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Have you ever gotten to a point where you are confused and dissapointed about everything in your life. I mean your marriage, friends, home, etc. If you have what did you do about it? Did you make it better or fix it? How long does this go on or is it a faze? Some insite from others would be appreciated! :crybaby2:
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All you can do is push through it, I think everyone goes through this phase and it will pass (I hope)
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Get out somewhere and excersise! While you are getting your blood flowing and getting/staying in shape it helps relieve a lot of stress. I take Tai Chi and Martial Arts which clears the mind and gets me out. It also exposes me to a variety of people that can bring a different perspective on things and also opportunities that can lead to solutions or something new. I find that when I get confused and dissappointed it is usually when I have way too much on my plate and it's time to step back and re-evaluate my priorities. Take some time out for only you, whether it's daily, weekly or monthly, to do something that makes you feel good. It can be a simple routine like a weekly manicure/pedicure or a daily cup of coffee outside to watch the sun rise. Pick something that will give you that attitude change you need to move forward. Good Luck!
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Just put yourself in Gods hands, and pray you will find your answer with him and the solution to all your problems. You will find not only solution but peace as well. He always listen and doesn't leave a prayer unanswered. Good luck and God bless you, let him be the guide for you.
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Absolutely. I have been at the lowest low. I don't know how severe it is for you, but someone told me many years ago and I've never forgotten it: "We won't know the difference a million years from now," and I will go outside and look at the universe and seem so minute. Hang in there, kiddo!
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Just put yourself in Gods hands ...
Presuming such a 'being' exists, of course. Otherwise, there wouldn't be any such "hands".
... and pray you will find your answer with him and the solution to all your problems.
More presumptions; one of which would be the assumption that 'prayer' is effective, (and there's no verifiably-attributible evidence to support such an assumption/presumption). The other derives from the first in that there's no evidence to support the claim that 'prayer' provides "the solution to all your problems." That would constitute 'wishful-thinking', (and unfulfilled wishing at that).
You will find not only solution but peace as well.
How does wishful-thinking and blind faith provide "peace"?
He always listen and doesn't leave a prayer unanswered.
Unless no one is there to "listen" or, answer. If that is the case, time would be better spent seeking viable solutions.
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It happens sometimes more than once in life. You can push throught, but for me personally - it helps to try and fix things. Like if its with your family - they don't appreciate you or whatever: speak up, let your feelings be known and put your focus on those relationships. If its your life in general, make a list of what you normally do and change it. Change uo your schedule and always put a little "me" time in there. And find a hobby - coloring, reading, writing, video games, mind numbing TV, whatever.
I know how you feel and trust me - it gets better. :heart:
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Things can and will get better. Keep your head up. Try getting out couple of times a week even if it was for few minutes. walk, talk to others, even strangers. Try and join some kind of club, help others by donating some of your time. Do some praying but never ever give up on life.
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I have been there too, Just remember God only give you what you can handle, and if you have kids look in there faces and tell them you love them and give them a hug, it helps a little bit, and talk to someone, also try taking a walk or even a shower a long one, you can and will get bye, Just take one breath at a time, and one day at a time, its importent to remember there is someone out there who Loves you,, :angel11:
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I really appreciate all your replys. They were all good ideas (except Falcon as usual) and I will try them. I am truely thankful! :heart:
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I've been there many times and it helps me to talk to friends who are not involved with the situation or just take time for myself to figure things out
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i feel that way alot. lately its been alot of what ifs. but havent done nothing about it. just keep going in the same direction. trying to find something that makes me happy.
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I really appreciate all your replys. They were all good ideas (except Falcon as usual)
A suggestion to seek viable solutions is not a good idea? That's quite the irrational contortion, (as usual).
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You will find not only solution but peace as well.
How does wishful-thinking and blind faith provide "peace"?
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When one believes in a higher being that is listening, one would be at peace when sharing what is in the heart. Much like a patient talking to a psychologist, it feeeelllllls good to unburden oneself. Blind faith is powerful as well as wishful-thinking because it is your attitude that changes and when your attidude changes you can move forward or deal with things. I, too, am not one the praying list but I find some of your "religion bashing" just that, bashing, not an intelligent debate. I must admit, though, sometimes you come up with good points. In my humble opinion, I think the tone of your postings comes across as very hostile and offensive to many readers rather than a discussion/debate. Chill out a bit.
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How does wishful-thinking and blind faith provide "peace"?
When one believes in a higher being that is listening, one would be at peace when sharing what is in the heart. Much like a patient talking to a psychologist, it feeeelllllls good to unburden oneself. Blind faith is powerful as well as wishful-thinking because it is your attitude that changes and when your attidude changes you can move forward or deal with things.
The psychological comfort aspect is understood, (at least intellectually). What I meant was, how wishful-thinking provide a solution to the problem wished for?
I, too, am not one the praying list but I find some of your "religion bashing" just that, bashing, not an intelligent debate.
Since I haven't specifically 'bashed' religion, (unless questioning the basis for such 'beliefs' is somehow considered to be "bashing"), and have initiated debate upon those premises, I find that your characterization doesn't reflect the actual content of posts made. Do you have a specific example of "religion bashing" which is not a perceptual interpretation?
I must admit, though, sometimes you come up with good points. In my humble opinion, I think the tone of your postings comes across as very hostile and offensive to many readers rather than a discussion/debate. Chill out a bit.
"Tone" is an elusive aspect of the written word. Depending upon any given context, it is quite possible that even "hi there!" can come across as "hostile and offensive" through biased eyes. Some people are apt to perceive any challenge to their unsupported opinions as being "hostile and offensive", (even when there was no such intent). Others will read the _same exact challenge_ and perceive that without the added emotional undertones. Eye of the beholder and all that, nyet?
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Since I haven't specifically 'bashed' religion, (unless questioning the basis for such 'beliefs' is somehow considered to be "bashing"), and have initiated debate upon those premises, I find that your characterization doesn't reflect the actual content of posts made. Do you have a specific example of "religion bashing" which is not a perceptual interpretation?
The original intention of the postings here are to provide comfort and suggestions for a person in need. Your comments are initiating a debate that is not helpful to her or appropriate here. If you want to debate prayer or religion, then start another discussion. My characterization of your religion bashing did not come from just your postings here but the noticing of many posts you have made. All interpretation is perceptual!
"Tone" is an elusive aspect of the written word. Depending upon any given context, it is quite possible that even "hi there!" can come across as "hostile and offensive" through biased eyes. Some people are apt to perceive any challenge to their unsupported opinions as being "hostile and offensive", (even when there was no such intent). Others will read the _same exact challenge_ and perceive that without the added emotional undertones. Eye of the beholder and all that, nyet?
Da, biased eyes, you're not guilty of that are you? Are we not all biased until something changes our mind? "Aspect" is the way something may be regarded which is the definition of "tone"; the style/manner of the writing. No emotional undertones here, simply a perceptional interpretation.
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dmahoney ~ I'm still in the bottom of the pit. Since my husband passed away March 2, 2009 it was like I too died. What's getting me through, is good memories & 2 spoiled brat cats that he adored. Thinking back growing up, when I'm in a really downer situation, I stop push the negative thoughts away & think of another time where I was in distress but was able to live through it. And use that feedback to survive this new darkness.
Also, give falcon9 a chance, he's just trying to make you think for yourself. Whether or not you believe in a higher power, its you that will face the situation head on. Good Luck! :thumbsup: :wave:
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I still appreciate all replys. As for falcon, I am on here in a down mood, as you can tell by my post and looking for inspiratation and help. He comes on here and is negative as usual. I have seen his posts many times and I can not think of a post he has made that has been upbeat or kind to anyone. I wish him well, but if he can not be kind to someone in my situation, he should just not post anything at all and leave us alone.
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try meditating. just find a quiet place, settle down..try to empty your mind and relax. then just let the thoughts of what you should be doing come to you in their own time
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prayer is miraculous, look at the mandelbot form created by speaking into sand it is incredible what the sound does beautiful patterns that an artist could not duplicate, so Pray because god hears all of your prayers.
hipriesess4u
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I still appreciate all replys. As for falcon, I am on here in a down mood, as you can tell by my post and looking for inspiratation and help. He comes on here and is negative as usual.
The solution is simple; use the "ignore" button.
I have seen his posts many times and I can not think of a post he has made that has been upbeat or kind to anyone.
There have been dozens of such posts; you are apparently focussed upon only those which you perceive as "negative". This reveals a biased slant to your perceptions and may indicate a more general pattern which affects your attitude, (this is an extrapolated speculation; that you are seeing only 'what's going badly and not what's going well'). Consider this or not, that's your choice.
I wish him well, but if he can not be kind to someone in my situation, he should just not post anything at all and leave us alone.
I'm not aware of the specifics of your situation however, I am aware of several external attempts to modify what I post and where I post it, (even and especially when such posts do not violate FC's TOS or posting guidelines). As to well-wishing, your somewhat contradictory comment tends to indicate that all you sought was further well-wishing not "help". That's your choice; please endeavor not to infringe upon mine.
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prayer is miraculous, look at the mandelbot form created by speaking into sand it is incredible what the sound does beautiful patterns that an artist could not duplicate, so Pray because god hears all of your prayers.
hipriesess4u
Such patterns do not constitute evidence of "god" nor, that "prayers" have anything to do with those patterns. These are speculated attributions, not "proof" since the example presented cannot be accurately correlated with the conclusion, (that constitutes circular 'reasoning'; as when the proposition to be proved is assumed implicitly or explicitly in one of the premises).
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Oh my, Falcon 9 ignored my post! ;D
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Oh my, Falcon 9 ignored my post! ;D
Patience. Despite many common misperceptions, I don't necessarily reply to every post, (same as anyone else).
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My characterization of your religion bashing did not come from just your postings here but the noticing of many posts you have made. All interpretation is perceptual!
True, I sit corrected and should not have omitted the modifier, 'accurate', preceding "perceptual interpretation". All interpretations are perceptual however, not all such interpretations, (or perceptions), are an accurate apprehension.
"Tone" is an elusive aspect of the written word. Depending upon any given context, it is quite possible that even "hi there!" can come across as "hostile and offensive" through biased eyes. Some people are apt to perceive any challenge to their unsupported opinions as being "hostile and offensive", (even when there was no such intent). Others will read the _same exact challenge_ and perceive that without the added emotional undertones. Eye of the beholder and all that, nyet?
Da, biased eyes, you're not guilty of that are you? Are we not all biased until something changes our mind?
Where bias conveys implicit preconceptions, I endeavor to identify and eliminate any such that I may hold, (although I will admit to certain prejudice against willful stupidity). Instead, I am apparently bucking the general trend and basing conclusions on the best available evidence, (at worst, educated guesses rather than superficially-biased empty opinion).
"Aspect" is the way something may be regarded which is the definition of "tone"; the style/manner of the writing. No emotional undertones here, simply a perceptional interpretation.
You mentioned 'religion bashing' specifically; does this not inherently contain certain "emotional undertones", (not to mention an implicit bias attached to the word "bashing" as a speculative perception)?
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I don't know what your beliefs are, but I agree with others in that you could ask God for answers. I've been there before, so I know what you're going through, and I'm happy to say that I came out on the other side. My attitude has changed and I'm so full of hope. As long as you have hope, you have reason to keep pushing. Don't give up! :)
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I think everyone goes through this at some point in their life. I know I have. And I'm only 26! The best thing to do is talk with someone about it. Whether that person is a psychiatrist, a parent, a sibling, or a friend. Sometimes you can't express yourself by talking. I know because I couldn't. Instead, what I did was I wrote down everything I felt on paper. It was just easier for me to write it out on paper than try to say it when talking. You will get through it, trust me. If I could, anyone can. And just remember that this is YOUR life, no one else's. You can shape it to be whatever you want it to be. Sometimes that involves making hard decisions, but you gotta worry about yourself for now, and do what you can to make it so that you don't feel this way.
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I think everyone goes through this at some point in their life. I know I have. And I'm only 26! The best thing to do is talk with someone about it. Whether that person is a psychiatrist, a parent, a sibling, or a friend. Sometimes you can't express yourself by talking. I know because I couldn't. Instead, what I did was I wrote down everything I felt on paper. It was just easier for me to write it out on paper than try to say it when talking. You will get through it, trust me. If I could, anyone can. And just remember that this is YOUR life, no one else's. You can shape it to be whatever you want it to be. Sometimes that involves making hard decisions, but you gotta worry about yourself for now, and do what you can to make it so that you don't feel this way.
This is good, pragmatic advice.
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I know how you feel. I've been dazed and confused for so long it's not true... oh wait, I think that's part of a Led Zep song. But I have seriously felt depressed on several occasions. Sometimes the best cure is as simple as just talking to someone. However, looking inward can do the trick as well. Try some quiet meditation or prayer. Good luck!
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Have you ever gotten to a point where you are confused and dissapointed about everything in your life. I mean your marriage, friends, home, etc. If you have what did you do about it? Did you make it better or fix it? How long does this go on or is it a faze? Some insite from others would be appreciated! :crybaby2:
hope you work through it sounds like marraige issues
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Just want to thank you all again. :sad1:
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Confused about how I was going to leave my family better off, disappointed with how inadequately I had prepared for disaster in my life, and somewhat disgusted that I took my needs out of the equation. I have worked hard all of my life and I have transferred the glee that would normally come form a good paycheck or a solid bonus for being ecstatic about the accomplishements of others. I watch how my family has taken advantage of this and walks all over me in pursuit of gratifying their needs while I continue to work my rear end off. Books and internet seem to be my only outlet, for myself, and my family gets down on me for that too!
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Amen, Tresbn00. I, too, have been used (and abused) by some family members. Thankfully, I have good friends and close family who have jumped in to support me while I suffer through this. My thanks, too, to all the members who posted positive responses! I thank God I found FusionCash. not so much for the $$ but for the sense of community!
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Try doing something new with someone you love, it just may help you to reconnect and remind you of why you fell in love with that person to begin with.
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This too shall pass…
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I feel for the both of you (kjstrukel and Tresbn00) I somewhat understand, only I am medically unable to work, so I am home alone all day and have few friends anymore. All my friends still work and my husband seems to be mad at the fact that I can not work, So here I am. Hopefully things will get better for us all. :angel11:
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Wherever you go, there you are. Attitude change. It depends on how you view things in life. Change your friends or change your job. Either way...there you are. I check yourself before I started trying to fix things.
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I think everyone has been there at some point. All you can do is deal with it. That means either learn to accept it or learn to change it. I was feeling that way a few months ago. Just unhappy with the home situation and lack of money. I decided to go back to school. I'm now taking college courses at the community college to work towards a degree in business.
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Yep! In order to function, I had to set very basic goals I wanted to accomplish every day. I had 4 areas to accomplish, in whatever way I wanted for the day, no matter how big or how small I did some thing:
1.) for my finances - it could be as simple as making $1 on FC, posting a personal item to sell, etc
2.) for my house- on a good day, I would clean out a drawer or clean the freezer, on a not so good day, it could be washing all the dishes
3.) for my child- I wanted to make a conscious effort to spend time doing something fun with my toddler. At a time when life is hard, I always want him to know there is room for happiness and smiles
4.) for myself- it could be anything from a 10 minute nap, watching a show I wanted to, reading a book, exercising, painting my nails... whatever!
These items were small enough, but I could make them big enough to accomplish more if I felt up to it. I never out any pressure on myself to do more than these 4 things until I felt a little better. I hope it helps and you feel better soon! Life is hard, but every day, there was a best part of the day! (My son and I say our favorite part of the day every night at prayers. It is unbelievable that there is always something that was a favorite, even if it was that it is over until tomorrow!)
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Please pray and keep trustng in the Lord.
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Please pray and keep trustng in the Lord.
Conversely, engaging in more viable options, (as some other posters have suggested), would be more useful.
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I feel that way most days. I am always regretting what I didn't get accomplished. When I do have the opportunity to do some of these things, I don't feel well or I'm tired, or I doubt I can do what I wanted. I look at others and see how far they have gotten in their lives and I look at mine and just get depressed. Some days I don't want to get out of bed. Sorry, I should probably say something helpful, but just know that you are not alone. I guess what you can try to do is set aside some time to treat yourself. If that doesn't work, go out of your way to do something for someone else. That usually helps me feel a little better, because then you know that because of what you did, someone else could benefit. Always surround yourself with positive people, too. Not fake ones, but people you know actually care about you. At least you have that assurance that they will do and say what is best for you. Concentrate on those things, and you should get through it.