race car he just got for Christmas and his playstation --- and when I told his mom she blammed it on his ADHD and said it was normal --- if that's normal behavior I don't want the kid in my house. I never offer for him to come over, she always just asks --- I feel like she just pawns him off on me.
This could be me typing this! My niece came over and pulled my son's dvd player off the t.v. My sister was actually here and she didn't do anything but tell her child "Don't do that". If my child had done that, he would have gotten a spanking! And if I had been babysitting, I would have spanked her. But I don't discipline other people's kids if their parents are there. I find that disrespectful.
Thankfully the dvd player didn't break but what if it had? My sister lives at home with our parents and has no job. She would not have been able to replace it! My son would have been out a dvd player and I would have had to buy another one! I was really upset about this whole thing.
Like I said, I love my nieces and nephews but their behavior seems much more annoying than my own kids behavior
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I love kids. I definitely can't wait to have at least one of my own.
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I have an innate love for children (related or not). But I dislike it when children are unappreciative, lack manners or just loud and rowdy.
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It's easy to dislike (but never hate) unruley children.
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i just dont like the ones who act wild and thier parents pay no mind to it ::)
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We have more than one generation of kids that have no respect or manners for anyone. Is it their fault? No! It's the parents fault. Today we have parents that are mostly kids themselves, and have no idea how to raise kids, and they are too lazy to correct them when they need it. Probably because they were not corrected when they were raised either. They were raised mostly by TV. It's a cycle that keeps repeating itself and will.............
I'm in a position where children are in my home many times. I have no problem correcting them. A child that comes into my home and "trashes" my house will get a reprimand from me if their parents do not take control. If your children hear you cus out the store clerk, strangers who pull out in front of you, someone who doesn't give you the best service, don't be surprised if they mirror you. Fathers and mothers who don't respect each other and fight and cus each other out, don't be surprised if your children learn the same.
When spanking and real discipline went out the window, so did respect and manners. Children need boundaries and actually want them. A child left to themselves is trouble waiting to happen. Many people worry about our economy and how everything is eroding. However, we are raising children who think that they are owed a living without work. No values, virtues, or ethics have been instilled into them, and then we wonder why the kids have turned out so bad.
I was strict with my son. I told him if he always told me the truth, and was sorry for what he had done, there was no punishment. However, if I caught him in a lie about anything he did, the punishment was severe. He was taught respect for those older, and especially respect for women. If he had a smart mouth, there was consequences. I spanked him when Dr. Spoc was telling everyone not to. He has grown to be a fine father and husband, respected in his career, and liked by everyone. He raises his sons the same way. I'm proud of him.
You don't have to be the perfect parents, but some things must be instilled into children to help them in their future life. If not, then we all suffer with future generations with no respect, values, or manners.
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I just don't like baby cry and kids who are so naughty and don't listen and make noise in public, IMpolite, RUde....bad!
cos FROM those kids, I can't see the future and I hate those, I even hope those People died quickly. they are the ones RUINING the world.
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no its not horrible i feel the same way
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How can you hate any kids? Kids are very special beings that can actually fill you with joy, if you appreciate who they are.
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How can you hate any kids? Kids are very special beings that can actually fill you with joy, if you appreciate who they are.
Really? When I'm at the community mailbox and some little kid (not yet 3), is riding their tricycle in the road, screaming at the top of their lungs at me "f___ y__", does not invoke fuzzy feelings. While I realize children learn what they are taught, I couldn't help but want to get away from the screaming brat as fast as possible.
Yes, some children can be a joy to be around. However, that number is substantially shrinking.
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There's usually a lot of reasons to hate. It isn't unnatural to dislike some children - sometimes there are many reasons! However, the feeling of hate is one I..well...hate! Especially for children. I can't dislike kids, they're far too innocent. Their behavior reflects what we've fed them, so how can we hate them? If anything, I'd understand if someone disliked the parents for raising them in such a manner.
I don't know if you meant to use that word though. Hate is a strong emotion...And to feel it towards a child is...Well, something that I don't see as being common. Maybe it is, though. I guess I just don't understand it.
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There's usually a lot of reasons to hate. It isn't unnatural to dislike some children - sometimes there are many reasons! However, the feeling of hate is one I..well...hate! Especially for children. I can't dislike kids, they're far too innocent. Their behavior reflects what we've fed them, so how can we hate them? If anything, I'd understand if someone disliked the parents for raising them in such a manner.
I don't know if you meant to use that word though. Hate is a strong emotion...And to feel it towards a child is...Well, something that I don't see as being common. Maybe it is, though. I guess I just don't understand it.
For me, literal hate is not really how I feel. But a strong dislike for sure. When I'm babysitting and I'm losing my last bit of sanity and I LITERALLY want to run to the nearest highway and throw myself in front of heavy traffic to end it all. Hate is how I feel at that moment. But I don't really hate them, I just hate being around them.
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Well I'm one of those parents - I had my son when I was 18 and I'm not going to lie, looking back I was not ready, but I didn't see abortion as an option, that's not something I could do and adoption - I love my son so much, I'm glad I didn't do that either. He made me grow up fast, and I've learned a lot and I'm ALWAYS trying to improve myself everyday in regards to parenting skills, as well as other areas of life. But I do agree, some young parents arn't good parents but they don't try to improve. I feel like I'm a good Mom, and I'm doing my best.
I was 17 carrying my son and had him 2 weeks after turning 18, so you are singing to the choir hon....lol I had to grow up fast too, and it wasn't easy. I became a single mom after 2 years. Being a single mom is the hardest job in the world. There are a lot of instruction manuals out there how to raise kids. However, there is no cookie cutter way for each child. Every child is different with different personalities.
Your doing just fine. Kids are pretty resilient. You are probably a better mom than you think you are. We all are the hardest on ourselves when it come to the parenting department. Making mistakes teaches us what to do/what not to do in the future. Make sure to take some time for yourself also.
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broke 2 of my sons toys, a race car he just got for Christmas and his playstation - and when I told his mom she blammed it on his ADHD and said it was normal - if that's normal behavior I don't want the kid in my house. I never offer for him to come over, she always just asks -I feel like she just pawns him off on me.
ADHD is not normal, it's a psychological, mental, neurological, metal motor skills defect. The signals that need to go to the brain to do the proper actions is not going to the right areas to achieve the tasks. These kids are usually unfocused, can't sit still more then few seconds sometimes can be very aggressive with other kids. Don't blame the kid, blame the mom. There some cases where kids develop ADHD or lack social coping skills because the parents didn't show enough attention to the child during the critical time after birth. In which they should have bonded with the parents. If she's pawning your nephew off at you at every given chance. Don't you think the kid instinctively knows that he's not wanted?
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No I do not. I just thinks sometimes why do they let their kids act that way? I would never let my kids do that.
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I don't think its horrible. I feel the same way sometimes. Well I wouldn't say hate I'll just say strongly dislike. There are certain things that other people kids do that can really tick you off. But you can't do anything about it. It also seems to me that nobody's kids act like your own so you may notice the demon kids a little better than their own parents.
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Some kids are great, some are monsters. It depends on whether or not these kids have good parents or just a sperm & egg donor!!
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Kids today have no appreciation for how hard their parents work.they continue to want want want and get mad if their parents can't get it for them.very seldom do I see appreciative kids.
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It is so funny that I just saw this thread and just the other day I was looking through another blog about this same thing.
I agree with you. I have three kids but I actually didn't ever want to have children. I'm not very patient and my kids probably drive me nuts a little faster than some other parents. But I LOVE my children LOVE LOVE LOVE them and I can't imagine nor want to imagine my life without them.
But when it comes to other people's kids. They seem more gross, more annoying, and less cute than my own. All my sisters have babies and I babysit constantly and I hate it. I love my nieces and nephews, it's not that I hate them I am just extremely less tolerant with them.
For example, I can change my own kids diapers, no problem. I nearly always gag and vomit when I have to change other children's poopy diapers. I can wipe my kids nose, don't even think twice about it. Wiping another kids nose....makes me gag.
As for kids that are not related at all? Forget it, I actually find some of them to be appalling. If they are good and calm and sweet, then I am okay with them. But a screaming rotten child that has no relation to me? :BangHead:
I COMPLETELY relate to you. And it's good to know I'm not the only one. I felt horrible for a long time that I felt this way. I'm just not a kid "person". Even though I have children of my own, kids are not my thang lol.
other than the part about neices and nephews(i don't have any) this entire post could have been written by me. :) i have absolutely no patience for other people's kids. actually left half a cart of groceries at albertsons just yesterday and drove across the street to vons just because there was this one woman with 3 screaming kids looked to be all under the age of 4 and instead of dealing with their annoynig little butts she was busy yelling into a cell phone. after about 5 mintues of what seemed like her following me down every aisle i just walked away from my cart and went to another store.
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It is so funny that I just saw this thread and just the other day I was looking through another blog about this same thing.
I agree with you. I have three kids but I actually didn't ever want to have children. I'm not very patient and my kids probably drive me nuts a little faster than some other parents. But I LOVE my children LOVE LOVE LOVE them and I can't imagine nor want to imagine my life without them.
But when it comes to other people's kids. They seem more gross, more annoying, and less cute than my own. All my sisters have babies and I babysit constantly and I hate it. I love my nieces and nephews, it's not that I hate them I am just extremely less tolerant with them.
For example, I can change my own kids diapers, no problem. I nearly always gag and vomit when I have to change other children's poopy diapers. I can wipe my kids nose, don't even think twice about it. Wiping another kids nose....makes me gag.
As for kids that are not related at all? Forget it, I actually find some of them to be appalling. If they are good and calm and sweet, then I am okay with them. But a screaming rotten child that has no relation to me? :BangHead:
I COMPLETELY relate to you. And it's good to know I'm not the only one. I felt horrible for a long time that I felt this way. I'm just not a kid "person". Even though I have children of my own, kids are not my thang lol.
other than the part about neices and nephews(i don't have any) this entire post could have been written by me. :) i have absolutely no patience for other people's kids. actually left half a cart of groceries at albertsons just yesterday and drove across the street to vons just because there was this one woman with 3 screaming kids looked to be all under the age of 4 and instead of dealing with their annoynig little butts she was busy yelling into a cell phone. after about 5 mintues of what seemed like her following me down every aisle i just walked away from my cart and went to another store.
You have probably voiced everybody's pet peeve right here......lol
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I do sometime even my on at times but deep down I really don;t I just have my bad days
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Uhm, it could be.
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i totally agree with you i have problems with other peoples kids
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OMG ... LOL ! all children are God's children...so we should love all the children :) :binkybaby:
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i like all kids they all have some good points and bad so just take them as they are.
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but love my own - is this horrible?
no not horrible, i don't much care for other people's kids either, unless i know them really well.
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Hilarious. I actually feel the same way. Maybe because I feel that most other kids are totally obnoxious :D