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I got a switching several times. I don't feel like I was abused. Some kids mind their parents better than others. I was a bit on the incorrigible side. My mother would make me pick out my own switch and it took me a couple times to realize that the smaller the switch, the more sting it had.
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Was normal to get a smack on the *bleep* as a kid, got your attention back where it belonged
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yes i sure did but it was by my step father who was a bad father he did things that made my childhood bad but he is gone now and i can say i do not miss him
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No, never. My parents didn't believe in hitting. I can't remember either of them ever hitting either my sister or myself. When my dad died and my mom remarried my stepfather never hit either of us either.
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Nope, but I don't think I ever really did anything that would've deserved it. I was one of those kids that never left the house unless going to school. So eh, don't know.
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I got a few spankings as a kid but not many. I don't recall any being with a switch though.
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I was only spanked once. My dad felt so bad he never did it again. It's not like it scarred me or anything, I can't even remember what I did.
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I have never been switched. I got a slap on the butt now and then if i couldn't behave but never anything else. I think switching is a little too much. A small spanking to get attention and tell a child you are serious should be more than enough.
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I don't see anything wrong with spanking. I do not see it as "hitting" or "abusing". If a few more kids got spanked or paddled at school we would not have so many kids with a criminal record at the age of 7. I remember when I was in high school most teachers had the same rule. If you are late 3 times in one 6 week period you got 3 licks. Not a big deal. But these days even being tardy for a class during the day, it all gets a trip to the office where they are all compiled together, and after so many you go before the judge and are charged with truancy a criminal offense which is on a record that follows you for life. Getting a paddling in school is not on some record that follows you for life. Having said that...I remember being late for a class 3 times in ONE week in high school. I was lucky because he just talked to me and did tell me if I was late again he would paddle me. I was not late again ALL year. lol And no I was not afraid of him nor did I feel threatened by him. He was actually one of my favorite teachers.
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Never. I had a belt beating but that was the most.
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I never got switched but I sure did get spanked several times. One time I remember in particular was when my brother and I thought it would be a real good idea to paint mustard all over my Dad's brand new blue corduroy chair. It ruined the chair altogether as my father was never able to get the stain out of it.
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My Grandma switched us grandkids when we misbehaved! She had a really good "switch" bush outside her back door and she'd go out, break off a switch and switch our legs with it. I got the raw end of that deal since I was the only girl of the 4 of us that was at her house a lot. Back then girls didn't wear pants and certainly not jeans so my legs were really exposed to the switching. I got a switch off my switch bush a couple of weeks ago for my youngest granddaughter; I used it 1 time and haven't had to use it again!
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I learned the switch dance early was a little sassy for a while. Picked out my own switch. smaller switch didn't hurt much. Mother never really hit us had. Never remember blood. Just a little red mark. Now My real father was a basta*d He used a belt and or a razor strape on me, When he ever showed up at home. For some reason he liked to beat me. Was so glad when mom got rid of him. My stepdad never laid a hand on us. I never knew when dad was going to come in a good mood or a bad mood. Most of the time it was bad.
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Yeah a few times and the part I hated was I had to go and get the switch. LOL Kids today have to much leniency and thus all the bad behavior. You do not have to spank a child to get them in a manner-able way. It is all about how you treat them. Just my thoughts. I treat my son with respect and like a person. He does do silly little things but when I was young so did I. I always tell him son you can't get much pass mom because I was a kid once too! He says mom you always say that and I said yes so you remember to think twice before you do something out of line, then try to lie about it.
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Got switched by my grandmother and I had to pick the switch. My mother on the hand used the belt. I really didn't get much of any because I don't like being hit.
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yes, don't want to talk about it.
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My Dad didn't have to spank us, we knew better than to get out of line, it only took a look.
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Oh we got the belt in my family and I think we all turned out good. To bad true abuse happens though!
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lol on more than several occasions
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I was a bad kid. Believe me. I was hit with the famous belt. When I was growing up that was what they did. The belt stopped when I started to fight back. And all the punishment stopped as well. Like I said, I was a bad kid and a spiteful one.
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yes probably did something told not to do.Kids today need discipline but you can't take it too far.
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Yes I got switched, but I would not call it abuse.
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My siblings and I got spanked. Sometimes it was just a swat on the behind with their open hand; sometimes with a spatula or wire end of a fly swatter.
Pretty much just one swat and that was it.
I think a spanking---a swat on the behind--- is abuse.
Unfortunately, some adults don't stop at one swat or control their anger or strength and a "spanking" becomes a beating.
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I never did, my mother the most she ever did was slap once for lying really bad about something, but if we behave badly, she would punish us, by grounding us with not going outside or to the movies or to a friend's house, she knew that grounding would hurt more, a beating of any kind happened at the moment and then will go away, but grounding us for a week or two would be something that we will feel every single one of those days.
I have never done anything like that to my girls, some spanking when they were little, and know when they really do something bad, which is almost never, I give them a look with that look they know better than to try me. My hubby would probably treated to use the belt and they both just run to their rooms but we have never used the belt either. My hubby usually never does the yelling or punishment it is me, with the exception of 1 time a few years back when someone egg our house and he discover why it was done, he sat me oldest down and had the youngest listen to him, and later during the day when they talked to me the youngest told me "holly cow, I have never since daddy that mad it was really something scary" and my oldest told me "I would have preferred a whooping than go thru that, never again", and that was that.
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I got a switching several times. I don't feel like I was abused. Some kids mind their parents better than others. I was a bit on the incorrigible side. My mother would make me pick out my own switch and it took me a couple times to realize that the smaller the switch, the more sting it had.
I got the belt more than a switch.I do remember a switch, though. I don't think being disciplined with a switch , belt, or paddle is a bad thing. All children need discipline. I can't say I did not deserve some of my spankings. But I do think that using your hands sends the wrong message. No one wants their kids to cower down from the raised hand, just like an animal.
BMaston12
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I never got spanked with a switch, but I did get spanked with a hand or every now and then a belt. It wasn't often because I was usually to scared to try to get in trouble. Most of the time it had to do with my mouth more so than other behavior. I never was abused and my parents have always shown me love. I think I remember my dad tapping me twice in my whole life, and I say tapping because they were not hits at all. Most of the spankings were done by my mother.
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I didn't usually get a switch but I had to lay across my dad's legs and I got a real beating on my butt with his hand.
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I did get switched a time or two, but I think it was for the better
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I never got a switching as a child, but I did get spankings sometimes, or a light hit on the hand when I was about to touch something I shouldn't. They did that sparingly though. Often they would try to talk to me about what I did wrong, and give me a chance to make it right.
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Yes, only 2 or 3 times. Did I deserve it? No, actually I didn't...The times that I did get "switched" a younger sibling lied on me, so...Me and my siblings were good kids though. We hardly ever got spanked/hit/disciplined.
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I got switched so many times I can't even remember, I have scares from some of the switches......my moms favorite switch was an elm....it would bend all over the place but never did it break........
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Lol I cant honestly say how many I did get and I wasn't abused I think that bi9s nonsense
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My Grandma switched us grandkids when we misbehaved! She had a really good "switch" bush outside her back door and she'd go out, break off a switch and switch our legs with it. I got the raw end of that deal since I was the only girl of the 4 of us that was at her house a lot. Back then girls didn't wear pants and certainly not jeans so my legs were really exposed to the switching. I got a switch off my switch bush a couple of weeks ago for my youngest granddaughter; I used it 1 time and haven't had to use it again!
Does your granddaughter's parents know you used a switch on their daughter? I find it a little disturbing with at ease you appear to be doing this to someone else's kid.
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I did and I don't think it messed me up but I would still choose a different option when I have children. I don't think it's necessary honestly.
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My Grandma switched us grandkids when we misbehaved! She had a really good "switch" bush outside her back door and she'd go out, break off a switch and switch our legs with it. I got the raw end of that deal since I was the only girl of the 4 of us that was at her house a lot. Back then girls didn't wear pants and certainly not jeans so my legs were really exposed to the switching. I got a switch off my switch bush a couple of weeks ago for my youngest granddaughter; I used it 1 time and haven't had to use it again!
Does your granddaughter's parents know you used a switch on their daughter? I find it a little disturbing with at ease you appear to be doing this to someone else's kid.
It is her grand daughter. It is not like she is spanking some kid she does not know. A lot more kids need their butts busted these days. Then maybe they would not be such little heathens.
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I was never hit with a switch as a child but I did get a few hits with the belt. My parents would make us lay on the bed with our hands underneath our bellies while they spanked us. If we moved our hands or try to get away, it was another spank. The hardest ones were when we had to stand up for a spanking. Almost impossible not to move or want to cover. I don't believe in using items to spank a child. All my parents did was make us fear them, not fear getting in trouble. And my father used to hit my mother as well.
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yes, we were usually spanked with my dad's belt, but it was very orderly, no anger....we did wrong, we deserved discipline, we were spanked, we (hopefully) learned our lesson and preferred not to do it again! "Spare the rod, spoil the child"
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I remember getting a switching as a kid because I did bad things. I stop doing bad things after that, I never really felt abused though!
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I sure did. It was just one. It was more than one. I look at it this way; I needed to be disciplined at times.
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My Grandma switched us grandkids when we misbehaved! She had a really good "switch" bush outside her back door and she'd go out, break off a switch and switch our legs with it. I got the raw end of that deal since I was the only girl of the 4 of us that was at her house a lot. Back then girls didn't wear pants and certainly not jeans so my legs were really exposed to the switching. I got a switch off my switch bush a couple of weeks ago for my youngest granddaughter; I used it 1 time and haven't had to use it again!
Does your granddaughter's parents know you used a switch on their daughter? I find it a little disturbing with at ease you appear to be doing this to someone else's kid.
It is her grand daughter. It is not like she is spanking some kid she does not know. A lot more kids need their butts busted these days. Then maybe they would not be such little heathens.
Right, but it still should be up to the parents to decide on the proper way to discipline their child. Which is why I asked if the parents knew. Personally, I would have huge problem if someone else spanked, let alone switched my kid. I don't care if was my mother or mother-in-law,we've got a problem.
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My Grandma switched us grandkids when we misbehaved! She had a really good "switch" bush outside her back door and she'd go out, break off a switch and switch our legs with it. I got the raw end of that deal since I was the only girl of the 4 of us that was at her house a lot. Back then girls didn't wear pants and certainly not jeans so my legs were really exposed to the switching. I got a switch off my switch bush a couple of weeks ago for my youngest granddaughter; I used it 1 time and haven't had to use it again!
Does your granddaughter's parents know you used a switch on their daughter? I find it a little disturbing with at ease you appear to be doing this to someone else's kid.
It is her grand daughter. It is not like she is spanking some kid she does not know. A lot more kids need their butts busted these days. Then maybe they would not be such little heathens.
Right, but it still should be up to the parents to decide on the proper way to discipline their child. Which is why I asked if the parents knew. Personally, I would have huge problem if someone else spanked, let alone switched my kid. I don't care if was my mother or mother-in-law,we've got a problem.
Most grand parents who keep their grand kids are allowed to discipline them. I am sure they know.
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My Grandma switched us grandkids when we misbehaved! She had a really good "switch" bush outside her back door and she'd go out, break off a switch and switch our legs with it. I got the raw end of that deal since I was the only girl of the 4 of us that was at her house a lot. Back then girls didn't wear pants and certainly not jeans so my legs were really exposed to the switching. I got a switch off my switch bush a couple of weeks ago for my youngest granddaughter; I used it 1 time and haven't had to use it again!
Does your granddaughter's parents know you used a switch on their daughter? I find it a little disturbing with at ease you appear to be doing this to someone else's kid.
It is her grand daughter. It is not like she is spanking some kid she does not know. A lot more kids need their butts busted these days. Then maybe they would not be such little heathens.
Right, but it still should be up to the parents to decide on the proper way to discipline their child. Which is why I asked if the parents knew. Personally, I would have huge problem if someone else spanked, let alone switched my kid. I don't care if was my mother or mother-in-law,we've got a problem.
Most grand parents who keep their grand kids are allowed to discipline them. I am sure they know.
Allowed to discipline them however they see fit? No.
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All the time and I had to go get it too.
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My Grandma switched us grandkids when we misbehaved! She had a really good "switch" bush outside her back door and she'd go out, break off a switch and switch our legs with it. I got the raw end of that deal since I was the only girl of the 4 of us that was at her house a lot. Back then girls didn't wear pants and certainly not jeans so my legs were really exposed to the switching. I got a switch off my switch bush a couple of weeks ago for my youngest granddaughter; I used it 1 time and haven't had to use it again!
Does your granddaughter's parents know you used a switch on their daughter? I find it a little disturbing with at ease you appear to be doing this to someone else's kid.
It is her grand daughter. It is not like she is spanking some kid she does not know. A lot more kids need their butts busted these days. Then maybe they would not be such little heathens.
Right, but it still should be up to the parents to decide on the proper way to discipline their child. Which is why I asked if the parents knew. Personally, I would have huge problem if someone else spanked, let alone switched my kid. I don't care if was my mother or mother-in-law,we've got a problem.
Most grand parents who keep their grand kids are allowed to discipline them. I am sure they know.
Allowed to discipline them however they see fit? No.
lol. Why does this upset you so much? I am sure it is something they have talked about. I would not keep a kid I was not allowed to make mind. I have never met a kid that never needed a spanking in their life. I was at Walmart the other night and a woman told her 2 year old to sit down in the buggy. He said no. She made him sit down. He slapped her twice pretty hard. She just laughed it off and said I don't know why he does that. Uh because you let him. I would have jerked him out of the buggy and busted his butt. Then he would have set down in the buggy and acted like somebody with some manners.
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I never was hit with a switch or a belt, but I got spanked several times. I also remember Mom sending me to my room and literally kicking my butt along the way. But neither the spanking or the kicking ever really hurt aside from the immediate sting. The only time I remember punishment leading to an actual injury was when my sister talked back to my mom and she slapped my sister's cheek. Unfortunately the slap was just a little high on my sister's cheek that one of my mom's fingernails accidentally scratched the inside of one of my sister's eyes. It was just on the white part of the eye, so it didn't cause lasting damage, but it still scared my mom so much that afterwards she never slapped either of us on the face again. I do think that there is a fine line between discipline and abuse; basically I think if it leads to actual damage (aside from redness and very minor bruising) it could be considered abuse. I think that's why my parent's refrained from using a belt or a switch...
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My Grandma switched us grandkids when we misbehaved! She had a really good "switch" bush outside her back door and she'd go out, break off a switch and switch our legs with it. I got the raw end of that deal since I was the only girl of the 4 of us that was at her house a lot. Back then girls didn't wear pants and certainly not jeans so my legs were really exposed to the switching. I got a switch off my switch bush a couple of weeks ago for my youngest granddaughter; I used it 1 time and haven't had to use it again!
Does your granddaughter's parents know you used a switch on their daughter? I find it a little disturbing with at ease you appear to be doing this to someone else's kid.
It is her grand daughter. It is not like she is spanking some kid she does not know. A lot more kids need their butts busted these days. Then maybe they would not be such little heathens.
Right, but it still should be up to the parents to decide on the proper way to discipline their child. Which is why I asked if the parents knew. Personally, I would have huge problem if someone else spanked, let alone switched my kid. I don't care if was my mother or mother-in-law,we've got a problem.
Most grand parents who keep their grand kids are allowed to discipline them. I am sure they know.
Allowed to discipline them however they see fit? No.
lol. Why does this upset you so much? I am sure it is something they have talked about. I would not keep a kid I was not allowed to make mind. I have never met a kid that never needed a spanking in their life. I was at Walmart the other night and a woman told her 2 year old to sit down in the buggy. He said no. She made him sit down. He slapped her twice pretty hard. She just laughed it off and said I don't know why he does that. Uh because you let him. I would have jerked him out of the buggy and busted his butt. Then he would have set down in the buggy and acted like somebody with some manners.
Well, switching could be considered child abuse in some states, so I’d question how some people can brush it aside so easily, especially when it is someone else’s kid. If nothing more, I guarantee you’d be fired from a daycare facility. I’ve never encountered a babysitter that demanded that they be able to discipline my child however they see fit, nor would I let them.
As for your example, in order to teach a 2-year old not to slap people, you would slap him on the butt? Not really teaching by example. What message are you actually sending? It seems like you are really saying that it’s okay to slap someone, as long as you are bigger than them.
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I remember getting hit with a switch and my younger siblings got hit a lot. It leaves welts which in my opinion is abusive...even if it did not leave welts it would still be abusive. People think that because a "switch" is natural that it's ok to use in that manner. :(
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I never got hit as a child, but I've seen plenty of parents that did that as a child.
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My godmother made us go pick out one and bring it to her, but it never got to the point of abuse. Just the fact that she made us pick one out usually made us behave! Lol!
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Learning something new. I never heard of the term switching until I looked this up on Wikipedia. No, I've never been hit as a child my parents and I've never done anything like that to my daughter either. I don't believe in the philosophy of violence as a teaching method. My father was hit with a ruler by his teachers when he was younger, however.
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I remember getting paddled and I believe that was in school that was back in the 60's
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I got switched when I was little. Made a better person out of me. Hope everyone has a good day and may God bless each of you and keep you safe/
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My Grandma switched us grandkids when we misbehaved! She had a really good "switch" bush outside her back door and she'd go out, break off a switch and switch our legs with it. I got the raw end of that deal since I was the only girl of the 4 of us that was at her house a lot. Back then girls didn't wear pants and certainly not jeans so my legs were really exposed to the switching. I got a switch off my switch bush a couple of weeks ago for my youngest granddaughter; I used it 1 time and haven't had to use it again!
Does your granddaughter's parents know you used a switch on their daughter? I find it a little disturbing with at ease you appear to be doing this to someone else's kid.
It is her grand daughter. It is not like she is spanking some kid she does not know. A lot more kids need their butts busted these days. Then maybe they would not be such little heathens.
Right, but it still should be up to the parents to decide on the proper way to discipline their child. Which is why I asked if the parents knew. Personally, I would have huge problem if someone else spanked, let alone switched my kid. I don't care if was my mother or mother-in-law,we've got a problem.
Most grand parents who keep their grand kids are allowed to discipline them. I am sure they know.
Allowed to discipline them however they see fit? No.
lol. Why does this upset you so much? I am sure it is something they have talked about. I would not keep a kid I was not allowed to make mind. I have never met a kid that never needed a spanking in their life. I was at Walmart the other night and a woman told her 2 year old to sit down in the buggy. He said no. She made him sit down. He slapped her twice pretty hard. She just laughed it off and said I don't know why he does that. Uh because you let him. I would have jerked him out of the buggy and busted his butt. Then he would have set down in the buggy and acted like somebody with some manners.
Well, switching could be considered child abuse in some states, so I’d question how some people can brush it aside so easily, especially when it is someone else’s kid. If nothing more, I guarantee you’d be fired from a daycare facility. I’ve never encountered a babysitter that demanded that they be able to discipline my child however they see fit, nor would I let them.
As for your example, in order to teach a 2-year old not to slap people, you would slap him on the butt? Not really teaching by example. What message are you actually sending? It seems like you are really saying that it’s okay to slap someone, as long as you are bigger than them.
lol. So we can agree to disagree. I have no problem with spanking kids. That's just how it is. And I would not work in a day care because I would not put up with the bratty behavior that you have to deal with from kids who are never spanked or made to mind. Sitting in a chair in time out for 3 minutes is not punishment nor does it deter bad behavior. And we are not talking about someone else's kid like it is a random kid she does not know. It is her grand daughter. Most grand parents are allowed to make the grand kids mind. And if they are not then they usually don't keep them. Back in the day when kids got spanked for doing wrong and were paddled in school for doing wrong things were a lot better. Kids did not turn into total monsters until they realized there was not real punishment.
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most definitely..my mama would make us go break one...
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lol. So we can agree to disagree. I have no problem with spanking kids. That's just how it is. And I would not work in a day care because I would not put up with the bratty behavior that you have to deal with from kids who are never spanked or made to mind. Sitting in a chair in time out for 3 minutes is not punishment nor does it deter bad behavior. And we are not talking about someone else's kid like it is a random kid she does not know. It is her grand daughter. Most grand parents are allowed to make the grand kids mind. And if they are not then they usually don't keep them. Back in the day when kids got spanked for doing wrong and were paddled in school for doing wrong things were a lot better. Kids did not turn into total monsters until they realized there was not real punishment.
Or, you could always let the person I actually asked the question to answer it, instead of just assuming you know the answer.
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All it took at my house was for my Mom to give the "look" and we all listened, Of course I was number 5 so I learned from my older siblings.
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I have had a few spankings as a kid, but I never do that with my kids.
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I remember being threatened with a spanking, and only spanked one time. (Hand spanks, not a switch, or belt or rod or shoes or paddle) but that once was enough. Most of the time it was a look, that made you know you had disappointed them.
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I got spankings and switching when I was a kid. But I don't call that child abuse. My parents never hit me that hard. It did teach me right from wrong and to respect my parents and elders. That's the problem with the world right now. There is no discipline.
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No, I was hit with a belt and brush a few times, and spanked on a regular basis.
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No my parents never hit me with a switch from a tree. I was spanked by my mother only never my father. Sometimes she used a belt.
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I don't remember ever having that happen, but certainly got the belt. Or the hand. Or the really hard soled though flexible shoe that worked a lot like a paddle. Pretty much anything could be used as a switch when I was growing up. Some parents have a designated item that's used for this purpose, but for me growing up it could have been anything. :-\
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I got the belt a few times, but not very often. I deserved those and don't feel abused. I don't know if I could do that when I have kids, though.
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lol. So we can agree to disagree. I have no problem with spanking kids. That's just how it is. And I would not work in a day care because I would not put up with the bratty behavior that you have to deal with from kids who are never spanked or made to mind. Sitting in a chair in time out for 3 minutes is not punishment nor does it deter bad behavior. And we are not talking about someone else's kid like it is a random kid she does not know. It is her grand daughter. Most grand parents are allowed to make the grand kids mind. And if they are not then they usually don't keep them. Back in the day when kids got spanked for doing wrong and were paddled in school for doing wrong things were a lot better. Kids did not turn into total monsters until they realized there was not real punishment.
Or, you could always let the person I actually asked the question to answer it, instead of just assuming you know the answer.
OR you could just let it go, but you can't. I am not stopping the other person from responding. You keep trying to make me agree with you and it is not going to happen.
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Oh yeah. The part I hated was I had to get my own switch. If the switch was too small, I had to practically bring a whole tree. I tried to not get in trouble because a green switch hurts like hell.
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lol. So we can agree to disagree. I have no problem with spanking kids. That's just how it is. And I would not work in a day care because I would not put up with the bratty behavior that you have to deal with from kids who are never spanked or made to mind. Sitting in a chair in time out for 3 minutes is not punishment nor does it deter bad behavior. And we are not talking about someone else's kid like it is a random kid she does not know. It is her grand daughter. Most grand parents are allowed to make the grand kids mind. And if they are not then they usually don't keep them. Back in the day when kids got spanked for doing wrong and were paddled in school for doing wrong things were a lot better. Kids did not turn into total monsters until they realized there was not real punishment.
Or, you could always let the person I actually asked the question to answer it, instead of just assuming you know the answer.
OR you could just let it go, but you can't. I am not stopping the other person from responding. You keep trying to make me agree with you and it is not going to happen.
I haven't been making any argument for you to agree or disagree with me, so I'm not trying to convince you of anything.
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nope, as far as i remember, never got that.
I saw my brother got that once, but then noone got.
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oh yes i did,,,,,,,,,,,,,, :dog:
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Nope, never. And I don't believe in hitting children.
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Switch? No. With other things? (sigh) yes.
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my mother would whip us with what ever was handy lol, and we deserved it everytime. my dad on the other hand was not a whipper, and thats the practice i use. my brother is also a whipper and his kids turned out no better than mine. i guess it is a parents choice
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Oh my, this is quite a delicate subject! I'm not awfully sure what switching is, but I did get swiped by my mum for various things, I don't remember what. We knew when she went into the kitchen and swung the cutlery drawer open that we were in for a swipe of the wooden spoon. To lighten the mood a little, I remember one of my sons misbehaving in the car which I felt was deserving of a clip round the ear! Except that as I lunged towards him, my seatbelt locked and I couldn't reach him! You can imagine how frustrating that was for me but my husband thought it was hilarious.
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Yes, Yes I did and we all are so much better for it. Some Kids are so hard headed it takes more than "TIME OUT" to get them to listen.