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Title: is it possible to love 2 people??
Post by: Bode1104 on May 31, 2009, 09:48:55 am
my best friend swears she is in love with 2 people and i keep telling her i dont see how that is possible, she may have feeling for one and love the other but i just cant see loving both equally....but she says she is in love with them both....an i mean she says it is real genuine love like between 2 people...i said ok love between 2 not 3...and they both love her....now she is trying to decide who it is she would be with......any takers on this one? because i just dont see it!
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Post by: hemapreethaa on May 31, 2009, 10:19:32 am
s. i agree with her. v can love more than 1. but, cant live with 2 she got to decide any one to b a life partner and 1 can b her true frd for ever.
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Post by: firefly001 on May 31, 2009, 10:20:22 am
Sorry I can't help you. I've heard about this before, but I do agree with you I don't think it's possible to love two people at once. Or maybe she can; She has love for one and is in love with the other.  :dontknow:
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Post by: dream420believer on May 31, 2009, 01:58:00 pm
Right i agree you can love many people but to truly be in love thats one person that no matter what you come back to. People come in and out of your life all the time. Its going to come down to who will still be with her in the end of a situation or crisis.
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Post by: mlainez on May 31, 2009, 01:59:52 pm
could it be possible that she is probably  "comfortable" with one and just maybe obsessed with the other....to be honest with you, I don't believe in loving 2 people, cuz I don't even know what real, genuine LOVE is,......
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Post by: noawysout on May 31, 2009, 05:00:02 pm
no. i think there's one person that you can love in your entire life.
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Post by: trop8cana on May 31, 2009, 05:47:51 pm
Well I think that you can choose to love anybody or anything...meaning that you can love two different people for different reasons.However,being "in love" is a different story.You can love both and be"in love" with only one.I've been there. :angry7: :wave:
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Post by: viva05 on May 31, 2009, 06:01:09 pm
People come in and out of our life all the time, but when you have that one and special person and then you would not have to love two people you should just love the one you have commmented your to and love them as God as love us. :angel11:
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Post by: Kymberli0529 on May 31, 2009, 06:40:08 pm
Personally, I think you can love and be in love with many different people.  I think we love different people for different reasons.  Maybe one person is giving her one thing, comfort..intellectual stimulation..physicality..etc. and the other gives her something differently that she equally needs.  I don't believe you can find that one perfect person for you.  I believe my husband is 'the one' for me but is he perfect for me?  Like, if I put down all my 'qualifications' in a man would he fit every single one?  No but I still love him and can't see myself without him.  I know that sounds harsh, maybe I'm just jaded but I believe in love.  I believe it's completely possible to be in love with two people..yes.
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Post by: dreamyxo on May 31, 2009, 09:06:26 pm
Yes you can love two people at the same time.  We love many people in our lives and each is different. 
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Post by: debraleesparks on June 01, 2009, 01:37:25 am
 :wave:I have loved two men in my life, at the same time.And I will always love them.
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Post by: mrisha on June 01, 2009, 07:12:04 am
You can love 2 people if its a brother or sister etc.  But impossible to be IN LOVE with 2 people at the same time.  Someone in that relationship is not getting what they deserve from that person and its not fair to them because too much is divided. :wave:
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Post by: jkc715nyc on June 01, 2009, 07:52:50 am
I think it is possible to be in love with two people at the same time. That being said, your friend does need to make a decision between the two though.
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Post by: home_teachin on June 01, 2009, 11:43:17 am
I think you can be in love with 2 people at the same time. If you have fallen in love with  people in the past, what if you had known them at the same time? Wouldn't you have been in love with both? But you do have to pick one. Or you will lose both of them.
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Post by: jlweich on June 01, 2009, 12:00:20 pm
Yes, it is possible to love two people because there are different types of love which often feel very much the same.  I love four different men, but that doesn't mean I can't live without them or I need to be romantically attached to them.  I care about them and I enjoy spending time with them and yes, I am attracted to them, but I would never date them or cheat on my boyfriend with them.  If your friend thinks she needs to be romantically attached to both of them, she is probably not experiencing true love, or simply doesn't understand it.
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Post by: mlainez on June 01, 2009, 05:01:27 pm
You can love 2 people if its a brother or sister etc.  But impossible to be IN LOVE with 2 people at the same time.  Someone in that relationship is not getting what they deserve from that person and its not fair to them because too much is divided. :wave:
I definitely agree withyou on this one!
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Post by: discardedheart on June 01, 2009, 05:39:44 pm
i think that ultimately one will outweigh the other. you can't have the exact same amount of feelings for two people. you could, perhaps, be torn between which is more of what you want. but i don't believe you can truly be in love with two people at the same time, no.
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Post by: cowgirlx on June 02, 2009, 06:47:57 am
Totally possible.  I've been there.  Usually one is love, and one leans a little more towards lust.  Go with the one that is there for you emotionally, the physical thing isn't nearly as satisfying in the long run.
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Post by: delfonic22 on June 02, 2009, 09:11:45 am
yes, being in love with more than one person is possible because we are different people and there would be characteristics that we love in each person. For example one man might be nurturing to her needs, but isn't "manly" enough for her. while the other man is "manly" but is not very nurturing.
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Post by: liljp617 on June 02, 2009, 11:44:14 am
Fairly pointless discussion until you define "love" and "in love."  Everybody has very different definitions.
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Post by: Stealth3si on June 02, 2009, 02:03:59 pm
Everybody has very different definitions.
I think almost everybody has very different definitions of many things that's been discussed in the FC forum in an "uninteractive discourse."
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Post by: discardedheart on June 02, 2009, 03:20:20 pm
Everybody has very different definitions.
I think almost everybody has very different definitions of many things that's been discussed in the FC forum in an "uninteractive discourse."

agreed, agreed.
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Post by: Phatkitty on June 04, 2009, 04:09:32 pm
Somebody wrote a song about this:  Torn between 2 lovers, feeling like a fool.  Loving both of them is breaking all the rules. Torn between 2 lovers, feeling like a fool. Loving them both, is breaking all the rules.  (Such a good line it's worth saying 2x). Don't be greedy.  Choose. Then again, rules are ment to be broken huh?  How about this, what if the shoe was on the other foot? Put yourself in their shoes.  Could you cope or would you want a choice made?
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Post by: mc1962 on June 04, 2009, 05:03:56 pm
i THINK THAT IS ONLY POSSIBLE TO love ONE (soulmate) and to LUST another (Marie Osmond)(LoL)  :bootyshake:
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Post by: fabsxxx on June 04, 2009, 06:50:38 pm
You can love 2 people if its a brother or sister etc.  But impossible to be IN LOVE with 2 people at the same time.  Someone in that relationship is not getting what they deserve from that person and its not fair to them because too much is divided. :wave:
I definitely agree withyou on this one!
Im going to agree with you x2.....
I've loved two people before, But than at the end, Its a tough choice to pick the "Right One"
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Post by: sheliawheeler on June 14, 2009, 09:09:33 pm
Personally, I think you can love and be in love with many different people.  I think we love different people for different reasons.  Maybe one person is giving her one thing, comfort..intellectual stimulation..physicality..etc. and the other gives her something differently that she equally needs.  I don't believe you can find that one perfect person for you.  I believe my husband is 'the one' for me but is he perfect for me?  Like, if I put down all my 'qualifications' in a man would he fit every single one?  No but I still love him and can't see myself without him.  I know that sounds harsh, maybe I'm just jaded but I believe in love.  I believe it's completely possible to be in love with two people..yes.

I agree!!!!  I think that she may just be in love with both of them for different reasons.  That is a great idea too!!!!  Tell her to write down her qualifications in a man.  Next to each qualification, she should write down the name of the one that fits that qualification best.  She should tally up the results and the one that matches up to the most qualifications is the one she should pick.  If here is a tie between the two, then she needs to figure out which qualifications she can live without and eliminate those and recheck the score.  Just a suggestion of course.
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Post by: crysdd on June 14, 2009, 09:17:04 pm
I love everyone!   :wave:   lol 
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Post by: littlelotusgirrrl77 on June 15, 2009, 05:19:25 am
every person has one puzzle piece to complete them. One. You can give your love to several people however there will never be anyone that even gets close to the one.
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Post by: Firestone87 on August 04, 2009, 07:47:07 pm
I believe you can love two people but I believe it's nearly impossible to love them both equally.
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Post by: ke101544 on August 05, 2009, 10:11:30 pm
sounds young, confused, and one that loves attention

but no you cannot honeslty be in love with 2 people at the same time.
true love requires you to put in your all, and if you are giving somone your all, you cannot give anyone else anything
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Post by: Yolisan on August 05, 2009, 11:37:22 pm
I once thought that i was in love with 2 people  but it was that one was really fooling me
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Post by: cynybiny68 on August 06, 2009, 02:12:32 pm
You can love two different people at the same time.  It is just that you love each person differently because they are different people.
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Post by: michealmmsm on August 06, 2009, 02:24:00 pm
Yes it is.  I have been in this situation and it is hard to deal with, butdoable
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Post by: lvthepresent on August 06, 2009, 03:34:23 pm
I think it is possible to like two people and admire their personalities.  One might have a special quality that the other doesn't and vs versa, but to really LOVE someone, only ONE can do that.  It will need to be that special person that you cannot get out of your head.  Someone that will satisfy you in each and every way, physically and emotionaly as well as care for you and be there when times get tough.  Who of the two will go that far for you?  think about that.

I know what you are going through... I had two guys I liked, both are successful in business, both we have chemistry, one observes the world like me while the other is fun to go out with, and is very optimistic.  I had to decide, so I picked the optimistic guy.  Now, am I in love? Now that we know each other? I'm not sure... I guess I let time tell so I'll be his friend for now.  

Think about your question, and ask yourself if this issue was presented to you by a friend, what would you say?  Think with your mind and not your heart and you will answer your own question.  

Good luck!   :)
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Post by: Poopy199 on August 08, 2009, 12:05:09 am
yes.
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Post by: Shutmeup3030150 on August 08, 2009, 08:28:27 am
I have had this problem as well, its definitely possible, she needs to decide who she loves more though. She unfortunately cannot be with both.
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Post by: moneyman2013 on August 08, 2009, 09:46:16 am
I think there is a difference between love and commitment. I believe that love is something that you cannot control a person can be in love with many people love is an emotion emotions will be there weather you want them to be or not. Commitment is a choice if you were in a relationship and broke up with someone and found someone new do you stop loving you former partner? Well if a persons says yes than I wonder if that person ever really love their former partner in the first place. I may be in love with a few but I choose to commit to one.
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Post by: dlmerriam336 on August 23, 2009, 12:52:17 pm
It's possible to love a lot more than two. What about your grandparents, parents, siblings, children, etc? You may have to decide on one or the other (unless everyone's really cool with each other :o) if you're talking a monogamous committed relationship and even then you don't necessarily stop loving the other, just that you've decided to not act on that part of your feelings. Think on this ... if one little change in your life had made it so you didn't meet one of the people you're in love with, would you still love the other? What if they were reversed? If you answer yes to both of those then of course it's possible to love more than one person in whatever way you're referring to.
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Post by: vlsm23 on August 23, 2009, 01:02:17 pm
Why does everyone say you can only love one person?  The same reason people say gay people cant be married.  A marriage must be between 1 man and 1 women,  blah blah blah.  Stop trying to dictate other people's lives with your own opinion.  If she says she genuinely loves 2 people, then in her heart and mind she genuinely loves 2 people.  Let her live her own choices.  If it ends up bad then she learns something about her life and her own personality.  If it works out then maybe she's just not a monogamist. 
My personal opinion, be a great friend and just be there for her regardless.  Don't try to talk her out of it if she truly believes it, just be a shoulder to cry on if it goes bad, and dont rub in "I told you so" if it does. 
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Post by: AXELUnholy on August 23, 2009, 01:45:52 pm
I don't believe it's possible to love more than one person at once. And if someone thinks they do or can, they've got great conflict and need to figure out EXACTLY what they want.
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Post by: missbri on August 23, 2009, 02:25:55 pm
I don't think that you can love two people. I believe that one you are just lusting after and the other is really the mate to your soul.