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Discussion Boards => Off-Topic => Topic started by: lgemini on December 26, 2011, 03:21:17 am
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I was mad at my sister about not respecting me at my mother's birthday party. Now looking back on it, she was mad at something else, but she turn her hate to me. I wanted to yell at her, but I could not. I got mad at her and did not want to talk to her or look at her for four weeks. Then I thought to myself what if my sister dies, how would I feel about letting hate come in my heart. That is when it hit me. I see why people who do not let hate stay with them. Once I forgave my sister and forgot the hate, I felt so much better. The more you stay mad at someone, the longer you keep yourself sick with hate and you are not able to grow or to move on. If I learn anything this year from Oprah's life classes, it is to release the stress in your life. I hope everyone have a Wonderful New Year! I know I will!
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i agree it is important with anger not to let it eat you up inside.
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Congratulations, you are FREE ! I know some people can stay mad forever. Thank God that you opened your eyes on time. My brother in law is mad at one of my other brother in law. That is sooo sad. If my mother in law was alive, she would of placed them in place. I just wish they forgive before it is too late. I don't want them with guilt while they face a grave.
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That is a very good question. I had a friend(notice had) years ago that would get mad at me for every little thing. When she was mad
it would last for about a month each time. She would tell everyone we knew about it. It got really old. So when I moved away from the area we lived I cut all ties with her. What a relief that was. I get over things pretty quick for the most part, usually within a day or less.
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Unfortunately,it's always easier to hate than to forgive.
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sometimes, it's hard not to hold a grudge!
luckily there have only been one or two people who
have done something so unforgivable that they bought
themselves a one way ticket out of my life. i'm better
off without them.
good for you that you and your sister reconciled :)
i'm sure she is irreplaceable and is relieved to have you
back too.
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According to "The Secret", if you are hating someone, you will only attract more reasons to "hate" into your life. Wouldn't it be better to spend that emotional energy on finding all the things in your life that you are "grateful" for?
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LOL oprah.
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This is a good topic. I can't and won't stay mad at anyone. It just made me feel miserable when I did and I didn't like that. I don't have the time or energy to stay mad at a person cause it takes away from me. My sons can stay mad at someone forever and I wish they would get over it. Like you said, what if they died.
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Ego. People have a need to be right.
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I found in most cases the only one who is mostly impacted by being mad is yourself - harboring those negative emotions. Typically the subject you are mad at really doesn't care. So why waste the energy. If you forgive them of the incident, you release that negative emotion from yourself, which is healthier for you.
Now forgiving doesn't necessarily mean you won't learn and change your behavior around that individual. For example, if you were mad because they took something or broke something, it would be wise to watch your stuff next time they are around or take steps to minimize the chance they could do something that would make you mad again.
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My grandmother always said don't go to bed angry. I try not to stay mad or hate anyone. I decided I don't hate anyone but I hate the action or they way they are not the person. Everyone makes mistakes and we are all guilty of that so I think I feel better but that doesn't mean my feelings doesn't get hurt because they do and I just cry and let it all out and try to forget it.
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I think some people are just stubborn and would rather stay angry than forgive and let it go. I have a friend like that. We're cool, but I know there are people she has been angry with since hi school.
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My mom was angry with me just a couple months ago. She refused to talk to me. Then she got sick and had to go to the hospital. My brother told me he would tell my mom that I was worried about her. She called me a couple of days later. I don't know why people stay mad. It's a very sad way to live. :(
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I don't know. My sister stop talking to me 7 months ago, All because I was in the hospital and she made it a joke to others. So I told her it was no laughing matter when you are twisting in pain and crying when the doctor don't kow whats wrong. Still dont know whats wrong but I am dealing with the pain these days. I am not mad at my sister even tho all this happen. She was in the hospital for a whole week and I spent the days with her while I work at night (12 hr shift). I pray that one day she realize what she did. until than I m here. thanks for letting me vent.
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because some people can be so hard headed. or they always think that they were in the right. or maybe they want to wait untill the other person says something first
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Pride
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I think the reason people stay mad because they don't know how to for give. The reason I say that because they need to have a new heart, a heart of flesh and not of stone....... People always bring things up that has happen in the past but Just "think GOD" he is not like man. When we ask for forgiveness from GOD it is a done deal. Pray for people that hurt you and ask God to give them a forgiving heart, and a heart loving heart.
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Staying mad with someone sometime's doesn't solve an issue! Of course other's just don't know when to let an arguement go. :(
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i get really pissed off at the moment then forget it like an hour later
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My sister stay mad a long time, the last time she was mad forever. I just wave as she passes and she turns her head.
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Yea mom tends to get mad over nothing and she can stay that way for years. She is mad at me because I left the state a year ago and wont go back to live.
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Its hard because i never used to get mad but lately i have changed i just feel in all my relationships i am doing all the work and relationships are very hard and i feel like i was getting taken advantage of it is just really hard i think i just have to let go and understand i do not have to be the one putting so much energy into relationships it has to be a two way thing i am the only one calling and trying to see them, sometimes i feel like i should just stop until they make a move i just feel extremely lonely and alone
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I know someone that's been mad at me my entire life. I can't "win" with them, I can never do anything to please them. I can't say the "right" thing or can't act like they think I should act. This person is always criticizing others and harshly judging them. A few days ago I got "fed up" when they started insulting me again over an issue that's been brought up repeatedly in the past and I let then know that people really shouldn't criticize others when they have a bigger issue of their own to take care of. (Sort of like the lady that criticized her neighbor's dirty laundry on the outside line and then discovered the reason the laundry looked so bad was because she needed to take care of washing her own dirty windows!!) ;D
This person is FUMING mad at me now and I just think it's funny. (It's a sad way to live one's life but it isn't my fault they don't know how to live!)
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SOMETIME ITS BECAUSE OF LACK OF UNDERSTANDING AND SOMETIMES ITS BECAUSE THE OTHER PERSON IS SO BULLHEADED TO LET THINGS GO.
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All the answers are correct....it takes two to make it takes two to break it...if one responds and the other doesn't then you're nowhere
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Just change the direction in your life and stop thinking about it.....Hopefully it will helpt o forget and forgive....
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its human nature, some forgive and forget but many don't
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Well one reason for me would be that you forgive but you never forget. I get in arguments with my boyfriend aka babby dad and i stay angry and mad at him all the time inside even though i'm talking to him and still making his dinner washing his clothes and all the other things i do , I forgive him on the outside but on the inside i'm still angry or mad at him for something but you know it's not nothing petty it's big stuff that he knows he does and i still forgive him but like i said really on the inside i am mad at him! And i want to go and sleep in a diffrent room or welll you know! you get my point right? :BangHead:
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When someone does something so horrible that you do get mad at them, you have to look at the situation in it's entirety and decide certain things. For instance, my husbands nephew, at the age of 45 hooked up with a younger woman who had a 3 yr old. To make a long story short, he began beating the child, got caught, charged and convicted of felony child abuse. The sick thing is that the childs mother had no desire to protect her own child. In fact she was only concerned that the situation would mess up "the relationship. Because of that, she never got the child back, and he went to live with his father. To this day neither has owned up to doing anything wrong, blaming the State of Florida for "overreacting" to the situation. Certain things cannot be forgiven, and this is one. Am I still mad? YES! But not in a way that impacts my life in any negative way. I've just written them off completely they are dead to me.
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Well that depends on why the person is mad. If it's a minor thing I say suck it up and get over it. If however it was a major thing and especially if the person hasn't apologized still being mad at them.
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I wish I knew the answer. My daughter has been mad at me now for almost 4 months, and it's for something SHE did :dontknow: some people just dont know how to let go!
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I understand what you said and if it was something trivial I say try to forgive and move on. I have had experiences like that I guess we all have. There are sometimes when a situation calls for a measure of anger. I will not allow anyone to flagrantly step on my dignity if they do they bring about the complete and immediate dissolution of our relationship. In time the anger will subside but once the relationship is severed it's over. There are people who will attack you because they want to destroy your self esteem, your very being if they can. You must not associate with that element. You must preserve your inner peace. Think about it.
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I do not know or understand.We have a similar situation.My daughter got mad at me and her father at Christmas and told my other daughter that if she never had to see any of us again so be it.And if it meant she would never see her 2 nieces she was fine with that too.Because to see them she would have to see us or her sister.And her nieces were the only reason she came around anyway.We do not understand and have tried to talk to her,but she answers no phone,text,emails or the door.She did her boyfriend the same way.She says we are all horrible people.Don't know why though.She won't explain it to us.She had no bad childhood,she was a good child growing up.She started dating some girl about 10 yrs ago and we think it has something to do with her.The other girl wants nothing to do with family.We don't agree with the same sex thing,but we were not gonna turn our daughter away because of it,so it's not that.We have no idea what is wrong with her.I am glad your situation cleared up for you.I wish ours would.