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Title: im oh so jealous
Post by: Azanne07 on March 03, 2012, 12:02:01 pm
just found out today that my friend is going out with my ex. I have never gotten over my ex and it kinda hurts. he tried to get ahold of me before i left for college and if he woulda i would have gone and been with him.  :'(
Title: Re: im oh so jealous
Post by: Azanne07 on March 03, 2012, 01:11:01 pm
I should add that I have 2 children that I love with all my heart and I am to be wed in June. but if i could go back to the summer of 2006. i would have made a better effort to communicate with him besides email
Title: Re: im oh so jealous
Post by: jwallbank on March 03, 2012, 01:25:18 pm
Does not sound like a good way to start a marriage!! If you can't get over your ex. It sounds like you made a good choice to go to college, I hope you finished!! Go on with your life and forget about the ex. It sounds like your are starting a new life and be grateful!!
Title: Re: im oh so jealous
Post by: Azanne07 on March 03, 2012, 01:38:35 pm
i failed outta the first college but managed to get my bachelors degree with a 3.47 gpa

Althou i have to wonder if this my version of cold feet. I have been having the most off the wall dreams about being with other people.

I will admitt I think alot of this come from when i found out he was trying to cheat on me about 18 months ago. i havent had any problems since then
Title: Re: im oh so jealous
Post by: Storm61115 on March 03, 2012, 05:17:51 pm
i had dreams about being or potentially getting to the point where my ex is going to ask me out again. we never date in the dreams but he's always about to ask me. i think about him every now and then coz we are still friends. i read an old journal of mine yesterday from when i was dating him and he was a total mess. he would *bleep* me off all the time and never really showed he cared enough so i moved on coz he never answered my questions. i found someone a hell of a lot better then him and i plan to keep him.
Title: Re: im oh so jealous
Post by: tantricia44 on March 04, 2012, 12:29:55 pm
Azanne07 ~ You need to re evaluate you're priorities first. If my friend started dating my ex behind my back, I would drop her like a virus! There's a code where doing something like that to your friend is unforgivable! If you're feeling jealous b/c your friend shacked up w/your ex; you need to rethink about not getting married to someone else. If you can't get the jerk ex out of you mind & heart, you don't need to hurt a man that is willing walk down the alter with you! Why would you want someone that cheated on you & then shacked up with your *bleep* girlfriend?!! What makes you think that he'd go back with you; he's got your *bleep* girlfriend to bang?!! So, marry your fiance, & move on & create a new future. Or go back to where you started with an unfaithful boyfriend that's balling your girlfriend. It's your life make a CHOICE!
Title: Re: im oh so jealous
Post by: duroz on March 04, 2012, 12:58:47 pm
Azanne07 ~ You need to re evaluate you're priorities first. If my friend started dating my ex behind my back, I would drop her like a virus! There's a code where doing something like that to your friend is unforgivable! If you're feeling jealous b/c your friend shacked up w/your ex; you need to rethink about not getting married to someone else. If you can't get the jerk ex out of you mind & heart, you don't need to hurt a man that is willing walk down the alter with you! Why would you want someone that cheated on you & then shacked up with your *bleep* girlfriend?!! What makes you think that he'd go back with you; he's got your *bleep* girlfriend to bang?!! So, marry your fiance, & move on & create a new future. Or go back to where you started with an unfaithful boyfriend that's balling your girlfriend. It's your life make a CHOICE!

@ tantricia44, you should stop beating around the bush;  Don't hold back.....just SAY what you really think!! ;D

(Hope you know I'm just busting your chops a little here....I think that you hit the nail directly on the head, and put it into words very well!)
 :thumbsup:  :peace:   8) 
Title: Re: im oh so jealous
Post by: natashaspy on March 04, 2012, 01:55:42 pm
if you left him for college to start with, maybe you're forgetting that there was a REASON that you went?
Title: Re: im oh so jealous
Post by: cloudsoup on March 04, 2012, 04:03:41 pm
everything works itself out, and there's a reason you two
didn't. it's kinda shady that your "friend" is now dating him.
like someone else said... that's kinda in the book of friendship
ethics code! unless she was just an acquaintance.

i have an old flame that the stars almost aligned with once.
a date (that i had held my breath years for!) which never
happened... and it was me who canceled it, because someone
else walked into my life.

i expected to be crushed when i noticed the old flame's wedding
photos on facebook not too long ago, but i was almost relieved
that i didn't have to wonder "what if" anymore.

 :heart:
Title: Re: im oh so jealous
Post by: lbryanwf on March 04, 2012, 04:29:33 pm
I think we all lament about what might have been to a certain extent. We tend to glorify past situations that may not be worthy of glorification.  But sometimes that can keep us from moving foward. Think about all the reasons you became exes, even if  you beleive it was your fault, and I think you might find you might never have been happy staying there. Understand that fate usually knows what it's doing. Be happy for what have today, and point your eyes forward, never backward. Good luck to you! :wave:
Title: Re: im oh so jealous
Post by: quietpal on March 04, 2012, 07:11:38 pm
You need to make sure you are completely over the last relationship before you get married. Make sure you are totally honest with your fiance. I agree with others that this is not a good way to start off a marriage. I would question your "friend's" friendship.
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Title: Re: im oh so jealous
Post by: Barbaralynne on March 04, 2012, 07:21:18 pm
Think Positive- He is your ex for a reason.Every thing always looks better from afar. Good luck on your marriage.
Title: Re: im oh so jealous
Post by: queenofnines on March 05, 2012, 10:33:30 am
She doesn't sound like a real friend if she'd date your ex without a second thought to your feelings.  But it does depend on how close the two of you are.
Title: Re: im oh so jealous
Post by: dymondzncurlz810 on March 05, 2012, 10:44:25 am
Does not sound like a good way to start a marriage!! If you can't get over your ex. It sounds like you made a good choice to go to college, I hope you finished!! Go on with your life and forget about the ex. It sounds like your are starting a new life and be grateful!!

Never could have been said better! Forget about your ex. Obviously they are your ex for a reason!
Title: Re: im oh so jealous
Post by: luelue on March 07, 2012, 01:12:13 pm
I am doing pretty good with the surveys, but it takes time.
Title: Re: im oh so jealous
Post by: workmama on March 07, 2012, 02:10:32 pm
Does not sound like a good way to start a marriage!! If you can't get over your ex. It sounds like you made a good choice to go to college, I hope you finished!! Go on with your life and forget about the ex. It sounds like your are starting a new life and be grateful!!

I agree here. If you still think of your ex and have feelings of jealously, sounds to me that you still have feelings for him. What about your future husband? It is not fair to him if you feel this way. I would hold off the wedding until I felt like I was content within myself. It still isn't late, if you love your ex, seek him out and tell him  how you feel. If not, move on!  Remember to always follow your heart, not go the way to make everyone else happy.  ;)
Title: Re: im oh so jealous
Post by: bigedshult on March 07, 2012, 02:15:05 pm
just get over him or tell your friend how u feal.
Title: Re: im oh so jealous
Post by: springsgardner on March 07, 2012, 02:18:54 pm
Does not sound like a good way to start a marriage!! If you can't get over your ex. It sounds like you made a good choice to go to college, I hope you finished!! Go on with your life and forget about the ex. It sounds like your are starting a new life and be grateful!!

Never could have been said better! Forget about your ex. Obviously they are your ex for a reason!

I agree, forget about your ex. You're about to be married. If you still really love you ex that much, maybe you should postpone your wedding? I'd hate to read in a few years that you got divorced because thoughts of your ex didn't disappear. I'm sorry this is such a tough situation. There have been times when I thought about my exes in the past, but I am much better off with the guy I married back in 1995 and I'm still married to him.

I think you did the right thing to go to school, even if you flunked out and ended up in another college with a 3.47. That's to be commended. I really think that you can stand up straight and move forward. Still, I would tell your friend not to bring your ex to the wedding because that would make both you and your fiance uncomfortable on your very important/special/wonderful day!
Title: Re: im oh so jealous
Post by: jarheadwife04 on March 08, 2012, 07:02:41 am
Yikes!  If you are wishing that you could go back in time to be someone else that is one thing, but if your wish is to be with that person right now when you are engaged to someone else that is something else.