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Title: Dealing with abuse
Post by: dwickizer on October 03, 2011, 07:30:58 pm
Dealing with mental and physical abuse myself I thought I would post a few tips for others that might be dealing with issues.
The first thing is to take a deep breath and find support, don't keep everything "bottled up" inside, talk to family friends or even a crisis line in your area, there is help available to get out of the bad situation, if the abusive person apologizes and says it will never happen again, well; from my experience do not believe that because it will happen again and each time it only gets worse.
There are several different ways of being abused, mentally, physically,and monetary these are just a few, I have learned the "hard way" and I finally come to my senses and called for help it's not worth risking your life for to deal with abuse of any form!
Title: Re: Dealing with abuse
Post by: noirlupe on October 04, 2011, 07:48:19 am
If you let abuse go to long or too far you end up like me with a ruptured disc I will suffer with the rest of my life and he feels nothing.  I have damage to my memory because of the massive concussion, I cant remember things from my past, I struggle with learning new things.  Yet he will never suffer for any of this because he was not damaged.  I pray everyone gets out before its to late, it is so not worth it.  Love should never cause you pain in any form.  If is physical, verbal or sexual you should escape because it is so not worth the pain you will live with, the fear, the not being able to really trust or what you pass on to your children because even if you are so sure they didnt see they did, if you are sure they didnt hear they did.  Get out of any abusive relationship.
Title: Re: Dealing with abuse
Post by: gadi50 on October 04, 2011, 02:34:54 pm
There are several different ways of being abused, mentally, physically,and monetary these are just a few, I have learned the "hard way" and I finally come to my senses and called for help it's not worth risking your life for to deal with abuse of any form! and i had all of them but i have yet even close to suicide i love life too much and it was free.
Title: Re: Dealing with abuse
Post by: freepcmoney on October 11, 2011, 09:41:13 pm
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Title: Re: Dealing with abuse
Post by: missbuckwild on November 24, 2011, 06:13:23 am
I was abused mentally and physically by my ex husband and so glad I finally woke up and realized I didn't deserve this to happen to me.  Noone deserves to be abused!!  Now he's with someone else that lets him beat up on her in front of her kids!!  Very sad situation!!!
Title: Re: Dealing with abuse
Post by: hustle_like_a_lady on November 25, 2011, 09:49:07 am
Abuse is more than just a tough situation. If any of you are like me, you have a 'denial period'. I went through an abusive relationship where the man raped me daily, and would toss me around. Plus he became extremely jealous if I talked to anyone else. My life consisted of being around him 24/7.
My second abusive relationship has been during my pregnancy. Mistakingly, I was very dependent on him and tried living through lies and anger. All our issues were caused by him, and when I tried getting after him for it, he tried any attempt to make it be me that was wrong. That' or he'd state low blow remarks. I can't believe I stayed with him so long. . . Especially after the time he flipped me over the couch, broke it, choking me telling me he would kill me. . . Luckily I never lost my child, and am due soon.

It was my major mistake to keep rose-tinted glasses on, and I feel selfish for trying to stick it out - Even though I know it was in desperation that things would turn out for the better.

My advice is when you Think it's Wrong. . . It is. Show yourself the truth of the matter, and get out while you still can. (Waiting until last minute like I did could risk your life.)