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Title: Is life have a purpose because I don't see it I am depressed and can careless
Post by: blondie71 on December 14, 2013, 11:47:39 pm
I don't understand how this world works.  i am so tired of worrying about paying my bills, we don't make enough money and I don't know what to do about it.  I am doing several web sites and I am just not making enough to keep us a float.Sometimes I wish I was never born I can't deal with this crap.  I can't physically work so where does that leave me, my primary doctor is pissing me off and we just can go anywhere to get treatment sometimes I think they don't understand my condition they don't recognize my medical problems and we don't have any good doctors but a lot of nurse practitioner I am suffering everyday and went to get a prescription filled he said no to the pharmacy and told them I needed to quit smoking  well no crap it hard so he is willing to denied medication because I smoke he did the same thing to my mother That is just wrong. He quit but his attitude sucks.  I am trying to quit but that shouldn't determine my medical problems  Its just easier to disapear and no onw will have to worry about me I can't stand the pain and the medications are not completly helping.
Title: Re: Is life have a purpose because I don't see it I am depressed and can careless
Post by: mrrangerrick on December 15, 2013, 05:00:38 am
I'm sorry to hear, I've been in the same boat. The best advice I can give you is find something you love doing and try to find a way to make money out of it. I use my survey money to buy stuff from thrift stores and yard sales and then fix it up and sell it on ebay for a mark-up. I enjoy it! Hope that helps and keep your spirits up!  :rainbow:
Title: Re: Is life have a purpose because I don't see it I am depressed and can careless
Post by: bretay on December 15, 2013, 06:54:19 am
sorry to hear about your problems...depression is a serious thing...find something that you love doing and try to make a go of it from there..yes it may be small to begin with,but you never know how things are gonna turn out..take one day at a time...
Title: Re: Is life have a purpose because I don't see it I am depressed and can careless
Post by: PGS28 on December 15, 2013, 07:06:29 am
I understand the feeling of being overwhelmed- I'm 31 with 6 kids.  But ironically I absolutely love my life and am looking forward to the future and I want you to too.  I want you to be happy. I know it's always easier for people who haven't walked in your shoes to see the bright side of things but the one thing I know for sure is that it could always be worse.

Try breaking down your problems and finding solutions to each one: 

Have you tried any OTC products to quit smoking (patches, gum, etc)?  I don't know much about e cigs, but I figure even that's healthier than nicotine.  I don't know anything about them but I'd be willing to do research and gift you a pack if you think that'd help. Seems to me like quitting smoking will help you in two ways: health wise and financially. 

Also, call your health care provider to get a listing of other medical providers in your area.  Free medical transportation may also be available to you, so ask about that too. 

Go on web MD or google and research alternative or homeopathic pain medications.

Analyze your budget to find ways to save money, even if it means downsizing your place or sacrificing a non necessity. 

Hope this helps! 

I don't understand how this world works.  i am so tired of worrying about paying my bills, we don't make enough money and I don't know what to do about it.  I am doing several web sites and I am just not making enough to keep us a float.Sometimes I wish I was never born I can't deal with this crap.  I can't physically work so where does that leave me, my primary doctor is pissing me off and we just can go anywhere to get treatment sometimes I think they don't understand my condition they don't recognize my medical problems and we don't have any good doctors but a lot of nurse practitioner I am suffering everyday and went to get a prescription filled he said no to the pharmacy and told them I needed to quit smoking  well no crap it hard so he is willing to denied medication because I smoke he did the same thing to my mother That is just wrong. He quit but his attitude sucks.  I am trying to quit but that shouldn't determine my medical problems  Its just easier to disapear and no onw will have to worry about me I can't stand the pain and the medications are not completly helping.
Title: Re: Is life have a purpose because I don't see it I am depressed and can careless
Post by: vp44 on December 15, 2013, 08:21:35 am
Sounds like a psychiatrist best friend. In reality many people deal with so much that when put in perspective you can help yourself by analyzing things in your life and tweaking out some things that just do not fit anymore.
Title: Re: Is life have a purpose because I don't see it I am depressed and can careless
Post by: Gerianne on December 15, 2013, 08:33:24 am
there is an article on the Natural News website  "how I overcame my depression and anxiety without medication" once you go to the website, you can go to "blogs".
Title: Re: Is life have a purpose because I don't see it I am depressed and can careless
Post by: bremer51 on December 15, 2013, 08:43:16 am
The purpose of your life is to be YOU.  You are here for a reason. Think of the people in your life and how you touch their lives. You are a valuable child of God and to think otherwise is wrong. You have a lot of negatives in your life and probably feel powerless in dealing with them.  Find one thing you can control and take care of that.  Then tackle something else.  You want to be the master of your universe.
Title: Re: Is life have a purpose because I don't see it I am depressed and can careless
Post by: minioncookies on December 15, 2013, 09:51:07 am
You know when people have attitudes like this is makes me sad. The world is not giving up on you dear you are giving up.. NEVER LOSE HOPE. Nobody said life was going to be easy. That is a given. Times get hard and money get's tight but there are a few options out there. Take some time out of your day and do a google search for your local area where their are groups that help with low income people. These groups are everywhere and there are several to choose from. You can also do a google search for places that will help provide you with a little food for the month. Places like westaid. I know there are some church's out there that do it you just have to call around. Also make sure you always ask what to bring with you because i'm sure they will need some sort of identification. If all else fails (which it shouldn't) You can look up some shelter's in your area.( I know a shalter does not sound to appealing) Shelters do take families in and they do help provide a stable place to live and they also help you get into a job.. Which is the best part because once you get back on your feet you won't have to be there anymore and you will be able to help yourself. Another thing i would open yourself up to is a good ol fashion
psychiatrist. Sometimes talking will help more than anything!It can also open your eyes to new horizons and make things more clear.You  also can get guidance on how to tweek the little things in your life to make your life a little more easier for you. Depression is an ugly thing that can bite you hard in the bum several times when your already down and out. If you let depression beat you you will more than likely be on medication that you don't need and become dependent on it.. Becoming Dependent on a medication is not a good idea because it can damage you emotionally and physically. You have to beat the Depression. You are a strong person. You will more than likely get over this hump. I have faith in you.Your family has faith in you. They need you.You think nobody needs you? Look at your family.. Would they not be sad if you were gone? You are a big part of your family i'm sure and without you i'm pretty sure there would be a big chunk of life missing there..Have you ever seen George Lopez? They had this one episode where angie didn't feel needed around her house.. So she went and started doing things for other people. She was apart of meal's on wheels and taking care of older folks.. Well then her family started needing her.. She got a little angry because she wasn't needed before and now that she found something everyone needed her again.So she told them to do it theirself pretty much. Anyways a couple days later her son failed something i belive or needed help and nobody would help him.. and she asks.. Why didn't you come to me? He replied with.. Well.. You said to do things yourself an that you were busy so he did.. She felt horrible.. Anyways the point of the story is she was needed and didn't realize it untill she was doing something else.. I'm sure you are the same way! You are needed and you just don't see it As for the doctors they will always blame smoking on your condition. That's mainly because smoking is bad.. We all know smoking is bad but killing the addiction isn't easy.. What's funny is doctors never realize a camp fire is more dangerous than smoking really is..I'm sorry about him not giving you medication you need. I would suggest maybe finding another doctor and seeing if they will provide you with what you need. I hope you get out of your depressed stage where you think nobody needs you. You are needed. The world is a beautiful place if you let it be. Stop and smell the roses once in a while. Relax for a bit. Talk to someone. Just these little things could help push you in the right direction. Sending prayers your way in your time of need. 


:monkey:
Title: Re: Is life have a purpose because I don't see it I am depressed and can careless
Post by: madeara on December 15, 2013, 10:33:35 am
I am sorry you are struggling with depression.  Jesus loves you very much!  He has a plan for good for your life.  I will keep you in my prayers.
Title: Re: Is life have a purpose because I don't see it I am depressed and can careless
Post by: potluck6 on December 16, 2013, 09:55:45 am
Never knew you could not get meds because you smoke .You could lie and say you quit.If you can't work can you get disability .If you need real money I wouldn't rely on surveysites not enough money .Someone said she made 7.00 a day and she thougt that was great. When you think about it 7.00 a day which I don't make is pretty bad.I'd try something else. best to you.
Title: Re: Is life have a purpose because I don't see it I am depressed and can careless
Post by: ushaann on December 16, 2013, 10:52:30 am
thats sad to hear about ur problems :(
Title: Re: Is life have a purpose because I don't see it I am depressed and can careless
Post by: hitch0403 on December 16, 2013, 02:35:51 pm
Blondie....it seems we all struggle in this world.I am guilty of not taking my own advice many times but there is a scripture that reads in Mathew 6:34,keep seeking the kingdom of God first and all these other things will be added to you.

Now this scripture doesnt mean to ask God to help you hit lotto...LOL!But i certainly believe if we support and LOVE HIM he will care for us and guide us in helping us get by in this cruel world.Ask in prayer for help.Even if in baby-steps.

And remember Jesus said there is more happiness in giving than receiving.

I wish you well!
Title: Re: Is life have a purpose because I don't see it I am depressed and can careless
Post by: camellia0 on December 16, 2013, 05:59:29 pm
Do you go to church? It would be good for you to talk with someone. I know churches do assist people who are falling behind.  Don't give up. Sometimes we get upset because of issues, but we have to realize that  there is always someone who is worse off than we. I pray that you get the help you need.
Title: Re: Is life have a purpose because I don't see it I am depressed and can careless
Post by: mardukblood2009 on December 16, 2013, 06:35:04 pm
I feel the exact same way. I am not about to even start to list all my problems. I just look to the next day and hope
sometime new will happen and try and think about the happy times. :confused1:
Title: Re: Is life have a purpose because I don't see it I am depressed and can careless
Post by: champak97 on December 16, 2013, 08:52:26 pm
We are all here for a purpose, and please don't give up.  I hope you find a way to pay your bills. It must be hard for you, when your medications are denied. Hope you get the help you need.
Title: Re: Is life have a purpose because I don't see it I am depressed and can careless
Post by: kingozzy on December 17, 2013, 06:35:06 am
Keep trying and keep your head up.  All else fails file for bankruptcy there are always options
Title: Re: Is life have a purpose because I don't see it I am depressed and can careless
Post by: Dynamite2013 on December 17, 2013, 09:06:51 am
Yes we are here to help people and do what God wants us to do that is why he created us. Don't worry because  that is the work of the devil. Just pray and when things go wrong ask God and Jesus to help you understand why. I have been on my death bed a couple of  times once when I was 21 years old when the doctor told me to stop drinking because it was affecting my liver. I did and 2 years later when I delivered my second son I died for 5 minutes and they brought me back my work was not done here. the next time was when I was 35 years old and the doctor couldn't understand why I was losing weigh and my skin was turning black. I was in the hospital for a week and an intern suggested I take a test and I agreed. They found out I had lactose intolerence problems. so I stayed away from dairy and liquor. then 13 years ago a doctor told me I was dying and couldn't discover why. Well the medication I was taking in the winter to keep healthy had liquor in it. And another intern saved my life. Now I feel more healthy then I have felt in years. I read all labels and make sure there is no liquor or dairy in anything I buy. I thank Jesus everyday that I am here and when I accomplishment something I thank God for giving me the ability to handle it. Prayer works by the way I don't get as depressed as I used to get.
Title: Re: Is life have a purpose because I don't see it I am depressed and can careless
Post by: PGS28 on December 18, 2013, 04:55:54 am
I agree that a lot of negativity in your life can lead to you feeling depressed, which is why I feel it's better to be alone than to have the wrong elements in your life.

The purpose of your life is to be YOU.  You are here for a reason. Think of the people in your life and how you touch their lives. You are a valuable child of God and to think otherwise is wrong. You have a lot of negatives in your life and probably feel powerless in dealing with them.  Find one thing you can control and take care of that.  Then tackle something else.  You want to be the master of your universe.
Title: Re: Is life have a purpose because I don't see it I am depressed and can careless
Post by: PGS28 on December 18, 2013, 04:57:18 am
I'm also an avid Google user.  I feel this is a free resource that can really improve a person's life if utilized accordingly.

You know when people have attitudes like this is makes me sad. The world is not giving up on you dear you are giving up.. NEVER LOSE HOPE. Nobody said life was going to be easy. That is a given. Times get hard and money get's tight but there are a few options out there. Take some time out of your day and do a google search for your local area where their are groups that help with low income people. These groups are everywhere and there are several to choose from. You can also do a google search for places that will help provide you with a little food for the month. Places like westaid. I know there are some church's out there that do it you just have to call around. Also make sure you always ask what to bring with you because i'm sure they will need some sort of identification. If all else fails (which it shouldn't) You can look up some shelter's in your area.( I know a shalter does not sound to appealing) Shelters do take families in and they do help provide a stable place to live and they also help you get into a job.. Which is the best part because once you get back on your feet you won't have to be there anymore and you will be able to help yourself. Another thing i would open yourself up to is a good ol fashion
psychiatrist. Sometimes talking will help more than anything!It can also open your eyes to new horizons and make things more clear.You  also can get guidance on how to tweek the little things in your life to make your life a little more easier for you. Depression is an ugly thing that can bite you hard in the bum several times when your already down and out. If you let depression beat you you will more than likely be on medication that you don't need and become dependent on it.. Becoming Dependent on a medication is not a good idea because it can damage you emotionally and physically. You have to beat the Depression. You are a strong person. You will more than likely get over this hump. I have faith in you.Your family has faith in you. They need you.You think nobody needs you? Look at your family.. Would they not be sad if you were gone? You are a big part of your family i'm sure and without you i'm pretty sure there would be a big chunk of life missing there..Have you ever seen George Lopez? They had this one episode where angie didn't feel needed around her house.. So she went and started doing things for other people. She was apart of meal's on wheels and taking care of older folks.. Well then her family started needing her.. She got a little angry because she wasn't needed before and now that she found something everyone needed her again.So she told them to do it theirself pretty much. Anyways a couple days later her son failed something i belive or needed help and nobody would help him.. and she asks.. Why didn't you come to me? He replied with.. Well.. You said to do things yourself an that you were busy so he did.. She felt horrible.. Anyways the point of the story is she was needed and didn't realize it untill she was doing something else.. I'm sure you are the same way! You are needed and you just don't see it As for the doctors they will always blame smoking on your condition. That's mainly because smoking is bad.. We all know smoking is bad but killing the addiction isn't easy.. What's funny is doctors never realize a camp fire is more dangerous than smoking really is..I'm sorry about him not giving you medication you need. I would suggest maybe finding another doctor and seeing if they will provide you with what you need. I hope you get out of your depressed stage where you think nobody needs you. You are needed. The world is a beautiful place if you let it be. Stop and smell the roses once in a while. Relax for a bit. Talk to someone. Just these little things could help push you in the right direction. Sending prayers your way in your time of need. 


:monkey:
Title: Re: Is life have a purpose because I don't see it I am depressed and can careless
Post by: inertia4 on December 18, 2013, 05:26:39 am
I understand where you're coming from. Every doctor I have ever seen told me to quit smoking. I think that part is normal. But they never denied me medication if I needed it. As for what purpose we serve here in life, well, that is another good question. I have children so I guess my purpose would be, at the very least, stay alive for them. And yes to take care of them and help them. Other than that not much. I am tired of paying bills also and the medical in this country is a horror. I suffer from major depression as well as other physical problems. So I know how hard it is to stay afloat. But the worst part of it all is the stress that comes with all this.
Title: Re: Is life have a purpose because I don't see it I am depressed and can careless
Post by: queenofnines on December 18, 2013, 09:51:59 pm
The truth: there is NO objective, grand purpose to life. BUT... you get to make your *own* purpose(s), and that's pretty damn cool in my book. Also, you're not "stuck" with your problems for life, IF you can come up with creative solutions...
Title: Re: Is life have a purpose because I don't see it I am depressed and can careless
Post by: dreamyxo on December 18, 2013, 11:45:40 pm
Count your blessings and be thankful for what you do have. 
Title: Re: Is life have a purpose because I don't see it I am depressed and can careless
Post by: moonangel on December 19, 2013, 09:09:42 am
I don't understand how this world works.  i am so tired of worrying about paying my bills, we don't make enough money and I don't know what to do about it.  I am doing several web sites and I am just not making enough to keep us a float.Sometimes I wish I was never born I can't deal with this crap.  I can't physically work so where does that leave me, my primary doctor is pissing me off and we just can go anywhere to get treatment sometimes I think they don't understand my condition they don't recognize my medical problems and we don't have any good doctors but a lot of nurse practitioner I am suffering everyday and went to get a prescription filled he said no to the pharmacy and told them I needed to quit smoking  well no crap it hard so he is willing to denied medication because I smoke he did the same thing to my mother That is just wrong. He quit but his attitude sucks.  I am trying to quit but that shouldn't determine my medical problems  Its just easier to disapear and no onw will have to worry about me I can't stand the pain and the medications are not completly helping.
You have some of the same health issues like my wifes if I remember right   she doesn't smoke but her dr  barely gives her enough medicine to just take the edge off of her pain.   thru the years many drs have not belived her that she hurts so bad but im the one that has watched her curl up on the couch or bed cramping from such severe painand wondering why the doctor doesn't do more
Title: Re: Is life have a purpose because I don't see it I am depressed and can careless
Post by: acurtsinger2 on December 19, 2013, 10:02:16 am
it is easier for them to blame all medical problems on smoking.  yes yes we all should eat healthier foods, not smoke or drink, but 99% of health problems are genetic.  george burns drank and smoked everyday and lived to be 102. 

along with your medicine for health problems your doctor should advise you on stop smoking aids, and support programs.

think of good things, it is the holidays!!!!!!!!
Title: Re: Is life have a purpose because I don't see it I am depressed and can careless
Post by: ghunter on December 19, 2013, 10:33:18 am
You sound so depressed, I wish you had God in your life and you will know that you are not alone and God will take care of you.  As long as we are on this earth we will have bills and take care of rent, or mortage than food and everthing else fall in line.  I will pray for you and I pray you find some peace in your life and something or someone to love to make life worth living.  God Bless!
Title: Re: Is life have a purpose because I don't see it I am depressed and can careless
Post by: lhz123 on December 19, 2013, 10:53:09 am
I believe we have a purpose in our life, sometimes we just don't notice it. Even life is so hard just keep fighting always pray and ask guidance to the Lord.
Title: Re: Is life have a purpose because I don't see it I am depressed and can careless
Post by: debidoo on December 19, 2013, 02:42:50 pm
 :sad1: Sorry you are having such a hard time - if it helps any I understand completely how you feel.  I lost my husband in January and his income and it is a daily financial struggle.  I too suffer with chronic pain and so I understand that as well.  I will pray for you and certainly hope things improve - don't give up, hang in there things can change for the better in the twinkle of an eye and I hope they will for you.
Title: Re: Is life have a purpose because I don't see it I am depressed and can careless
Post by: crisstar on December 19, 2013, 03:51:00 pm
Doing this survey stuff will pay a bill or two, but if you want to make more money doing surveys you will have to start getting referrals.

The only other thing to do outside of this is to either find a work at home job, do freelance work from home (virtual assistant) or start doing an online business.

You can't make your life all about what you don't have and what bills you can't pay - that is a sure fire way to get depressed!

Focus on where you want to go and your future.
Title: Re: Is life have a purpose because I don't see it I am depressed and can careless
Post by: tkfarris on December 19, 2013, 04:07:22 pm
I don't understand how this world works.  i am so tired of worrying about paying my bills, we don't make enough money and I don't know what to do about it.  I am doing several web sites and I am just not making enough to keep us a float.Sometimes I wish I was never born I can't deal with this crap.  I can't physically work so where does that leave me, my primary doctor is pissing me off and we just can go anywhere to get treatment sometimes I think they don't understand my condition they don't recognize my medical problems and we don't have any good doctors but a lot of nurse practitioner I am suffering everyday and went to get a prescription filled he said no to the pharmacy and told them I needed to quit smoking  well no crap it hard so he is willing to denied medication because I smoke he did the same thing to my mother That is just wrong. He quit but his attitude sucks.  I am trying to quit but that shouldn't determine my medical problems  Its just easier to disapear and no onw will have to worry about me I can't stand the pain and the medications are not completly helping.
  well yes life has a purpose we are supostoe be fruitefull & multaaple it says that in the bible & the lord jesus dont give u  more then u cant handle at a time thats if u beleave in him alot of people dont im not saying u dont