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I am wondering if you should wear a white gown on your second marriage or an off color? So many people seem to criticizes brides when they wear all white and have been married once before. Heck, I thought that wearing white meant you wear a virgin. :dontknow:
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8) i think you should wear an off color unless you are a virgin
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You should do whatever makes you happy. Wear the most beautiful gown you can find, it's YOUR day!!
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I am wondering if you should wear a white gown on your second marriage or an off color? So many people seem to criticizes brides when they wear all white and have been married once before. Heck, I thought that wearing white meant you wear a virgin. :dontknow:
Wear black.
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You should do whatever makes you happy. Wear the most beautiful gown you can find, it's YOUR day!!
I have to agree where what makes you happy... if you want to wear white then wear white don't worry about criticism I wore a white dress on my wedding and i had a 1 year old son so obviously not a virgin but that is what I wanted... You should be happy with your decision
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i wore a white wedding dress on my 2nd marriage and my dad walked me down the aisle. my first wedding was just in front of a notary(his mom) so on my 2nd i wanted it my way.. tux on my man and big white wedding dress and veil for me and i had 2 kids age 3 & 7 so i just say do what u want to Its your day>>>> :thumbsup:
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Dont mind what others say wear what you want
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It's YOUR wedding, who cares what color you wear as long as it's what YOU want to wear. We don't live in the Victorian era anymore, you don't have to be a virgin to wear white.
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i think it's more proper to wear something besides white for your 2nd wedding. but i also think that very few people bother with following those rules these days ;p
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You should do whatever makes you happy. Wear the most beautiful gown you can find, it's YOUR day!!
I agree. Screw this 'its about your family' thing. It doesn't make any sense.
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I would hope that by your second marriage you're old enough to not care what other people thing. Ah, well, some peopl never outgrow that.
It seems a little silly to me, I guess. If white is really your color, then go for it, but expect a little criticism. Wearing a white dress when you're not a virgin is just tradition for the sake of tradition; it doesn't even symbolize anything!
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Since its your wedding, I think you should do whatever makes you and your soon-to-be husband happy. Forget what other people say. This is your special day and you should not have to cater to other people's opinions.
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I think you should wear whatever makes you and your groom happy. Its your day-the sky is the limit. Another thing-who gives a damn what others think. :thumbsup:
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You can wear a white dress if you like just remember at least half of the people there will be smirking. It is human nature to be critical, we love to whisper and chatter amongst ourselves. People like a traditional wedding ceremony, beats the heck out of me why.
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:wave: If you feel like wearing a white wedding dress go for it, it is your choice and no one elses.
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I think you should do what you feel happy with. I mean if you are getting married then it is your day. Dont worry too much about what other people are thinking on your day.
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Just find the dress that you like regardless of color. If you try to stick with the white or off-color ideal you might miss out on THE dress. I got married over 6 months ago. It is my first marriage, but my husband's second. By traditional rules I should have worn off-white, and the dress I badly wanted was off-white (antique-look really), and I found a picture of it, but I could never find the dress, so I finally found a dress that made my mom cry that was white. I do not really like following rules anyway.
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I think it is fine to wear white i am having my 2nd wedding in october and plan to wear white sometimes marriages end for reasons beyond your control and you are having a chance to do what makes you happy
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Who cares what they think. It is your day, be happy, be beautiful and tell them if they have a problem with it tough s@#*, it's not up to them.
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I HAVE BEEN MARRED 37YRS. IF I WOULD DO IT AGAIN I WOULD LIKE TO WAER SOMETHING FUN LIKE RED ARE BKACK JUST CAUSE I COULD ;) :wave:
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I have never been married ,, if your having a traditional wedding I would assume you just follow tradition if not then I would say wear blue jeans and a Tee shirt if thats what you prefer... I think taking the vows would be the most important part of the wedding anyway..
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As long as you don't have a kid or never had an abortion I think white should be fine.... But anyways you should wear whatever you like it's you're wedding. As long as your not one of those people on america's funniest videos doing the hick weddings.
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Think everyone else pretty much nailed it already. Wear what you like =) If someone has an issue with it, you can politely inform them that it's *your* wedding, not theirs and that if they were interested in your happiness they wouldn't be bringing up petty things like that in the first place.
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I did it and it was the most perfect and wonderful day oh by the way congra's to both of you
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your wedding-your day.
i wore red&black to my first
jeans to my second
bathing suit (at the beach) to my third
Maybe I WILL wear white if there's a fourth...just because I can!
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Wear what ever yu want :cat: it's your day.
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i don't think it's necessarily more proper not to wear white at your second wedding. i think it's more traditional. but women who aren't virgins have worn white to their first weddings. it's not a huge scandal so who cares? today pretty much anything goes because people realize some of the wedding traditions aren't based on modern reasoning.
the bf says: it doesn't matter what you wear. as soon as the wedding's over you're just taking it off anyways.
boys. ::)
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:wave:It's YOUR wedding !!!!!! You do what makes YOU happy !!!!!!!!!!!! Good luck to you!!!!!!! I hope he is a verrrrry good man !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am still waiting for my 'Knight in shinning armor",,, I hope he comes soon !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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it shouldnt matter if you color wear even if its your 2nd its still your day and make it what you want!!
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I think... its your own wedding you should do what you want.
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Wear what ever you want. I don't think wearing something off is important, but if it is to you then go ahead and do it. My opinion is just find that dress you fall in love with what ever color it is and wear that down the aisle.
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I didn't even know this was an issue! I'm going to be asking my girlfriend to marry me soon. There are so many things I'm learning about how engagements and weddings work! (This will be her second marriage.) I want her to wear white, but she kind of has a unique style and I know whatever she decides is going to be right.
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I think if wearing a white dress would make you happy.. then go for it.. Im planning on getting married for a second time in the very near future and I plan on wearing white.. Just becuase your 1st marrige didnt work doesnt mean you shouldnt be able to be traditional if you want to! ;D
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I wore a white wedding dress on my 2nd marriage. So I dont see a problem with it.
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Do whatever makes you feel happy. It's your day, so shine!
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Honey if you want to wear white, wear white. It is your wedding you do what you want. :thumbsup:
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Well I would say wear something off color but I can't say much I wore a white wedding dress for my one and only marriage and our son was the ring bearer lol :thumbsup:
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I think it all depends on your traditional values, individual beliefs and how each one of us was brought up.
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i would never wear a white dress.... but of course i'm a guy.... :male:
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It is YOUR Wedding isn't it ??? I have been married 3 times now and have never been married in white. But if I ever get married again it will be in white and it will be a traditional wedding as well. Who cares what others say this is YOUR Day !!!!! :thumbsup:
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I am wondering if you should wear a white gown on your second marriage or an off color? So many people seem to criticizes brides when they wear all white and have been married once before. Heck, I thought that wearing white meant you wear a virgin. :dontknow:
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:female:
I am wondering if you should wear a white gown on your second marriage or an off color? So many people seem to criticizes brides when they wear all white and have been married once before. Heck, I thought that wearing white meant you wear a virgin. :dontknow:
Not many people are virgins when they get married anymore anyways, so it doesn't really make a difference. Society has gone down the drain as it is.
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you should wear whatever feels right to you. just because your not a virgin doesn't mean you can't wear white. :angel12:
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i agree you should wear with whatever makes you happy
if you find a dress that you just fell in love with and its not white heck just go for it!
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I think they can wear whatever they want. The majority of people getting married today aren't virgins anyway so if you look at it that way not many people should be wearing white.
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:female:
I am wondering if you should wear a white gown on your second marriage or an off color? So many people seem to criticizes brides when they wear all white and have been married once before. Heck, I thought that wearing white meant you wear a virgin. :dontknow:
The point of the white dress in a wedding is to show that you are pure. Being pure does not mean you have to be a virgin. Besides, it is the year 2009, not many people would be able to wear white if it meant that the bride is a virgin. Even if it is the first wedding.
Go with what ever you want. If they comment than brush it off. It is your day to shine. So shine away.... Also, congrats.
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To respond to the original post, I believe that wearing white - or any other color - on a wedding day should be the Brides decision and not something tainted by 'tradition' or 'old views' or just plain old 'stubbornness' on the part of anyone else involved.
I always thought that ANY color was fine for a wedding dress. It's the ceremony and the meaning that matters, not the color of a piece of clothing. ;)
Great question though. You gave me some serious food for thought. Good thread!
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I think the only color that you should wear is white or off white, no matter how many times you get married! Congrats!
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I concur. Congratulations!!
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Its your wedding day wear what you want.
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Who care it is your wedding you do what you want to! ;)
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If you want to wear white go for it. Every marriage is innocent and precious and new when it first starts off. Worrying about the past helps noone, so just wear what makes you, and your special day a happy one.
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who cares? you can wear whatever you want on your wedding day
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My opinion is that the bride should be able to wear any color she wants to wear regardless of whether she was married in the past!
I am wondering if you should wear a white gown on your second marriage or an off color? So many people seem to criticizes brides when they wear all white and have been married once before. Heck, I thought that wearing white meant you wear a virgin. :dontknow:
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To respond to the original post, I believe that wearing white - or any other color - on a wedding day should be the Brides decision and not something tainted by 'tradition' or 'old views' or just plain old 'stubbornness' on the part of anyone else involved.
I always thought that ANY color was fine for a wedding dress. It's the ceremony and the meaning that matters, not the color of a piece of clothing. ;)
Great question though. You gave me some serious food for thought. Good thread!
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I say wear what you want to wear! It's your day! And, it may be your 2nd marriage, but it's the 1st time you're marrying this guy right? (lol) Just enjoy yourself hun! Have fun and screw what anyone says that dosen't wish you happiness! You know haters are everywhere! :angel12: (lol) Good Luck and Best Wishes! :wave: :thumbsup:
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Its ur day wear whatever U want, whoz is gonna ask ALL THE VERY BEST!!!!! BE HAPPY AND KEEP Smiling............. :thumbsup:
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I think it depends on the person on what they decide to wear. I was always told that if you get remarried off white should be worn. But if I was to get remarried I would probably wear what I liked.
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i think it's up to the bride lol...sure, it's not the "traditional" thing to do, but who really cares? the whole white wedding gown thing is "supposed" to be a sign of purity and being a virgin...do you know how many people get married that aren't virgins, and still wear a white gown? lol. it's your big day. do what you want!
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History behind the white dress: If you wore one it meant you had money because it cost a lot to get it white. The church is the one who made it symbolize virginity. So go ahead and wear white if you feel like it.
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I say you should wear what you want! I am getting married in july and it is my second marriage...guess what color dress I bought? WHITE!! I think you should wear whatever your heart desires...go crazy..it is your day to feel and look beautiful..and dont even worry about haters! I would hope the people that attend your wedding would support you in any decision you make and if they cant, they should just stay home! Congrats..I hope your wedding is everything you want it to be and more.
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i always thought white was for virgins too not if u had never been married b4... its your special day i would personally wear it people arent that traditional anymore anyways....
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Wearing white wedding dresses didn't even begin until the mid 1900s. Before that, women wore whatever color they felt like wearing.
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White is always good but like the others wear what you want and what makes you feel good.
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definitely do what you want. its your big day. make it something that you wont look back and regret.
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I'm not sure too many people follow the "white dress = virgin" rule even for their first weddings nowadays, so don't be shy - wear what you like!
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In this day and age, if you only wore white when you are a virgin, not very many brides would be in white! With that aside, I think you should wear what you want. There are so many beautiful wedding dresses that you can find what you like regardless of the color.
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I am wondering if you should wear a white gown on your second marriage or an off color? So many people seem to criticizes brides when they wear all white and have been married once before. Heck, I thought that wearing white meant you wear a virgin. :dontknow:
I've always like the white dresses with a different color accent for 2nd marriages. Such as a red bow on it or something. They look classy, elegant and you still get to wear white. But I think te bride should wear what she wants. It's her day. Forget what people think! :wave:
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I agree with most of the members. Wear whatever you want. It's your day and you should be happy and feel as beautiful as possible! Good luck and best wishes!
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MARRIAGE IS VERY MUCH A FRAME OF MIND, ALSO A NEW BEGGINING FOR PEOPLE........IF THE BRIDE SEES FIT TO WEAR WHITE THEN MORE POWER TO HER AND THE PEOPLE THAT DO NOT SEE IT THAT WAY ARE HIDING DIRTY SECRETS THEMSELVES. :wave:
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express yourself and if that's in a white wedding gown go for it!
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traditional 1 time wear white
then you could wear a light cream that almost looks like white :thumbsup:
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I say wear what you want. Who cares if this is your second. I wore a black with red trim around the bottom arms and neck for my wedding only because I liked the dress more than anything. I dont think it matters what you wear as long as you personally like it.
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i am not very traditional or religious, so the "big" wedding I don't really care about. I just got married at my house by a minister who practiced buddhism, with just a few close friends and family. I think it's kind of weird that people go into debt to have a huge party? But if you got the money go for it. It's not like this day and age most of the people are virgins any ways when they get married? So why would it matter what color your dress is? I'm sure there are plenty of times were people do it all over again, when they re-new their vows, and they probably end up wearing white. I'm sure there are different "society rules" for what ever circle you run in, so if it matters to you what others think, and you don't want to be the topic of conversation for a month, then just ask around with the people you hang out with.
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:)
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Marriage is nothing but a ceremony. It does not change how you feel about your partner. If you choose to go through the trouble and expense of a formal wedding, wear what you want. Eat what you want Have it where-ever you want. It is YOUR wedding.
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you can wear whatever you want... :female:
its your big day...doesnt matter if its your second or whatever...
just wear what makes you feel really special :)
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i think u can wear whatever u like
it depends on u
if u want to wear white then go right ahead!!
its not like its a law or ppl will stop u and say to pick another dress since its ur 2nd marriage
nowadays brides just wear a dress that they like and not according to
the being a "virgin" thing
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I say go for it! It's your wedding! :thumbsup:
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I don't think it matters it is your day and you should wear what you want.
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I think there are so many customs that have been deserted. I don't think wearing white is as bad as wearing a veil!
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Well, I don't see very many virgins getting married anymore-slap me if I'm wrong :P- so I say wear whatever suits you. I wore blue on my first wedding and intend to wear white on my second, which is coming up quick!
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I wore white for my second marriage. I don't see anything wrong with it. It made me feel like a princess at the time and how I felt is all that mattered. I didn't care what everyone else thought about it. You shouldn't either.
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Wearing white became popular b/c one of the Queens of Engalnd wore it, and let's face it, there are very few white dress wearing virgins. Wear what makes you feel like it's your special day!
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Wear what you want. My sister chose a cream colored gown for her wedding and it was her first, so do what you want.
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wear what makes you happy. it is your day no one elses. who cares what they think. besides how many people are actually virgins when they get married now a days i mean lets get real here.
i wore white for my 2nd marriage. my 1st one was a joke and should not have happened.
my sister renewed her vows with her husband because they got married at a justice of the peace the first time. i think it was for their 10th ann that they renewed their vows. she had a big wedding with all her sisters in it and a big reception. she wore white.
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It's YOUR day, wear what YOU want! Don't let anyone ruin it for you.
dmalsbury
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Beats wearing your birthday suit! LOL. Who cares? Wear what you want to wear.
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You should wear what you want if people dont like it then tell them to leave its goin to be your day not theirs ;D.
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I think its important that you wear what you want, as it is your day (and the grooms). Congradulations and good luck :)
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I think if you are renewing yourself for your husband, then it is okay to wear white, you are starting over. So if you want to wear white, that is also a symbol. Wear what you are comfortable in and don't let people judge you for what you like.
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Personally, I think that color of wedding dress should always be the bride's choice regardless of how many times she marries. It is her wedding, her day, and should be what she likes. It's funny what traditions we have dumped by the wayside through the years, but funnier the ones we desperately hang on to.
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I wore a white gown at my second wedding, it was great. Nobody said anything and I enjoyed it.
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If you find a dress that fits and looks good on you, then wear it! It truly doesn't matter what people think. If you want a big celebration with a white dress for your wedding whether it's your 2,3 of 4th, YOU SHOULD DO IT! it's all about you and everyone deserves a happy day every once in a while
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you should be able to wear white if you want too. who cares what other people think? its your wedding day. not theirs.
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I think if it's a second marriage, I'd see a justice of the peace and use the money to put down on a house, and only you care what color you wear after marriage #1.
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Of course traditions are not really traditions anymore. Now a days you can wear whatever you think will be appropriate and what you fell good in. It's your wedding day so you should wear what make you feel RADIANT. It seems to me that you're not comfortable with the possibility of others "whispering" because of the color of your dress. (otherwise I don't think you would be asking for opinions)> If I were you I would go with off white. There are so many gowns that are just as beautiful as the ones in white. My mother owns a wedding store in our town and I have seen thousands of dresses and some even come in a gorgeous mocha color, and depending on the color of your wedding there are some in a very pale pink. Since it is your second marriage I would even experiment with dresses that you wouldn't normally try on. It will be some much fun not to follow any rules. CONGRATS ON YOUR MARRIAGE! :thumbsup: :wave:
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Go ahead and wear a white dress. Traditions like wearing a white dress only if you are a virgin are becoming less common now, anyway. I'm wearing a white dress, and my fiance and I have two kids. ;)
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Its a day that you're going to remember for the rest of your life, wear something GORGEOUS!
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i agree. wear whatever u want, coz it is ur day. who cares what other people think..i mean..my sister in law wore white when she married my brother and we all knew she wasnt a virgin coz she was pregnant and about to pop the next month. yes usually it does mean u are a virgin but now adays thats hard to come by coz we all know how good "doing it" feels. u can go with the traditional white gown or u can mix it up and put a little color into ur gown like white and red. i think those colors together are awesome. and pink or red brides maids dresses.
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I am hoping to get married soon, and my wedding gown will be an ivory color cause that is what will make me happy. I also dont look good in pure white. Do whatever best suits you, andd i agree with the person who said whatever makes you happy. This is my advice.
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:thumbsup: any light color will be perfect :thumbsup:
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There is nothing wrong with wearing white! I'm wearing a purple dress to my wedding!
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I think you should really do what you feel like. I mean who goes by those old traditions anymore anyway? I'm sure you're not the only one who ever wore a white dress on their 2nd marriage, not to mention the people who are on their 3rd and 4th and so on. Do what you want to do, it's your day.
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Take my DP and place it all over your Gown and it will look sexy
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If you want to wear a white wedding gown do it! I dont care if it's your 5th marriage, it's your day you should do whatever makes you happy! :thumbsup:
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:sad1: :sad1: :sad1: :sad1: I've NEVER been married.. I'd wear ANYTHING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!