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Title: Why Do People Say Things Online They'd NEVER Say Facce-to-Face?
Post by: mythociate on January 28, 2014, 03:46:30 pm
It was a survey-question---something like 'are there things you say to people online that you'd never say to them face-to-face?' And I answered 'yes.'

I think it's because of the 'disconnectedness'---sitting here at my computer, I feel like I'm just 'playing a big video game, in which you are all characters (and "I'm on a Quest to Save My Girlfriend!"')

(I know you're all "real people"  ::) but some subconscious part of me "knows" you're all just 'figments of my imagination'  :silly: )

See!?! I'd NEVER tell you 'you're a figment of my imagination' to your face!  ;D
What do I imagine you would say is the reason people say things to imaginary people online that they'd NEVER say in real life?
Title: Re: Why Do People Say Things Online They'd NEVER Say Facce-to-Face?
Post by: hitch0403 on January 28, 2014, 04:08:22 pm
Whether online or in person....just remember Proverbs 15.......

15  A mild* answer turns away rage,+

But a harsh* word stirs up anger.+

 2   The tongue of the wise makes good use of knowledge,+

But the mouth of the stupid blurts out foolishness.
Title: Re: Why Do People Say Things Online They'd NEVER Say Facce-to-Face?
Post by: loulizlee on January 28, 2014, 05:13:41 pm
I AM a figment of your imagination.
Title: Re: Why Do People Say Things Online They'd NEVER Say Facce-to-Face?
Post by: vp44 on January 29, 2014, 09:50:02 am
To you I would actually speak to you face to face, you need to be put in your place!
Title: Re: Why Do People Say Things Online They'd NEVER Say Facce-to-Face?
Post by: mythociate on January 29, 2014, 10:43:59 am
Quote from: vp44 on January 29, 2014, 09:50:02 am
you need to be put in your place!

What is my place?

... bouncing around in a rubber-room, hmmm? How is that any-different from the bulk of society today?
Title: Re: Why Do People Say Things Online They'd NEVER Say Facce-to-Face?
Post by: vp44 on January 29, 2014, 01:03:42 pm
Quote from: mythociate on January 29, 2014, 10:43:59 am
Quote from: vp44 on January 29, 2014, 09:50:02 am
you need to be put in your place!

What is my place?

... bouncing around in a rubber-room, hmmm? 
LOl You said I didn't. I guess you know your place already. Good job!
Title: Re: Why Do People Say Things Online They'd NEVER Say Facce-to-Face?
Post by: JediJohnnie on January 30, 2014, 01:08:36 am
(http://i.imgur.com/HdHlf4G.gif)
Title: Re: Why Do People Say Things Online They'd NEVER Say Facce-to-Face?
Post by: moon29 on January 30, 2014, 09:37:10 am
I personally will not say something online that i would never say in person.  if you cant say it to their face then it probably inst something that should be said outside of your home.
Title: Re: Why Do People Say Things Online They'd NEVER Say Facce-to-Face?
Post by: mythociate on January 30, 2014, 01:01:16 pm
Quote from: vp44 on January 29, 2014, 01:03:42 pm
Quote from: mythociate on January 29, 2014, 10:43:59 am
Quote from: vp44 on January 29, 2014, 09:50:02 am
you need to be put in your place!

What is my place?

... bouncing around in a rubber-room, hmmm? 
LOl You said I didn't. I guess you know your place already. Good job!

And yet you cut-out my question: "How is that any different from normal life?"
Title: Re: Why Do People Say Things Online They'd NEVER Say Facce-to-Face?
Post by: vp44 on January 30, 2014, 04:12:09 pm
Quote from: mythociate on January 30, 2014, 01:01:16 pm
Quote from: vp44 on January 29, 2014, 01:03:42 pm
Quote from: mythociate on January 29, 2014, 10:43:59 am
Quote from: vp44 on January 29, 2014, 09:50:02 am
you need to be put in your place!

What is my place?

... bouncing around in a rubber-room, hmmm? 
LOl You said I didn't. I guess you know your place already. Good job!

And yet you cut-out my question: "How is that any different from normal life?"
You keep answering your own questions? Wonderful pretty soon you won't have a need to ask questions that you already know answers too. See how this is working out.
Title: Re: Why Do People Say Things Online They'd NEVER Say Facce-to-Face?
Post by: mythociate on January 31, 2014, 11:47:55 am
Quote from: vp44 on January 30, 2014, 04:12:09 pm
Quote from: mythociate on January 30, 2014, 01:01:16 pm
Quote from: vp44 on January 29, 2014, 01:03:42 pm
Quote from: mythociate on January 29, 2014, 10:43:59 am
Quote from: vp44 on January 29, 2014, 09:50:02 am
you need to be put in your place!

What is my place?

... bouncing around in a rubber-room, hmmm? 
LOl You said I didn't. I guess you know your place already. Good job!

And yet you cut-out my question: "How is that any different from normal life?"
You keep answering your own questions? Wonderful pretty soon you won't have a need to ask questions that you already know answers too. See how this is working out.

And you're GIVING me the answer, but not the answer you THINK you're giving me :bootyshake:

You THINK you're giving me the answer that 'I think the whole world is this rubber-room you imagine I'm bouncing-around in.'

But I know I'm not bouncing-around in a rubber-room, just like YOU know that YOU'RE not bouncing-around in a rubber-room; so how can either one of us be sure? :silly:
Title: Re: Why Do People Say Things Online They'd NEVER Say Facce-to-Face?
Post by: tantricia44 on January 31, 2014, 09:28:23 pm
One thing comes to mind....we're a bunch of cowards & will bark only online!If we knew that person lives next door, you bet we hope 2never me him. ;)
Title: Re: Why Do People Say Things Online They'd NEVER Say Facce-to-Face?
Post by: swkstudent on February 01, 2014, 07:48:45 pm
There is no accountability for their behavior...
Title: Re: Why Do People Say Things Online They'd NEVER Say Facce-to-Face?
Post by: linderlizzie on February 02, 2014, 04:05:22 pm
People are inherently evil, of course. I think it's cowardly to say things online that hurt other people.


:fish:
Title: Re: Why Do People Say Things Online They'd NEVER Say Facce-to-Face?
Post by: sgluckadoo on February 02, 2014, 05:07:02 pm
It is referred to as the online disinhibition effect. You can google it for more info.
Title: Re: Why Do People Say Things Online They'd NEVER Say Facce-to-Face?
Post by: bud1 on February 02, 2014, 05:13:31 pm
They have no spine.
Title: Re: Why Do People Say Things Online They'd NEVER Say Facce-to-Face?
Post by: tbreister2015 on February 04, 2014, 06:39:29 am
there behind the safety of a screen
Title: Re: Why Do People Say Things Online They'd NEVER Say Facce-to-Face?
Post by: skinnygwenny on February 09, 2014, 07:07:25 pm
On line or on the telephone it is easier for a person to express themselves without worrying about any immediate repercussions.
Title: Re: Why Do People Say Things Online They'd NEVER Say Facce-to-Face?
Post by: Tranquil_Bleu on February 10, 2014, 11:21:59 am
Quote from: tantricia44 on January 31, 2014, 09:28:23 pm
One thing comes to mind....we're a bunch of cowards & will bark only online!If we knew that person lives next door, you bet we hope 2never me him. ;)

Right on! I agree with you 100%. People can be such cowards. They tend to say whatever they want hiding behind
the screen. I think this is due to the fact that they think they can get away with it without being dealt with. They use
their anonymity to thier advantage. This is so sad and pitiful, what a shame.  :(
Title: Re: Why Do People Say Things Online They'd NEVER Say Facce-to-Face?
Post by: mythociate on February 10, 2014, 11:47:13 am
Quote from: swkstudent on February 01, 2014, 07:48:45 pm
There is no accountability for their behavior...
Quote from: Tranquil_Bleu on February 10, 2014, 11:21:59 am
Quote from: tantricia44 on January 31, 2014, 09:28:23 pm
One thing comes to mind....we're a bunch of cowards & will bark only online!If we knew that person lives next door, you bet we hope 2never me him. ;)

Right on! I agree with you 100%. People can be such cowards. They tend to say whatever they want hiding behind
the screen. I think this is due to the fact that they think they can get away with it without being dealt with. They use
their anonymity to thier advantage. This is so sad and pitiful, what a shame.  :(
Quote from: tbreister2015 on February 04, 2014, 06:39:29 am
there behind the safety of a screen

Quote from: bud1 on February 02, 2014, 05:13:31 pm
They have no spine.
Quote from: sgluckadoo on February 02, 2014, 05:07:02 pm
It is referred to as the online disinhibition effect. You can google it for more info.

I disagree. Thinking about it: people imagine things & don't think about the consequences of the imagined actions unless they have more time. That is: if we say something insulting to someone face-to-face, we know that there's no time for them to understand why they SHOULDN'T do what they're imagining would shut us up. Online, they're 'only words.'

(True, they're 'only words' OFFLINE too; but offline, words become more like 'falling dominoes' than the 'wild barks' they actually ARE :silly: )
Title: Re: Why Do People Say Things Online They'd NEVER Say Facce-to-Face?
Post by: short4love on March 05, 2014, 04:17:47 pm
cause people can be cowards.
Title: Re: Why Do People Say Things Online They'd NEVER Say Facce-to-Face?
Post by: tfw6693 on March 06, 2014, 07:06:45 am
 :) I don't say things on my computer, or in my email, or to others, that I would not say face to face. It may be a computer screen, but somebody is behind it.  :) That is a lot of trouble with our society today. We need to get back to reality. Our society is degrading and faces are being replaced by computer screens. (sort of sad.)
Title: Re: Why Do People Say Things Online They'd NEVER Say Facce-to-Face?
Post by: king4cash on March 30, 2014, 12:31:52 pm
Anonymity is a powerful force. Hiding behind a fake screen name makes us feel invincible, as well as invisible. Never mind that, on many websites, we're not as anonymous as we think—and we're not anonymous at all on Facebook. Even when we reveal our real identities, we still misbehave.
Title: Re: Why Do People Say Things Online They'd NEVER Say Facce-to-Face?
Post by: angsilva2000 on March 30, 2014, 03:40:36 pm
thats because ppl can be crazy
Title: Re: Why Do People Say Things Online They'd NEVER Say Facce-to-Face?
Post by: freedavis on March 30, 2014, 04:55:36 pm
Its so much easier to say things online vs in face.  You can be anyone you want online so you never get the true person.