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Discussion Boards => Off-Topic => Topic started by: Dynamite2013 on January 08, 2015, 06:41:04 pm
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Well I lost my brother on Dec. 22, 1977, I lost my mom July 2, 2007 so I couldn't celebrate because of sensitive feelings for them. My husband just lost his brother Dec. 22, 2014 so we didn't have a good holiday except our friends did a lot to many it happier. I hope no one has had this experience it is very hard to go through.
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yes i have loss people around the holidays and yes it is hard to celebrate but think of it like this you are celebrateing there life thats the way i get threw it
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thank you it will help a lot
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I lost my father in law 2 weeks before Christmas, about 30 years ago; I remember the day and him, attempt to honor both. My father died in August 10 years ago and that first Christmas was a little rough.
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I lost my dad 11/8/2010 and that made that Thanksgiving hard to get through. It's gotten easier with time though.
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I lost my mom a week before Xmas in 1992....it could have been any other day and it wouldnt have mattered how sad it was!!
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I lost my dad over 30 years ago, about two weeks before Christmas. My mom passed 2 years ago, also right around Christmas.
One of the things my dad always did at Christmas was to put a box of chocolate covered cherries under the tree for my mom. I carried that on for him. Every year, I made sure my mom had a box of chocolate covered cherries at Christmas.
This year, I hadn't bought any, since my mom wasn't here, and that had been the reason for buying them in the first place.
My daughter brought a box for me, carrying on the tradition.
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Yes, my dad died December 13th, so that made the first Christmas terrible. It has gotten better with time, but I still remember that Christmas. :(
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yes i loose someone once a year
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Yes. I was a bridesmaid for a good friend of mine a few years ago. Her Groom unfortunately died on Christmas Eve just a few months after they were married and I honestly felt I would never be happy ever again at Christmas time. However she has now remarried and has 3 children with her new husband. I am now married with two kids of my own. You always remember, but you don't always feel sad forever more. Time heals but you never forgot.
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Although not technically a person, last year right around the holidays I had to put my mastiff to sleep. at about the same time, Passenger put out their single "Let Her Go", and the song's lyrics just really seemed like a reflection of what I was feeling at the time. And then this year when the radio stations were playing the top songs of 2014, that song came up again, and again I was nearly crying while listening and remembering my Joni.
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Yes, My mother in law passed away 11/21/2011 - the week of Thanksgiving and my mother passed away on 12/2/2011. The holidays are very sad for us. I put a smile on for my children but otherwise I no longer care for the holidays.
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I lost my father 3 days after Christmas. It was hard as I was a teenager so seeing him in so much pain was awful. A funeral to bring in the new year didn't make for much celebration. Maybe that's why now I'm happy to just be home during the Holidays without having to run and stress.
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Yes many, and many have strangely died on other family members birthdays
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Five years ago, my family suffered a huge loss when my great-nephew died one week before the Thanksgiving holiday. He committed suicide at the young age of 18. Thanksgiving has been hard to celebrate for my family ever since this tragedy.
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First let me say sorry for your loss. I too have lost people that were very near and dear to me - a son and a daughter - and no, it doesn't get easier with time - it's just something you have to come to terms with. I look at it this way, my children were on loan to me from God and he decided when it was time for them to return home and I will surely see them once again. Good luck and keep your chin up.
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My baby girl was born stillborn on the day before Thanksgiving, 1992. On the biggest shopping day of the year (Black Friday) while everyone else started their Christmas shopping, I was shopping for a casket for my daughter. That's a hurt that will NEVER go away.
I got to spend one more Christmas and New Year with my father before he passed away on January 26th. It was the saddest Christmas and New Year I've ever had. Even in his condition before passing, he wanted my sister and I and our husbands to have a wonderful time on New Year's Eve. He paid for all of us to go out to NYC and have a good time. We went, but my sister and I did nothing but think of the pending outcome for my father and cried all night long, and our poor husbands couldn't even console us.
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Yes, my mother Dec. 23, 1978. My son Dec.3rd 1980, my other son August 2001. My mother-in-law also in Dec, of 1993. So it is hard to celebrate Christmas the way other people do. I believe we should celebrate the birth of Christ, be with our family's and our Church.
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I have lost family members, some of them as far back as over 40 years ago, and though it has gotten "easier" (more or less), it isn't as if holidays are the same. And this might serve as a lesson to all of us to be sensitive toward those who have a hard time at this time of year; it isn't a holly jolly Christmas for all of us. Even concentrating on the meaning as opposed to the marketing of the holiday doesn't take away all the pain.
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No close family members or friends, but some acquaintances did pass away around the holidays this past season. An elderly man died on Christmas Eve. He had only one sibling who was a sister and she also passed away on Christmas Eve a few years ago. I thought was was so strange. Another acquaintance passed away on New Year's Day. Another friend I'd known since the 1960s when we were teenagers died about a week before Christmas.
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Sorry to hear that, I too lost family members during the holidays I hear you.
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The next Christmas will be difficult on our family. My mother-in-law passed away on Dec. 27, 2014. She is already missed every second of every day. The holidays will be difficult to adjust to since she would always have a big meal fixed for the family.
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I lost my sister 11 days after her son's 7th birthday. It made thanksgiving and Christmas unbearable. Me and my mama are from a family where we make big holiday meals and decorate Christmas trees and neither of those have actually happened happened since 2011.
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Yeah we lost someone this year but we still celebrated. It was different and hard and there were periods where there were tears. But you can't just shut down and never celebrate a holiday you have always celebrated again. That is just foolish. And the person who died would not want you to do that anyway.