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Discussion Boards => Off-Topic => Topic started by: dreamyxo on November 02, 2014, 12:48:15 am
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I don't. I think that''s disrespectful. My brother does it sometimes and I just want to punch him in the throat when he does. Some people don't mind and if that's fine with them great. We didn't grow up like that so I don't know why he thinks it's ok just because we're adults. You should still have respect.
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I have an Uncle who called his parents by their first name but he did it to be comical and his parents got a kick out of it but behind the scenes he would call them Mom and Dad. He would do that to aggravate my Aunt. Maybe your brother does it to pee you off? lol ... siblings can be treacherous! Believe me, I know! lol... Anyhow, hope you have a bless Sunday! :angel11:
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I think it is disrespectful. Your parents are not your peers. They are in a position of authority.
You may develop a great relationship with them as an adult. Still, they will always have a vertical position above you.
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Thats just weird for me, I never called my aunts or uncles by their first name either, they were always Aunt Sarah or Uncle Brad etc
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I don't. I still call them mom and dad. It's just weird calling them by their first name because you've never really done it your whole life.
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I always call them dad and mom and with respect always.
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I call me parents dad and mom or some version of it like baba/mama or ba/ma. It's weird if i call them by their first name.
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I always called my parents mom and dad. When I was dating my husband I called his oarents by their first names, and my husband called my parents by their first names. When we got engaged we asked both sets if we could call them mom and dad also. They both were happy, and from then on we stopped calling them by their first names and referred to them as mom and dad too.
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Even when I was mad at my parents, I never called them by their first name.
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Me too, I never call my parents on their first name even my father is not very responsible to his children.
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heck no!!!!!!!!!!!
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I don't. I think that''s disrespectful. My brother does it sometimes and I just want to punch him in the throat when he does. Some people don't mind and if that's fine with them great. We didn't grow up like that so I don't know why he thinks it's ok just because we're adults. You should still have respect.
I agree with you 110%! I wouldn't dream of calling my parents by their first names. It's impersonal and my parents mean so much more to me than just a friend. If I were you, I would punch your brother in the throat.
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I called my mom by her first name the last two years of her life, with no disrespect intended. She had Alzheimer's, and declared that I was too old to be her daughter.
I did try calling my dad by his first name once, when I was in my 20s. My dad raised one eyebrow and asked, "So, I don't get to be Daddy anymore?" I thought about that, and never called him anything but Daddy again.
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My parents are both deceased but I was in my late 50's when my mom passed and I still called her mom. My nephew calls his mom (my sister) by her first name and it is definitely showing her disrespect - he is a jerk - my sister had problems when he was young so he does it to hurt her.
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I wish I just talk to my mom and dad,,,,, they have both passed away and I miss them so terribly much. I don't think I could call them by their first names. They were my mom and dad. they need to be addressed as MOM and DAD :)
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You should still have respect but the thing about it is that we all view respect differently. I don't see it as a sign of disrespect at all.
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when I was a kid I called my father by his first name for the longest time. now I just call him pop
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I do not call them by there first names usually dad or mom that's about it.
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No I never did that and I would not call them by their first names
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I called them mom and dad. They have passed away.
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I would never even thought of calling them by their first names but my youngest son used to call my husband by his first name when he was really little - about 2 years old. No one knew why he did it.
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When we were younger about 5 or 6 we called my Mom and Dad by their names, but my Grandmother didn't approve, so from that young age we were to call our parents Mom and Dad. I don't think it wasn't disrespectful at the time because my Mom and Dad were young and I don't think it really mattered to them.
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No, I've always called my parents Mom and Dad.
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I never considered calling my parents anything but mom and dad. My mom has passed, but I still address my father as "dad". My father has been remarried for quite a while and I call my step-mom by her first name. I was in college when they met/married, so being an "outsider" to the biological family, I see her more as a peer, as she had no input in how I was raised. Perhaps had I been younger - single-digit age, I may have called her mom.
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Both of my parents are gone from this earth and they would not have tolerated me calling them by their first names. However, my oldest daughter did not respect her father for awhile, and during this period she referred to him by his first name (she was an adult also at this time). As her father matured and they became closer (and he became a responsible grandfather), she began alternating between his name and "dad" and "father," with his first name being used less and less
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Re: Do you call your parents by their first names?
No, I call my parents Mom and Dad. I have never thought to call them by their first names. It would seem disrespectful in my opinion.
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no but my brother in law does, nobody minds. :P
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Absolutely not. It's weird when people call their parents by their first names, honestly.
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no, way!
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Goodness! I can't even imagine calling my parents by their first names. In fact, I'm 46 now and I still call my uncle, "uncle Colin". I just can't get out of the habit. For new friends, I call them by however they introduced themselves to me. For my kids teachers, I call them by however my son's call them... ie. Mrs Smith, Mr Woods.
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I don't. I agree that it is disrespectful.
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Nope never crossed my mind to do that. It's disrespectful to me.
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Absolutely NOT! I have too much respect for my parents than to call them by their first names.
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My mom was soooooo easy going.Her name was Rose.
We used to call her Rosie Doats!!
She loved it from everyone.
She passed away in 1992.She is missed like most of us would miss our MOMS!!
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Absolutely not; that's disrespectful. I wish any of mine would try it, they will be telling their kids one day bout the whipping I put on them afterwards.
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No way. It would be weird for me. Always was and always will be Mom and Dad. I remember a friend calling her parents by there names and both parents asked her not to do it.. I could see the hurt in there eyes. On the other spectrum I'd been to another friends home and she called her parents sir and ma'am. Course she was Southern and her parents raised her to respect her elders in that manner.
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Not at all. I think you should respect parents by calling them mom or dad.
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Never.
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No, I don't. Calling my parents by their first names would be disrespectful. A close friend of mine calls his Mom by her first name.
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No way would I have called my parents by their first names. Nor did I ever call my grandparents, aunts or Uncles by their first name. If a person was an adult it was also Mr. or Mrs., miss, Until I was an adult did I. I feel that if the kids now should have to address all adults right. Maybe they would have more respect for the elders.
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A definitely NO! I respect my Mom & Dad.
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Most respondents on FC said it was disrespectful. I agree with that point of view.
To me, it's hard to imagine that a mom and dad would not want to be called mom and dad. I love being called mom.
I also love being called grandma. Honestly, I wouldn't have believed that myself until it happened to me. It's just as special as being called mom. I promise. :notworthy:
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Never....I can't imagine anything so rude and unloving....unless the parents wanted them to for some reason.
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I always call them mom and dad. I hate when kids call them by their first names. Someone that I know calls their mom by her first name because they don't think of their mom as mom because she wasn't there for him when he was younger.
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I always called my parents 'mom and dad.' Occasionally I'd use their first names if I was discussing something with my brothers. But rarely.
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When we laughing I do it but I don't do it to disrespect them
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I never called my parents by their first names, but when my girls were little, 2 years, they started calling my husband and myself by our first names. We were confused why they did that until we realized that was the only names they knew. Sure my husband would say go to yoyr mommy, or I would say daddy wants you, but he called me by my name and I called him by his. When family or friends came over, they called us by our names. So my husband and I started calling each other mommy or daddy and in a few weeks my kids picked up and stopped using our first names. Problem solved!
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I can't see myself doing that no matter how old I am.
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Absolutely not. There is no way I would do that, and I certainly would not let my daughter do that. We are not peers, we are not "equals."
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no they ar mom and dad that is whAT i CALL THEM FOR OVER 70 YEARS
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i don't ...its definitely a sign of disrespect.
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I have never called my parents by their first name, I have never called any family members by their first name... except siblings and cousins but thats different obviously. I cant imagine calling my parents by their first names
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No, I would never even think of doing that, as I think it's disrespectful however I know people that do and their parents seem to be okay with it, so I guess it works for them, but it would not for me.
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My parents are gone but I never called them by their first names it just don't feel right.
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Nope. Not as brave as Bam Margera is around his parents!
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I agree with you. I would never call my parents by their name. I also think it is disrespectful. I was raised like you :) always respect my parents and my son will respect me too. He has to or else, hmmm he just has to.
I don't think it's right to call your parents by their name.
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lol....No I do not call either one of my parents by their first names, I am 33 years old and I still call them Mom and Dad
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Oh no... i am calling them Mom and dad...
Whenever there is their grandson/daughter, I will call my mom and dad as grandma/grandpa :)
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There is no way I could have ever called my parents by their first names.
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I have always called my dad by his first name. I don't really know why but that is just how it is, I guess. ???
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I agree and would never call my parents by their names unless I was refering to them.
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I don't.I'd be very surprised if many people do. ???
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Out of respect, I always call them dad and mom. To be honest, I don't know many people that do call their parents by their first names.
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Absolutely not! Very distrspectful if you ask me!
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I never call my mom by her first name.
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still call them mom and dad was raised that way.
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No I never do that I agree that it is rude and disrespectful. I have seen people do it and I don't agree with it.
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no never did..mom and dad ..always
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I grew up in an extended family household. When I was young, my entire family lived together in one really large house (exactly like the Ewing family did on Dallas). I was the only child and everyone else in the household were aunts and uncles, my mother and my maternal grandparents. Eleven years separated me from my mothers youngest sibling. I heard my aunts and uncles, and my mother, call my grandparents "mom" and "dad" so I did the same. Until the day they passed, I always called my grandparents "mom" and "dad" and rarely ever "grandma" and "grandpa". I still do when I talk about them. Everyone else referred to my mother by her first name so I did the same. I've always called my mother by her first name since I could speak. Occasionally I will call her "mom" or "mother" if I am referring to her to someone. It's been like this for 41 years. Not one time have I ever felt like I was disrespecting my mother nor has she ever thought I was disrespecting her because I call her by her first name. I've never had any friends, co-workers, teachers or family friends think my calling her by her first name odd, either. No one has ever chastised me for it or told me I was being "disrespectful" to her for it.
I have an incredible and unwavering amount of respect for my mother and I don't feel that how I address her diminishes that in any way. I knew people in school who called their parents "mom" and "dad" and didn't have an ounce of respect for them. There is more to respect than the use of a certain title.
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I can't see me calling my parents by their given names. I'm in my 40's and it is still `Daddy' not dad or father that I call my dad. Mom is mom or mother. The only ones I would use their names on was my in-laws.
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No I would never call my parents by their first names. I agree it is disrespectful and children should show their parents respect. Being an adult sibling or not it does not matter this is still your mother or father and respect should be shown no matter the sibling's age. :o
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I never CALLED MY MOM AND Dad by their first name
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No, I never have.
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I don't. I think that''s disrespectful. My brother does it sometimes and I just want to punch him in the throat when he does. Some people don't mind and if that's fine with them great. We didn't grow up like that so I don't know why he thinks it's ok just because we're adults. You should still have respect.
nno no no that is so inpersonal that i want to puke
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It is disrespectful, when you call the by there first names your not acknowleging that they raised you
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I find calling parents by their first names disrespectful. I am also taken aback when my cousin-in laws call my aunts/uncles by their first name too. I think the latter is on a case by case basis, but it at least bothers me.
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In our country it's very disrespectful to call parents by their first name. So I don't think so.
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Absolutely not! I never have and I never will. They will always be known as mom and dad.
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I did not grow up calling my parents by their first names. I believe that in my culture it is disrespectful to call your parents by their first names.
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I don't, I think it is disrespectful to do so.
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I don't! I call them Mom & Dad!
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I do not know my Dad as well as I do my Mom, so no for my Dad.
I only call my Mom by her first name when I am joking with her. Otherwise, it is Mom.
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I don't call my dad by his first name. It just seems weird!!!
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Some parents don't really deserve the title of mom or dad. IMHO, those not deserving to have those titles should be called by their proper name. But mom & dad or some variation should be used otherwise. :)
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no mom and dad have always been it for me unless i'm joking around with them
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No, I call them mom and dad. The only time I do call them by their first names is when we're taking jabs at each other. All in good fun of course. I have found that the people who call their parents by their first names don't have a great relationship or a relationship at all with them.
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no way they are mom and dad and even my mother in law and father in law are mom and dad. i agree that it is disrespectful to call them by there first names.
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My parents and I have a very rocky realationship but I still call her mom I feel the minute I use her first name I am giving up hope we can fix our realationship